Waiting to try for a baby

[AmandaCooper]

A continuation of so many threads spent waiting to ttc that I've completely forgotten what number thread we're on.

If you're waiting to ttc, stop by and say hello!

DH has got his heart set on a new car, which requires us to get a joint loan. Am thinking of repeatedly calling off trips to the bank, sometimes while on the way there and then making him wait another 35 days before the next appointment and then calling it off again and saying we'll think about it again in sixth months.

Snowy tell me about it there's a pregnancy epidemic at our work, with seven women very heavily pregnant out of about 90 staff.

snowy, amanda - i have one heavily pregnant woman sitting in front of me at work!!! and she talks endlessly about baby things... which is nice because i am interested but a bit tiring some days!!!

snowy - so now you are off the pill you are going to TTC?
amanda - lol at making wait your DH!!!

Snowy how likely is it you were in your fertile time?

Not very (sigh)
But I did have the weird ovulation pain I sometimes get (only from the one side anyone else get this?)
But probably not.
Just feeling very broody!

Well it's only 2 out of 40ish are actually pregnant at the moment- but both in my department of 6, and 2 have just had babies. So maybe not 'everyone'!

Hi to the new people! Looks like we're moving it back a year (to may 2012), trying to save some money first so we can move to a better area, and can afford for me to be a SAHM. It is painful but I know it's sensible, and am trying to think of the self sacrifice as practice for parenthood!

Thischarmingmum(35) WTTC#3, DH happy with 2, Cheshire.
Ratata(27) WTTC#1, waiting until married, Edinburgh
AmandaCooper (33) WTTC#1, DH not ready, Bradford
notthehippopotamus (28) WTTC#1, DH not ready, Essex
Tostaky (34) WTTC#3, need to find new home near good school, London
Monal(31) WTTC#1, waiting to come off the drugs, Paris
HeavensNetIsWide(27) WTTC#1, saving/DH career, Northants

Thischarmingmum(35) WTTC#3, DH happy with 2, Cheshire.
Ratata(27) WTTC#1, waiting until married, Edinburgh
AmandaCooper (33) WTTC#1, DH not ready, Bradford
notthehippopotamus (28) WTTC#1, DH not ready, Essex
Tostaky (34) WTTC#3, need to find new home near good school, London
Monal(31) WTTC#1, waiting to come off the drugs, Paris
HeavensNetIsWide(27) WTTC#1, saving/DH career, Northants
Snowy27 (27) WTTC#1, waiting till after the wedding (Only 50 days to go!), Manchester

HNIW a year is a long time, I'm not surprised it's painful. Having said that, I have to admit DH and I are in a much better position now than we were two years ago when I first started wanting to try. At the time I wouldn't even have been able to take more than a couple of months maternity leave. Now we could probably afford for me to take the whole year. Damn DH and his sensible head!

Oops!!! Had sex this morning and then realised that i was entering my fertile period.... (idont use contraception, i just calculate every month when we need to be "careful")
so well, if it happens, it is fine but i would have rather waited a few more months!!!

Blimey we're all a bit clumsy at the moment, is it full moon or something?!

I like your car plan, Amanda :-)
looks like I'm back here for 2 reasons- they forgot to tellme that the MMR I had with a view to TTC meant I couldn't try for 3 months. Also, the maternity policy at new job is fab, but only if I conceive after Jan, and we're talking over 10k difference, so I'm a bit confused.

Unless you're uber rich it's going to be hard to ignore that £10k! DH had the last laugh with the car unfortunately he just went and put the deposit down. Oh well.

Haha I've been extra careful the last week as I'm on antibiotics. Don't like using condoms though, bareback so much more fun ;) TMI?!

Soupqueen £10k difference is defo a lot, I can see why you would think about waiting, along with the MMR reason.

Boo to the car Amanda :(

Adding myself to the stats - sounds like there are a few of us going to be TTCing in early 2012!

Thischarmingmum(35) WTTC#3, DH happy with 2, Cheshire.
Ratata(27) WTTC#1, waiting until married, Edinburgh
AmandaCooper (33) WTTC#1, DH not ready, Bradford
notthehippopotamus (28) WTTC#1, DH not ready, Essex
Tostaky (34) WTTC#3, need to find new home near good school, London
Monal(31) WTTC#1, waiting to come off the drugs, Paris
HeavensNetIsWide(27) WTTC#1, saving/DH career, Northants
Snowy27 (27) WTTC#1, waiting till after the wedding (Only 50 days to go!), Manchester
halterskalter (33) WTTC#1, need to do a year in new job, London

Hi ladies can I re-join you?
For job reasons I have to wait a bit longer to TTC#2... DS is nearly 18months and DH and I would like a small gap between DC but I don't have a clue when we can start seriously thinking about #2.

evitas (31) WTTC#2, waiting for job reasons, Edinburgh

hello everyone, can I join?

I'm 30 and DH and I have been married nearly 2 years. He has always been keener on the whole idea of children than me, but a couple of friends have just announced that they're pregnant and my friend who's just had her second said some very sensible things the other week about never being ready for all the gross bits.

