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Just MC and ready to try again? Pack your cake wine and tightie whities and join us for more ranting weeping and most of all laughing! All welcome! (Part 9)

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DachshundAntlersRule · 30/11/2010 19:10

Had an mc and need some wine, chocolate and somewhere to moan and cry? This is the place to be! We chat a LOT so it can be hard to keep up, but everyone on here is great and will hold your hand until you get your BFP.

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WhenStNixgotstuckuptheChimney · 03/12/2010 22:22

rudolph the reality has sunk in lovely, the terror is around losing it! One day at a time and mega knicker watch x

Glad to see you got lots of action in whilst you could - good stuff, heres hoping for some christmas bfpsx

Re sledge. we got a plastic one with tow rope, and little brakes DS loves it but he likes to be pulled. Also got those plastic things you sit and hold on to (look like mini plastic shovels!) Had lots of snow here but its been bitterly cold today x

DS has also got spots! hoping its finally pox :)

dAncerandRudolfsMum · 03/12/2010 22:32

Nix I can imagine my DDs will want pulling as well and brakes sound good! Good luck with the pox - I had DD1 and DD2 go one after the other - one was very easy, the other a nightmare - both involved pointless trips to A&E (new to area so no local doc at the time). It looks a lot worse than it actually is!

kat2504 · 04/12/2010 09:29

I lied about all that feeling positive stuff. Fast forward a few hours and I had too much wine and got massively upset. The usual I shouldn't be having this period I should be heavily pregnant. ah well I did atleast try to be positive. The intention was there. Bad hangover is now here too.

IzzyWizzyletsgetChristmassy · 04/12/2010 09:40

((( kat ))) I too am massively up and down this time so I know how you feel (bizarrely, having been ok for the last four cycles). I can see the sense in all the positive stuff and am trying to hang onto it, but then I'm just crying again over the utter crapness of it all.

I honestly think we will get there in the end, but clearly it's not going to be as quick or as easy as we hoped. My short-term strategy is to just get through Christmas and out the other side, then we'll be past the due date and I'm hoping it'll seem easier. Long-term we just need to stay strong and stick together - remember we're all here whenever you need a rant. And we will get there x

loola2shu · 04/12/2010 10:41

(( kat )) & (( Izzy )) Thats the shittiest feeling isn't it! Its bad enough without all the AF hormones on top!!

But Izz you are definately heading in the right direction, a BFP would have been fab but at least you can see you are getting there with your cycles! Its a massive improvement in such a short time! Next month your body will be used to that longer LP and much more prepared for a beanie! Chin up chick x

Rudolf Brilliant that you got nicely timed SWI! FX for 2weeks time!

NIX Hows it going hun? Hope you've got your feet up! BTW been meaning to say careful with the pineapple juice now you've got your BFP, it can cause uterine contractions (only if you were drinking gallons and gallons and gallons but thought I better warn you anyway)xx

I am totally fine about AF this time, just pleased that it eventually turned into something! Hopefully I will have a normal cycle this time round, have totally forgotten to temp though, will have to put in my direct vision when I wake up!

Hi to all, hope you are all well xx

WhenStNixgotstuckuptheChimney · 04/12/2010 11:09

((((((( kat and izzy )))))))

So sorry you are feeling rotten both of you :( stay strong girlies, it could happen next month, some christmas bonking and a few glasses you never know :)

MamaChristmas · 04/12/2010 14:09

I am taking action in an effort to stay uber positive this cycle... just bought me some CB, smiley face, you're about to ov, pee sticks! No point temping because I am an insomniac... tried it and it just doesn't work... unless the point of those charts is to end up looking like a small chile had scrawled all over it!! wish me luck... We are giving it everything... not even drank a drop of the good stuff for 2 weeks, amazingly healthy diet and plenty of swimming... now for a smiley face some time in the next few days and it's SWI central in this household!!

