TTC after MC, ERPC anyone want to join me??

[nurse47]

Hi ive been posting on the miscarrage forum but now feel ready to start all over again!
My story, Had my first MMC in nov 2007, followed by an erpc (worst moment of my life) this was my first pregnancy and i felt robbed. Waited for two periods and got pg with my little DD in feb 2008, i had a great pg and birth but was on constant knicker alert. We decided when she was two we would like another baby to add to the familiy, we decided to try in sept this year and got pg first time! (very shocked) I was so hoping this would be my time to have a stress free pg and actually enjoy the experience! How wrong i was, i started to spot at six weeks had a scan which showed a sac but no baby, i then enjoured the worst two week of my life by having scan and blood tests. I was told on the 8th on nov the pregnany was not going to continue and i had a blighted ovum, and on the 9th i had a erpc. I have recovered well and stopped bleeding the day after the procedure. I went to see my doc last week who told me i could start ttc asap as long as i feel up to it?? anyone else ttc straight away, last time i was told to wait and i did but this time i have read that there is no lit to say wait apart from to date the pg?? Im hoping there are some people who can share there experiences and someone who wants to join me!

Welllll , symptoms you say....
Huge (but intermittent) nippleage
Bloating/constipation
Strange (but intermittent) pains below
Weariness
All good signs, however apart from the weird nipples it can all be put down to the season/crap diet/imminent period.
I've read too many threads now where someone's sudden aversion to cheese is taken as a fantastic sign, only for them to slink on a couple of days later to announce AF has arrived.
Also, I have not gone off coffee or wine like last time, and am not feeling at all queasy. Which, if I was pregnant, would worry me as I wasn't queasy last time either but that was because nothing was there! (I had a blighted ovum, so the cells didn't really develop. Hard to get one's head around, and scary to contemplate again).
AF due around Tuesday, and as I failed to do the worm-shuffle on Christmas Eve, I hold out little hope. This has now entered my everyday vocabulary, thanks Brought! Told DH and he was aghast. "What would she do if he woke up and found her on the floor with a dildo between her tits?" he charmingly exclaimed

hi ladies, been for a number two today and pains have all gone!! Feel terrible today, think ive got a cold or something coming that may explain my bouts of tiredness this week.
Last time i got pg,(1st time) i had implantion pains and a high temp the week b4 i got my bfp. Nothing yet....
So ever the pesamist, dont think its happened this month and very much expect a bfn this month, can test from thursday next week.... So will keep you updated.
I love the wornshuffle, im not going to tell my dh as he may get ideas!! Lol
really made me laugh out loud with all this naughty talk!! Lol x

yellow thanks for the prune advise, had two strong laxitives which has only just shifted it tbh, must of been pretty clogged up!! Tmi.
Sparkly sorry bout the bfn, enjoy your wine tonight. Waves to everyone else. X

Hello all. I left the worm shuffle page open when I went to bed on weds and dh read it, he was obviously inspired so thanks all!

Mrsb, glad to hear bowels are back to normal. It is excruciating isn't it. That was the most painful aspect of haven a cs for me, wind and constipation - ouch!

I did a test on Tuesday as I was miserable anyway and af hadn't turned up. It was neg but I wasn 't as crushed as I thought I'd be. Still not appeared, have decided to test again next tues morning if no af by then as I have a really horrible day full of meetings so if it's positive it'll make me smile and if not I'll be miserable anyway.

Yes sparkly, I know what you mean about threads where you all get excited about symptoms and then af appears. It's just sooooo infuriating that the symptoms are so often the same as those that come before af. Anyway, having said that today I have had s
Ots in front of my eyes which I had last time, mw said it could be hormone related.... But I also get it if I'm stressed and I am definitely stressed at work. Chinese tonight should help though.

Hope everyone has a good weekend, have fun symptom spotting.

Hi Girls
Well mamamana I'm glad to help! Am totally with you on the wind after CS, it's so painful, I read up about how to avoid it before the MC as I would have to have another, and apparently eating live yoghurt as soon as you can afterwards cures it ......lets hope I/we are soon able to test this theory . Although for me the most painful part was when wound burst open again!
Its so difficult not to get excited about symptom spotting, I have told myself that I won't this time in order to self preserve but I know in my heart I will be. Hope the chinese helped.
sparkly sorry about the bfn, Its so difficult not to get excited about symptom spotting, I have told myself that I won't this time in order to self preserve but I know in my heart I will be. Hope the chinese helped.
As for what my husband would have thought if he caught me well I have no idea it is a funny scenario to play in your head tho!, and I havn't told him I did it!

