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Feisty, Fabulous Forty somethings

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galwaygal · 16/11/2010 11:10

This is a continuation of the "More ongoing and continuing conceptions and follicling ahead of Feisty, Fabulous Forty somethings"

I thought I would keep the title short as there are so many long ones out there.

I thought I would start the new thread so that you don't forget me Grin

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Italiangreyhound · 27/12/2010 15:45

Louise rant and rave as much as you want. If you find it helpful then do just that. If at times you feel you want to look at things differently, then do. Whatever helps you. By that I mean if you feel better one day, don't feel guilty for feeling better, you are not being disloyal to Georgie to feel better. She would want you to.

nicole good to see you again. May the next year be one full of new adventure for you.

TheFairyOnTheTree As ever wishing you all the very best, I am sure this year will be bitter-sweet, there will be memories, good things, bad things, new things. Whatever happens may your darling hubby be there supporting you, may family and friends (real friends) be of good use and may this new baby be a whole new chapter. He or she will not blot out the pain of the past nor can they replace your little sweetheart, but may they be a new sweetheart, in a whole new way, and we will be here to hear and to cheer you on.

Spotty and Hippy you must tell me the difference between Baggy pants and Slanket in terms of phase?

muchlove Thinking of you, how are you doing?

Octaviajolls all the best to you, hope 2011 will be a better year for you.

40someMum I am getting confused are you also frustrated (or are you two different people, apologies. All the best for 2011 to you and to you all.

Diege Hope this coming year will be better and you will get your little one and that we all will.

tel1 Congratulations, on your bfp, had not quite twigged before!

Gum Hope Christmas has gone well, not been too hot for you!

Hairy Hope 2011 will be a much better year for you.

BB How is it going?

May all go well with you guys, Alba, Lunaticfringe, Lia66 and Spiral queen.

Love to TFLS, ILGH and Kiwikat so glad this year brought your new little ones.

I swing between feeling upset or unhappy about things and feeling good. I got a couple of Chrimbo cards saying casually that number 2 or 3 was on the way. Just as I was upset by friends who singled me out for a special 'telling' of their number 3 news in person or by phone - so I am equally upset by getting the casual news in a card. I am impossible to please! Luckily for me the getting upset took a few mins. A moan at my hubby, who has no idea what I mean, and an email to my darling sis, who does!

Actually, I do realise how very lucky I am. I have got my little one and I have a kind, caring hubby and most of the things I want in life. My Christian faith is a wonderful help to me most of the time but at times I still feel very saddened by life (not mine specifically just the sadness in the world and all the injustice). I have recently heard about children whose lives are so terrible and horrific I just feel so sad and it makes me want things to change. So part of my life is about working for human rights for all, and the basic necessities for all. Also, as a Christian I want everyone to come to know Jesus. So part of my life is about mission. As we approach new year I want to have lots of positive and happy and life affirming goals. I also want to get fit. I now have to stop talking at home about weight and weight loss as DD (6) has made some unfortunate comments about weight (saying she looks 'big' in her coat or her friend looks 'slim' in her leotard!) So I am just talking now about getting fit and healthy and exercise! So I have all my new year's resolutions to lose a stone as quickly and safely as I can and to enjoy my life and make the most of it! I feel good about the whole baby thing. I really, really hope we get a donor soon because if it works I want the baby to be born before I am 47 and if we don?t I want to get onto the adoption list before Christmas next year. So if you hear of anyone who wants to be a donor!!!!! No, don't worry, we will get someone through the clinic. Anyway, I feel pretty positive about the whole baby thing.

My daughter has named the hamster Flac. I am hoping it means something wonderful in an exotic language.

Happy New year, one and all.

Italiangreyhound · 27/12/2010 15:49

TheFairyOnTheTree don't worry about DH being 50 when new baby is born, it is not such a big deal. I will be 46 or 47 if I get another and I think it is easier for the dad!

