Just MC and ready to try again? Pack your cake wine and tightie whities and join us for more ranting weeping and most of all laughing! All welcome! (Part 8)

[MummyAbroad]

A safe haven for those just off the mc rollercoaster and thinking about getting back on or are already on the TTC rollercoaster. Be warned these lovely ladies chat, and the thread moves lightening fast, but all are welcome to join in any time

For those who have just mc'd, there is great info about your first cycle here

If you want to add yourself into the stats, just copy and paste the lot, change everyones CD (cycle day) if necessary and add yourself in.
WTF = first cycle after mc
WTTC = waiting to TTC
CD = cycle day
UCL = usual cycle length

((( nix ))). Am keeping my hopes up and fx for burrowing bean...

AAndRMum homemade costumes rock! Don't listen! Oddly enough I did buy my DCs costumes last year but always, always make my own!

Morning everyone, don't know about you but the weekend went so fast, and after yesterday I just need another day to relax. Already thinking about the early night I'm having and dh is away so can get into my pjs straight away :)

AandR I think home made is cool, its creative not being a cheapskate

pink so sorry to hear that. I had counselling in April, 12 1xhour sessions, did me the world of good. I started them to help my anxiety, and along the way realised so much about myself I didn't realise was effecting me - a real shock - and felt like a weight had been lifted and a new person. So I would defintately recommend ;)

nix fx it's a bean, not the food

Oops pink I meant :) not ;) how inappropriate an emoticon at the end of what I said

Hi all super busy weekend here I definitely feel the need for a second Sunday. On phone so can't scroll much.

tunnocks and pink sorry to hear you think depression is lurking. I felt the same way - still do when I get trapped in a low patch. It is worth talking to a gp about, they can refer to counselling or just monitor. Pink I think it was you who said that talking about things won't make it different. And that's true, it won't bring your pg back or necessarily make you pg quicker - although could help reduce stress hormones - but as knitter said it can help to identify other ways to think, or reasons why you react in particular ways - and that can be helpful in dealing with the emotions. Don't discount the effect of hormones in your cycle though, they're powerful.
I had pnd with DS, and counselling was v v helpful for me in identifying and finding ways to cope with the anxieties and come to terms with the change in identity. But it was coming off the minipill that stopped almost overnight the irrational thoughts, rage, and fears.

Just a bit more...
My thoughts about my own 'black dog' feelings run a bit along the lines of:
It's normal and rational and healthy to be sad and grieve and be angry about a sad and basically 'unfair' thing that happened to you. BUT if those thoughts, feelings etc start being out of proportion to what happened, or they actually stop you from performing actions you need to do to live your life ( wash hair, open mail, go to work, eat regularly, think about something else sometimes) then it's crossed a line and you need help.
It doesn't need to be as bad as that to get help, especially counselling, of course. But for me, having that line in mind has been useful in knowing when I'm getting close or when I just need to give myself some space to grieve.

hi all,

teacake and pink, big squeezes for you. You've already had some great advice so nothing more to add, just that I am another one who counselling has helped. Do be prepared to shop around for another counsellor if you dont "click" with the first one you meet, all have different talents and it is important that you have a raport with them or it wont really work.

AndRMum - home made all the way!! It teaches them to be creative, recycle and have fun with simple things, what does buying them an expensive costume teach them?

Nix I sympathise with the tummy problems, this high does HRT is no fun! TMI... look awa now... I have gone from constipated to diarrea in one day whats going to happend tommorrow?

mornin' ladees!

mummy movements as such i have always found are affected by hormone fluctuations, particularly when i was going through MC :( I have since noticed that changes are significant around OV and AF, maybe its cos you are being given extra hormones to thicken the lining?

I am also hot! (not symptom spotting though no not me!) I was at a meeting last week and i happened to mention i was hot during the night and therefore hadnt slept in my hotel room to be met with " you must be expecting then" from one of the guys i was meeting with. To say i nearly crawled up my own arse.... understatement.... he doesnt know i was supposed to be expecting, nor that i am hoping to be expecting!! Thankfully my boss answered it with a flippant "remind me never to tell you i am hot then" kind of thing!!
Mortification - lesson for me - tact always helps!!

DH has been sick this morning, so i suspect its a bug and that my nausea this morning is either my imagination or is related to the weekend!!

I think i am turning into a halfwit!

oh nickstermum I hope all these symptoms are the real deal! Another week or so to find out is it? Fingers x'd.

