The First Time Frolickers, come and get your pg tests here as we’re all going to need them on this thread! Come and join us if you have vast experience of hiding from pg ladies and babies!

[JosieSmith1]

Here?s the new thread! My imagination left me this morning so I apologise for the crap thread title!

I think I?ve got the list right but I may have completely messed it up, sorry!

TomboyWife TTC#1, Cycle 15, UCL 28, CD40
Truffkin TTC#1, Cycle 9, UCL 28, CD20
LateToTheTTCParty TTC#1, Cycle 3, UCL 26-ish, CD18
evilgiraffe TTC#1, Cycle 7, UCL 28, CD15
LizzyMathsWhizzy TTC #1 Cycle 3 UCL 30 days CD14
Impers TTC#1 Cycle 3, UCL 35, CD14
CookieMoo TTC#1, cycle26, UCL26, CD12
FingersCrossed TTC#1, cycle3, UCL29, CD8
Weimy TTC#1, Cycle4, UCL28, CD7

MI SWI A
TanteAC TTC#1
Yumstepmum TTC#
Ilovemarmite79 TTC1
Pinklady76 TTC#1
Puppygirl TTC#1
RaspberryTipple TTC#1
JosieSmith1 TTC#1
Kaloki TTC#1
Tigerseyemum TTC#1

Not Counting Days
CaveMum
Miffles
Chalky3
DessieLou
Zippys
Calyx
Ariesgirl
Goldmaple
MissFlick
Womanlytales
Gobolino
GardenPixie
Karstan

2010 Graduates
Superpenguin BFP 1 July
Haloflo BFP 22 July
Saor Alba BFP 7 August
MrsWajs BFP 13 August
stegasaurus BFP 27 August
Roamfree BFP 1st September
Kurlyvoice BFP 1st September
Crazybutterflylady BFP 1st September
Cherrycobbler BFP 3rd September
Crazydays BFP 4th September
Bellaby BFP 11th September
Highheelsandequations BFP 30th October
IfAtFirstYouDon'tSuceed BFP 25th November

Recent Graduates
Slowshow BFP 3rd January
Roundtable BFP 14th January
CrazyAlien BFP 29th January
Toriajayne BFP 16th February

Cave - please don't feel like a failure. I sort of know what you mean "my body can't do the one thing that it's meant to do", but there are loads of "natural" things that people need help with medically - like people with diabetes needing help to produce insulin, or people with asthma needing their inhalers, etc etc. Diabetics and asthmatics etc are not failures - and neither are you. It's just a different sort of medical intervention that you need.

Only tell your boss and your colleagues as much as you want to disclose - don't feel obliged to tell them the whole story if you'd rather they didn't know.

Enjoy the rest of the bottle glass!

I second third and fourth imps xxxx

Good words Imps

Got any words of wisdom for me Imps?
P-Tracker says AF is due on Saturday, although my LH surge was a bit late this time (CD17) so I've adjusted it to Monday. No symptoms at all, nothing, not so much as a light cramp. Temps are hard to figure out, it started climbing on day 18 and sliding back down on day 21... that means I'm going to get a BFN doesn't it, unless AF gets me before (gets out Failure Club membership application form and starts filling it in)

Cave, you don't have to explain anything to your boss, not even to HR if they ask you. Just say you're receiving a course of medical treatment which is likely to run over several months but won't impact on your job and doesn't pose a risk in the workplace. When I was seeing my gynae every 6 weeks for the whole of 2010, I offered no explaination for my string of doctor's appts. And I think people thought I had something really serious, so they never pressed me on it!

Thanks once again for the support ladies.
Late I work in a very small office - only me, my boss and 2 other ladies that work part-time so any absence is blindingly obvious. They know I have a medical issue as I had to explain my last few appointments but an operation and potential IVF will be harder to explain.

Imps you are once again the voice of reason! I do feel better today, I tend to work through these things in phases - matter of fact, followed by blubbing, followed by getting on with it. Thankfully I'm in the getting on with it mode today.

I've had a nice birthday so far. A few cards and pressure plus some champagne and cake in the office . I'm now on the sofa, glass of wine in hand and cat asleep on my lap.

On the bad news front the house I had booked to view has been sold! The agent phoned me this morning to say someone had made an offer of the full asking price and the owner had accepted. The house was on the market for 48 hours . What housing Market slowdown?!
I've booked viewings for 2 other properties this weekend. While not quite as great as the other one they are well within budget and tick a lot of boxes. I just hope they hang around long enough for us to decide if we like them!

Hugs for Cave - sorry you've been having a crappy time lately.

News update from me - I'm currently on CD29, and trying desperately not to get too hopeful (last couple of cycles have been 27 days) at one day late! Temps are still above the coverline but have been steadily dropping closer and closer over the last three days. Boobs have been sore for several days now, but I've had mild backache today and last night, which is a classic sign of impending ERTD.