Hope you're all having a lovely weekend Xmas Smile

MamaChristmas · 04/12/2010 14:11

ps sorry for my overly enthusiastic post... just trying to keep my spirits up or I'll crumble into pieces and I don't want to go there if i can help it...big hugs Kat and izzy

WhenStNixgotstuckuptheChimney · 04/12/2010 17:54

Ooh mama dont apologise for being positive Xmas Grin fab on the opks they work a treat for me, although mine didnt smile at me!! Well done on the alcohol abstinence too Xmas Grin Xmas Grin Xmas Grin

Thanks for the warning loola isnt that fresh pineapple? I thought there was a difference! Will google. Lazy day today as DS has full blown chicken pox and is covered from head to foot in spotty blisters! Good for a rest anyway, after the monster week or so i have had....and have still not finished my wallpaper! Hopefully tonights xfactor bore will spur me on to watch the walls dry Xmas Grin

Mummy are you mummybackabroad yet? hopefully you have had a safe journey and are back in the arms of your beloved xx

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WhenStNixgotstuckuptheChimney · 04/12/2010 18:05

pants and arse, it didnt work properly!!

MamaChristmas · 04/12/2010 19:08

ugh, spelling on earlier post was shocking!! It must be the excitement of the thought of peeing on an opk in the morning Xmas Grin
Is it just me or does anyone else want to give Ann Widdecombe a good shoeing?!!! Desperate TV!

IzzyWizzyletsgetChristmassy · 04/12/2010 20:47

No need to apologise mamac positivity is always good! Xmas Smile

Anyway I am determined not to wallow in self-pity any more. So I gave myself an almighty kick up the arse and we got dressed up and took the DCs out for a Chinese. I figure this sort of thing is going to be much harder when - not if - the next baby finally comes along so we should just chill out and enjoy being able to do it now.

mousebacon · 04/12/2010 20:54

Hi ladies, sorry so many of you are having a tough time. I just wanted to share a poem that has helped me through some of the dark, dark weeks in the aftermath of the mc. It was posted on another thread and I printed it out and took it to work in my pocket.

Don?t Give Up

When things go wrong, as they sometimes will,
when the road you're trudging seems all uphill,
when the funds are low and the debts are high,
and you want to smile but you have to sigh,
when care is pressing you down a bit - rest if you must,
but don't you quit.

Life is queer with its twists and turns.
As everyone of us sometimes learns.
And many a fellow turns about
when he might have won had he stuck it out.
Don't give up though the pace seems slow - you may succeed with another blow.

Often the goal is nearer than it seems to a faint and faltering man;
often the struggler has given up when he might have captured the victor's cup;
and he learned too late when the night came down,
how close he was to the golden crown.

Success is failure turned inside out - the silver tint of the clouds of doubt,
and when you never can tell how close you are,
it may be near when it seems afar;
so stick to the fight when you're hardest hit - it's when things seem worst,
you must not quit.

I really, genuinely hope there are brighter times ahead for all of us xxxxx

youremindmeofthebaubles · 04/12/2010 21:38

Tonight I am inordinately excited by my new ff chart with temps and some evidence of ovulation! Simple things, huh? as soon as I work out how to post it, i'll show you! ha.

Got half an eye on Slumdog Millionaire, I love this film. Wish I looked like Frieda Pinto.

Have you been watching x-factor?

mamac Glad you're trying to stay positive, it's difficult. I'm doing the same this month, I probably rattle with all the vit supplements I'm taking now!

izz how are you feeling? Hope the bottle of wine helped yesterday?

nix chickenpox in the day was ok with our ds, it was the nightime. He had socks tied to his hands at night. Spots on his willy and in his bumcrack, the poor love. Loving the bears!

mouse thats a lovely poem.Xmas Smile

tigger15 · 04/12/2010 23:27

Appointment isn't until just before Christmas so I'll fill you in when it happens. Thanks for the messages.

LoveBeingADaddysGirl · 05/12/2010 02:22

Ho ladies just wondered when can I have sex again after mc?

WhenStNixgotstuckuptheChimney · 05/12/2010 08:36

Lovely poem mousey!, Love i would wait until you are physically and mentally ready and that could be any time. Too early and you could end up wiht an infection.

