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Waiting to try for a baby

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AmandaCooper · 25/01/2011 15:16

A continuation of so many threads spent waiting to ttc that I've completely forgotten what number thread we're on.

If you're waiting to ttc, stop by and say hello! Smile

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Flower1000 · 04/04/2011 15:55

Hi new here too waves hello

waiting to, to try to concieve :) if that makes sense.... We're taking the 'let nature take its course' route for a bit but we already have a DD that's 3 so any spare time we have I tend to use sleeping - so it might be a bit of an uphill struggle at this rate :)

JustShaggingForNow · 04/04/2011 15:55

Oh Bebe :( :( :( :( :( :( :( :( :( :( :( :(

That really really sucks for you. I am so cross at your DH - where is the Gruffalo?!? GRRRRRRRRRRR Angry Have you got a free weekend when you can sit down and talk to him? I was astounded by the change in my DH so it can happen!

bebejones · 04/04/2011 16:46

I'll come and hand out with you guys 'on the other side' from time to time!

Was going to try & talk to him this weekend, it being mother's day & all! But work stuff threw yet another spanner in the works! His job is so full on & just takes over all our lives! Sucks, but that's the way it is & the way it has always been. It's just because times are tough it's harder than ever! :(

I'm going away for a hen do in a couple of weeks & leaving DD for 2 nights with DH...that'll be a wake up call I think...but actually it could really put him off! Shall be priming DD to ask for 'a baby brother' all the time...like she does with me!

Welcome flower :)

bebejones · 04/04/2011 16:47

hang out! Blush

minipie · 04/04/2011 17:11

By the way MakesCakes apparently you can be fertile after you come off the Pill even if you haven't had your period yet.

Just so's you know...

MakesCakesWhenStressed · 04/04/2011 17:34

I know - am using condoms :-) (TMI?) I just wanted to a) have a period first so I could date things and b) didn't want a Christmas baby :-)

Paintinmyhair · 08/04/2011 10:59

Bebe, don't worry, I think I'm going to be on here until I hit menopause, so we can sit together!

Dd is also going on at dp, and says that if we haven't had a baby before she is 10 there will be consequences!! I feel a bit freaked out by waiting until she is much older though, as she will be more aware of what happens, both at conception and birth. I know it is prudish, but it really makes me squeamish. Am thinking of maybe just getting a hysterectomy and having done with it, as it is the wanting and being biologically competent of having one, yet still not being able to that I am finding the hardest to cope with. If I can't have one, then maybe the feelings will subside?

bebejones · 08/04/2011 16:04

Paint - I so know what you mean. I would feel a bit awkward about waiting til DD is much older, she is 3 this year & ideally I'd not want to leave it until she is past 6 or 7. (Your DD is 6 isn't she?) I would like her & any potential sibling to be close enough in age for her not to feel like a parent to her younger sibling should anything happen to me IYSWIM? I want them to have common interest & be able to play together.

Knowing that now is the perfect time to TTC & not doing it is DOING MY HEAD IN!!! It's not like I can turn off the hormones is it?! Hmm

Paintinmyhair · 12/04/2011 20:58

Dd is 7 now, would be 8 when the baby was born if we ttc-ed now (which isn't going to happen). Dp said the other day that I was a statistical anomaly not having another, and wasn't I "brave" for putting up with my hormones for so long. La la la, will go and sing to myself in the corner now!

No, seriously, bebe, don't worry too much. If your dd is 4 or 5 when you have another, they still play well, but you get some quality time with dc2 while dd is at nursery or school, so there is a silver lining.

nicolac34 · 14/04/2011 15:27

Hi All!

Can I join your party? I'm a new lurker to mumsnet and am firmly on the "waiting" bus Smile

DH and I got married in October after 7 years together (me 27 him 26) and I am keen to start on the baby bandwagon! DH of course is the one holding the brake...

He's looking forward to this perfect time when we will be debt free and own our own home. Hmmm ok, debt free will come in the summer (yay!) but as for owning our own home? That's going to take a long time Sad and isn't even really a good time to buy right now anyway Hmm

He also says he is not ready for children and wants to go on some big holidays first. So now I'm even more confused Confused how do we save for a big deposit whilst spending all our money on big holidays?!

So girls, pass me the malibu, Wine I'm going to be here a while.

FancyALittle · 15/04/2011 18:14

Hmmmm a turn of events means that it's just me stalling now... I ask "when should we have a baby?" and my DH just keeps saying "stop taking the pill". The other night when I got frisky he said "there's no POINT because you won't get pregnant ANYWAY" Hmm.

I'm conflicted. We really do need to replace the car and finance freaks me out. I want a certain £ in the bank before we try. The longer I can work, the more we can save for a house deposit. Yet at the same time I want my children to enjoy their grandparents in the same way my brother's children do (he is 9 years older and his children are 10, 8, 5).