Well as for me I'm still dithering about when to TTC, I got my sums wrong about starting after next AF as if by a stroke of luck I did fall PG straight away, the following AF would be due around a week before we go to Florida. That is assuming it goes back into my 28 day cycle. (I guess I will find out on the 12th!) babbling now.....
Later girls
Wormshuffle xxxx
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It would appear I have forgotten how to cut and paste.....excuse my stutter!

Goodness, wound bursting open, that can't have been much fun! Good to see it hasn't put you off :-)

Oh I survived and went back for more with DS with no problems.

Very quiet weekend on here, hope everyone's ok. All good here, still no af, have decided not to test until dh home from trip. No other real symptoms so who knows what's going on in there!

hi mana, ive been lurking as nothing intersting to add, im amist the 2 week wait!! Boring ell.... Cant even be bothing with swi, much to dh,s disappointment!!! His now nicknamed me user.
I can test on thursday even though af not due till the 18th according to fertility friend?? Feels too early for me.
Mana, when was your af due??
Just an update on the water works front, still constipated, all very strange, but no pg symptoms to speak about.
Nyt all catch up soon, am knackered been decorating the lounge the weekend. X

Hi all - sorry to have gone west for a while. Pretty busy weekend, including amazing hot air balloon ride (nice to have friends who have their own!)

In other news, AF is due today / tomorrow, but absolutely no symptoms for me so not getting in the slightest bit excited. I tend not to have any symptoms pre AF either so nothing to get confused with either. The only thing I could count for symptom spotting is being v hungry when I wake up which has been a symptom during last 2 pgs, but I think this time it's because I'm having smaller portions for dinner in vague attempt to shift the xmas kgs..... It has also dawned on me that our 3 week trip to NZ starts on 2nd Feb so perhaps it's a good thing.... as it also means the next 2WW will be there so plenty to distract me....

star - any news from you? Are you planning to see doc this week if you get a negative?

brought - big ouch re: wound bursting open! Are you going to change your nickname to wormshuffle - I hope you do!

mana -when is DH due home from trip?

mrsb - sorry to hear re the constipation - it's v annoying not to mention uncomfortable. Are you drinking lots and lots?

sparkly - any update on the intermittent nippleage?

yellow - trust you enjoyed your vino at the weekend.

waves to everyone else and wishing you all a pleasant Monday!

Morning Ladies.
Well AF arrived on saturday morning which is only 26 days since last one , but dead on with where I always used to be, so my body has got right back to where on track as if it never happened . This means another month off TTC for me as to avoid being PG in florida. If I have worked it out correctly I should be due for the following AF on the day we come back! So fingers crossed I return with a BFP to go with my poor bank account.
Everything crossed for you mrsband mamamana and wombat
xxxx

Morning all

broughthim well I guess at least it is good to have your body back to normal? So does that mean you'll be ovulating/worm shuffling whilst in Florida?

This 2ww is v dull isn't it? I am due Fri or Sat and have no symptoms at all. Though same as wombat I didn't really have pg symptoms last time or get af symptoms so doesn't really mean anything really. Although I am pretending to be cool about it all I know I am secretly really desperate to get a BFP...I think that there will be tears at the end of the week.

wombat a 3 week trip to NZ sounds fab..but what will we do without you for 3 weeks? Hopefully they've got the internet over there? My DP may be off on a business trip down in that region for a couple of weeks in Feb.....it'd better not be during my fertile time, that's all I'm saying!

And I'll be on here non-stop waiting to hear regarding af appearance....

When are you due manamana? And sparkly it's Tuesday for you isn't it?

come on ladies let's set a bfp trend ready for me to catch the wave on Friday!

brought - seriously impressed with your saturday AF arrival - talk about your body being disciplined! Sorry that it arrived at all though. In the world of ying and yang, a negative bank balance should mean you get a positive somewhere else.... we shall see!