So, in the last two weeks, I feel like a switch has gone on and I realised that I wasn't against the idea, just scared :)

Anyway, we've got stuff to do before we start SWI, like a ruge renovation project on our house of horrors and I want to get in a couple of trips to farway places, so it will be a little while yet, but I guess we coud start TTC in March next year.

I'm a bit of a control freak though and I'm adamant that we're not having one in either March or April (loads of family birthdays then anyway) or too late in the academic year . So it could be a bit stop start stop start!

Can I join?

I'm 27 and have been with my DH for nearly 7 years and we got married in February. I have always been broody but in the past few months it has definitely moved up a notch!

DH is keen but 'not for a bit' but, of course, he can't quite tell me when that might be! He seems to change his mind a lot from starting this Christmas to in three years! Frustrating!!

There are definitely things that need to get done:

My list - pass driving test

DH - get better job

and, in an ideal world, move!

On the plus, we have no debt but all that may change if we need to move and DH doesn't get another job!

Babbling now but looking forward to getting to know you all and wishing you all luck!

Welcome back Soupqueen and evitas and welcome to Nemesis and glittershoes. Been away for a bit - DSis got married at the weekend, which was lovely and I saw lots of family/friends I don't see often. Found myself hoping I'd have a christening to invite them to before too long.

Am a bit confused as DH actually sounded disappointed to learn there was no danger of his swimmers finding an egg to fertilise this weekend! Which makes me think that he's not going to bother being too careful and now it could actually happen I'm starting to worry about whether this really is a good time job-wise etc!! Fortunately I just think of all you ladies who will rightly tell me there is never a perfect time and I should just get on with it. So I think we're still waiting, but in a slightly careless way - please don't throw me out just yet!

Notthehippopotamus do it at once!

AmandaCooper - I knew I could rely on you :) Thank you!

Hi - I would also love to join. I have really mixed feelings about TTC, I have a 13month DD and everyone is starting to ask 'when is the next one'? My DH is uber keen and wants another one ASAP but I am holding off for the following reasons:

• My DD sleeps through now and I am dreading going back to no sleep (is this a really STUPID reason????)
• I want a couple of years back at work to save a bit of £££ so I am not financially dependant on my DH.
• I like the idea of just having time alone with my DD 'till she is older and has started nursery (as in school nursery) when next one is due.
• The idea of having morning sickness (and day, evening, middle of night sickness) and a 1 year old is just not attractive at all.

BUT I am also broody big time! But must, must, must resist.

The plan is as follows: -
Try next June, July, Aug. Have a break as I do not want another summer baby, then start again Dec.

So a loooooonnnnnng wait for me :) But on the plus side now I am no longer BFing I can enjoy

Adding myself to stats (hope that is not too cheeky)

Thischarmingmum(35) WTTC#3, DH happy with 2, Cheshire.
Ratata(27) WTTC#1, waiting until married, Edinburgh
AmandaCooper (33) WTTC#1, DH not ready, Bradford
notthehippopotamus (28) WTTC#1, DH not ready, Essex
Tostaky (34) WTTC#3, need to find new home near good school, London
Monal(31) WTTC#1, waiting to come off the drugs, Paris
HeavensNetIsWide(27) WTTC#1, saving/DH career, Northants
Snowy27 (27) WTTC#1, waiting till after the wedding (Only 50 days to go!), Manchester
halterskalter (33) WTTC#1, need to do a year in new job, London
Truckdriver (32) WTTC#2, not ready yet for #2 just yet, but still broody!

Hi all, I was here a few months ago and we'd decided to wait until Christmas to TTC for work related reasons. But impatience kicked in and we decided we could start sooner - but are going to a malarial zone in Sept so have to wait until after that to start TTC (which although sooner than previously planned, feels ridiculously far away now!)... So October it is! My quick question is - should I come off the pill now, or just before we start and try for this 'surge' that people talk about? Any opinions ladies? I'm just v freaked out after reading a conception thread where loads of people can't conceive!! Note to self, don't read those threads...

Hi Mrsmellow, I am on the pill as well and will be TTC in Dec this year. My doctor told me to stay on the pill until I want to start TTC just in case I fall pg when I don't want to. We will try for the surge as well!

I have heard elsewhere that it's good to come off the pill a few months in advance to let hormones and ovulation get back to normal before filling up with pg hormones.

Up to you :)

mrsmellow it's tricky... because you can get pregnant straight away. But whatever decision you make maybe it would be a good idea to start taking your pre natal vitamins. I remember I started taking them about 3 months prior TTC#1

and notthehippopotamus good luck

I've been thinking about contact my midwife. My DS was premature, 35w, and it took me a long time to stop feeling guilty and realise that it had not been my fault, that having a premature babies can happen... but tbh I'm so scared of having another preemie that I need to talk to some someone about the chances of having another one (although I read that it's about 30% ) and check if the care will be different. On the other hand, if I don't have a clue about when we'll start to ttc#2 it seems a bit ridiculous to have this chat...

Hope everyone is well
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