Just MC and ready to try again? Pack your cake, wine and tightie whities and join us for more ranting, weeping and most of all laughing! All welcome! (Part 11)

[IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy]

A safe place for everyone on the TTC after MC rollercoaster. Welcome and come in - virtual wine and chocolate for all, and lots of support and hand-holding until you get your BFP!

The thread moves fast but don't let that put you off - feel free to come along and stay to chat; or dip in and out with any questions.

If you want to join the stats, just add yourself to the list:

WTTC = waiting to TTC
UCL = usual cycle length

Good luck to all - here's hoping for lots of healthy, sticky BFPs by the end of the thread!

hey forget wine.... I am on the gin!! (well not that bad actually, but I guess FF is tomorrow morning temps wise) sorry to loola for RTD. And also thanks to orange and izzy for scan photy solace.I have filed my emotions under 'will deal with that later' for now.hopeful=

boa it's freaky isn't it. i honestly have no clue where it went, i have a vivid image of putting it in the drawer and when i went to look for it, i wasn't there. When they first told me it was bad news i was devastated i didn't have it, after a little while i think not having it to stare at probably helped.

loola sorry af here.

velvet sorry you're feeling so down and disheartened at the moment. We're here for you when you're ready.

mummya you ok, you said you were feeling low, or was that just for a kiss?

I'll throw in my opinion too for what its worth. I remember after my 2nd BFP going to the grads thread felt like tempting fate, a step too far too soon. Totally irrational but totally understandable all the same. So I lingered around here for ages and you were all very kind to me and it was good to still have you to talk to. As you can see, I still return back to this thread to furiously lurk, if not to post that much.

However, with the wisdom of hindsight the things that go through your head in the first months are indeed the things that everyone on the grads thread has experienced and it really is a good place for that. As long as folks here don't mind the post-bfp neurosis then perhaps a mixture of both is best? Staying here in the main while dipping into the grads and getting to know folk - if not joining lists etc??

cep/boa might someone have moved them? I know my DH moved the pregnancy book with stealth when we found out about the MMC as he knew it would start me off.

MummyA have been diagnosed with PCOS, and am being treated by FC with clomid and HCG trigger shots, however I never managed 2 cycles the same even with those and it was a real shock to everyone when I did get a BFP. Have been told to contact climic if nothing after 6 weeks, was just wondering what others had experienced and hoping I might get something normal (confused)

Whats with all the snogging...? Clifford breath over here, you wouldnt want to pucker up with me!!

Hiya all, going to try for a monster catch up but even having read back i cant keep up!!

Firstly welcome to all you newbies. Its very hard the first few weeks, and indeed going through it at all. I hope you allow yourselves time to grieve, time to recover and time to both emotionally and physically come to terms with your losses. ((hugs))

babes cant believe your body is dicking you round - Arsicles! I really thought this was your month, and may still be. I really hope so, even if you think not. IZZ im sorry she got you :( When i looked at your chart the other day i thought you had ahd the best peak i have seen for a temp spike in your charting history. Everything crossed for a bfp for you both very soon. I have been on the MC recovery journey with you, i want you there on the grads thread (selfishly) very soon :) xx

pink the conception mentalling and frustration is not a patch on the conceived mentalling. Welcome to the world of knicker checking fanjo wiping and generally over analysing and not knowing what the fuck is going on with your body. So pleased for you lovely xxx try to relax, we are here for you to bounce off... its not easy but try to de-stress its not good for pinkbean

mama glad to hear you are relaxing into it. Best thing all round. I have just had the most stressful 3 months of my career thus far, and thankfully i have had that to think about, but its not good!!You are doing the right thing minimama

BEE glad you got your drugs sorted lovely, when do you have your scan? Hopefully soon. FX all remains well with minibee

mummy im gutted for you that you didnt get the result that you wanted, i am however hopeful it was a little early for you and that a few extra days will make a huge difference. Has the american doc come back to you yet? Hope you get some positive feedback xx (hugs) in the meantime.

BOA im glad you found a picture, even if it was a shock. Something you can lock away in a box to treasure.

velvet you wont be here much longer babes xxx i know you wont.

Dachs keeping everything crossed those embies are burrowing away my lovely. Stay chilled and you just never, ever know xxx

Loola pussy cat, sorry she got you babes xx

To those of you on clomid, ive heard it can make you a bit mad for a while. Try to remember its the drugs making you like that, and hopefully it will pass and gve you the results you want xxx

Cep i have read a few of your posts. Whats with bum sex friday? or was that Zam i dont know.... it did make me laugh.