Aw thanks yellow - I'll have the blackberry with me so will be popping on to see how you're all getting on. I think I've been so pre-occupied with MC, TTC and crappy work that I've kind of forgotten about NZ trip. DH is a Kiwi so it will be a lot of visiting friends / rellies plus my parents are joining us for 2 weeks to see the country and to meet the other in-laws- not too many chances for romantic wormshuffling or otherwise but we'll take our chances where we can, particularly around ov time! Hope your DP isn't there at your time.... If it is and I bump into him, I shall send him packing home

According to the rules / statistics, I wonder what the chances are of one of us getting a BFP this month....? Shall we start a sweep? I reckon we'll get one before the end of the month. Any other bets?

Yay, more posts to read :-) I was missing you all!

Wow, brought, good that everything so regular re af although obviously disappointing that it's here at all. I haven't had an af since erpc on 7th dec and I read somewhere in the many many bits of info I have digested that you can take that as first day of period so af should have been Tuesday 4th as I am mrs regular but 28 days. But also I know that it can take a while to get everything back to normal so who knows...

Very jealous of lovely sounding trips to Florida and nz, would love some warmth at the moment! Good timing too that worm shuffling will be happening abroad - plenty of potential for amusing names.

Wow, wombat, hot air balloon sounds fun, I've never done it - is it scary? What cool friends to have!

Yellow, fingers x for Friday.

I'm sure someone will get a bfp this month....we def deserve it, we've all be working so hard at it. I've got my eye on sparkly's nipples.......well not literally you understand but they sound very promising.

I went on a balloon trip once but we had a crash landing at speed and was quite scary. Well it is good up until the crash landing part.. nobody was hurt but we were all shaken and it could easily have been a lot worse.

Sound like you'll have a lot of family time in NZ wombat do you get on with them ok or will 2 weeks seem a bit long? I look forward to hearing your 'fitting it in where you can' antics, remember nothing is tmi here!

manamana mine is usually exactly 28 days too but was just over 5 weeks after ERPC.....so you could be due any day now...unless you've got a bfp.....? Are you still going to test again tomorrow?

Wombat, you have such a jetset life, I am so boring! We've no holiday at all planned for this year, what with being skint financially-challenged, and TTC. I'm holding out for my Greek island avec papoose! I love NZ, once spent 9 months travelling around on my own and have been back since with DH on a round the world trip. Correction, I wasn't always so boring!
Had a bfn with an amazon stick this morning, and though part of me is thinking well, it's cheap, of course it won't work, all signs are for AF arriving tomorrow. No bad thing perhaps as drinkies got a tad out of hand on Friday night and I spent all of Saturday recovering. Poor pickled bean! Thanks for keeping my nipples in mind yellow, they had a day of weirdness but maybe they always have and I just don't notice! I'm going to take things more seriously this month and stockpile the grapefruit and pineapple juice, they are meant to create a hospitable, sociable environment in which sperm will meet egg and decide to remain chatting for a few months!
You're right though, someone will get a bfp soon; I logged on this weekend hoping for some good news, we need a boost! All this worming cannot be in vain!

mana - you have piqued my interest for wormshuffling names while abroad. Presumbably in France ( yellow - can you confirm please?) it would be le shuffle a la maggot? and who could be the first to join the milehighwormshuffle club?! Oooh the possibilities are endless - brought - what have you started?!

Found your post of "I've got my eye on sparkly's nipples.......well not literally you understand but they sound very promising." very amusing yellow - who would have thought you would ever write a sentence like that

sparkly - can you remind me - is it supposed to be pineapple pre ov and grapefruit post ov....? Thanks.

ballooning landings can be a bit scary but I'm prepared for them now, especially as our friend has years of experience. Would highly recommend the experience to anyone.

Yep - 2 weeks might be a bit much as we'll be with them pretty much the whole time. I adore my parents but that much time in quite close quarters will be testing. Oh and MIL is joining us for 5 days of our south island tour - could be a tense few days.....!

