Waiting to try for a baby

[AmandaCooper]

A continuation of so many threads spent waiting to ttc that I've completely forgotten what number thread we're on.

If you're waiting to ttc, stop by and say hello!

its a pain in the behind, I'm actually getting really annoyed at him over it all in general.

unfortunately is a no go on being pg before as not only are the flights alone looking at £1300 , but I need a yellow fever jab and the bottom line.. no way in hell am I doing 9 hours in economy class with swollen ankles and a bump. If I cant talk him out of it we might be looking at TTC january at the earliest, depends when I get arround to my jabs.

thinking on it... wonder if that subliminal messaging idea would convince the brother to get married in the UK instead... mmm.....

OK, I know I might not be alowed in here any more but a) I missed you lot and b) Iwanted to reassure the newbies.

We waited for career stuff, we waited to move areas, we waited for my first natural period. Once we were done waiting I got upduffed immediately and am now nearly 7 weeks.

Stress not.

Hubby is being fantastic, i am a nervous emotional wreck scared shitless by what I've done.

Ah MakesCakes, congratulations, so great to hear your news, thanks for popping back in to give us all hope that people do pass over to the other side!

Sorry to hear you're a nervous wreck - I can see myself being exactly the same. Hopefully it'll just take a couple of weeks for you to come to terms with the reality of it (it is a massive change after all, no wonder you feel a bit freaked out!). Glad to hear your DH is being supportive.

We're all cheering you on!

Hello MakesCakes! Very glad it happened so quickly for you, gives me hope! And do keep us updated.

Well... DH and I finally had our first TTC attempt yesterday! Very exciting! Mind you I have no idea what my cycle is doing so no idea if it had any chance of success. But I guess I'm now in my first 2 week wait... wish me luck!

Good luck! And enjoy the practicing. In a silly little way a part of me felt almost disappointed that it happened so quickly! (daft, I know - most of me was thrilled).

Hello, can I join? I've got DS1 who is nearly seven months, but am insanely broody at the moment. I can't just throw caution to the wind though due to a number of things, so there you have it. Can I wait with you? We're looking at Christmas time when we're going to look at TTC again (can't bloody wait!).

Well thats me.

TribbleWithoutACause, you sound just like me, my DS1 is 9 months and I can't wait to get started on the next. DH thinks a three year age gap would be good (I'm happy wiht 18 months). Mind you, would be nice to have a decent night's kip befpre peing a pregosaurous again (DS1 still waking 3 times a night roughly).

And for those of you waiting to TTC and panicking it might take a while, I can add to ballancing out those for whom it takes a while - got pregnant first month with DS1. On finding out my DH said 'I know I said I was ready to start trying, but I'd rather banked on it taking a few months, I thought I'd have longer to get used to the idea'! These days he says he hopes it doesn't happen quite so fast next time as he was looking forward to lots of sex for trying and was a bit done out of it last time!

Wow that's impressive MakesCakes! I was lurking when you were posting on here, that is positive news.

To answer questions from a while back, I've known from very early on that my boyfriend wants kids. When I first asked I was surprised with the intensity with which he said 'yes'. And he has said that one reason he writes music is he'd like to pass something on to kids one day.

But we got together five years ago. We were long-distance for two years early on but have been living together for nearly two years now. I got broody very soon after moving in with him - I felt like it was the right time.

But I only seriously started raising it with him about a year ago and his reactions every time are really frustrating. He's just not ready. He'd be happy waiting 5 years.

Still, he said November. Just trying not to bring it up much in the meantime (in case he changes his mind and is ready sooner). If he changes his mind, I will think seriously about leaving him.

I was posting on this thread, or one very much like it, before we started trying for DS1 as my DH wanted to wait for a better job, more money, buying a house, feeling more grown up etc.etc.etc. He would set a time we could start, and whenever it got close move it on. He got there in the end though (not sure we achieved any of the things he wanted to wiat for!), but I can sympathise with the frustration. I'm not sure men realise how intense broodiness can be and how all consuming that yerning for kiddies is. With us though it is at least just timing, not the desire to have kids, or more kids, we've always been agreed on that at least.

