Waiting to try for a baby

[AmandaCooper]

A continuation of so many threads spent waiting to ttc that I've completely forgotten what number thread we're on.

If you're waiting to ttc, stop by and say hello!

Actually have 3 gorgeous DC but we found out that last one had Bilateral Talipies at 20 week scan and the tests we had to go through to rule out any serious genetic conditions, scared the bejasus out of DH.

He now thinks we should stick at 3 and be grateful for what we have. And goodness me I count my blessings everyday.

But, I have a yearning, for number 4. We are undergoing talks and provided I can convince DH that I can cope, (had PND) and come off all meds, loose 3 stone (result of PND's comfort eating) then I will be waiting to concieve.

I think of having another a lot and have it all planned in my own mind, if DH finally agrees.

Plea may I join?

Thanks Amanda, i have kind of made sure we have not been very careful around my fertile days the last two months but difficult as DP is in the forces so only really see each other at weekends....another reason why TTC is gonna take us longer I think!

Waiting, my last 2 are post tour x

hi bebe, thanks for the welcome.

I take a low dose of anti ds which supresses the nerve endings in my leg and tramadol diclofenac and paracetamol, am a bit nervous about not taking these but am planning on talking to my GP at the beginning of next year for advice on what to cut down and when.

Are you trying for ur first?

My DH isnt "against" the idea of having another but worries about the practicalities. Im more of a whatever happens we will cope sort of person so he does tend to ground me a bit when i get all over excited and eager! I have the depo injection and it took us 3-4 months to conceive our ds and at that time I hadnt been on that injection for overly long. This time its been a few years and so im prepared for the fact that it may take longer this time round.

Our son starts primary school next september so the timing seems right for us in that I will be able to spend time with the baby whilst our son is at school.

Good luck with trying to convince ur DH :)

Bebe that sounds like a lovely plan and very compatible with having another DC! :)

Welcome to mummysfunny - good luck with working through your checklist. And to FullTime as well. When we finally get round to it, DH and I will be TTC#1 so I can't imagine what it would be like to have 3 DCs. Good luck with talking your DH round - a distinct theme on this thread!

FullTime I'm exhausted just reading your username!

After reading through this thread I found myself in Boots today picking up a prescription (I have a very sexy eye infection) and decided to head to the vitamin aisle based on the fact people have been saying you could/should think about taking folic acid up to 12 months before TTC and at any rate I've a busy few months so I could buy it ready for 3 months before TTC.

But could I? I read a few packets and then froze. Seriously, me be a mummy? Who am I kidding? Surely I should just be grateful I haven't poisoned/drowned/deeply traumatised either of my DSS!

I ran away

Slightly concerned I can't even buy the damn folic acid!

Thank you for the welcome. I have now named non existent 4th child, only in jest, but DH likes name! There is hope I believe!

I take mid dose anti D and am prescribed Beta Blockers for anxiety but haven't used them as have taken up running, body combat and breathing exercises instead. Have also postponed all further studies to be SAHM. Am much more relaxed, happy and ready to reduce the medication, weight , academic workload and hopefully increase the family. I can't wait to ttc but have a while to go yet, before I've reduced all. I think convincing hubby will take place at same time so I realistically give myself until at least Christmas, maybe Feb ( DS2) 2 birthday to ttc. I'll also be 37 then so do worry about any age related problems.

Best of luck incoming of your meds

Lol Waiting. I'm not sure how to change it as its out of date now. I was terrified with thought of 1 child but here I am wanting n4!! Good luck next time in boots. I had pharmacist speak through all the supposed vits that help conception. She convincing me to take Omega 3 Fish Oil instead of Flaxseed in attempt. I'm vegetarian. So I'm sure next time they see me stroll pass they will all hide!

Haha FullTime, post tour is definately a good time to TTC! The issue we have that has been putting us off is that DP may have to go on tour next year and doesn't want to miss out if we had a baby before! Fx he won't have to go though!

I've had another birthday, another trillion load of friends' Facebook profiles changing to black and white scan pictures and have resigned myself to there being no TTC in sight. Sigh.

Aw Fancy you sound a bit down. Hope you had a nice birthday. Did you get as far as coming off the pill?

We're getting quotes for a loft conversion at the moment with a view to getting our house finished in time for our December wedding. Which means I'm choosing bathroom suites and so forth. Just realised I need to make a decision about spare-bedroom-not-to-be-called-a-nursery. Feels wrong to think about decorating it before even TTC but equally it'd be daft not to do it when the decorators are in.

Have any of you planned the nursery yet?

Ours is still the spare bedroom, but we have thought about it to the extent of getting a sofa bed not a bed that takes up the whole room, and not putting too much other furniture into it so it has the potential to turn fairly easily into a nursery.

I'm not superstitious but I think it would feel wrong to decorate it as a nursery before being pg, as well as seeming odd to any guests we might have! Can you go for a neutral colour to which you can add something more nursery-ish later?