And to cap it all, I've been offered a new job with a giant payrise, but it's a fixed term contract rather than permanent, and I'd be working with/for a good friend so really don't want to take it and screw her over if I'm pregnant already! So, I am in the weird situation of not actually minding if ERTD turns up this month, because if I get pregnant after this month then that's just fate - but being pregnant when I resign would be a bit harsh! Not to mention I'd still have a job to go back to after having any potential baby if I stay in my current job.

So, what do you reckon? Is ERTD going to turn up tomorrow/in the next couple of days or not? Place your bets now!

Ah Cave, yes I can see how it's hard to know how to play it in such a small office... I guess it could turn out to be an amazingly supportive environment if it's just a small team and everyone knew? Hope you don't feel that you have to disclose anything you want to keep private though... Glad you're feeling better, belated birthday wishes! [birthday cake emoticon with a little candle on top]

Evil - you do know AF won't arrive until the day after you have to make a final and binding decision, don't you?! It's the way she works.....

hey guys,

Just thought i'd pop in and say hello having become a bit of a stranger. Good to see a few BFPs arrived!

Cavey sorry to hear you've been feeling a bit fed up, can't be easy with DP away and the whole IVF thing rumbling around in your head. Happy birthday though! Make sure DP spoils you when he gets back :)

Hello everyone else! No news from me, although I did start using the Digital Monitor but we went on holiday and I ovulated really late so had to use more than the 10 sticks but ran out so gave up this month. My period is now a day late so at least I know it's because I ovulated late so I'm not sitting here going out of my mind!

Hope you are all well xx

Oh Late BOOOOOOO to dropping temperatures. But - Failure Club applications ARE NOT ALLOWED ON THIS THREAD EVER. I would give you a but it's prob worth waiting until Monday just to make sure. Oh, go on then - just a small glass though (you may want to save it for tonight though - 7:30am is possibly a little early for wine...)

Happy belated birthday Cave :) Such a shame about the house - I've been there many times and it's really upsetting to miss out on one that looks like it could be the one.

Evil - gah, what a dilemma! When should you know one way or the other whether you're up the duff this month?? Hopefully very soon!

Morning Ladies - been crazy busy with work this week and not been online for what feel like weeks! Just had to sit and read all your posts to catch up. Belated Happy Birthdays Cave - and fingers crossed for the househunting. It is the single most stressful thing I've ever done! Every house I liked we couldn't afford! In the end we got one at auction to get the space we wanted at a good price - very scary but a great way to do it as it's over so quickly! None of the stressful waiting around and getting let down!

Tapped all my temps into fertility friend that I have missed for the last 10 days - and now I'm thinking I didn't OV on day 12 like I thought, despite feeling a definitely sensation - because my temps would suggest it wasn't till CD18.

now on CD23 and just trying not to think about it - perhaps a good thing i've been busy?

Lucy have you been recording your cervical mucus??? (Not a question I imagine I will ever ask in real life ) I have found that the combination of temps and EWCM is the best way to pinpoint ovulation. Fertility Friend had me down as ovulating on CD16 last month based on temps, but I am 99.9% sure that it happened on CD 24 - I had a slight shift in temp the day after and loads of EWCM around that time. The eventual onset of ERTD 16 days later pretty much confirmed it.

I have had not the slightest jot of EWCM so far this cycle - I'm on CD 12. Am getting a little worried as OH is away from CD 17 to 21 and we have people staying over at the weekend so won't have much shagging opportunity. Is it wrong to write a cycle off before you've even ovulated??!

That said, I wouldn't mind too much if we miss this cycle too - we're off on holiday in June and I quite fancy being able to eat and drink to my heart's content. That said, I would prefer to be pregnant though and I would feel incredibly deflated if we miss the boat (well, egg) this month too - that would be 3 cycles in a row. I'm struggling to keep reasonable about the fact that our lack of conception so far as been entirely to do with OH - work trips, performance issues etc. I found myself wanting to scream at him last night (when he was back really late from work) "FFS everybody else's husbands have managed to shag them at the right time - why can't you??". Obviously I would never actually say that to him, but it does rile me. Hey ho, onwards and upwards!

It's an egg-sellent question Imps (groan - terrible joke I know)
I have been attempting to keep track of CM but managed to confuse myself terribly - thought I was certain of EWCM days 8-11 ish - but then DP asked how I could tell the difference between (ahem) his and mine? Which is a fair point. Then CD 17-19 ish had some snail trails in the pants department, but wouldn't describe them as EW myself - however FF obviously thought they were significant enough to re-calculate the crosshairs....

might just write this whole cycle off and chalk it up to experience?
grrr

I just wish I could feel certain of something - anything - about this whole process. It's such a guessing game.

And to confuse matters more still - I feel decidedly hormonal today, weepy, tired, irritable, and cried whilst watching the TV (very un-like me) - but it's ONLY DAY 23! I don't think my body knows what it's up to this month!

