The First Time Frolickers, come and get your pg tests here as we’re all going to need them on this thread! Come and join us if you have vast experience of hiding from pg ladies and babies!

[JosieSmith1]

Here?s the new thread! My imagination left me this morning so I apologise for the crap thread title!

I think I?ve got the list right but I may have completely messed it up, sorry!

TomboyWife TTC#1, Cycle 15, UCL 28, CD40
Truffkin TTC#1, Cycle 9, UCL 28, CD20
LateToTheTTCParty TTC#1, Cycle 3, UCL 26-ish, CD18
evilgiraffe TTC#1, Cycle 7, UCL 28, CD15
LizzyMathsWhizzy TTC #1 Cycle 3 UCL 30 days CD14
Impers TTC#1 Cycle 3, UCL 35, CD14
CookieMoo TTC#1, cycle26, UCL26, CD12
FingersCrossed TTC#1, cycle3, UCL29, CD8
Weimy TTC#1, Cycle4, UCL28, CD7

MI SWI A
TanteAC TTC#1
Yumstepmum TTC#
Ilovemarmite79 TTC1
Pinklady76 TTC#1
Puppygirl TTC#1
RaspberryTipple TTC#1
JosieSmith1 TTC#1
Kaloki TTC#1
Tigerseyemum TTC#1

Not Counting Days
CaveMum
Miffles
Chalky3
DessieLou
Zippys
Calyx
Ariesgirl
Goldmaple
MissFlick
Womanlytales
Gobolino
GardenPixie
Karstan

2010 Graduates
Superpenguin BFP 1 July
Haloflo BFP 22 July
Saor Alba BFP 7 August
MrsWajs BFP 13 August
stegasaurus BFP 27 August
Roamfree BFP 1st September
Kurlyvoice BFP 1st September
Crazybutterflylady BFP 1st September
Cherrycobbler BFP 3rd September
Crazydays BFP 4th September
Bellaby BFP 11th September
Highheelsandequations BFP 30th October
IfAtFirstYouDon'tSuceed BFP 25th November

Recent Graduates
Slowshow BFP 3rd January
Roundtable BFP 14th January
CrazyAlien BFP 29th January
Toriajayne BFP 16th February

Argghh! I'll get this out if it kills me!

Yet another couple we know have announced they're expecting their first child. I've been crying off and on all afternoon since finding out which is ridiculous as I should be, and am, happy for them.

I'm meeting my gynaecologist on Tuesday and am dreading her giving me bad news. It's been exactly a year since we started trying and never in my wildest dreams did I think we'd have made next to no progress by this stage.

It's my 30th birthday on Wednesday and I'm not a birthday person at the best of times! I always thought I'd be a mum by the time I was 30 and just feel like such a failure.
To top it all off I'll be spending my birthday alone. DH would gave been away as normal anyway but he flies to Afghanistan tomorrow for 4 days so I won't even be able to talk to him.
Normally I'd try to at least catch up with my best friend but she has her own troubles to deal with: her mum has terminal cancer and she had a miscarriage a few months ago. To make things worse age didn't tell me about the pregnancy/miscarriage until a few weeks ago because she didn't want to bother me, knowing how much trouble we're having. It made me feel awful that I couldn't be there for her

So, I'm sat on the sofa with the cat and a tub of Ben n Jerry's feeling very sorry for myself.

Enough of the me me me, I hope everyone is doing better than me!

Awwww Cave, (big BIG hug) it's ok to spend a little time wallowing every now and then, you can't be chipper all the rime and you have a lot to deal with right now so hang in there. You're not a failure, and when you finally hold your little one in your arms all this will have so been worth it.

I saw a friend today, with her gorgeous little 2.5 week-old girl, conceived naturally after 6 months of unsuccessful Clomid treatment. They'd been trying for over 2 years and she'd also had a miscarriage. She had all but given up (they'd decided against IVF) and then it happened for them, such a blessing.

Cave, you're often the voice of reason, calm and knowledge on this thread, your turn will come I'm sure of it. And when you feel bad about turning 30, just think about poor old wrinkly me (and my wrinkly old eggs), turning 38 this summer!

Thanks Late you're very kind. You've made me cry again, in a good way :)

Cave huge weimy pack hugs, feeling down is totally understandable.

Big hugs Cave I hope you're feeling a bit better this morning.

Oh Cave poor you. It must be difficult enough for DH to be flying out to Afghanistan, without the added stress of TTC. You cannot put a brave face on all the time and it's not good to bottle things up so having a wallow and a cry from time to time is almost a necessity! Your best friend sounds lovely and it sounds like you could both support each other at the moment - hope you do get in touch with her.

Don't feel as though you haven't made any progress - you have. It's so hard to be patient, but as Late says, when your time comes, all this heartache will seem a dim and distant memory!

(ps - which Ben & Jerry's did you go for??)

OH NO!! OH has just told me that he has to be away on business from CD 17 to CD 22!! Please please please let me ovulate either before or after then (preferably before so that I don't have another long cycle)! PLEASE!!!!! Otherwise that will be the third wasted cycle in a row! That would really really piss me off.

Right, focus Imps - think calm and happy thoughts, so as not to delay ovulation due to stress. Come on little eggy - you know you want to pop out soon.

Good god, I hate baby making.

Thanks everyone, I'm feeling a lot better today. I think I may have just needed a good sob (or 5!) to get it out of my system.

Thankfully DH is only in Afghan for a few days and will be home on Friday night. We'll have a late-birthday celebration next week.

Imps I went for Phish Food! It's my favourite AND is on half-price offer at Tesco! To be fair DH actually bought it for me, along with a bunch of flowers yesterday afternoon. He is lovely and a saint for putting up with my rollercoaster emotions!

Oh Cavemum he sounds lovely!!!

