Just MC and ready to try again? Pack your cake, wine and tightie whities and join us for more ranting, weeping and most of all laughing! All welcome! (Part 14)

[Collie2]

If you are TTC after Miscarriage (or waiting to start trying again), this is the place to be. This thread is full of lots of lovely ladies on the post MC rollercoster and is full of support and advice from people who have been through it, and know what you are going through.
Jump on board and join in the for some laughter, crying or even the odd ranting (whatever you need). There?s lots of , (caffeine free of course ) and chocolate, and more importantly, friendly ?ears?.

The thread moves fast so bob in and out as you please. Don?t be afraid to ask anything ? nothing is ever TMI!!!

If you want to join the stats, just add yourself to the list:

WTTC = waiting to TTC
UCL = usual cycle length
WFT cycle = what the f*uck cycle (cycle after mc but before first AF)
For more accronyms see here

Good luck to all ? The last one was a lucky thread for lots of people so here's hoping for lots more healthy, sticky BFPs by the end of the thread

This is the previous thread

Stats to follow.

collie that link just takes me to my own profile. Not just me back to bring a spotty oik then!

Not that I'm calling you an oik obviously! :o

[shocked] melies ....oik oik

blooming heck. Actually i have added it to my mn account so you should be able to see it of you click on my name.

collie I think you need to adjust your privacy settings for us to see it.

ok think ive done it.....but not sure as i am obviously logged in as me!!

Gorgeous collie

Well, it's not a good day in the Chloe household at the moment. ANother BFN Am feeling very PMTy too so I know that AF is round the corner and not sure if anyone remember's a conversation knitter and I had about uterine twinges but I think I have figured out mine come before AF and have had them this morning so not a good pg sign. I am beginning to give up hope of my body ever being able to do this again. Had a massive row with dh this morning as he matter of factly told me I couldn't get upset every month if it's negative. WHY? Why the fuck can't I get upset? My life chuffing revolves around it, more so than ever. I ahve to watch what I drink, I have cut out caffeine, I have given up smoking, I have rejected hen-do/holiday plans just in case, I hate it, I fucking hate it That's why I am allowed to get upset Oh God, haven't felt like this now for a few weeks and was hoping I wouldn't have to again. So sorry for the me me me rant, I just needed to vent this morning. Must pull myself together before ds waked up.

Chloe you poor thing, you rant all you like - that's what we're here for. We understand because we're all going through it - my DH is the same, can't understand when I get upset over it. I remember my GP offered me anti depressants after the MC and DH couldn't work out why.... Will still be keeping fx for you until AF turns up.

Collie I still can't see your photo, though maybe I'm doing something wrong? Its takes me to MN log in page.

Miss that's rubbish of your hospital re the methotrexate. I was offered it with my last MC, but the levels started to drop just before I was due the first dose. They don't like to use it unless necessary because you have to leave 6 months after before TTC. Its one of the drugs they use for chemo, stops cells dividing. Not nice stuff, but I think they have good results with it if hcg is low but not falling on its own.

Really the 'moral' issue with methotrexate is to do with abortion and choice, particularly if you are catholic (I'm not). They argue that methotrexate is choice and therefore abortion, but tubal surgery is primarily to save the mothers life and the loss of the pregnancy is a side effect, so therefore more acceptable. I did quite a bit of reading about it when they offered it to me.

Oli hope you are feeling better today.

Cep Thank you. No, thankfully they didn't ask him to lift me up, he'd have done exactly the same as your DH and muttering things about straining his back

Blackkat How are you today?

Mel I've got lots of spots too, you're in good company on here it would seem!! Mine were always under control when I was on the pill.

Really sorry, just realised I didn't say welcome. Hope your laparoscopy goes well, sorry you have to go through it all again. I had one last year with an ectopic. My levels were about 3600, and same as you they couldn't see anything on the scans. Will be thinking of you today.

Oh chloe I am so so sorry. I have truely been rooting for you this month. I really don't know what to say as I cannot imagine how painful it must been trying month on month to have no luck-god only hopes I don't have to. You know your body better than anyone so I'm not going to go on about how you might be wrong, bcs you already know that, just try not to give up hope just yet. As for feeling upset every month when you get a bfn, your dh is right, we shouldn't, as it's emtionally draining and dominates your life. But it's so easy to say that, especially for him. I think your feelings of anger and grief are completely normal, and acceptable. I think everyone on here would agree they'd feel the same. But maybe to try to do do something that will make a bfn more tolerable. I read on the common room thread alot of them are making cd 1 plans just in case, ie a spa, or getting nails done, or shopping. I'm not 100% convinced that this would do the trick but it might be worth a try. I'm so sorry chloe I wish I could give you a big hug in RL but this will have to do (((hugs)))

you know we are here for you to rant and vent to get it out of your system. Be kind to yourself today. Maybe take ds to the cinema?

chloe oh sweetie i'm sorry you're feeling so low today, don't give up hope, it will happen again and it'll be worth it when it does. I think Dh is worried about you being upset and in typical man fashion didn't say it right. It's natural to get upset about it, your life does change when ttc. i really hope you start feeling a bit better. don't apologise, we all rant at times on here.

collie dress is gorgeous and you look absolutely stunning.

oli sorry you're feeling so unwell love, take it easy and rest.

really good luck for today hon.

hope everyone is ok.

