Waiting to try for a baby

[AmandaCooper]

A continuation of so many threads spent waiting to ttc that I've completely forgotten what number thread we're on.

If you're waiting to ttc, stop by and say hello!

I'm in Portsmouth :)

I want to jump tooooooooooo Unfortunately I need a bit of a run up! And may have to push DH off the cliff first!

Welcome Sands/House! :)

Having a rubbish day with DD. Have so much cake/food stuff to do for DHs work thing 2moro I haven't been giving her my full attention. 2 'accidents' (I say 'accidents' coz she knows what she's doing) including a 'code brown'! :( Just when I thought she'd cracked it!

I'm in Gloucestershire :)

JSFN - planning to jump sometime around April/May...

twas going to be May/June, then realised I was only waiting the extra month because I didn't want a Xmas baby, which was a silly reason!

And bebe - Gloucestershire isn't so far from me, I'll come over and give him a shove if you like?

minipie - good point. But that gives us at least a month and then some, so I apologise for the nail marks!

Oooh an April/May jumper too! Can I join you on the edge of the cliff?

My friend who has been trying for over a year to TTC #2 has just told me in secret that she is PG! They have been having fertility tests & it's happened anyway! Really really really pleased for her, but just feel like bursting into tears at the same time. She's younger than me & her DD is younger than my DD. I just want a sibling for DD, but when I talk to DH about it it's like I'm asking him to go & get me the moon!

Feel miserable! Can't help that AF is here & I'm hormanal & stressed! :(

Bebe I'll join you in the miserable, AF, hormonal and stressed club. Made worse by thrush. aggghhhh.

im also aiming for April/May to ttc :D So excited! Would love to start now but for work reasons we need to avoid christmas if poss. So April/May it is! Came off the pill 2 weeks ago so also waiting to see what happens once my cycle kicks back it, a little nervewracking after years and years on the pill..hope it all still works!

Hey all,

Been so busy recently, and really, really stressed because of work! Anyway, i had a chat with OH about babies as he's still not keen - yet!!

I asked him if he has that 'fear of fatherhood' and he said no!! He knows we will probably have children but he wants our relationship to be better first. Therefore, i'm really trying to be better with him. And i've really enjoyed it TBH!! I'm hoping all will continue to be well and he can give me his answer in June (if not before). I may get the MN guide to pregnancy anyway because even if we don't have our own children, or at least after our first, i've said i'll be a surrogate for my friend if she miscarries again!

I'm very pleased for those of you that are TTC soon. It must be so exciting!!

I have also considered buying small things, but he'll kill me if he finds them. Also, i'm planning on getting many things 2nd hand or even better for FREE from Freecycle. It's amazing! We also have nowhere to stash it for now!

I really wish i could comment on everybodies comments but i find it hard to use MN and remember what everyone has said! Isn't there a way to read and write things side by side???

Well, i hope you all have a fab weekend. FYI: I'm in Rogerstone, Wales. x

Astrozola it is really hard to remember what everyone has said, I know what you mean. Some are better than others at tailoring their replies. I'm hopeless - but I figure it's better to post anyway and some things you'll pick up and some you won't.

Bebe hang in there. You know this is a black spot for DH. You'll get through it. We'll have our belated babies in the end.

Hi everyone! I'm very very new to all this so please bear with me.... Im also waiting to ttc as we have booked a five star trip to Jamaica in September and really can't afford not to go as it's all paid up and to go in early pregnancy would ruin it ( all inclusive drinks hee hee). My dh is all for trying while we are there and when we get back and we've discussed every circumstance possible and we're fully prepared. It's just the waiting that's so frustrating. We have everything- good jobs, house, 2 new cars, nice life. He has a son from a previous relationship who is absolutley brilliant and we get on so great. I could go on but don't wanna bore u all!!!

Wow Lavish that sounds remarkably simple compared to some of us here and our complex waiting reasons which could go on for pages!
Welcome to the madness.

