Waiting to try for a baby

[AmandaCooper]

A continuation of so many threads spent waiting to ttc that I've completely forgotten what number thread we're on.

If you're waiting to ttc, stop by and say hello!

Oh Pip - do you want me to remove my reply too? Not sure how

Feeling mega stressed today...tax credit renewal forms arrived yesterday......trying to get DH to bring home the P60s so we can sort it out, hate it hate it hate it! Gonna be SO poor...best get my backside in gear & get my business stuff sorted!

Thanks for the offers to remove replies. Just click the link in the post that says 'report this post' then explain why.
The lovely people who run the site will then get rid of it.

To be honest I can't imagine that these posts will ever be read at someone I work with and then linked to me but who knows.

Bebe that sounds like no fun!!

Hello all, not sure I should be here really but what the hell.

Firstly, for all those waiting im patiently never give up hope, I waited 9 years after my first child for DH to give in and agree to another one and I now have a beautiful 2 month old snoozing next to me.

I am here because I am really frustrated at the mo. When I got pregnant I thought there was no way there would be any chance of any more after number two and had come to terms with that, quite happy that he had agreed to a second really. but at about 35 weeks pregnant DH started saying that we should think about a third as soon as possible so that 2 and 3 would be nice and close in age so I got my planning hat on lol.
He has now said he really wants another one (male biological clock) but doesn't think it's a good idea and hates being dictated to by "evolution" ie afformentioned biological clock so doesn't want one.
This may seem really greedy to those of you who are desperate for number one but it's the will he won't he thing that drives me mad. I was fine until he put the idea into my head but he just comes along and pulls the rug out from under me ..... again!

Again sorry if this seems insensitive to those who are yet to have one but I needed to vent. Tell me to bugger off if you like lol

stuffedmk I'm sort of lurking here on and off and already have one, so I shan't tell you to bugger off! Broodyness doesn't appear to acknowledge the fact you already have LOs does it? 'Tis a pain. Think I would find your situation really frustrating too, it's all that not knowing. If there were just some magical agreement and time plan that you knew would be stuck to it would be far easier wouldn't it, even if it included a wait? That's what I feel any way. We have one, we both want more, but I want more NOW and DH is far too anoying sensible and quite rightly points out we really can't affoard anther just yet. But he we keep changing the goal posts about when we leave London and therfore be able to afoard more kiddies. If I just new we would be able to start TTC at point x it would feel better I'm sure.

Haven't checked in here for a few days. AC sorry to hear about the job. That sucks.

Agree, if he had just kept his mouth shut and left me thinking a third would never be possible I wouldn't be so annoyed it's the constant changing of mind that does me in. And no broodiness never stops lol

Hmmmm, I am wondering if I was on a ttc bus with you at some point Flowery I have a rubbish memory but the name seems familiar.

It's possible, but I was only on one for one month so you'd have to have a good memory! Think I got pregant within seconds . DS is 9 months now so it would have been Nov not last year but the year before I think.

Stuffedmk and I thought my DH was bad, yours puts him in the shade!

Thanks amanda.

So depressed right now.
One month of trying but having to stop seems worse than not having started at all. I've been waiting so long now, I don't think I can stand it much longer.
We've decided that I should stay off the pill until we go again though. I really didn't want to go back on it, that would seem so much like admitting defeat.

Oh absolutely that's one thing I definitely won't be doing, going back on the pill. I hated taking it in the end, I'm happier just not having sex during my fertile time.

Good morning waiters! Good news from me, DH still reluctantly on board for next cycle! Just got to get through the next three weeks!

Morning AC! Good luck and hope he doesn't throw a wobbly when you actually get there (mine did, at least at first!)

Oh he definitely will. I was just saying on another thread I anticipate that he will be uncooperative in terms of timing, which will mean I have to endure a series of 2ww's on the off chance. Alternatively we might have a repeat of December when he spat his dummy out completely and unilaterally put it back by another 6 months.

What happened with yours? How did it work out?

HI all. Great to be on the beach. TTCing number 2 hopefully in Sept waiting as have exams next June which might be insane hard with newborn and marginally easier with huge tum but hey we can't always plan these things so we will see! Happy waiting.

AC humph, just tried to reply but it disappeared.

In short, he did refuse at first, but had come round by the next day. Think I sort of sprang it on him a bit. Now... well he's not exactly enthusiastically promoting TTC (I think he wouldn't mind if I "accidentally" missed my fertile period every month) but he is cooperating. So I guess we're TTCing

So I need a dry run, as it were, just before I want to start?

Yes indeed - at least one night I'd say. And maybe best not to tell him when's a good time and when's not...

He always asks. It's very romantic.

Sorry Pipbin I didn't see your posts before they were removed. Hugs, I assume you are going through a difficult time at work. Also sorry to hear that you may not still be TTC. But good you aren't going back on the pill at least.

Aw Amanda that is a shame about the job, but now you know you can get on with things. I know it is so disheartening when you don't get the job you wanted though. Maybe you will get preg fast and not have to put up with your job for TOO much longer :) That would be good. And yay for TTC soon!!!

How exciting ChantingAsISpeak :)

Stuffedmk - that does sound frustrating, I hope you DH makes up his mind soon and that you get the third child that you are hoping for!

It was my 27th birthday yesterday so I'm feeling a bit fragile today... had to make it a proper good one as I HOPE there will be a reason for me not being able to drink on my next birthday :) We are going to start TTC in November so I hope to be pg by June... but you never know really. If I'm not then my 28th will be another crazy drunken night.

This may be TMI but I was having tummy cramps from a stomach upset last night (real fun when you are riding home in a taxi) and it was really painful and I thought to myself... how am I ever going to be able to cope with child birth. Stomach upsets and period pains sometimes have me doubled over, and child birth will be so much worse... eep!

Anyone been watching Misbehaving Mums To Be?

Flowery I think I started TTC that October (it took a while) so very possible.

Ratata I won't lie, child birth hurts but it's over relatively quickly (in the grand scheme of things). You will cope fine because that's what we do. Before I had DS1 I was terrified of how I would cope with the pain, I was a complete wimp and had never been through anything really painful ie never even broken a bone. When it came to it I think I only really began to panic during transition half an hour before it was all over (I know that now, thought I had hours left at the time, hence the panic). Women have a tendancy to tell you the horror stories...3 weeks in labour etc etc lol but in reality it is totally managable.

AC

mine does too - but since my cycles are all over the place I can truthfully say "I've no idea" (in other words: it's at your own risk!)

unfortunately I am planning to have masses and masses of gloopy EWCM this month that won't leave anyone any room for doubt

ha, my DH wouldn't know EWCM if it hit him in the face

There won't be any of that sort of careless slopping it about on my watch Ms Minipie! Your DH will just have to get his kicks elsewhere!

Still no sign of AF here. Really hope she hurries up. This bit of the wait seems to be taking longer than the whole of the last two years!