Hey wombat, been conducting some MN research and the following, utterly non-scientific advice is given;
Grapefruit juice - must be pure, not made from concentrate. Consume from end of AF up to OV. This will assist with topnotch EWCM.
Brazil nuts may also do some good, how was never made clear.
Pineapple juice - again pure, consume from OV onwards, it is meant to assist with implantation.
A pint glass a day seems to be the norm, if you can stomach it. Vodka optional
If nothing else we will be getting our 5-a-day.

well wombat there isn't really a good french work for shuffle. For eg to shuffle along translates as 'avancer avec un pas trainant' which has the word 'pas' in there which means 'step' or you've got shuffle ones feet 'trainer les pieds' So they don't really have the concept of shuffling on ones bum!

hmm ok after further research we've got 'to worm oneself along/down/across etc which would be 'avancer/descendre/traverser a plat ventre/en rempant.

So let's see, 'le traverse en rempant' so not really using the word worm as such which would be 'ver' Please feel free to make up your own!

sparkly that is a lot of juice...I think pre-seed is the better option for the lazy! I've still got my fingers crossed for you.....I hate those bfn, I've not got any sticks in the house and plan to keep it that way cos the lack on line really depresses me. Also looking through MN before there was someone who wondered if you should apply the grapefruit juice erm....locally as if it were yoghurt for thrush! tee hee

wombat Oooh you'll def have to keep up posted about tense times with families. Mine are nuts so love hearing about other peoples. And if gets too much I'll try out some of my counselling skills on you!

Ha ha wombat, sorry I wasn't clear...

Meant naming the child after location of conception a la Brookly Beckaham! Was thinking Douglas for nz and Orlando for Florida ;-). Your take on it was much more amusing though, a Disney type name for the worm shuffle, answers on a postcard please....

Cross-posted with you yellow and am just about to dial into a meeting, all I am going to be able to think of it's worm shuffling.... V v v funny

Doh! Silly me mana - yours makes much more sense and Douglas is quite nice... hmmm... Disney wormshuffle thinking hat on! Hope you managed your meeting without sniggering too much!

sparkly - thanks for the info on the juice - hmmmm, not sure I can really stomach that much and so will hunt down the pre-seed in NZ (assuming of course there's no BFP before then )

Jaune Tomate - merci for the info on the French translation - perhaps we stick with le wormshuffle for now! As for the families, it's funny how I used to think mine was quite normal but since moving here and getting some emotional distance, perhaps they're not after all - mum can be blunt to the point it makes you gasp and dad is forever asking every question about everything! MIL can be a little testing too, but that's mostly what in-laws are right?!

Hi,

I have been lurking since I suffered a blighted ovum back in September. As with all of you it was not the best day of the year but I am eternally grateful for my son who is 4 in March.

We found out at the 12 week scan and had the procedure 2 days later. I had next to no bleeding after ERPC and had a very light, almost non-existent bleed about 6 weeks after that. 11th November I had what I class as my proper period and then we started ttc. I had some pregnancy symptoms and to date had done 5 HPTs - all negative{confused) and then this morning had the worst tummy ache which meant a trip to docs. He has taken some swabs to check for infection, ruled out uti and also did pregnancy test which was negative as well.

Has anybody else had this or are your periods all back to normal?

BTW - ERPC was 17th September

TIA

Lex x

Hi Lexie1970
Sorry you found yourself here and welcome. With you having a very light bleed after ERPC I was just wondering if they gave you a really good clean out and it is taking a bit of time for your lining to get back up to speed? This could be good for future conceptions with a nice fresh lining for a sticky bean to attatch....fingers crossed for you.

Ok so I have done the name change, loving how you (and your DH's) are all entertained by my madness....

yellow If my calculations are correct I should be on the 2WW whilst in Florida thankfully as TTC while sharing a room with an 11 year old is not fun and worm shuffling out of the question!......so Florence for a girl Orlando for a boy! Love how you "have your eye on sparklys nips)

I notice that the Beckhams are PG again....that will be her forth CS! which is not recommended. I was PG with DD and DS at the same time as her with her first 2 and would have been again had I not had the MC freaky hey?

How are the Nips now sparkly? any other syptoms?

I once had a 2 week holiday with the inlaws wombat NEVER AGAIN!!!! they were so embarassing! Loud, obnoxious, arguining with each other really loudly while we were in the next room.

Hope the thought of worm shuffling got you through the meeting ok mamanana

xxxx