Doubtful, i have a vivid imagination [grn]

Saturdays List

Inbetweener TTC#3 Cycle 3 UCL 29 CD35 BFP!!
Jamface TTC#2 cycle 3 (post MC#2), UCL 27 CD39
Tunnocksteacake TTC #2, cycle 1, UCL28 CD31
PrettyQuichey TTC#1,(round 7)Cycle 6 UCL 28-30 CD 30
Getawiggleon TTC#2, cycle 1, UCL26, CD30
Loola2shu TTC#2, Cycle 2, UCL40 CD30
DachshundsRule TTC#1 cycle 3 UCL28 CD28
Nickstermum TTC#2 cycle 2 post MC UCL 30-40 CD28
GetDownYouWillFall TTC#2 Cycle 1 (post MC#1) UCL 27 - 44 CD25
Tigger15 TTC#2 cycle 20 UCL24-9 CD25
MamaPower TTC#1, cycle 4 (post MC#2) UCL 25- 27 CD24
Choccybick TTC#1 (post mc1) cycle 4 UCL 27 CD22
Kat2504 TTC#1, cycle 3 UCL 26-28 CD21
RunForTheHills TTC#1, cycle 2 UCL28 CD21
Wombat33 TTC#1 Cycle 2 (post MC) UCL 31 CD19
IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy TTC#3 cycle 4 UCL26-30 CD18
Sunchild77 TTC#3 cycle 6, UCL 24-28, CD11
youremindmeofthebabe TTC#2, Cycle 4 UCL33 CD10
LadyBee TTC#2, cycle 4 (round 3) UCL27 CD10
HongKongBaby#2, cycle 4 (post mc1), UCL 38, CD8
KnitterNotTwitter TTC#2, (round 3) cycle 4 UCL 25-30 CD7
Freezingmyarseoff TTC#2 cycle 6 UCL28 CD6
Orangetoenails TTC#1, cycle 1 (MC#2), UCL 35, CD6
Velvetcu TTC #1 Cycle 3 UCL 35, CD6
Pinkfondantfancy TTC#1, cycle 4, UCL 28 or 35 CD5
AandRmum TTC3 cycle 2 UCL29 CD5

WTTC
Hairytriangle
Shitforbrains TTC#3, MC 1st Sep
Sarahmia TTC#2, MC2
MummyAbroad TTC #2,(MMC#1 31 Mar, ERPC 7 Jul), Ashermans Op 16 Nov
Mousebacon TTC#2 MC#1 4th Oct WTF cycle
Barrenbrook TTC#1, MC#4 Oct 2010
Lemonsherbet TTC #1, ERPC 15 Oct 2010, WTF cycle
Batteryhen MC conf Oct 2010
Digitalgirl TTC#2, MC#3 Oct 2010
HidingInTheBackRow TTC#1 MC#1 Oct 2010
Nurse47 TTC#2, UCL28, WTF cycle ERPC 9 Nov

MIA
Sillyness TTC#1 post MC1 WTF cycle
Lottiecrump UCL 27/30
Cheepz TTC#2 (round 4) UCL30
BackOnceAgain TTC#3, MC 17th Aug

RECENT GRADUATES
BUnderthebonnet BFP 20 June
Muser BFP 22 June
northerngoldilocks - BFP 12 July
Magic8ballhastheanswers BFP 14 July
Hopefully BFP 22 July
IvySedai BFP 1 August
PenguinsMummy BFP 15th August
VivClicquot BFP 25 August
Loopymumsy BFP 29 August
CaribouMoo BFP 7 September
StarflowerGirl BFP ~24 Sep
Appleblossoms BFP 9 Oc
Littlemiss72
Urbanlolly BFP 1 Nov

Hi Girls
I´ve been having a rough few days and feeling really down in the dumps so I stayed away. Feeling bit dodgy today so Im snuggled on the sofa after sleeping until midday.
I really thought I had come to terms with mc but it seems the approach of Christmas has been getting me down the past week. Today Ive got a headache from hell, okay it could be due to too much sleep.

Must go and read what youve all been up to -but thought Id do the list.
x

Of course its Mondays list. I forgot to change the day

((((((((chockster)))))))

Hello all. Hope you're all well. It seems like we have a bit of a slump at the minute, pink i think it's entirely possible that having other bereavements in your life will make the feelings surrounding the mc more complicated. Fwiw, my dp's father died when he was young, and I know that he has only really managed to come to terms with it since ds was born, I think the whole birth death cycle is incredibly complicatedly linked in us all. Hugs for you. And tunnocks sorry you're feeling low. And also chocky.

I have realised that my cycle of mumsnetting is almost prolific during the week and non-existent at the weekend! So sorry for that, but it looks like you're all coping well without me.

Sunday is ds's party. And my due date. I'm ok about it today, but will reserve judgement until afterwards. I'm actually really busy all weekend, so it doesn't seem like i'm going to have 5 seconds to call my own anyway.

aandrmum homemade sounds lovely. So much more character. What have the parties been like? For ds's party (4) I am just doing pass the parcel and musical statues or musical chairs. cake and party food and party bags. In a church hall. Am I negligent??

babes you most def arent negligent!!! Good stuff, sounds fab will be thinking of you at the weekend :( maybe you should light a candle or something once the party is finished? Give yourself five mins to reflect or something....?

