TTC after MC, ERPC anyone want to join me??

[nurse47]

Hi ive been posting on the miscarrage forum but now feel ready to start all over again!
My story, Had my first MMC in nov 2007, followed by an erpc (worst moment of my life) this was my first pregnancy and i felt robbed. Waited for two periods and got pg with my little DD in feb 2008, i had a great pg and birth but was on constant knicker alert. We decided when she was two we would like another baby to add to the familiy, we decided to try in sept this year and got pg first time! (very shocked) I was so hoping this would be my time to have a stress free pg and actually enjoy the experience! How wrong i was, i started to spot at six weeks had a scan which showed a sac but no baby, i then enjoured the worst two week of my life by having scan and blood tests. I was told on the 8th on nov the pregnany was not going to continue and i had a blighted ovum, and on the 9th i had a erpc. I have recovered well and stopped bleeding the day after the procedure. I went to see my doc last week who told me i could start ttc asap as long as i feel up to it?? anyone else ttc straight away, last time i was told to wait and i did but this time i have read that there is no lit to say wait apart from to date the pg?? Im hoping there are some people who can share there experiences and someone who wants to join me!

Yellow, ohhh! DIY! Do I wait for DH to go and stick the kettle on? One's normally enough, I think I'm quite bloke-like in that respect. Do you confess, or do you pretend to be asleep until he pootles off to play on the computer? Genuinely fascinated and can't quite work out the logistics.

Nipples have self-toned, and feel like I have pmt as I'm either hating everyone or think they hate me, and am very bloated, so doesn't feel promising for this month anymore but I am also tricking myself into being pessimistic to avoid too much disapointment, if that makes sense, and am therefore actually still optimistic and in line for a crashing let-down.

Based on a very non-statistical one month, I should have ovulated on Boxing Day, the day we failed to DTD as the cat went missing and I was outside shaking a box of Brekkies for hours. This means I am 10dpo. Barely time to hoover the house, never mind create a new life.
Hi to all, and thanks for all the sharing!

sparkly well if you want the details.....he usually gets dressed and wanders off and I stay lying down as he understands it so they don't all fall out. And so when he's gone to watch TV or whatever I erm finish the job!

I also know what you mean re trying to think 'oh it won't happen this month' to avoid the crashing disappointment. I think that whatever we say or tell ourselves we are all going to be disappointed with our first af after a month of trying.

As I've said a few times it took me a year both previous times so I've no idea why I'm being so optimistic....maybe it's partly at this stage that I can't really face waiting another year.

Mind you I will get results of all my blood tests at end of Jan so that might reveal something useful/scary.

Well sparkly pull up a comfy chair and some popcorn and I will give you all the details........
Picture the scene, DH relents for the fifth night in a row with cries of "What AGAIN???? oh if I must". It is all over with..... not that quickly actually considering the whole 5 days in a row timetable and he falls asleep instantly. I who have been reading all about the orgasm pulling up the little fishes lay there pondering to myself, with my little friend as mrsb33 calls him (mine is called Roger)shouting to me from the bedside draw "Hi there lover girl......lets you and me go and have some fun in the ensuite!
So I then think how do I get myself and rog to the ensuite without standing up and therefore undoing all DH's hard work?? So I lower myself down to the floor with my feet still in the air and rog down my cleavage and somehow shuffle myself to the ensuite like a worm....
I won't go into what happened next as that could be bordering on porn, but I think you get the picture!
When I shuffled myself back to bed ( now that IS impossible without going vertical) I then lay there for hours thinking I would end up with a hyperactive kid after it had that start to the world!!

Good luck with the potential implantation pangs (I definately had those)mrsb33

Yellow pesimism is definately the way to go.

wombat hope the job chat turns into something just in time for you getting PG then going off on ML

Thanks yellow, delightfully devious. Love the thought of him wandering off, pootle pootle. Thinking about it, we tend to discuss what's for tea pretty much immediately afterwards (having been mulling it over during ) so he'd get suspicious if I remained silent. I'd have to enter into some sort of discussion, by which time it would take me an age to 'warm back up again', having got rid of him to take stuff out of the freezer. Read that back and we seem to have got into a bit of a routine!
I hope it things happen for you more swiftly this year, the wait each month must be agonising as time goes on. My sister took 18 months to conceive her first, and she used to get really distraught, especially as there was no known cause other than mother nature piss-arsing about! Hopefully the blood test results will throw up something tangible that can set you on the right path this time around.