I just wrote loads then lost it! So I'll start again! Here goes

Chloe weep, rant, moan and shout all you like, that's why we are all here after all. The disappointment of ttc is awful, and so so frustrating! But you have carried a baby before, you can do it, don't loose hope. Thats what I keep telling myself anyway. I know that it's especially cruel when you come so close and it's snatched away from you though. I hope you are able to have a nice day with your ds. And come back and moan anytime!

collie you look gorgeous, the venue looks nice too. I'll try to put one on my profile in a bit but I have to do it with the laptop because it won't upload photos from my phone and I don't know how to do what the very clever cep and lily did.

Thinking of you today really x

miss that's awful! And from the dark ages! Having sn ectopic pg is hardly a choice! I can't believe that a hospital is allowed to refuse treatment like that. My mum had a mc before having me, a missed one, she had to carry a dead baby for 6 weeks because the consultant was against d&c's for religious reasons, I had no idea stuff like that still happened!

Hello everyone else, thanks for the spot stories!

Would also agree with cep chloe I am sure dh's heart is in the right place and he just doesn't like to see you so upset. He just hasn't put it very well and doesn't know what it's like as you said it's your life that ends up revolving around ttc not his x

Okay, photo is in my public profile if any of you want to see (and please do because it took me ages!)

lili I have just looked at my calander at my last pg and I took my fist pg test 14 dpo and got a bfn. Tried again 19 dpo (3days after af due) and got bfp. So there is def hope, goes for you too chloe x

And will people remind me of what I've just said in a week when I am poas too early.

Chloe My BFP on Clomid was 21 say DPO - I was too scared to test before, the CBdigi only read 1-2 weeks so if I'd tested 14/15 DPO, it would've been negative. ((hugs)) x

Chloe (((big hugs))) i was trying for 2 years before m/c although not quite as vigorously and every BFN made me cry my DH was like yours but when i talked it through with him he just did not like seeing me hurt and it made his own hurt and disappointment more real (my DH likes to bury things deep and try not to think about them)

I am still not well I am having fits of nausea I am starting to worry if my body "thinks" its pregnant saying that following on what collie and blackat said i did not get a BFP with my DS till 6 weeks so there is always hope I know i am prob kidding myself but maybe all the faint faint lines were crappy evap lines i have had a good few of them this month (well a girl can only hope everything else still points to me being pregnant) If not my poor body is tired and confused but i do hope it passes soon.

Sorry ladies no chance of getting on here last night had my sis and her bf round talking bridesmaid dresses and hen dos !!!

cep you look lovely as do you to lily I apologise for overtaking a conception thread with wedding talk too !

welcome to really also sorry you have had to join here but pull up a bean bag and make yourself comfy I hope all goes well for you today ...

lily we are going to the thomson sensatori in Rivera Maya not far from Cancun it looks divine and we have 26 guests coming with us ! - so much for going abroad to get away from it all, honestly though im so pleased we have have so many wanting to come too!

melies ive no idea how to add pictures either !

the magpie thing i salute and say G morning mr magpie 3 times ... ( i also search rapidly for another after seeing just 1 ....)

chloe i envy you , your artistic ability i have none !

collie i will check out photo in a min as im worried i will lose all the text ive typed so far

chloe ranting on here is pracitcally mandatory thats what we are all hear to do support share and get it off your chest, my OH is like yours too, he just thinks it should be fun trying not the stressful time that it actually is for us.

as for me well im 17DPO now and though i thought AF had arrived yesterday it was in fact a tiny spot... nothing all night and overwhelming nausea this morning.... huge tummy cramos though ( i did horse ride last night for the first time since my MC so may just be the exercise ...) I just dont know, i have another cb digi but im trying to wait to use it til tomorrow , give me strength not to try !!!

collie that is a stunning picture you look beautiful and soooooo happy i hope my wedding pictures end up like that

mellies i sneaked a peak at yours to and you also look truely fabulous ....

i was thinking i wouldnt worry about a veil but having seen all you lovely ladies photos im wondering whether i should....

oils sorry hun x posts im sorry your still feeling all over the place and hope is such a dfficult emoticion im hoping too that i maybe but ive not even had the feint line, i have evrything crossed for you

olis I won't uncross my fingers for you yet then...

mumtum I didn't have a veil, I had a tiara handmade to match my flowers. I don't mind wedding talk, don't worry! (although I am still a little ! Step away from that cb dig (if you haven't used it already that is!)

Well I will keep my sussies on for you then oli & mumtum

Thanks for listening to me rant and moan, I just fear that I could be looking at another 3 years before I get a BFP like last time and at this rate I will be heading for a breakdown!

chloe our pleasure and i have every faith that we will most definitely not be waiting another 3 years

mel you looked stunning hon, am very if you looked like that and heavily pg. and your lo looks so cute too.

chloe how are you feeling now? It might be worth not turning down events and things just incase, not because i don't think you will be but tempting fate maybe?? You could always cancel when you do get the bfp.

mumtum i didn't have a veil either just a parasol.

Kepping fx for you oli.

collie i will definately remind you in a week's time.

Hello Ladies, wonder if you'd mind me joining you?

I've been lurking on MN for far too long now, couple of random posts but would like to find a home for some hand holding and you lot seem so nice and knowledgeable.

TTC nearly 2 years, fell PG on 6th cycle of the evil clomid last year but MMC over xmas and ERPC Jan. Am currently going mad in my WTF cycle, day 62, a course of Provera and the witch still isn't here.

Sorry for all your losses and the bumpy rides you're on - have very much enjoyed the wedding chat though, brings back nice memories doesn't it