Just MC and ready to try again? Pack your cake wine and tightie whities and join us for more ranting weeping and most of all laughing! All welcome! (Part 9)

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Had an mc and need some wine, chocolate and somewhere to moan and cry? This is the place to be! We chat a LOT so it can be hard to keep up, but everyone on here is great and will hold your hand until you get your BFP.

Morning/afternoon everyone

I am so sorry to see so many of you lovely ladies having a particularly tough time at the moment (((( hugs )))) mulled wine and mince pies all round. I am only cycle 1 so am a little nervous as it feels like looking into my future

owl such fantastic news! and a good boost of positivity I desperately need at the moment

My OPKs are all blank now, but am still testing for another few days just in case I misread, and am drinking grapefruit and pineapple :) DH leaves tomorrow so it will be game over this month

Anyone else get big boobs and weird stomach mid cycle? I wonder if it cos I might still be WTF

daddysgirl i agree with the other comments, you shouldn't go if you don't feel up to it, I'm sorry you're going through all this

Morning/afternoon everyone

I am so sorry to see so many of you lovely ladies having a particularly tough time at the moment (((( hugs )))) mulled wine and mince pies all round. I am only cycle 1 so am a little nervous as it feels like looking into my future

owl such fantastic news! and a good boost of positivity I desperately need at the moment

My OPKs are all blank now, but am still testing for another few days just in case I misread, and am drinking grapefruit and pineapple :) DH leaves tomorrow so it will be game over this month

Anyone else get big boobs and weird stomach mid cycle? I wonder if it cos I might still be WTF

daddysgirl i agree with the other comments, you shouldn't go if you don't feel up to it, I'm sorry you're going through all this

Sorry for the 2x posts

Hi ladies,
I don't think I get to make a fresh start. Chat last night with DH did not go well, ttc#2 is apparently now off the menu. I am in pieces. I don't think here is the right place to talk through all the issues - can anyone direct me to somewhere a bit more appropriate?
And I think I'd better come off your list, please.
I do wish you all the very best of luck, and may lurk a little to see how you get on.
x

Oh Turkey I'm sorry the chat with DH did not go well. Could it be that the loss is still too new and raw for him and he is finding it more difficullt to deal with than he is able to show? I'm sure a I read a thread on here somewhere right after my MC about DHs initially being very reluctant to try again because of the pain and upset for them and their DWs but then changing their minds after a while. I don't want to create false hope as I obviously don't know what was said between you last night but maybe all is not lost?

Feel free to keep posting/lurking on here as long as you like. We will always do our best to support you. I don't know of any other established threads that might help, someone else might be along shortly with an idea, but maybe you could start one on the conception or MC boards - I'm certain there will be others in the same situation xxx

Bird (Emoo/Turkey), so sorry babe! Give it time and the break may take the pressure of you both to think, he may have a change of heart... not sure where to direct you I'm sure someone else will have some helpful advice! Big hugs xxx

Im so sorry emoo/turky Im so so sorry. Please take a step back and ease of a bit. My DH was exactly the same after we MC, wouldnt even contemplate TTC another. When he has time to grieve, get head round it im sure he will participate. so sorry lovely. we are here as and when you need us.

Sorry been awol lovelies, had to work again this morning (extra pennies for christmas, urm actially no, current project!! but extra days does equal extra pennies as i am PT whoop!)

Took DS sledging this aft, it was fab, just in a field but so so so very bitterly cold! now wrapped up in the house wiht hot chocolate :) watching BEDKNOBS AND BROOMSTICKS!

sunnysnowchildglad you feel a little more pos today, CD1 is always hideous i find. Glad izz can help with LP. lots of posters on here saying they increase their lp 1 day per cycle wiht acup.

emoo when he is ready talk to him about a sibling for dc, its certainly helped mine lovely xxx thinking of you xx

hello again! Orange i got really wierd odd symptoms in the wtf!! anything is possible

well i am feeling ok, slept like a log last night! Work is crazy at the min but hoping it will ease off come jan! I am starting to get a lot of CM (yuk) and boobs changed but thats it. I have poas today and the line is def darker on the cheapies. Everytime i think about it/scan/ though i break out in a cold sweat of terror so i am in denial !!!