Many people have said the run up/anticipation/expectation of the due date is worse than the actual due date itself, so i hope thats also the case for you too :)

Any news from dachs?

hairy's thread

FYI

Hi all!! Like yrotb my MN time at the weekend is very limited. Big big hugs to all those struggling at the moment. I felt similar a few weeks ago but thank god, a combination of things seems to have pulled my out of it [for now]. I hope you all find the cloud lifts soon.

I did go for my run yesterday, and on Saturday in fact. Am now stressing that all that jiggling about will have been bad for any potential bean, but hey ho. It's keeping me sane at least. My temps went up this morning so I think I'm now officially on the 2ww. Pineapple juice and brazil nuts ahoy!

Mummye that hotel/spa looks amazing! My passpot is packed. Hope I don't need any jabs

Dachs How are you doing?! Is it your bday about now too??

Hello to everyone else. (I can't keep up with all the posts but I'm hoping that me chipping in a bit is better than not at all even if I don't manage personal mentions to everyone each time :))

Arent they just gruesome? I spent this aft munching away

Hi I seem to have lost a day so just changing my own! on phone so darent do anyone else!

Inbetweener TTC#3 Cycle 3 UCL 29 CD35 BFP!!
Jamface TTC#2 cycle 3 (post MC#2), UCL 27 CD39
Tunnocksteacake TTC #2, cycle 1, UCL28 CD31
PrettyQuichey TTC#1,(round 7)Cycle 6 UCL 28-30 CD 30
Getawiggleon TTC#2, cycle 1, UCL26, CD30
Loola2shu TTC#2, Cycle 2, UCL40 CD30
DachshundsRule TTC#1 cycle 3 UCL28 CD28
Nickstermum TTC#2 cycle 2 post MC UCL 30-40 CD28
GetDownYouWillFall TTC#2 Cycle 1 (post MC#1) UCL 27 - 44 CD25
Tigger15 TTC#2 cycle 20 UCL24-9 CD25
MamaPower TTC#1, cycle 4 (post MC#2) UCL 25- 27 CD24
Choccybick TTC#1 (post mc1) cycle 4 UCL 27 CD22
Kat2504 TTC#1, cycle 3 UCL 26-28 CD21
RunForTheHills TTC#1, cycle 2 UCL28 CD21
Wombat33 TTC#1 Cycle 2 (post MC) UCL 31 CD19
IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy TTC#3 cycle 4 UCL26-30 CD18
Sunchild77 TTC#3 cycle 6, UCL 24-28, CD12
youremindmeofthebabe TTC#2, Cycle 4 UCL33 CD10
LadyBee TTC#2, cycle 4 (round 3) UCL27 CD10
HongKongBaby#2, cycle 4 (post mc1), UCL 38, CD8
KnitterNotTwitter TTC#2, (round 3) cycle 4 UCL 25-30 CD7
Freezingmyarseoff TTC#2 cycle 6 UCL28 CD6
Orangetoenails TTC#1, cycle 1 (MC#2), UCL 35, CD6
Velvetcu TTC #1 Cycle 3 UCL 35, CD6
Pinkfondantfancy TTC#1, cycle 4, UCL 28 or 35 CD5
AandRmum TTC3 cycle 2 UCL29 CD5

WTTC
Hairytriangle
Shitforbrains TTC#3, MC 1st Sep
Sarahmia TTC#2, MC2
MummyAbroad TTC #2,(MMC#1 31 Mar, ERPC 7 Jul), Ashermans Op 16 Nov
Mousebacon TTC#2 MC#1 4th Oct WTF cycle
Barrenbrook TTC#1, MC#4 Oct 2010
Lemonsherbet TTC #1, ERPC 15 Oct 2010, WTF cycle
Batteryhen MC conf Oct 2010
Digitalgirl TTC#2, MC#3 Oct 2010
HidingInTheBackRow TTC#1 MC#1 Oct 2010
Nurse47 TTC#2, UCL28, WTF cycle ERPC 9 Nov

MIA
Sillyness TTC#1 post MC1 WTF cycle
Lottiecrump UCL 27/30
Cheepz TTC#2 (round 4) UCL30
BackOnceAgain TTC#3, MC 17th Aug

RECENT GRADUATES
BUnderthebonnet BFP 20 June
Muser BFP 22 June
northerngoldilocks - BFP 12 July
Magic8ballhastheanswers BFP 14 July
Hopefully BFP 22 July
IvySedai BFP 1 August
PenguinsMummy BFP 15th August
VivClicquot BFP 25 August
Loopymumsy BFP 29 August
CaribouMoo BFP 7 September
StarflowerGirl BFP ~24 Sep
Appleblossoms BFP 9 Oc
Littlemiss72
Urbanlolly BFP 1 Nov