Sorry for not being around for the last couple of weeks. The surreal-dom of being diffed whilst wonderful (and i feel incredibly blessed) is nuts! One min you feel duffed, the next you feel likes its all gone tits up and i had to distance myself for a while to stop myself going mad. I wanted to be here for everyone, but just couldnt cope with having to try and self preserve, as well. If i put myself into a little bubble temporarily, I would be ok...well thats what was going round in my head anyway!!

moo is right, ive lurked on the grads since 5 weeks, and posted every now and again... and whilst i felt a little out of depth at first, as peeps were popping out bambinos at a rate of knots, they have been very reassuring and really helpful. Its also nice to get to know them :)

Ive also joined the charters grads, and the august diffed thread, its been good to share experiences there. Not all have made it, been a couple of casualties on the way, but its helped with the mentalling :)

to all xxx

Thanks clare and good suggestion Moo I shall do what nix has done and pop by every now and then until I reach 12 weeks and feel ready to hop on the list.

Gotta go DH just exclaimed at the top of his voice mn? again? hee hee!!!

Hello all. This is a very fast moving thread... I feel as if I've missed loads...! And my OH is also grumbling about my spending time on mn.

Thanks for the snogs/hugs

You are all loverly - I wish I had girl friends like you in RL! Unfortunately my mates are 90% male!

Meant also to Wave to orange so glad your scan was good news, hope you can continue to take it easy.

wombat how are things with you too? All quiet at ChezWomb? FX it continues that way.

mama i get frowned upon every time i open my phone, or fish out the craptop.....!

brown i remember you from last time, sad to see you back here again. FX for a short stop x

Evening all, just a quick note to say I'm pretty new here but I wouldn't want all the BFP-ers to disappear. It gives me hope and if I ever manage to get pg again I really like the idea of having a safe place to do all my mentalling with you lovely ladies to hold my hand.

Personally I don't need to hear too much about the symptoms but it always makes me feel happy to hear about the scans and all the little wrigglers doing so well. Speaking of which, hurray for bean nix!

Wow, I missed a lot last night

Skitoo mine came back in 33 days, my pre-mc CL was 35
Velvet sorry you're feeling so down at the moment (((hugs)))

I've made tentative steps to the grads thread which went out the window with the bleeding/poor odds but am trying to brave it. Moo is right, they have all been through it. But does seem like tempting fate

I was so tired after first day back DH set me to bed at 9.30, to which I proceeded to have vivid mc nightmares :(

Thanks Hadrian :) hope you are doing ok hon.

Orange vivid dreams are associated with pg lovely, fab that your norks hurt and you are starting to be a vomiting Veronica xx dreams about mc you can kind of do without tho! It's prob cause it's on your mind, subconsciously! I have had one or two like that, but have much preferred the really vivid sex dreams, much better if I do say so :) :) :)

nix bum sex friday was DEFINATELY not me, i think i mentioned it cause i said i'd missed the initial conversation.

skitoo it wasn't dh, it went missing a couple of weeks before i knew it wasn't succesful. Plus your dh sounds more empathetic than mine, wouldn't have occured to him to remove anything.

and she's out!!

I may seem happy about it, obviously I'd rather be pregnant, but if it's a choice between that and having a large cyst that may twist my ovary/ pop and fill my abdomindal cavity with blood, and could have prevented me getting a period for up to 3 months, I'll take the onset of AF as a good thing! It's still only spotting so far, but horrible black stuff, and with that drop, AF's gotta be here today or tomorrow.

velvet hugs (and snogs) for you too.

mama and nix my dp does exactly the same, a long-suffering sigh...

Hello everybody, the bumsex Friday reference is all my fault - I used to lurk on a thread (can't remember which one) that as a regular feature in _chat. I'm probably way out of date now and they've all moved on to something else :)

Feeling very humph today
{not TTC related - have got mysterious neurological probs that dr's can't identify, and it's been a year today :(} so will shuffle off and do a proper catch up when feeling better.

Tuesday's List

youremindmeofthebabe TTC#2, Cycle 5 UCL33 CD43
BrownB TTC#1 cycle 1 (post MC2) UCL 24-26 WTF cycle CD38?
ochaye TTC#3 cycle WTF UCL 31 CD31
DachshundsRule TTC#1 cycle 5 UCL28 CD29
Emoo TTC#2, Cycle 1 (post MC1) UCL 26-30, CD30
Choccybick TTC#1 (post mc1) cycle 6 UCL 27 CD 29
Kat2504 ttc#1 cycle 5 ucl28, CD27
MummyAbroad TTC #2, cycle 1 (Post AS Op)) UCL? CD22
Cep TTC#2 Cycle 1 UCL24-28 CD19
Chloe55 TTC #2,cycle5 post MC#2 UCLrandom CD18
knitterNotTwitter TTC#2, (round 3) cycle 6 UCL 25-30 CD16
BackOnceAgain TTC#3,Cycle 6 UCL28-32 CD11
Getawiggleon TTC#2, Cycle? UCL28-32 CD10
AandRmum TTC3 cycle 4 UCL29 CD6
Velvetcu TTC #1 Cycle 6 UCL 30-33, CD5
IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy TTC#3 cycle 7 UCL 24-30 CD4
ZamMummyInGabs TTC#3 cycle 2 postMC#2 UCL26-28, CD4
Loola2shu TTC#3 Cycle6 UCL35-38,CD2