RTD came for me too today so back to the bottom of the list. Knew it was coming for the last few days, so disappointed but glad not to have been kept waiting too long and pleased that it is exactly 14 days after first peak day on CBFM. Couldn't have tried much harder this month but my next testing day is New Year's Eve, hope that will be luckier. Being philosophical about it, am only 4 months post MC, average time to conceieve is six months isn't it? So any time in the next two months will still be on the luckier than average side. Off to drink wine with friends tonight :)

THURSDAY'S LIST

Inbetweener TTC#3 Cycle 3 UCL 29 CD35 BFP!!
Tunnocksteacake TTC #2, cycle 1, UCL28 CD41
PrettyQuichey TTC#1,(round 7)Cycle 6 UCL 28-30 CD 40
Getawiggleon TTC#2, cycle 1, UCL26, CD40
Loola2shu TTC#2, Cycle 2, UCL40 CD40
Nickstermum TTC#2 cycle 2 post MC UCL 30-40 BFP!!!
GetDownYouWillFall TTC#2 Cycle 1 (post MC#1) UCL 27 - 44 CD35
Tigger15 TTC#2 cycle 21 UCL24-9 CD8
RunForTheHills TTC#1, cycle 2 UCL28 CD31
Wombat33 TTC#1 Cycle 2 (post MC) UCL 31 CD29
Sunchild77 TTC#3 cycle 6, UCL 24-28, CD22
youremindmeofthebabe TTC#2, Cycle 4 UCL33 CD20
LadyBee TTC#2, cycle 4 (round 3) UCL27 CD20
HongKongBaby#2, cycle 4 (post mc1), UCL 38, CD18
KnitterNotTwitter TTC#2, (round 3) cycle 4 UCL 25-30 CD17
Freezingmyarseoff TTC#2 cycle 6 UCL28 CD16
Orangetoenails TTC#1, cycle 1 (MC#2), UCL 35, CD16
Velvetcu TTC #1 Cycle 3 UCL 35, CD16
Pinkfondantfancy TTC#1, cycle 4, UCL 28 or 35 CD14
AandRmum TTC3 cycle 2 UCL29 CD15
HidingInTheBackRow TTC1, cycle 1, UCL 26, CD11
MamaPower TTC#1, cycle 4 (post MC#2) UCL 25- 27 CD9
Choccybick TTC#1 (post mc1) cycle 5 UCL 27 CD6
DachshundsRule TTC#1 cycle 4 UCL28 CD4
IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy TTC#3 cycle 5 UCL26-30 CD1
kat2504 TTC#1 cycle 3 UCL 30, CD1

WTTC
Hairytriangle
Sarahmia TTC#2, MC2
MummyAbroad TTC #2,(MMC#1 31 Mar, ERPC 7 Jul), Ashermans Op 16 Nov
Mousebacon TTC#2 MC#1 4th Oct WTF cycle BFP!!!
Barrenbrook TTC#1, MC#4 Oct 2010
Lemonsherbet TTC #1, ERPC 15 Oct 2010, WTF cycle
Batteryhen MC conf Oct 2010
Digitalgirl TTC#2, MC#3 Oct 2010
Nurse47 TTC#2, UCL28, WTF cycle ERPC 9 Nov
Emoo TTC#2, MC#1 18 Nov 2010, WTF cycle

MIA
Jamface TTC#2 post MC#2), UCL 27
Shitforbrains
Sillyness TTC#1 post MC1 WTF cycle
Lottiecrump UCL 27/30
Cheepz TTC#2 (round 4) UCL30
BackOnceAgain TTC#3, MC 17th Aug

RECENT GRADUATES
BUnderthebonnet BFP 20 June
Muser BFP 22 June
northerngoldilocks - BFP 12 July
Magic8ballhastheanswers BFP 14 July
Hopefully BFP 22 July
IvySedai BFP 1 August
PenguinsMummy BFP 15th August
VivClicquot BFP 25 August
Loopymumsy BFP 29 August
CaribouMoo BFP 7 September
StarflowerGirl BFP ~24 Sep
Appleblossoms BFP 9 Oc
Littlemiss72
Urbanlolly BFP 1 Nov

Wow Kat. I'm so impressed with your positivity!!