OK - so that's at least three of us in the April/May TTC club then, huh? We should plan a meet up

I am absolutely hopping mad today as hubby told me something about my in-laws that really upset me. Basically, if they'd been different sorts of parents we could have had almost £40k in savings by now instead of £3.5k of debts (yes, we're still paying off the (pretty cheap) wedding as well as moving costs). It makes me want to cry. if we'd had that kind of security we could have a baby already by now.

I don't want to get into any more detail on a public forum, but it doesn't really improve in-law relations, y'know?

OK. Now I need to go have breakfast and write my shopping list. I'm being disgustingly domestic today and have already changed the bed linen and put a wash on.
x

Hey ladies

I'm really looking forward to our holiday in Ibiza that's when we really will start TTC. Just wish the weeks would hurry up :)

Went to Ikea and spent a few pennies and our bedroom looks alot better now lol.

Took DD to feed the ducks at Arundal Wetlands Centre this morning it's one of our fav places to go good thing we went when we did not long after we got home it started to pour with rain.
Home for nice roast and chillout this afternoon.

Oh, all these people ready to jump and I've got nearly a year to wait! I suppose I shall just have to console myself with doting on the dog. Poor dog...

OH is getting more and more keen now that the idea is in his head. We may need a new car soon, and he's said that it absolutely MUST be a good family car, since two years from now we will hopefully have a little one to put in it. It's all very exciting!

I'm only about 10 miles from Bath. Seems like a good place to be for us waiters!

Hello all, am wondering if it's ok to join this thread?
I'm impatiently waiting to ttc our first baby. Reasons for waiting are that the timing isn't ideal at this point in our lives but after we'll be married at the start of June, we'll ditch those condoms and just see what happens...Waiting for the perfect time would probably mean waiting forever!

The start of June, that's only 3 months to go! Even though I can't wait to be pregnant , I think I will freak out majorly when the time comes but I'm sure everyone feels a little like that before their first. I'm looking forward to hanging out here with you for at least the next 3 months :)

Hello MrsHuxtable, welcome to the thread! I am also waiting till the start of June, for many reasons - main ones being that DH has only recently been keen on TTCing (and is still suggesting September would be better...) and also we have a hol in late April that requires anti malarials, which I'd like out of my system before starting.

Best of luck for the wedding! how exciting. There is never an ideal time and I think everyone does freak out!

Capreece - very impressed with your domesticity. I should probably go do some laundry... yawn.

Cupcakes we are also having the car discussion - strangely it seems to be one aspect of potential parenthood my DH is quite interested in...

Thanks Quodlibet. if i went deeper into it i think i could actually write a book! im 29 and the only one out of all my friends who is childless. but saying that, i could off been worse off as i only met my OH (i said dh before, i meant OH) in August and he is the best thing to ever happen to me (have dated alot of losers in my lifetime...)so happy to soon be starting a family with him. I was on the pill cerezzette and came off in october and only had my first af this month (Agnus Castus is wonderful!!!!)Was a bit stressed due to this but now i know everything is back to normal, i dont wanna wait...

evening all!
I'm back from the wedding up north and DH is back in Lonond. Feeling pretty hungover and have real Sunday blues! It was a really fun weekend and great to see friends but I could do without feeling so rubbish!!!

Got smashed a bit tipsy and have a habit of memory loss on such occasions. So much so that this morning I had no recolection of DH and I having drunk sex in the early hours of this morning!!! ! Turns out that we didn't use any protection either (for some reason he thought that depite my drunken state, I would have been capable of making sure we used condoms if we needed to!!!)and I was on CD 11 so that could make for an interesting 2 weeks!

How has everybody elses weekend been??

lol @JSFN - nothing like fate sticking in a little helping hand! Have you worked out when you'd be due if CD11 was the magic number? :-D

I had a super uber lovely weekend - saw more of my DDDDH than I have for ages and just spent a really cosy weekend with him. We went to look round the local town, bought some local sausages then he spent the afternoon painting miniatures (no comment) whilst I read in the rocking chair with a cat on my lap.

Sunday morning was all domestic stuff and getting a shop done (much needed) and then his volunteer gig got rained off and he was back by lunchtime so we spent the afternoon watching films whilst snuggled up on the sofa..followed by an early night

I know I'm a sad, boring old married woman, but it was kind of perfect :-)

Ooh JS you naughty thing not again!!