I prefer hagen daz pralines and cream (mmmm)

Imps stay calm, the little guys can survive up there for a few days

cd21 yawn yawn

You're making me hungry! Can't beat chocolate fudge brownie (I'm now going to have to scour the house for chocolate- that's the trouble with working from home).

I'm glad that you are feeling better Cavemum. I am only just at the beginning of the TTC journey (I finally made it to Cycle 1, CD1 yesterday!), but since I found out last year that I had polycystic ovaries and probable endometriosis (confirmed with operation) I have found myself avoiding pregnant friends (which seems to be most of them at the moment!). That's great that your DH is so lovely- I think that's what keeps me going and reminds me why this is such an important journey that we are going on together, however long that journey may be.

Glad you're feeling better Cave

Welcome Jeff

Having a crap time at work but can't elaborate really. It's got to the point where I'm worried she will have found out I'm on here and will be looking to see what I'm saying about her! I nearly left this morning, but I'm definitely looking for a new job now.

Oh Josie that doesn't sound good. Hope things sort themselves out for you.

Sod's Law I've been rootling through Rightmove this evening and have fallen in love with a house . It ticks almost all our boxes, the only thing it falls down on is a small kitchen and only 3 bedrooms (we want 4 ), but there is potential to extend it and resolve those issues. Arrgghhh! It's typical that DH is away and I can't tell him about it! Would it be naughty of me to line up a viewing for this weekend when he gets back?!

Thanks Cave but I doubt they will. I think it's time to move on and find somewhere I will be appreciated. Does your DH know you're looking for a new home? If so then i's definitely not naughty to line up a viewing. If he doesn't know, well, arrange a viewing anyway

Maybe a bit naughty, but then again it is nearly your birthday Cavemum! Glad you're feeling better.

DP & I put our house on the market at the weekend (eek!). Quite exciting, if only we could decide on somewhere for us to move to. Still, it might distract me a bit from ttc.

Hope things work out for you on the work front Josie, and on the egg front Imps

Thanks all! I think I will contact the agent, we are looking to move - we had our house valued last weekend and it will be on the market in the next few weeks.
We had been interested in a new development but almost all the houses have been sold and the 2 that are left have the smallest gardens. The one I found last night (which looks as though it has only come on the market in the last few days) has a 50mx20m garden - yes that's metres! We've said we want a garden big enough for kids, maybe a few dogs and a veg patch, plus DH keeps talking about getting chickens. I think he fancies us as the next Tom & Barbara Good!

You've helped me decide ladies, I shall contact the agent tomorrow. Got other things on my mind today - it's my follow up appointment with my gynaecologist today [scared]. the appointment is at 11.45 so I'll let you know how I get on this afternoon.

Good luck with the appointment Cave, fx for some positive news for you!

Ooooohh a big fat YES to booking an appointment Cave - you're only looking - it's not as though you'll be putting an offer without consulting DH...although there's a thought... Garden sounds great - plenty of room!

Good luck with the appt this morning - keep us posted.

Hi ladies, I'm back. Not great news, though I'm probably being a bit "glass half empty".
They want to perform a Lapsroscopy on me (knock me out and stick a camera in through my belly button to have a look around). After that they will give me 6 months on Clomid and if that doesn't work they're going to start IVF.
Feeling quite crappy again now but having to keep it together at work. I really wish DH was here at the moment to tell me to pull myself together.

I'm pondering taking some time away from Mumsnet, it's just really hard at the moment. I'll stick around for the next few days to see how I feel

Still waiting here. Can't get GP appointment until at least Thursday!
Just wondering what vitamins/supplements everyone is taking? I hadn't been properly ttc for a while prior to this cycle and hadn't been taking anything special. I know I ought to be taking folic acid, which I have but keep forgetting to take because they have to go with a meal so I can't take them in the morning with my other tablets. Should I get anything else?

I was wondering the same milo as I'm new to this game.
I have been taking Boots multi vitamins with iron. I know that we are told to take folic acid but the multi vitamins have 100% of your RDA in and it is in breakfast cereal and ovaltine!
Honestly, we go to bed with a mug of ovaltine each night (still dtd though!) and that is 20% of all your vitamins.

I'm taking, as are many others on here, Pregnacare's Conception tablets. They are a bit pricy but Boots and the supermarkets often have them on 3 for the price of 2.
Just be a bit careful about what you are taking as there are some vitamins that can be dangerous to an embryo.

Cave - here's a massive vat of Ben & Jerry's to delve into. So sorry that the news wasn't more positive - but it's not completely negative either. Do you have any idea when your laparoscopy will be and where? If it's at Adds, then there's a very fit anesthetist who may be responsible for you (or at least there was when I had surgery there last year)

If you feel you need to take some time out of MN then give it a try - we'll all still be here if you want to pop back now and then to say "hello".

Thanks Imps I've had a large glass bottle of wine this evening so feel a bit better.
I'm probably being a drama queen: it's always been a possibility that we'd need medical intervention but to hear the Dr talking about IVF as an option has really hit it home for me. I'm (again) feeling like a failure. That my body can't do the one job that it's meant to do. I told DH that if an op was needed I had to tell my parents. I need to have a general anaesthetic for it so I don't feel that it would be fair to hide it from them. I also need to decide what I'm going to tell my boss. I can't hide the fact that I'll need at least 2 days off work to recover and if we need to go down the IVF route there is no way I'll be able to hide it from my work colleagues.

On a positive note I have booked to view the house I mentioned on Saturday morning. I'll tell DH when he gets back on Friday night, I'm sure he won't mind too much :)

Well I stood there in Boots and compared the multi vitamins with the conception vitamins and the both contained the same but the conception ones had more folic acid.
I sometimes wonder if TTC is treated like weddings, up the price by 50%.