Thanks! Last month I had a major strop/cry and don't really want to be doing that every four weeks. Am trying to take the pressure off a bit and avoid thinking about conception all day every day for the time being.

I need a little bit (a bucket load!!) of whatever you're doing/taking to manage not to obsess

Am still a bit obsessive but am trying to improve. I have the CBFM so that will take some of the guesswork out and I can feel that I'm doing the best I can. I have NOT ordered any more hpt's off the internet. I have just one first response at home and have decided I will use it either on NYE or 12 days after ovulation, whichever is sooner. All that testing was doing my head in, and taking more tests did not magically get me diffed.

kat sorry she got you, full points for positivity though . I think I've had my full-on strop this month but feel better now I'm on cd2 and just starting to accept it all. Struggled a bit today when a newborn sized reusable nappy I'd sent off for out of the bounty pack after my 13 week scan turned up (I thought I'd cancelled everything - apparently not!). Dh found my crying over this teeny little nappy but we had a good chat and he pointed out that it took us 8-9 months each time to conceive ds and dd and we shouldnt really expect it to ve miraculously quick this time. He also said we shouldn't have this arbitrary deadline of a year after the mc, but just keep going as long as we both want to. So I think, especially now I've missed the pg-before-due date thing, it feels like the pressure's off a bit which is definitely a good thing. I do believe it will happen; it's just going to take time, but actually that's normal.

So I've been to the gym for a good run to blow away the cobwebs and going to settle down with dh and a nice bottle of wine tonight. the due date will be difficult but as mummybells said at least I can deal with that before focusing on the (fx) next baby. Thanks all for being so lovely yesterday - you're brilliant x

tigger sorry about af and no ov - hope the appt goes well and you get some answers x

emoo don't give up - it's still very early days and your dh probably needs a chance to get his head around everything. Hope you manage to work it out x

anyway just reporting list as I and some others had lost a day - cd1 was horrible this month and I don't want to go back there

FRIDAY'S LIST

Inbetweener TTC#3 Cycle 3 UCL 29 CD35 BFP!!
Tunnocksteacake TTC #2, cycle 1, UCL28 CD42
PrettyQuichey TTC#1,(round 7)Cycle 6 UCL 28-30 CD 41
Getawiggleon TTC#2, cycle 1, UCL26, CD41
Loola2shu TTC#2, Cycle 2, UCL40 CD41
Nickstermum TTC#2 cycle 2 post MC UCL 30-40 BFP!!!
GetDownYouWillFall TTC#2 Cycle 1 (post MC#1) UCL 27 - 44 CD36
RunForTheHills TTC#1, cycle 2 UCL28 CD32
Wombat33 TTC#1 Cycle 2 (post MC) UCL 31 CD30
Sunchild77 TTC#3 cycle 6, UCL 24-28, CD23
youremindmeofthebabe TTC#2, Cycle 4 UCL33 CD21
LadyBee TTC#2, cycle 4 (round 3) UCL27 CD21
HongKongBaby#2, cycle 4 (post mc1), UCL 38, CD19
KnitterNotTwitter TTC#2, (round 3) cycle 4 UCL 25-30 CD18
Freezingmyarseoff TTC#2 cycle 6 UCL28 CD17
Orangetoenails TTC#1, cycle 1 (MC#2), UCL 35, CD17
Velvetcu TTC #1 Cycle 3 UCL 35, CD17
Pinkfondantfancy TTC#1, cycle 4, UCL 28 or 35 CD15
AandRmum TTC3 cycle 2 UCL29 CD16
HidingInTheBackRow TTC1, cycle 1, UCL 26, CD12
MamaPower TTC#1, cycle 4 (post MC#2) UCL 25- 27 CD10
Tigger15 TTC#2 cycle 21 UCL24-9 CD9
Choccybick TTC#1 (post mc1) cycle 5 UCL 27 CD7
DachshundsRule TTC#1 cycle 4 UCL28 CD5
IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy TTC#3 cycle 5 UCL26-30 CD2
kat2504 TTC#1 cycle 3 UCL 30, CD1