Flowery glad you got there in the end! Please tell me your DH is now as enthusiastic a daddy as any of those men who are just super keen for DCs as their wives...

I was reading the thread about men being "meh" about children and lots of people seemed to think they wouldn't have children with a man who wasn't just as enthusiastic as them, which worried me a bit.

Well you seem like a lovely bunch so am resolved to stick to this thread! Congratulations MakesCakes and good luck. I hope we are all as lucky as you when our time eventually comes. I'm sure the nice positive vibes on this thread will help! And good luck Minipie - how exciting!

Sorry about your delay though, MrsTwinks :( Sounds like the wedding is in an exciting location, so I guess that is something to look forward to, but shame about the ££. A friend recently missed her brother's wedding the other side of the world as it took place a week after she gave birth - they rigged up a live video feed and a skype call so she and her DS could still be involved, but not the same as being there of course.

OK, maybe I'm being paranoid, but I've had some quite uncomfortable cramping for the last three weeks and now I've started getting some brownish discharge and (sorry for the tmi) brown clot-ty bits. Should I bother the GP with it? Or is it just another one of those normal things that noone tells you about?

Makescakes I am not a doctor, so I can only tell you anecdotally that I've seen lots of people post that and it's been fine. Go and het it checked out to put your mind at rest though.

Minipie, my DS is now a fab Daddy. He quite often stops me in what ever I'm doing to say things like 'look at our son, isn't he amazing' and 'this was definately the best thing we've ever done' and 'isn't it good being a family'. I shall stop there for fear of being too mushy, or too insensative for those still waiting!

To be honest, I dont think he would mind getting going with the next if it weren't for the fact that he's just changed jobs, literally 3 weeks ago, and we said we would leave London for the next one, which would mean him leaving the job, and of course he wants to give it a fair shot and a decent amount of time (especially as he feels he's jumped about quite a bit jobs wise so doesn't want his CV to look like he has no sticking power). You see, the plan had been for him to stick with his old job until we left London, which we said we would start looking at doing once I had been back to work for 3 - 6 months. But he didn't!

phew - so good to hear that Flowery! thanks.

Floweryboots that is probably the best thing I've ever read on MN, and ranks very high among everything I've ever read ever! I'm going to print it out and put it on the wall!

Ahh, thanks guys.

MakesCakesWhenStressed, hope everything is OK with you.

Flowery that is really reassuring, thank you! And really lovely that you are such a happy family.

MakesCakes hope everything is ok.

Ach, yet another friend has announced she's pregnant today. That makes 5 of them! I am trying not to be jelous, and reminding myself I am exhausted with the one we have already!

Yup, Flowery I've had another announcement recently too. So that makes one newborn, one due any minute, one pg due end December, and one pg due end November among my friends. Plus a whole load of pg acquaintances it seems. I am jealous, not even trying to deny it!

But, technically, I might already be pg and not know it...

Amanda, you must be coming up to your starting point, no? How is your DH?

Nice to read everyone's chatter :) Although I say booo to all the pg announcements :p There haven't been many around me but I did see one of the teachers today with her 2 little ones and just thought awwww. Really can't wait to start trying.

I hope more DHs start getting on board, is there a dadsnet that they can go on?! Maybe some dads can tell them how great it is! Or we could secretly make a dadsnet and push our guys on to it lol. Loads of articles about how great being a dad is! All written by us :p

Minipie he seems to be ready to go - in fact if I wanted to bring it forward to this month it wouldn't surprise me if he got on board But there's a spanner in the works, I had a job interview last week. So now I'm in limbo and if I get the job I'll be red; if I don't I'll be green.

NO! Amanda you must make babies in any case!
(It's the final countdown, dedelaadaaaa, dedelededaaaaaaaa)

Ooh Ratata, that is an excellent cunning plan! LOVE the idea of the really enthusiastic dadsnet. I can just imagine it

We would need posts extoling the virtues of more then one kiddie too, and that small age gaps are the way forward, by far and the best thing to do, and that after the first child, all subsequent children cost nothing, so actually you can affoard another. These will be vital for those of us rediculously broody within weeks of the first DC being born! Damn my Dh for being so sensible!

Oh, and that first babies miraculously start sleeping through the moment you get pregnant with the next...