FluffytheFairy · 27/12/2010 16:55

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Italiangreyhound · 27/12/2010 17:30

FluffytheFairy yes, agree a number that's all.

glad all ok. Sorry Chrimbo was harder than expected.

hugs to you.

nicole333 · 27/12/2010 19:57

Blimey Louise don't be apologising. You need an outlet for those times when it feels like life couldn't get any more shit.

Italian I too have been looking at all the positive things in my life. My husband is the normal rational one of us and I think I stopped being so depressed when he said that if it wasn't possible, then he would be open to considering the alternatives.

I will work all the hours under the sun and go for surrogacy if it means having a family. All I know is that I can't imagine life without one.

My new state of mind from now on is one of hope and determination.

Good luck in 2011, all of you. Smile

BeattieBow · 27/12/2010 20:00

I wish MNHQ would tell us their reasoning for deleting/blocking fairy/tank. It is v confusing to me. Seems awfully labour intensive moderating this thread.

Italiangreyhound · 27/12/2010 21:53

Louise - yes, Nicole is right to say, you should not apologise for being down. It is totally normal. I think up and down is normal. Like Fluffytankfairy might agree, when bad things happen then this kind of reaction is completely normal. I just hope when you feel OK (whenever that is for whatever days you feel better) then just enjoy the nice feelings. If you enjoy something nice then enjoy it, but if you feel like crapola, then feel free to tell us. We can take it.

Yes, bit of a pain that Fluffytankfairy got deleted, she was only saying about the age of her DH. I am feeling old! But she reminds me that age is just a number.I am 46 next birthday, not looking forward to it but I am already spending the money now! Apprently the bloomin' hamster cage is costing almost 50 quid so it is my birthday gift in advance and my daughter gets to choose a daft name for it!

Love to all

FrustratedHippy · 27/12/2010 22:16

Beattie - as a long time mn etter i can only think they know what they are doing

In the 6 years i have been on mn i have only known two 'banned' members and many years ago i was a fairly intensive user

Posters are only banned when they cause upset or offense and generally only when this is repeated....

I HAVE therefore to fully respect their wishes in this case as I am also aware that they have the full picture- and we- only half.

The internet is only 'cyber' world but at MN towers they see things more clearly than we do from behind a screen

They really do 'know best' . I will remove myself from this thread if need be....just trying to be honest.

Italiangreyhound · 27/12/2010 22:47

I saw the post that was just removed and it was not at all offensive.

I wish MN headquarters would tell us why they remove the posts and block the poster.

I am sure they do have a tough job and it is not easy. It doesn't necessarily mean they don't make mistakes. That sounds a bit confusing, I mean - just because they have done things right in the past does not mean they don't get things wrong at times too. I know the cyber world is quite hard to know! I found myself doing a quiz that asked if pictures were real or fake, I was going along doing it and then suddenly thought - how do I know if what they are saying is true! So the cyber world is confusing, but I read the post that was just deleted and I don't think it was at all offensive.

Yes BB agree it must be labour intensive.

Off to finish watching Porridge!

FrustratedHippy · 27/12/2010 22:51

Italian i think this poster is a long standing MNer banned many many times

louisesh · 27/12/2010 23:11

Oh more dramas i ve missed!!!!

Italiangreyhound · 27/12/2010 23:20

I know the story. I read it all at the time. I don't want to debate it all because no one can really prove anything either way but I just wanted to say as someone who had just read that particular post I know it was not offensive in any way. I read the posters blog regularly and I am very happy to read her comments here. She has never said anything to offend me.

Anyway, I don't want to get into it all, because - as I say - no one can really prove anything either way.

I am just happy we are here to support each other and I wanted to respond in a supportive way.