Brought, cross posts, that is priceless! The preparation, the stealth, the waiting for his breathing to slow down to indicate sleep, the lowering horizontally on the floor, the wormlike shuffle, the conjuring up of delightful images (not toothpaste stains round the sink, which is what I'd probably focus in on!) as Rog whirrs into action.....
Nice work!

Ah ladies - you are brilliant! I am almost wetting myself laughing at these images of post coital skulking with "special friends" along the floor - the things we have to do! I snuck my special friend (Percy - can't for the life of me think why I named him that) into the country when I first arrived 5 years ago as they're actually illegal here. Fortunately got through fine as the thought of having to explain your detention at customs to your employer might not be the most auspicious start to your new job! I am now wondering if our friends have an expiry date.... as 5 years seems quite old. He's well maintained, so to speak.....

just running in as its dh,s bday today so cooking him tea tonight....
You ladies proper cheered me up today!!! Ive laughed all day, images running through my head of that really shouldnt be, what have i started with my little friend comment.
Still having the pains today, also been feeling abit sickie throughout the day, fingers crossed its implantation pains and not just general pains.
Will keep you all updated, have a fun evening all.
Speak soon. X
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Fantastic set of posts - thank you ladies, the shuffling worm manoevure is my favourite :-)

Omg! You lot are hilarious!!! I'm glad we are all so open about out little friends!! We don't use ours during fertile times but I make DH work a bit harder!

I'm still having bad period pains which isn't like me and its very clotty, I'm wondering if its the lining on my womb building back up???
Well only one month off I've worked out, so not long to wait, anyone close to testing??? Any good symptoms looming?

Sorry for double post!

I've just read I can fly up to 36 weeks??? Perhaps I don't have to take a month off after all?????
I flew at 24 weeks with DD, has anyone flown past 30 weeks??? Something else for me to google, would you ladies carry on TTC or leave it for a month, going to turkey on the 9th of july if I fall pg I would be 28 or 29 weeks can't quite work it out???

I've just read I can fly up to 36 weeks??? Perhaps I don't have to take a month off after all?????
I flew at 24 weeks with DD, has anyone flown past 30 weeks??? Something else for me to google, would you ladies carry on TTC or leave it for a month, going to turkey on the 9th of july if I fall pg I would be 28 or 29 weeks can't quite work it out???

hi nurse, long time not speak, im planning a holiday for may time, so if i get pg this month i will be four months?? I thought to fly over 5 months you have to get docs approval. My sis lives in cyprus and she had to do this when returning home last yr, but that was cyprus so maybe different...
Ladies the pains are still there, really bothering me now as there when i sit down, like a dragging, pain on my lower left hand side??? Feel very tired too but not sure if thats because im back to my 6am starts apart from that no other symptoms to speak. Waves to all. X

Yellow, brought, you legends!! Haha!!! Funniest thing I've read in a long time. X
Am in bed but had to comment, brief as it is. I've not been so fortunate. Both kids had me up all night last night so managed a total of about an hours sleep....no joke. I just couldnt be arsed tonight so dh settled for a tommy tank :)!! Wonder if I could have saved the product and lazily self inseminated??!! Hmmmm..... That would be a good conception tale to tell.
Dd already been in once (post tommy tank, thank goodness) but got marched straight back to bed. Not sure how long that'll last. Could really do without a repeat of last nights antics as have a long drive to the capital fri evening :-/ night all!!!

nurse think you need a doctors note if on your return trip you will be either 28 or 32 weeks. Cant think what the cut off is and have both these in my head.

Just looked and it seems to vary on the airline. It's recommended not to fly after 36 weeks but some airlines don't take you after 28 weeks. They can deny you entry to board if they think you are further which is why a doctors note is suggested if flying later in your pregnancy :).
Gosh, I'm like a bus!!!

Hi ladies, I looked into the flights thing when ttc as we are emigrating in a few weeks and wanted to know if we could come back here for a friend's wedding by which time if all had gone well I would have been about 30 weeks.

Very much depends on the airline - but usually they have one cutoff point for when they won't let you on board, and another for when they want a medical certificate to confirm how far along you are, and that you have a "normal" pg. I think for not letting you on board, most of them are around the 35/36 week mark, and for needing a doctor's cert it varies but is usually somewhere 28/30 weeks.

HTH (sorry got a bit when telling you that I had planned it all out like that, but hope everyone else is going OK today.