WTTC
Hairytriangle
Sarahmia TTC#2, MC2
MummyAbroad TTC #2,(MMC#1 31 Mar, ERPC 7 Jul), Ashermans Op 16 Nov
Mousebacon TTC#2 MC#1 4th Oct WTF cycle BFP!!!
Barrenbrook TTC#1, MC#4 Oct 2010
Lemonsherbet TTC #1, ERPC 15 Oct 2010, WTF cycle
Batteryhen MC conf Oct 2010
Digitalgirl TTC#2, MC#3 Oct 2010
Nurse47 TTC#2, UCL28, WTF cycle ERPC 9 Nov
Emoo TTC#2, MC#1 18 Nov 2010, WTF cycle

MIA
Jamface TTC#2 post MC#2), UCL 27
Shitforbrains
Sillyness TTC#1 post MC1 WTF cycle
Lottiecrump UCL 27/30
Cheepz TTC#2 (round 4) UCL30
BackOnceAgain TTC#3, MC 17th Aug

RECENT GRADUATES
BUnderthebonnet BFP 20 June
Muser BFP 22 June
northerngoldilocks - BFP 12 July
Magic8ballhastheanswers BFP 14 July
Hopefully BFP 22 July
IvySedai BFP 1 August
PenguinsMummy BFP 15th August
VivClicquot BFP 25 August
Loopymumsy BFP 29 August
CaribouMoo BFP 7 September
StarflowerGirl BFP ~24 Sep
Appleblossoms BFP 9 Oc
Littlemiss72
Urbanlolly BFP 1 Nov

Just editing me down the list a bit, feeling much better this afternoon. Had DH home coz of snow/cold mucking up the trains, so we are just back from a 2 hour trek in the snow. It has cleared my cobwebs so to speak..

Izzy aww babe thats hard, I still get bloody stuff from all the the things I signed up for. Despite emailing them etc. Makes me sad each time.

Hang in there girls. Its bloody hard trying to be positive and we are all entitled to our down day... Much love to you all.

FRIDAY'S LIST

Inbetweener TTC#3 Cycle 3 UCL 29 CD35 BFP!!
Tunnocksteacake TTC #2, cycle 1, UCL28 CD42
PrettyQuichey TTC#1,(round 7)Cycle 6 UCL 28-30 CD 41
Getawiggleon TTC#2, cycle 1, UCL26, CD41
Loola2shu TTC#2, Cycle 2, UCL40 CD41
Nickstermum TTC#2 cycle 2 post MC UCL 30-40 BFP!!!
GetDownYouWillFall TTC#2 Cycle 1 (post MC#1) UCL 27 - 44 CD36
RunForTheHills TTC#1, cycle 2 UCL28 CD32
Wombat33 TTC#1 Cycle 2 (post MC) UCL 31 CD30

youremindmeofthebabe TTC#2, Cycle 4 UCL33 CD21
LadyBee TTC#2, cycle 4 (round 3) UCL27 CD21
HongKongBaby#2, cycle 4 (post mc1), UCL 38, CD19
KnitterNotTwitter TTC#2, (round 3) cycle 4 UCL 25-30 CD18
Freezingmyarseoff TTC#2 cycle 6 UCL28 CD17
Orangetoenails TTC#1, cycle 1 (MC#2), UCL 35, CD17
Velvetcu TTC #1 Cycle 3 UCL 35, CD17
Pinkfondantfancy TTC#1, cycle 4, UCL 28 or 35 CD15
AandRmum TTC3 cycle 2 UCL29 CD16
HidingInTheBackRow TTC1, cycle 1, UCL 26, CD12
MamaPower TTC#1, cycle 4 (post MC#2) UCL 25- 27 CD10
Tigger15 TTC#2 cycle 21 UCL24-9 CD9
Choccybick TTC#1 (post mc1) cycle 5 UCL 27 CD7
DachshundsRule TTC#1 cycle 4 UCL28 CD5
IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy TTC#3 cycle 5 UCL26-30 CD2
Sunchild77 TTC#3 cycle 7, UCL 22-28, CD2
kat2504 TTC#1 cycle 3 UCL 30, CD1