Win the lottery this weekend and we're away! Glass of red for me. Any other takers?

bebejones · 19/04/2011 07:54

All quiet in here now that everyone has 'jumped ship'! Envy

Fancy - get on with it woman!! Wink I would have a glass of red but it's a bit early! Maybe a Mimosa?!

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AmandaCooper · 30/04/2011 09:13

Fancyalittle at least stop the pill, then see how you feel! You don't have to ttc straight away, DH and I have been charting for eleven months now.

It is quiet in here! I had to go looking for the thread, which I had neglected a bit due to ttc being so unbearably far away in the uncertain future. However things are looking up and I'm hopeful that June may be our month... [been here before, done that, had the breakdown, got back on with it emoticon].

How is everyone doing? Who's still with us?

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Quodlibet · 30/04/2011 09:23

Me!
June's not very far away at all you know.

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AmandaCooper · 30/04/2011 09:29

Hi Quod! Did you enjoy the royal wedding? I am just laying on the couch with the cat, recovering. Had far too much vino, oh dear!

June is quite close I suppose. I've started seeing the challenge as not getting deliberately accidentally pregant before then so bonkers have I become with all the waiting, so in that sense, there's only about four more days of resisting to go!

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AmandaCooper · 30/04/2011 09:30

Have you two had any more discussions about the work/baby divide?

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littlewater · 30/04/2011 09:41

i'm also on the waiting beach.
Due to my DH losing his job, so he doing some studying to get his own business going. He should finish next June.
Is anyone else using this time to get fitter? and healthier ? I've also been looking at where the baby stuff will fit into the other bedroom

bebejones · 30/04/2011 10:52

I am still waiting.....as always! Hmm

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AmandaCooper · 01/05/2011 13:24

Oh no Littlewater, when did that happen? Sorry you've been consigned to the bench. Had you started TTC and had to stop?

Bebe one day there will be a statue of you at bus stops everywhere to commemorate your extreme patience!

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frozenpenguin · 04/05/2011 12:50

Hello all - can I join in? {waves to everyone}

Have just read through the previous pages and can completely agree with weeping over OBEM, feeling 'why can't it be me' when friends annouce they're pregnant and hoping to be pregant each month even when I'm on the pill and know it's fairly impossible...

Has anyone found out yet how to stop DH moving the date for TTC? Confused

We've got the marriage, got the house, got some savings and both got permanent jobs. The problem DH has is he thinks we can't afford it, as I only have a part time job, however my job does have a reasonable wage and good maternity benefits.

We've sat down with the figures and I think we can afford it, but DH is a very 'glass half empty' person Sad

Ps. I'm another person who's 28 and also lives within a few miles of Bath...

Quodlibet · 04/05/2011 14:38

Hello frozenpenguin,

A new recruit, hurrah. We need some as everyone else seems to be crossing over to the other side [narrows eyes at JustShagging ShaggingWithIntent who is off merrily procreating in India]

In answer to your question ('has anyone found out yet how to stop DH moving the date for TTC') I'm afraid that's the holy grail, like discovering a cure for the common cold. If any of us had found that out we'd be very rich women and definitely wouldn't still be here moaning to each other.

You're welcome to join us in our intrepid quest though.

minipie · 04/05/2011 16:31

Afternoon all

I haven't been on the thread for ages (got a bit depressed at how far away my "waiting till" date was) but am still here - in spirit if not in actual text.

My TTC date is now coming ever closer though... I have a few more days of anti malarials to take, then a couple of weeks to get them out of the system, then it's chocks away. So, beginning of June or thereabouts. Eeek Shock

That's the theory anyway. DH has agreed to June but is still wistfully saying "couldn't we wait another 6 months" every so often... So we shall see whether he actually cooperates when the time comes.

What happened to the various other June people? Cakes I think was originally June but appears to have jumped ahead somewhat ...! Amanda? Are you still on for a June start? Not far away now... How do you feel?

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AmandaCooper · 04/05/2011 19:24

Minipie yes I'm hoping for June but obviously it's all up in the air and unlikely to happen. DH is sort of on board, who knows?

Frozenpenguin how long have you been trying to convince him for? We need some stats on how long it typically takes!

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Pipbin · 04/05/2011 19:45

We have just, and I mean a week ago, started TTC.
However I'm saying hi here because I know what you are all going through.
When a work colleague announced she was pg a couple of weeks ago I had to leave the room. I would wait for my hubby to leave the room before crying about it as I didn't want him to see how upset I was over friends baby pictures on Facebook.

We have been waiting for about 5 years and have finally realised that if we wait for the right time then it will never happen.

That wait was dreadful, I just wanted to have a chance to try, it occupied my every thought.

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AmandaCooper · 04/05/2011 22:44

Lol Pipbin when I said we needed some stats on how long it typically takes I didn't want to be told 5 years! Are you my DH in disguise?? [suspicious]

I'm certainly a long way off the crying over other people's pregancies though. I feel a bit fraudulant now!

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