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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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TTC starting Jan 2011

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LPO · 15/01/2011 18:38

Hi there,

TTC #2, starting this month.
Anybody else out there thinking new year, new baby?

Currently OV, first attempts this month.

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Dutchie77 · 01/02/2011 17:09

Hi there,

TTC #1!!

Yes Blue, I recognize it. But you know, patience is a virtue. And that is sooooo difficult. Grin

Good luck everyone!

LivingDeadGirl · 01/02/2011 17:11

Thanks Bee. I think the doc would most likely just tell me same thing you have. I'm just starting to stress a lil bit cos AF is usually regular as clockwork every 28 days just not as heavy when I was on the Depo.

Dutchie77 · 01/02/2011 17:14

And btw....can I join? Smile

goingmadtrying · 01/02/2011 17:19

Hi dutchie course you can welcome and good luck for this month :)

Dutchie77 · 01/02/2011 17:51

Thank you goingmad! in the middle of my ovulation...sooo fingers crossed.

How long have you been trying?

Original poster
LPO · 01/02/2011 17:55

WELCOME TO OUR SECOND MONTH OF TTC- FEBRUARY!

WOW! Just logged into this and there are so many newbies! Welcome all and good luck this month!

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MummyBerryJuice · 01/02/2011 18:33

Hi all. DS is still unwell has been running a fever all day Sad have hardly been been able to get up off the sofa all day. So no test for me today, no AF yet either though.

As I'm still BF, I'm not entirely sure whether I'm even ovulating, but I'm unwilling to be more serious about it and start testing. So... We'll just carry on SWI Grin

robdan · 01/02/2011 19:54

hi all,

i am ttc its my first time me and my partner are so excited but i worry i cant have children i dont really know why but its always in my head aaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhh

does any one else have these thoughts?

robdanxxx

TheWicketKeeperIsDown · 01/02/2011 20:05

Well, I'm clearly the granny of the group...Grin

MummyBerryJuice · 01/02/2011 20:48

Robdan. I felt exactly the same way before DS (we have a strong family history of early menopause) but we conceived on the 2nd cycle of trying with him.

I think it is a very common fear.

Don't worry yet, but join us and chat for support!

BeeMyBaby · 01/02/2011 22:13

LPO you seem so happy about it being the second month, I am just feeling a bit wilted by it already, I am fearing when its the 7th month and I am all lonely on this thread on my own.

goingmadtrying wait a couple of days then do another test... then tell us!

MummyBerryJuice have you had an AF at all since your DS's birth? (sorry to ask too much)

robdan yes, I felt that way too very much before having DD, and had been told by a specialist that we would probably need help...also my parents had taken 10 years of TTC before they had their first. I, like I am sure many others, am worried that numero 2 will not be so 'easy'.

goingmadtrying · 01/02/2011 22:24

dutchie I came off the pill in nov so this is our 2nd cycle :)
beemy thanks will do unless AF arrives x

ghosteditor · 02/02/2011 09:11

hi newbies! Great to see a busy list, makes me feel less crazy.

robdan, yes, I always hear so much about friends who have taken a while to conceive, and so many warnings not to assume that it will happen right away. But then again two sets of friends (one in early 40s, one in late 20s) conceived right away, so there's no rhyme or reason to it. In a way, I wouldn't mind at all if someone could say "it will take you six months to conceive" if I could know that for sure - it's just all the uncertainty about when it might happen.

I'm also pretty stressed about the idea of taking a break from work - I have no idea how it will affect my long term career and even whether I'll care about that once I have DC. [sigh]. If only I could be in control of everything! Hmm am sure I'll have to learn to let go of that idea!

LivingDeadGirl · 02/02/2011 11:49

"I'm also pretty stressed about the idea of taking a break from work - I have no idea how it will affect my long term career and even whether I'll care about that once I have DC."

I know exactly how you feel Ghosteditor. I've spent the past 10 years working my way up from bottom rung admin assistant within my company not really knowing what career I'd end up in(having decided upon completion of my journalism degree that I didn't want to move to London for the work or go down the regional route despite spending 3 years working my arse off for said degree lol). I feel I can go further but have a feeling a lil one or ones may put that on hold for a while. Not because of my employer, they're great for family friendly policies and flexible working, I just have a feeling trying to climb the ladder and raise children concurrently will inevitably mean something has to give.

MummyBerryJuice · 02/02/2011 12:15

Oh not at all Bee. I did have my first AF since DS was born just after Christmas. So things are working down there Grin

ghosteditor · 02/02/2011 12:39

livingdead, good to know there are others out there! Most of my friends are not really in the baby place so I can't talk with them about this. I work for an American company with a small UK office and the US office is currently experiencing its first ever maternity leave in my department (over there I think they only get 3 months!). In the UK office they have never had anyone on maternity leave even though all of the men have young children (with stay at home wives as it happens).