WTTC
Hairytriangle
Sarahmia TTC#2, MC2
MummyAbroad TTC #2,(MMC#1 31 Mar, ERPC 7 Jul), Ashermans Op 16 Nov
Mousebacon TTC#2 MC#1 4th Oct WTF cycle BFP!!!
Barrenbrook TTC#1, MC#4 Oct 2010
Lemonsherbet TTC #1, ERPC 15 Oct 2010, WTF cycle
Batteryhen MC conf Oct 2010
Digitalgirl TTC#2, MC#3 Oct 2010
Nurse47 TTC#2, UCL28, WTF cycle ERPC 9 Nov
Emoo TTC#2, MC#1 18 Nov 2010, WTF cycle

MIA
Jamface TTC#2 post MC#2), UCL 27
Shitforbrains
Sillyness TTC#1 post MC1 WTF cycle
Lottiecrump UCL 27/30
Cheepz TTC#2 (round 4) UCL30
BackOnceAgain TTC#3, MC 17th Aug

RECENT GRADUATES
BUnderthebonnet BFP 20 June
Muser BFP 22 June
northerngoldilocks - BFP 12 July
Magic8ballhastheanswers BFP 14 July
Hopefully BFP 22 July
IvySedai BFP 1 August
PenguinsMummy BFP 15th August
VivClicquot BFP 25 August
Loopymumsy BFP 29 August
CaribouMoo BFP 7 September
StarflowerGirl BFP ~24 Sep
Appleblossoms BFP 9 Oc
Littlemiss72
Urbanlolly BFP 1 Nov

Ladies I need some serious fish slapping! I have all the symptoms of impending AF inc temps plummeting this morning to just above the coverline and 3 BFNs and I'm still clinging to hope. I know I'm setting myself up to feel crushed tomorrow but I can't seem to help it. My boobs are sooo sore and I've got weird creamy/ewcm

wombat I'm afraid I don't have the heart to fish slap you because (a) I was just the same this month and (b) i would love to see you get a bfp and don't want you to give up

I hope you get an answer one way or another tomorrow though! X

wombat Good luck tomorrow - it ain't over until AF shows up. Like the new name?

Thanks Izz - I'm not giving up yet though I suspect I'm going to be paying a few more visits to that vat of wine/despair before my journey concludes!

LOVE IT DACHS!!!

I dont know what's going on this month! My temps still havent risen but then they didnt exactly go back down to last months coverline either! Experienced tempers please help! Are the temps for each cycle independent of each other or should there be a pattern?

Wombat considered yourself haddocked :)

Velvet can you post your chart lovely?

Hi All,

Thats me back down to the bottom of the list, AF has finally arrived after 28 days!! [hmmm] of spotting!!! back on my metformin from today and also took delivery of a BBT, so will be looking to you lovlies for charting advice!

Really sorry to all of you feeling down, hope we've all got something to smile about soon!

FRIDAY'S LIST

Inbetweener TTC#3 Cycle 3 UCL 29 CD35 BFP!!
Tunnocksteacake TTC #2, cycle 1, UCL28 CD42
PrettyQuichey TTC#1,(round 7)Cycle 6 UCL 28-30 CD 41
Getawiggleon TTC#2, cycle 1, UCL26, CD41
Nickstermum TTC#2 cycle 2 post MC UCL 30-40 BFP!!!
GetDownYouWillFall TTC#2 Cycle 1 (post MC#1) UCL 27 - 44 CD36
RunForTheHills TTC#1, cycle 2 UCL28 CD32
Wombat33 TTC#1 Cycle 2 (post MC) UCL 31 CD30

youremindmeofthebabe TTC#2, Cycle 4 UCL33 CD21
LadyBee TTC#2, cycle 4 (round 3) UCL27 CD21
HongKongBaby#2, cycle 4 (post mc1), UCL 38, CD19
KnitterNotTwitter TTC#2, (round 3) cycle 4 UCL 25-30 CD18
Freezingmyarseoff TTC#2 cycle 6 UCL28 CD17
Orangetoenails TTC#1, cycle 1 (MC#2), UCL 35, CD17
Velvetcu TTC #1 Cycle 3 UCL 35, CD17
Pinkfondantfancy TTC#1, cycle 4, UCL 28 or 35 CD15
AandRmum TTC3 cycle 2 UCL29 CD16
HidingInTheBackRow TTC1, cycle 1, UCL 26, CD12
MamaPower TTC#1, cycle 4 (post MC#2) UCL 25- 27 CD10
Tigger15 TTC#2 cycle 21 UCL24-9 CD9
Choccybick TTC#1 (post mc1) cycle 5 UCL 27 CD7
DachshundsRule TTC#1 cycle 4 UCL28 CD5
IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy TTC#3 cycle 5 UCL26-30 CD2
Sunchild77 TTC#3 cycle 7, UCL 22-28, CD2
kat2504 TTC#1 cycle 3 UCL 30, CD1
Loola2shu TTC#3 Cycle 3 UCL 40, CD1