Now back to Burn Notice, any other Burn Notice fans out there? I asked before and no one said yes but it is so fab, I can't believe no one else is watching it! Wink

RuDiegetheRedNoseReindiege · 28/12/2010 10:19

Morning! Never hard of Burn Notice Italian, could you enlighten us? Grin Meant to say too that I bought myself a hamster as an adult (had always wanted one)and he lived until 4 and a half years of age - the local vet had never seen one live so long and took photos etc for a textbook he was writing as he'd never seen a true 'geriatric' hamster before..all scrauny (sp?) neck and bald patches, but he had a good life..
Frustrated, the Fluffy saga is well known to us all, and I think on balance we are happy that the important bits are true and MNHQ have since admitted that they aren't quite as adament as they once were that things were not as they should be, hence our (the thread's) confusion about fluffy's continued 'banning'
Cd 14 today, (I put myself a day ahead yesterday!) and temp rise this morning, which means my day off yesterday swi-wise was a bit mis-timed. Having said that, did swi on the peak day, plus the one before, so have some chance I suppose.
Heading out to town today with dds - starting to go a bit stir crazy with this lot (the bickering has well and truly started).
Love to all x

Italiangreyhound · 28/12/2010 13:20

Diege Thanks for asking about Burn Notice, if you look here you can read all about it. Sadly it is not currently available on demand, the blurb says "When spies get fired, they don?t get a letter from human resources; they get burned. While Michael holes up in Miami, trying to get to the bottom of his situation, he uses his special training to help people in trouble who, for various reasons, can?t go to the police." The hero is a hunk (giving me palpitations just thinking of him!) and he helps people, so he is nice! It's full of useful information like how to break into a drug dealer's house when he is hassling you to move on, and how to render him immobile, how to make icing sugar look like a b*mb, etc etc. It is like McGeiver for those of us old enough to remember it.

Love and waves to all.

OFF to collect FLAC (my daughter has graciously agreed to pay for half the ball he runs around in, I am getting the cage and the donation is coming out of next month's food budget, don?t worry we won't eat him! he will probably eat better than us next month!).

Still no period for me, a mammoth 5 months!

Italiangreyhound · 28/12/2010 17:44

Got the hamster, DD came up with another name, Johnson.

He is so cute.

Curlylox · 28/12/2010 18:05

Ah Italian you'll have to put a picture of Johnson on your profile. We got a puppy in July and my DD named her Lucy (thankfully as was expecting her to come up with Beyonce or Lady Gaga to be honest). Would have preferred a cat but unfortunately am allergic.

hippychick66 · 28/12/2010 18:08

Hello everyone. Sorry I was missing in action - had a lovely xmas and saw both sides of the family this year which is not usual. One side of the family have 3 dogs and hence we don't normally see them due to DH's allergy - but we all met up elsewhere this year so that was nice.

My DS1 said it was his best xmas ever Grin

I had a big shock when i weighed myself after xmas and am determined to lose some weight in the new year - unfortunately due to my age I can't put TTC on hold until I'm thinner so will just have to keep trying to get preggers and lose weight at the same time.

I was all determined that I was only gonna think about losing weight and moving to the IOW from now on and was not gonna concentrate so much on baby making. BUT I pee'd on an opk stick today and got a Smile - (ran out of cheepies and bought the dead expensive ones that smile at you). As soon as I got the smiley face I was stupidly all excited about getting another egg - so much for not thinking about it!!

Anyway, there are troops in place from yesterday (no SWI whilst staying at relativies) and i plan to add some more troops asap. So I will move myself to the vest and shorts phase.

Can't name check everyone but will simply say italian enjoy your new pet - i hope your daughter is very happy.

louise sorry you were feeling shit. You did make me laugh by saying you had your hair cut and even that was a tit (I hope you are feeling better now, sweetie).
I am convinced that you will get preggers agian soon but please don't put too much hope into getting preggers the same month as georgie and your due date being her birthday etc. I know it's what you really want and what people have told you often happens but I'd hate you to put all your eggs in that basket - so to speak. You are a very fertile young woman and you'll defo get another go.