My career is exactly the same - despite a good degree and previous experience in the sector I had to take a pay cut to start at entry level in this job. Four years and a long story later, I'm 'director' of a dept (with no assistants though!), but not in the original department, which is where I want my career to be long term. I figure I've got decades left to get there, though, and you never know what'll happen (case in point = me moving departments which was a huge sea change for me)

And I think I've mentioned this before, but DH's job pays masses more than mine so it will be me who has to take time off. And of course I'm sure I'll want to! Just a bit [wibble] about the fact that none of my close friends will be going through it at the same time as me.

I bet all of this fretting will go out of the window when I eventually become pg - ah, the joys of TTC and the 2WW!

blue22 · 02/02/2011 13:09

Hello fellowe SWI-ers!
Welcome to february - wonder how many of us will get a BFP this month, it's really exciting. Don't be wilted yet Bee we have days/weeks/months of symptom spotting ahead of us - we need stamina Grin

Mummyberry I'm sorry that you broke the stick, but it was quite funny to read about it. Do you think you'll test again soon? Hope DS gets better, it sounds really tiring for you.

I've been entering my dates into all the charts and my conception date this month is the 12th with a due date of 5th Nov; I quite like the thought of giving birth to fireworks - appeals to the drama queen in me!
Have good days all of you
x

MummyBerryJuice · 02/02/2011 15:11

I really wanted an October baby this time around December is a shit time to have a newborn. Sad. I mean I spent all of Christmas a new year 2009/10 in a fog and I really want to be able to be part of it this year.

Oh well, let's hope for Feb conception and November this time around. (not that AF has shown up yet, mind. But I'll wait till the weekend to test again.)

BeeMyBaby · 03/02/2011 10:01

MummyBerryJuice well they do say you are most fertile after having a baby so maybe you will will get PG very quick? I read that the first period after having a baby/breastfeeding can be from pseudo ovulation, but after that its go go go.

What does SWI mean btw?

As it was the chinese new year yesterday/today, if we have babies this year, they will be rabbits. If we have them next feb, they will be dragons. Last year today I was expecting to have my DD in a couple of weeks and for her to be a tiger, but she came early and I got an ox. Oh the memories.... Enough of my prattle....

Collie2 · 03/02/2011 10:16

Livingdead and ghost I completely understand too. I've worked hard to get to where i am in my job too and am worried about the impact of having a baby. I work in the NHS but am office based. There are huge reoraganisations ahead and i worry what will happen if i am not about to be 'slotted in' to a new structure, especially when its likley there will be less jobs available. I just have to hope my reputation will do me proud!

BeeMyBaby SWI is shag with intent (of concieving) Smile

Still no AF for me, due saturday (ish). I am feeling particulalry cranky so maybe thats a sign its coming. Just wish it would hurry up!!

ghosteditor · 03/02/2011 10:52

hi collie, sounds like a tough work situation, but hope it works out for you. I hear that there's a push to improve parental leave as well as job sharing/part time options, I just hope things get better in time for, well, me!

Ooh, Saturday is soon! Keep thinking positive Grin.

I'm poorly at the moment but made DH do the deed anyway - just promised not to cough at any inopportune moment Wink According to the magic of the MN conception calendar the prime days were Jan 31st to Feb 4th, but unfortunately DH travels a lot with work and had to leave at 5am today for five days, so that's it for us this month. At least it coincided. DH is away at least 100 nights a year and it's set to get worse this year, so we're going to have to get creative I think!

Collie2 · 03/02/2011 11:03

I have my fx for you ghost

I also understand the frustation of having your dh away. My Dh started a new job early Dec which will now require travel. He has just come back from being away for 2 weeks. There is another trip he is away on at the end of march for 2-3 weeks and possibly in feb for 1 week. We didn't get to ttc in jan as he was away, although i am still waiting for my first cycle after mc so no idea when would have been the right time anyway. I don't think it will be like this all year..... i certainly hope not as we'll never get to ttc.

MummyBerryJuice · 03/02/2011 12:39

Thanks for the pep talk Bee. I've been in a really foul mood the last 2 days so AF may in deed be on her way (or it could just be that DS and I have been poorly). Who knows. Still getting occasional cramping but I'm refusing to test again until this weekend.

It's almost like a bit of a superstition - as long as I don't test the possibility exists...

ghosteditor · 03/02/2011 12:54

mummy, hehe, like Schrodinger's cat?

ghosteditor · 03/02/2011 12:55

*realises that calling you 'mummy' is weird and resolves to type the full name or mbj in future

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