Hello peeps

Have been lurking rather than posting as I am feeling really miserable. Birthday on Friday, desperately want to know before then as will be really miserable that I'm not pg. I'd really like to have a drink on my birthday if it's going to be bad news but I'm not meant to officially test until Monday, so I can't celebrate at the weekend. Don't feel pg, really think it hasn't worked. Feeling increasingly pessimistic about it working before my due date (March 11th). Weather miserable. Wagner somehow still on X Factor. Life sucks. Spent most of weekend sobbing at DH. Although we did see the new Harry Potter movie yesterday :)

Hope you're all doing better than me! :)

Ok, this this super quick as gone from meet to meet today and reckon at least 4 more hours work ahead

Nix Hope you are symptomatic of a little bean snuggling in , I on the other hand have no symptoms whatsoever, real or imaginary so am expecting the ole biatch this week, bah!!

Choccy and Dachs hugs for you both.

Hairy Love to you (posted on your other thread) x

Waves to everyone else and sends Birthday wishes to AandRMum and Velvet

PS Wedding aniv fab, thanks. Only been married a year but it took him 20 years to finally get me to agree to a date...I'm not kidding, he used to chase me around the school playground when I was 13 boys!!!

Ahhh, that's sweet mamap

YRMOTB your DS's party sounds lovely, we did something similar for DD this year and it was lovely (completely manic, but lovely!)

Big (((hugs))) to choccy and to anyone else needing them today. I reckon Christmas is a really hard time of your if you're not entirely happy with your life becausev it seems to go against the grain of 24/7 compulsory jollity. Perhaps it will be less stressful if we try to accept that it's not going to be perfect and there are things we feel really sad about (and those feelings don't stop because it's Christmas) and just try to relax a bit and enjoy as much as we can?

My original due date was Christmas Day so I'm expecting it to be a little difficult. Stayed at that date for the first two scans, then was changed to the 21st at the 13 week scan, so we'll probably do Chinese lanterns or something on 21st but even so he was always my Christmas baby in my head . I'm going to chill out as much as I can but prepare myself for the fact that it won't be exactly "normal".

nix I really hope your symptoms are pg symptoms, it would be lovely to see a few bfps before Christmas to cheer us all up

wombat can I join you on the 8 day 2ww? Ff hasn't drawn my lines yet but looks as though I ov'd Friday-ish (that would be day 15 - a record!!! ). Of course this does not guarantee a normal luteal phase but it's definitely more promising than usual...

dachs I'm keeping my fx for you too, you never know...

Hello all just a quickie as on phone. ((dachs)) I've everything crossed for you honey. chocs sorry you're having a rubbish time too, good to hear from you though. Thanks all so much for your lovely messages. I'm due a smear test, joy, so maybe I'll see doc rather than nurse and bite the bullet re counselling then. I'm terrified it'll make it worse tho as currently just get on with stuff by not thinking about anything and worried if I do think about it it'll push me over the edge into depression rather than mopiness. Not sure I actually want to think about this stuff let alone talk about it, feels easier to file it into some dark corner in the back of my mind but maybe that's not a long term solution afterall....

mummya how long are you due to be about in England for? It's due to start snowing later this week so I'd get yourself back to sunny costa rica asap!!! :)

aandr I'm not a parent so feel free to disregard this but I would have thought if you've got the time and inclination homemade is way better-ironically the other mums are probably beating themselves up that they're bad parents cos they dont have time/skill to home make something!! I'd probably end up buying the supermarket one tho as my poor dc would end up having to explain to everyone what they've gone as otherwise!! Also party with close friends/family and homemade cake sounds like a lovely birthday :) don't worry about it!! Xx

Also when I was little I went to a fancy dress party as a witch and my outfit was made from a bin bag-it was awesome!!!

Waves to everyone else-hope your Mondays all went well!

Hehe mamap did DH used to kick footballs at your head at school?? Apparetly that's how small boys show they fancy girls at school-no surprise it took him so long to get a date if that's the case!!!

My boss said today that she'd "opened pandoras box"-had to hide my giggles as a coughing fit otherwise would have been way too hard to explain!!

I've just read back though the posts and realised iv done the most half-arsed catch up ever. Right here's an attempt to make amends:

teacake sorry you're having a tough time :( hopefully we'll get through the other side soon xx

wombat good work getting back into running, I'm sure it can't hurt a little burrower and if it makes you feel good it must be a good thing.

nix I have literally everything crossed for you!!

izz chrimbo due date is hard :(

babe party sounds fab, doesn't sound even slightly negligent to me. I'll keep you in my thoughts on Sunday.

sunny hope you're ok!

Train about to stop, have lovely evening all!! Xx