I dont want to get into a discussion about tank/fluffy/fairy etc etc - but i would just like to say that she has NEVER said anything ofensive to any of us on here and nor would she. italian saw the post that was deleted and it was an innocent comment about age. I don't see anything wrong with MNHQ
having a look and yes they are free to delete what they like but that seems daft to me.

fluffy I hope you got through xmas as best as you could and await the news of your scan Smile.

ps. italian baggy pants stage means your on your period and slanket means you've finished shagging - ok?? Do keep up! Grin

hippychick66 · 28/12/2010 18:10

Baggy pants:
Jolls age 42 - cd 1 - ttc#2 for 18 months, 3 MMC
Spottysox age 43 - cd 6
Nicole age 40 - cd 3

Vest and shorts phase:
Curlylox age43 - cd 14 ? 1 m/c
Diege age 40 - cd 14
Hippy age 44 - cd 10

Slanket phase:
muchlove age 43 - cd 21
Louisesh age 40 - cd 23 - ttc#1 1 mmc ,2 mcs and Georgie (stillborn 10/10/10 at 41 weeks,2days)
40someMum age 43 - cd 42? (post m/c)
Diege age 40 - cd 45? (post m/c)
Porth age 43 - TTC2 cd 58 ? where is af hiding???

On the bench
tel1 age - 41 BFP 29/11
Gum age 44 - 9 weeks (ttc for 6 months)
Tank age 40 - 12 weeks plus 4

Waiting or MIA:
italiangreyhound - age 45 - cd? waiting .....
Rowing - age? cd?
10000ff - age? cd?
HairyTriangle - age 42 (recent MMC)
BB - age 40 ? cheerleading squad
Desty ? age 43 ? ttc#3
mmetracyt ? age 40 (lost 1st to T13 last year)
Liska age 43 ? ttc#2

Up-duffed!:
Alba age 42 baby boy ? 37 weeks pg
Spiral queen
Lunaticfringe baby boy ? 27 weeks pg
Lia66 age 44 baby girl - 26 weeks pg

Holding babe in arms!
TFLS age 41 baby boy Charlie 30/9/10
ILGH age 40 baby girl Genevieve 4/10/10
Kiwikat age 44 baby girl Georgia 5/11/10

hippychick66 · 28/12/2010 18:13

Welcome to the thread Johnson Grin!

Italiangreyhound · 28/12/2010 21:42

Will try to keep up Hippy.

How does anyone remember to take tablets daily. I was only on the pill for a year and I sometimes forgot to take it! I am now on Thyroid tablets, today is day two and I finally took my one (morning) pill at about 6.00 PM!! How do you remember?

LunaticFringe · 28/12/2010 22:02

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gumblossom · 28/12/2010 22:13

Morning all.

I'm having a bit of a rough time. Have had some spotting for a couple of days now, which has me panicing. Also my sickness doesn't seem as bad. I'm really scared I'm going to miscarry. I know some spotting and bleeding can mean nothing in the first trimester, but it has me worried. I'm going to try to get into my docs today and ask for a scan. If we can see what's going on in there it will either reassure me or prepare me for the worst.

I really don't want to lose the bub. I think this is my last chance and just want everything to be okay.

God, this is nerve-wracking!

OctaviaOstrichJollster · 28/12/2010 22:21

Just seen your msg Gum, as was about to switch off for bed. I know how worrying it is, and wouldn't patronise you by saying don't fret: BUT after seeing a HB risks of MC are much lower as you know. LOTS of women have spotting and lose symptoms and all is fine. Am keeping all crossed that this is the case for you.

Hi Lunatic - so happy things are rosy in your world, though of course much to monitor, and I know nowt is straightforward in the land of the Fringe - keep us posted x

Hi to all - must go, shattered x

LunaticFringe · 28/12/2010 22:26

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thefatladyscreams · 28/12/2010 23:39

Hi quickly popping in on way to bed (two 3am bedtimes in a row - I'm too old for this!) but saw Gum's comments. I had the same at around the 10 week mark and was convinced things were over - minor spotting and complete lack of sickness. So don't over worry yourself yet - far easier to say than do I appreciate!

Lunatic - glad things are OK with you.

Louisesh - love to you my sweetie.

Was talking to someone at Christmas who knew of someone who had both their children in their fifties.

Love to everyone - hopefully catch up soon properly.

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