Anyway - feel strangely better for having a rant about mucus - I don't think it is something I could discuss with anyone in RL - MN is strangely liberating, Thank You Ladies!

Anyhoo - enough about me - anyone got some good news to share???

PS - I might use that line on my OH imps 'FFS everybody else's husbands have managed to shag them at the right time - why can't you??'
Classic

Not sure that it's the best thing to say...

Not been able to get a doctor's appointment today so won't be able to see GP until Monday I'm getting really worried now that something is wrong, since I had bleeding mid cycle which is not a good sign if I'm not pregnant.

Milo it's terrible that you haven't been able to get a GP's appt all week Poor you, that can't be helping your nerves.

Do you have weekend plans to focus on?

And have you POAS recently?

I know - I asked boss if I could try tomorrow morning but there is no one to cover for me so have to wait. I can only go after work and my GP wasn't available during evening surgery between Mon-Weds and has a half day Fri as well. System is only see own GP and either 2-3 weeks in advance or same day appointments.

Well, I guess that solves that question. New job here I come. Here are today's stats:

evilgiraffe TTC#1, Cycle 10, UCL 28, CD1

I'm feeling strangely conflicted. I'm pretty :( because I'm now in double figures of cycles - it seems like forever. However, being not pregnant right now makes deciding to leave my current job a bit easier. So, it's a double-edged sword today. On the one hand, I would love to be pregnant. On the other hand, going into a fixed-term contract whilst pregnant is just foolish. I may (hope I will) end up pregnant while I'm there, but not being up the duff when I accept the job is a good thing, I think.

Cavey I'm so sorry you've been feeling rubbish. You're not a failure, your body just needs a little bit of help. I'm sure you'll get there

Evilgiraffe I had just decided to leave my job when I got my BFP, in fact it was the day I went out and picked up the application forms!

I have brownies (with maltesers in them) and nice strong coffee and wine for you all. I'll just leave them here on this table.

Evening everyone. I cried all the way home from work. I've been having a horrible time at work again and I'm feelin quite depressed. I've been making a huge effort with pg lady, cooing at her scans, discussing names etc, and then she stabbed me in the back today by emailing something to the senior admin (who was on leave) about not being happy that she had to go in the petty cash tin as I wasn't there (I was talking to the team manager) when the senior has said only me and senior are allowed in it. So instead of interrupting me, or saying face to face that she wasn't happy, could I leave her some money, she 'grassed on me' to the senior. I'll probably be pulled into the office again in the morning, but if I am I'm sticking up for myself, and I may end up telling her exactly how I feel about everything in there at the minute. I'm writing it all down as I feel like I'm being victimised. The senior has been off sick for about 2 months as her husband cheated on her, we had an admin meeting oin monday morning and she sadi, in her words 'everyone in my home life has been walking all over me, I won;t have the same at work', which I think was rather inappropriate as I wasn't aware we were walking all over her! I feel like I'm being treated like a naughty schoolchild and that I have to watch my back all the time.

Anyway, I have a job interview tomorrow for the post I applied for in march and figured I hadn't been successful, not a lot of time to prepare but I think I'm as ready as I'll ever be and if I get one of the jobs I'll be so so happy. If not, I'll be complaining to my team manager about my senior.

Hope everyone is ok

Oh josie I'm sorry it's so poo :( what the senior said is very inappropriate she can't take her shit life out on you .

And boo hiss to stupid pg lady who apparently believes that just because she is pg the whole world revolves around her.

I can send dog crap if you like ???

Good luck with the interview, maybe this is a sign :)

Cave (hugs)

evil giraffe sorry about AF but yay new job :)

Onto cycle 7 for me soon period pains, spotting and thrush meh!!!!!!

Milo - I am so sorry for you that you have not been able to see doc this week. I think I'd personally go to an appointment whether there was someone to cover for me at work or not! I can only imagine how worried this must be making you - I really hope you find some answers soon.

Josie - your office sounds like a nightmare at the moment! You have done the right thing by writing everything down - just because someone has personal circumstances it doesn't mean they should be taking it out on you in the workplace. Horrible. I'm crossing my fingers for the job interview - maybe this is fate?

to giraffe - Hurrah for the new job prospects - send some of your 'new-job-dust' josie's way!!!!

Got in the shower this morning and boobs are HUUGE - still feeling decidedly hormonal, and despite being on CD 24 I reckon I'm awaiting an early arrival of AF. Boo. (Tiny bit of me yesterday wondered if the excessive teary-ness was a result of being up-duffed. But this morning I realised that was just excessively hopeful) Boo. Looks like I'll be joining you imminently Weimy

Hope we all have a better day today - and if not - It's the weekend soon!

AF finally got me, 8 days late. Had a feeling it was game over because all the symptoms disappeared. Maybe I had a little egg but it didnt develop properly. Onwards and upwards, it was only our first month & we have lots of time to make another super egg!

Sucks doesn't it lucy I'm very emotional but think it is because I am getting depressed again. :(