WTTC
Barrenbrook TTC#1, MC#4 Oct 2010
Digitalgirl TTC#2, MC#3 Oct 2010
Hadrian TTC#1, MC#1 Dec 2010, WTF cycle

MIA
Sarahmia TTC#2, MC2
Batteryhen MC conf Oct 2010
Nurse47 TTC#2, UCL28, WTF cycle ERPC 9 Nov
Mamafoof TTC#2, MC#1 Nov 2010, WTF cycle

RECENT BFP's
Hairytriangle TTC#1 cycle 1 (post MC2) UCL ?28 BFP Jan 2011
Tigger15 TTC#2 cycle 22 UCL24-9 CD29 BFP 16 Jan 2011
Pinkfondantfancy TTC#1, cycle 5, UCL 28-35 CD29 BFP!!
Lemonsherbert BFP 18 Jan 2011
HongKongBaby#2, cycle 5 (post mc1), UCL 37, CD30 BFP 18 Jan 2011
MamaPower TTC#1, cycle 5 (post MC#2) UCL 25- 27 CD28
Wombat33 TTC#1 Cycle 3 (post MC) UCL 31
LadyBee TTC#2, cycle 5 (round 3) UCL27 CD27
Owlbooty TTC#1, cycle 5
Mousebacon TTC#2 MC#1 4th Oct WTF cycle
Nickstermum TTC#2 cycle 2 post MC UCL 30-40
PrettyQuichey TTC#1, (round 7) UCL 28-30
Lovebeingadaddysgirl TTC#? WTC cycle
GetDownYouWillFall TTC#2

RECENT GRADUATES
BUnderthebonnet BFP 20 June
Muser BFP 22 June
northerngoldilocks - BFP 12 July
Magic8ballhastheanswers BFP 14 July
Hopefully BFP 22 July
IvySedai BFP 1 August
PenguinsMummy BFP 15th August
VivClicquot BFP 25 August
Loopymumsy BFP 29 August
CaribouMoo BFP 7 September
StarflowerGirl BFP 24 Sep
Appleblossoms BFP 9 Oct
Littlemiss72
Urbanlolly BFP 1 Nov
Inbetweener BFP 10 Nov

sounds like you're defecting to the grads thread nix ' Its also nice to get to know them :) '

Are we not good enough for you any more :(

Just dip in and out as you please, BrownB , tis the only way :) Unless you want to spend your entire life on MN

at owl poking her tongue in Dachs ear!!!

Well when you put it like that yrmotb I have to say I can't blame you for being glad of her arrival. Still bloody disappointed for you though pal.

I am feeling on top of the world this morning; nausea is washing over me every now and then (but have not puked yet), have great porn star boobs in the making, am so knackered I spend half the day yawning, oh boy, this is the best feeling of shite in the world

zam sorry you is not feeling tip top!

Morning all

yrmotb sorry it looks like she's coming but can understand you being relieved - if disappointed!

dachs I'm sorry you're feeling low...I haven't given up on you yet this month!

izzy to retain dignity you have to have it in the first place - after all the stuff you have to go through for IVF dignity is but a mere long distant memory..

and i don't recall rugby tackling anyone - I just had a sulk at our mate nix for running off with the other kids in the playground. and it was a mock sulk too - you know I didn't mean it, right nix?

Although now you mention rugby, I hope the England boys are practising their tackling so the 6 Nations this year isn't quite so dire!

Why does time pass so slowly on the 2ww? It's like you're in a parallel Universe where a day seems like a month... Yesterday it felt like a Thursday, so today just seems like it should be the start of the weekend, and I've still got most of the week left to go! :(

dachs I was only joking too

YRMOTB sos its not a BFP, but I can totally understand the relief of getting AF. I think I will be the same at the end of this 2WW, BFN will be dispointing but AF will reassure me that everything still works. The only nightmare scenario is neither BFP nor AF!

STILL no news from the doctor. The writing on my F5 key is all worn out from constant use.

Dach I am totally with you on the frozen time thing, but at least waiting for docs results has taken my mind of waiting for test day! Oh, and I left my dignity in the cupboard for a while, I will pick it up later when all this TTC/pregnancy malarky is done with

MamaP sick news is good news

ochaye and emoo come out of the bathroom with those wee sticks and tell us how you are getting on! Any news? xxx

BOA thanks for the good lovin'

Izz How's you? xxxx

v difficult to upset dachs :)

(unless you're her boss, who seems to find it quite easy)

now, making dachs paranoid and worried, that's a different story!