Well I know we've been here before many times but DH has said we can ttc on our holiday in July, which will coincide with our second wedding anniversary. If my cycles continue to be perfectly regular the dates should work perfectly. As long as DH doesn't change his mind again that is...

Capreece that was a proper old married couple weekend lol.

Lettherebecupcakes the year will pass before you know it and you can do so much in that time to prepare yourselves and to make the most of what you've got now. It's good to make more friends on MN while you are waiting, I reckon it's harder to find time to post chatty stuff and get to know each other once the morning sickness hits!

Hardly anyone ever waits the full amount of time they initially identified as their waiting period anyway. Some of us wait much longer but most people jump more quickly.

MrsHuxtable welcome to the thread. June is the earliest we can try. The stupid romanticism has crept in and made me want to hang on another month and wait for the wedding anniversary (must be more practical if going to be mother!)

hahahaha!
I hadn't checked AC (until you wrote that message) as was pretty sure that I will all be fine. People spend months actively TTC and the chances of me getting upduffed after a drunken night are pretty minimal! AF is due on 16th March which is slap bang in the middle fo our ski trip......... may be packing a HPT in my bag just in case! I'd be November 26th is it did happen.... thought I felt ov pains today but am sure it's in my head!

DH didn't react with shock and horror when it dawned on him we might have had a fuck up so that is positive!

Capreece - your weekend sounds really lovely. DH and I ahve been having those kind of weekends quite a bit of late as we only see eachother on weekends and want to just chill out together!

MrsH - Welcome! you'll soon see that we are all complete nutters on here!!

Ooh JS how exciting. I think 'contraceptive accidents' are a good and healthy part of the slippery slope towards the cliff edge myself (what a mixed metaphor, but you know what I mean). Good response from your DH too, points awarded for him.

Capreece I'm well jealous of your lovely weekend, my DP has been away all weekend again. Although I had an equally nice time yesterday, my best friend came over (her DP is off with my DP) and we made lunch and dinner and watched films on the sofa, it was like the old days when we still lived together. We had such a nice time w ended up saying maybe we'll go away for weekends together and leave them at home on their own and see how they like it!

Another complicating factor in the TTC saga here - my parents rang to say they've booked themselves an extended long-haul holiday for the whole of Jan and Feb next year. Now I know I'm definitely over-thinking it but it would be weird if I did give birth and they couldn't meet their grandchild for 2 months! Am I just looking for reasons to delay do you think?!

Quod I can totally see what you mean about not giving birth when the GPs are going to be away. I'd probably feel the same although knowing my parents they would fly home to meet their first GC!!! Where are they going? Do you think they would look at flying home if you were to be due in Jan?

Starting to feel really sick today. Think that the cold I have been fighting off for weeks has come back. Really worrying though as the Half Marathon is on Sunday and I really need to be at 100% fitness for that, especially as so many people have sponsored me so generously!! May be working form home this week if I can manage it!

JSFN - time to start loading with vitamins - and don't forget the echinnachea and zinc. C'mon, if you want to be a proper lentil weaving mummy you're going to have to start stocking up with alternative health potions that taste vile ;-)

And Quod - I keep worrying about stuff like that... I think I might put it off for a bit if my mum and dad were going to be away, so I do understand. Maybe find out how far in advance they can cancel it, they might when you announce you're pregnant and it's due when they're away... OTOH if they're insured they may get it back if they have to cancel because you've gone into labour - it's not exactly something that can be avoided, is it? I dunno - check with the insurance people? :-D

Shall we have a ceremonial chucking out of the contraception at the beginning of April? ;-)

Bah. Am at work, but only get paid for the work I do and everyone who could give me work is in a meeting. Lovely as Mumsnet is I'd rather be paid, esp since we just got all our final bills through from the old place and it was rather painful financially when combined with all the new bills. Thank God for my store cupboard/freezer insanity - we lasted 2 weeks without a food shop of any kind! Mind you, Hubby was getting fed obscure grains as porridge substitutes by the end of the fortnight (Quinoa, anyone?)