Hugs Wellie, going back over now defunct plans can be really upsetting, like friends/work colleagues/complete strangers having a similar due date to the one you were meant to have. One of my work colleagues is quite obviously pregnant now and I meant to finally congratulate her today but the words stuck in my throat, so we talked about croutons. If she'd said she was due on my date I don't know what I would have done, so it was self-preservation really but she must think I am so rude!
Where are you emigrating, if you don't mind saying? How exciting!
Could fancy a holiday myself but a bit strapped unfortunately. Also had a fantasy of papoosing up the little one and sitting in a little Greek taverna eating olives, and that's not happening this year so am sulking!
Anyone apart from me embarking on stupid early testing in the hope of a BFP? Come on, it can't just be me! Oh.....

oooh are you testing sparkly day 11 or 12 for you dpo? I would join you but at just 6 or 7 days dpo that would be silly. So...are you testing?

MrsB33 those pains are sounding very promising, a 'dragging' feeling is what I heard someone else describe it as.

brought i LOVE your worm technique.....and also very very impressed with dtd 5 nights in a row. I just don't think either of us would be able to manage that. You really have worked hard for your BFP. Much respect!

winter made me chuckle thinking of you being detained at customers with your special friend...that wouldn't have been funny at the time but would have made a great story! And how did you know they are illegal? Do they send out lists of illegal things for people planning to visit?

star where are you on your cycle? Seems a shame to waste the good stuff when it's the right time but sometimes it is just too much effort......except for brought who has a lot of stamina!

nurse don't really know what the clotting can mean but I know my periods were (and have remained) heavier after mc.

Ah wellie I'm sorry you got tearful...I think that is the hardest thing, letting go of all the plans that had been made. I think that is what made Xmas a bit harder cos we'd planned on telling the parents at that time and I'd imagined the whole scene..what I'd wear, what I'd say, reactions etc.

I don't know any preggo friends at the moment but have 2 v fertile ones trying for their second and I'd love to get in there first! Fingers crossed.

Yellow, aren't you cute planning your 'reveal' outfit!

Yes, I am a little obsessed with testing but not for the pursuit of a positive result necessarily, though this is the goal. I find it a strangely comforting routine. I am aware this is a bit odd, and that the result will always be negative in all probability until after AF would have been due ie. next week; I am under no illusions. Maybe it helps mark time. Dunno. Anyway, I shall have my usual friday treat test tomorrow and keep you posted. They only cost about 40p each aswell so it is financially prudent Thinking about it, I may also do this of a Friday to assuage any guilt felt at enjoying a bottle glass of wine or two over the weekend

Hi Ladies
Glad I have raised a smile with the worm story......think I may change my name! any worm related suggestions?

And yes yellow it was hard work ttc last time especially as we fell really easily the with DD and DS. And lets face it the hard work didn't pay off as we ended up MC anyway...... Am not going to let myself get so swept up this time with excitement now I am in the M/C club.

winter I too laughed at you smuggling Percy into the country, and it reminded me of when we went to Zante 3 years ago, I wanted to take Rog, and hubby said no, then when we got there they xrayed the cases in front of you and we had to open ours up to show them the cd player! DH would probably have divorced me if Rog had come along as they definately would have found him!

nurse I had clots with my last period where normally I don't aswell.

Star sorry I can't help with the whole flying thing except to say that if you did get PG now it would be meant to be and hols can easily be brought forward a couple of weeks if you did fall.

Loving all the talk ladies! Just a quick one but had to suggest to brought - what about wormedhimroundtotheidea?!

Yellow I have absolutely no idea, i've still not had a period yet. ERPC was 7 wks 4 days ago. Will do a test to double check i'm not pregnant next week before i go to the docs about it.

hi ladies, just wanted to check back in today and say tummy pains are still there but remembered i hadnt been for a number 2 sice wednesday, my tummys painfull and bloated today.
Sleep in this morning, was meant to leave at 6, sleep in till 8:30 im so knackered!!!
Sat in bed tonight and cried at kerry katona!!! Bloody kerry katona whats all thaty bout!!!
Feel like ive got serious mega pmt, hopefully tomorrow i will go for a number2 and pull myself together!!!
Waves to all xx

How are the bowels this morning MrsB33? I don't know what the Kerry Katona thing is all about either, she is a bit of a car crash tragic figure so I'm sorry she was occupying your headspace.
On other news, I tested today and got a bfn, as expected really, so will be on t'wine tonight

Morning all

MrsB33 that sounds painful, have you tried dried prunes? Need to eat quite a few but always works in the end. And it could be a symptom as it was one of my first ones last time.

sparkly hope you enjoy your wine later....when is af due, is it Monday? Have you any symptoms to share with us?

star hmm that is quite a while now although they do say up to 8 weeks can still be classed as 'normal' but sounds like a good idea to test and see GP next week.

I had wine last night and will be having more today and probably tomorrow too! I've got a week before af so am making the most of it