WTTC
Hairytriangle
Sarahmia TTC#2, MC2
MummyAbroad TTC #2,(MMC#1 31 Mar, ERPC 7 Jul), Ashermans Op 16 Nov
Mousebacon TTC#2 MC#1 4th Oct WTF cycle BFP!!!
Barrenbrook TTC#1, MC#4 Oct 2010
Lemonsherbet TTC #1, ERPC 15 Oct 2010, WTF cycle
Batteryhen MC conf Oct 2010
Digitalgirl TTC#2, MC#3 Oct 2010
Nurse47 TTC#2, UCL28, WTF cycle ERPC 9 Nov
Emoo TTC#2, MC#1 18 Nov 2010, WTF cycle

MIA
Jamface TTC#2 post MC#2), UCL 27
Shitforbrains
Sillyness TTC#1 post MC1 WTF cycle
Lottiecrump UCL 27/30
Cheepz TTC#2 (round 4) UCL30
BackOnceAgain TTC#3, MC 17th Aug

RECENT GRADUATES
BUnderthebonnet BFP 20 June
Muser BFP 22 June
northerngoldilocks - BFP 12 July
Magic8ballhastheanswers BFP 14 July
Hopefully BFP 22 July
IvySedai BFP 1 August
PenguinsMummy BFP 15th August
VivClicquot BFP 25 August
Loopymumsy BFP 29 August
CaribouMoo BFP 7 September
StarflowerGirl BFP ~24 Sep
Appleblossoms BFP 9 Oc
Littlemiss72
Urbanlolly BFP 1 Nov

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here it is nix - just the cheapo package for me, im no VIP.

My boobs are AF hurty but it cant be coming yet surely??

Me either velvet! are you peesticking? i had a massive dip on the day before ov last cycle, could you be OV..? you have longish cycles dont you? maybe your body is trying to ov but something is delaying it, i dont know, wait for someone more experienced to come along x

orange I have sore boobs and cramps at the moment and am pretty sure I ov'd today - also BD'd so I can head into the 2ww feeling we have done what we can and the rest is in the many hands of Ganesh (no particular religious leaning on this one - I just love the idea of a many handed elephant!!!) - oh and the lining enhancing pineapple juice.

Emoo I agree with others on here in saying hang in there. Time has a strange way of changing emotions. Just looking back on these threads show some fairly major changes of heart. I remember that thread wombat It petered out but was an interesting read about how various DH/DPs had coped with the mc. No decision is permanent. Please don't feel you have to go elsewhere - this is very much part of coping with mc.

Kat I am with you on your approach. I have decided that I have to stop thinking I am owed a BFP just because I had one. I have the standard 6 months in my head. I like your idea of anything earlier being a bonus (not sure how long this mindset will last!)

Loola hopefully this cycle will form a pretty triphasic chart! What a nightmare to spot for so long. I hate it when unexplainable things happen.

Velvet it might be ov related sore boobs?

Nix your day sounds lovely - glad you are getting some sleep. I want to go sledging. We only have a pathetic amount of snow here and DH and I are at odds on what type of sled to get! He wants a wooden Davos. I think it is too heavy for me to lug up hills and too expensive and just want a cheapo plastic one - any thoughts? I am sure the reality of your bfp will sink in soon!

Cool name Dachs

DD1 had her nativity play today and looked so amazingly sweet in her angel outfit. She actually sang this time. I was so proud of her. There were a heap of babies and pregnant woman there but I was surprisingly fine about it all - it just reminded me how much I love babiesssss.