Pox has proven a nightmare for night 1... i have been up with DS since 1.30am and he didnt go back to sleep til 5....and then got up for the day bright as a button at half seven.!! I am making my one coffee a strong one. baublebabe thanks for the tips, have a homeo remedy for the itching for him but ready with a bottle of piriton if i need it! He wont tolerate cream or calamine lotion so am goosed Xmas Hmm

Recorded slumdog, i love it also. Sadly i watched XF although i was reading at the same time... DULL DULL DULL. Matt fab, cheryl too orange, overall boring!! Might watch SM today rather than Polar Express for the 5th time in 3 days Xmas Grin

WhenStNixgotstuckuptheChimney · 05/12/2010 08:37

Grumble grumble grubmble.... better now have coffee Xmas Grin

IzzyWizzyletsgetChristmassy · 05/12/2010 09:46

mouse lovely poem Xmas Smile

tigger good work on sorting out the appointment, fx you manage to get some answers. Please let us know how you get on x

daddysgirl I think it depends on when you feel ready. At least wait until all bleeding stopped, I think I also read somewhere to leave it 2 weeks to minimise risk of infection. Mind you I had an ERPC so not sure if it's the same for natural mc?

baubles good look with the temping, I find it strangely empowering!

nix sorry for lack of sleep, that's the worst!! Neither of mine were particularly ill with the pox, just itchy and marigold cream dealt with that ok - but it sounds like cream's not an option for you? Hope the homeo remedy works...

mummybells where are you now? If you're not back in CR yet, have a safe journey. Has AF arrived yet? Give us a wave when you can and let us know how you're doing x

sunchild and kat hope you're doing ok today? X

WhenStNixgotstuckuptheChimney · 05/12/2010 10:06

ooh marigold cream where do you get that from? he will let me put oil wotnot on him but has freaked thus far at calamine! Hes ok just a bit cranky. poor baby, covered from head to foot in blisters Xmas Sad Xmas Sad Xmas Sad

inbetweener · 05/12/2010 10:25

hello all, just a quick one from me.
I have my scan tommorrow and feel a little optimistic I must admit.
My boobs are agony and feel twice the size and I feel sick EVERY day ALL day. I honestly cant remember feeling this bad before.I dont appear to have the energy for anything. It was DD's birthday party yesterday and was wiped out at the end of it ! Soooooo I am hoping that at tommorrows scan there will be a heartbeat, either that or my body is seriously weird !! Whispers..................I havent had anymore bleeding or brown slime either !

Thanks for asking after me and huuuuuuuuge Xmas Grin and PMA for all of you. I so hope you get your xmas BFP's xxxxxxxxx

snowysunchild · 05/12/2010 11:00

Hey thanks for asking Izzy am ok, feeling much more optimistic today, spent 3 hours shovelling snow in our street with 12 of my neighbours yesterday afternoon, must have burned a lot of calories :) So bit sore today.. Still a bit stir crazy after spending the past week snow bound. But hoping to go into Edinburgh today :) Need Christmas shopping... Oh the joys Xmas Grin

inbetweener HANG IN THERE!!! Fingers toes and everything crossed for tomorrow, sounds great that you still feel so pregnant! (I know its horrible that you feel rough, but you know what I mean??)

Poor stNix's baby :( My two have still avoided the pox so far! and at 5 and 3yrs old Im now dreading it.....

ANYWAY, Happy Sunday to everyone, hope you are having a nice day, whatever yous are up to....

WhenStNixgotstuckuptheChimney · 05/12/2010 11:29

Good luck for tomorrow betweener :) Sunny glad you are a) optimistic and b) canget out of your house! My friend in scotland cleared off 17 inches of snow off his wifes car on friday! Thanks sunnysnowchild was beginning to regret taking DS to his pox party last month, having said that he needs to catch it young. The lack of sleep is fine, its knowing what to do for him that isnt!!

On a plus i have done a few more POAS's and not using the first urine of the day, and the lines are coming up stronger so pls about that... still symptom free though ish so am not wholely convinced yet.

Have a lovely sunday everyone huge waves to everyone xxx

IzzyWizzyletsgetChristmassy · 05/12/2010 12:40

Grrr...just did huge post and lost it!! In summary:

inbetweener good luck for tomorrow - symptoms sound good Xmas Grin

nix you can pick up marigold/calendula cream (same thing) online or at boots. Xmas Grin re darkening lines x

sunchild Xmas Grin you're feeling better about things. Let's hope it's a case of "new year, new baby" for us both x