Goodness, I've been away a little while and when I come back there are 2 whole new pages to read!

Welcome to all the new people it's nice to share the wait.

Nursery-wise ours is also a spare room for now, but it makes sense if you're decorating to at least keep it all neutral and not over furnish. I'd be too superstitious to make it a nursery until I was definitely pregnant!

Well it looks like I'm going to be here for a while. I've found out my job is safe for this year. Yay!
so at the moment I'm trying to eat healthy and do some exercise

I was wondering if some of you have priced all the baby stuff? I going to start to try and get a figure.

Lw

Good news on the job littlewater. I'm failing miserably on the exercise, and finding too many excuses on the food front. Parents-in-law over today and d-i-l particularly partial to his puddings so felt compelled to make something fairly unhealthy. It did have fruit in, but also chocolate and cream!

Not sure I really want to think about how much all the baby stuff will cost. A few friends have babies already so would be crossing fingers for hand-me-downs. I'm sure I could spend a fortune if I let myself. :)

I think if I priced up baby stuff I'd be too daunted to go ahead!

Glad it's not just me thinking it's wrong to decorate a nursery. I'll just go for something like buttermilk and buy some neutral curtains and just leave it as a fresh space waiting to be claimed :)

Hello again all :) Sorry it's been a while. Been really busy with wedding stuff (3 months and 25 days to go... not that I'm counting!) and jumping out planes (did a sky dive for my birthday). Yeah getting that sort of thing out the way before TTC in Nov! Figured I shouldn't really be pg and wanting to jump out a plane.

Looks like we have more folk round here, awesome :) I too, like others here, have that 'spare room' which houses some junk but is actually painted a fairly neutral purple colour... just waiting for me to add decals for either a boy or girl.

I spoke to the doctor a few days ago about my pill and she advised to stay on it until Nov and then come off when we want to start TTC. I wonder if the mythical 'surge' may happen. hopes

I was at a birthday party for my friend's 2 year old and I am much more broody now, if that is possible. All the kids were so cute. There were four 2 year olds, a 2 month old, an 8 year old and a 10 year old. One of the toddlers kept going around everyone saying 'hi' and then running up to his mum saying 'HI MUMMA!' Heart melts.

Roll on November....

Morning Ladies,

Please can I join?

Having skimmed this thread really quickly, it seems I am in the same boat as many of you in that DH needs some persuasion before we TTC. At the moment he is dead against it - no solid reason.

He kind of half heartedly came round a couple of months ago but has now changed mind again.

We have DS (6) and DD (3) already and generally have quite a nice marriage. He wants to keep things as they are, whereas I feel like there is another little person who is waiting to join my family.

Am starting a business so have decided to stop pestering DH on weekly basis and wait 6 months. During this 6 months, I will concentrate on launching the business and sort out some other things in life.

They do say only the insane try the same thing repeatedly hoping for a different result. So I will make some changes and then try pestering him again.

Once business is running, he will be less worried about money. Plus will make effort to have more quality time as a family so that we are all in a happy place. Life has been so busy lately that we hardly have time to do things together.

Do we have a list of stats?

Welcome ThisCharmingMum! Sounds like you have a plan - good luck with the business. :) Do hope it does mean more time to do things as a family.

No list of stats since I've been on the thread but no objection if you want to start one. I'm a bit of a mumsnet novice (when we finally get round to TTC will be #1 so still feel like i shouldn't really be here) so will follow your lead on that!

Hello ThisCharmingMum, I have a feeling when we eventually have kids I will be in the same boat as you. Fiance currently wants 2 kids and I want 3 or 4. Sounds like have a good plan though to take your mind off things and concentrate on the business.

Well, I have actually been the one to push back the TTC now! Only by a few weeks. There is a Machine Head and Devil Driver gig on 5th Dec that I really want to go to, me and fiance are into metal. I want one last proper gig where I can go in the circle pits and get right in there. Probably not a good idea to go into them while a few weeks preg if it happened quickly.

Roll on December :p

Hello all I've finally come crawling back. DH has put the whole thing off again and I couldn't face up to the fact that I was back to waiting for a while so I've been stewing for three weeks now. Hi to all the newbies!

Aw, I'm sorry Amanda. Pleased to have you back of course but sorry at the same time. Really hoped it was all going ahead for you at last. :( Don't stew on your own - plenty of tea and sympathy here. :)

Hi I'm new as well, please can I join? Bit of a long story - DH and I keen to have a baby (will be our first) but I had two miscarriages last year. Then I saw the perfect perfect job advertised; we discussed it and decided that if the MCs continued and we can't have kids, AND if I had passed up on the job, I'd regret it. So, I went for the job and was lucky enough to get it, so we had to put off TTC til January 2012, when we will be starting again...hopefully third time lucky.

Sorry guys but I have to tell you this,
I talked about having a baby earlier with my DH, sure ok. Shall we have a new oven? Hell no.?????

WTF.

Lw