Just MC and ready to try again? Pack your cake wine and tightie whities and join us for more ranting weeping and most of all laughing! All welcome! (Part 8)

[MummyAbroad]

A safe haven for those just off the mc rollercoaster and thinking about getting back on or are already on the TTC rollercoaster. Be warned these lovely ladies chat, and the thread moves lightening fast, but all are welcome to join in any time

For those who have just mc'd, there is great info about your first cycle here

If you want to add yourself into the stats, just copy and paste the lot, change everyones CD (cycle day) if necessary and add yourself in.
WTF = first cycle after mc
WTTC = waiting to TTC
CD = cycle day
UCL = usual cycle length

cor quiet on 'ere tonight... you are all obviously dumbfounded by wangers performance tonight!

His did take his performance to a whole new level if 'interesting'

Hello all - popping in to say hi although you're all no doubt still tucked up in bed if you have any sense (I'm 8 hrs ahead of most of you). I am having a quiet sunday following going out and drinking wine last night - I know, I'm a wild woman. Actually I feel bad about drinking alcohol, does it really diminish chances of conceiving? Oh well, life has to go on hey.

I have ordered OPKs, thermometer and pre-seed off Amazon and booked myself in for accupuncture next week - confirmation that lurking on Mumsnet is making me much more obsessive and desperate well informed about fertility matters.

Enjoy your Sundays everyone.

Thanks Nix. I am going to try to relax and be hopeful seeing as there is nothing I can do right now anyway. I have asked for opinions on the ashermans websites (its great for info, but my god there are some scary stories on there!) and when I get back to CR will start looking for a new gynecologist (one that doesnt specialise in Vaginal Rejuvination) and hopefully that will give me a bit more confidence.

Last night I watched Anne Widicombe "dancing" still feel a bit queezy.

HKLady welcome to the club, you are now officially one of us

Hi hk glad you had a good night, do not get crazy obsessive about the healthy eating/drinking - a few glasses of wine aren't going to hurt you (I was out last night too - not a particularly heavy one but I did have a glass or three!)

I have a question for all the charters : went to bed at 12.30 last night, woke up and took my temp straight away and it was 36.51. Then looked at clock and realised it was only 2:30am so went back to sleep. Woke up again at 4:30am, took temp and it was 36.21. Went back to sleep. DCs woke us up at 7:20 (yay, lie-in!), dozed with them until 7:45 then took temp to try an get some kind of average and it was 36.55 (but had been some (not much) talking. Lay completely still for 10 mins without talking etc then tried again: 36.51.

Which temp would you record? I'm tempted to go for the 4:30 one as it's more my usual time for taking but it's also the "odd one out". If I had checked clock first at 2:30 I wouldn't have bothered, and then wouldn't have needed a third reading. Aagh, have confused myself!!

Morning mummye - hope you're feeling ok today. Anne Widdicombe dancing is indeed wrong on
so many levels

Morning!

I would do 36.21, the higher ones might be high for the wrong reasons (not enough sleep, moving around) but there is no such thing as a temp that is "too low" or misleadingly low.

Thanks mummye

Morning, sounds like anne widdecome is up there with Wangers perf! Grim :(

I didnt bother taking a temp this morning after i went to bed at half elevn, was up at 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, and then eventually woke at 9 :( partly DS needing to wee and partly me having a terrible tummy :( Thankfully DH went out for an early morning bike ride, leaving me to snooze and DS is still snoring too :) leave him where he is he was really cranky and warm yesterday.. not right atm i dont think!

Feeling pretty grotty now though,

Q for Mummy. How long are you sticking around here my lovely, when do you plan on flying back? Are you having an early christmas whilst here with your family?
And finally have you acclimatised yet?!?!

Catch up later xx

Good stuff HK (about the amazon and the wine

Morning all, been in hiding for a little while. I see I'm on the BFP list. Date was 15th Oct and now in 9th week feeling pretty rough tbh. Scared to after all the eventful MC earlier this year.

Just wanted to come and update you all and say hello! Not booking in with DR's or MW until I'm ready, I just could not face going through it all again - bit like tempting fate.

Hope your all keeping well, love to all and happy Sunday. x

Hello Littlemiss I moved you to BFP list, hope you dont mind. 9 weeks is pretty good going! We have a couple of other early pregnacy lurkers here, appleblossoms and and urbanlolly are also a few weeks in. May you all have happy pregnancies and beautiful babies! xxx

Nix I have a flight back booked for Dec 3rd, but might change it to earlier if I dont need to do anything more medical/legal here. Havent acclimatised and I dont plan on trying! brrrrrrrr! (but DS and I did have a nice wintry stroll round Kingston on Friday, the sun was out and it was lovely)

Morning everyone, I'm at in-laws hiding in the bedroom, one if his cousins incoming with their little girl and she's 20 weeks pg :( I know it's wrong but I'm thinking why does she get to have 2 and I'm still trying? I know I'm really lucky I've been trying since July and pg twice already, which makes me feel worse :(

HKbaby I agree you can't put your whole life on hold, I'm having a few drinks now, then will hold off pre-OV and 2ww (well, will certainly try my best in the Xmas season)

mummyE don't blame you for going back, the weathers awful here, and if it was me I'd feel more settled when back home in a routine

izzy temps still a mystry to me, so I'd add them all and take an average!

dachs I hope you're having a restfull 2ww, or as best you can given the circumstances x

nix I hope you manage an afternoon nap to catch up

littlemiss congrats on the BFP, I can imagine how you must be feeling, and don't blame you for lurking here. -if When I get pregnant again I won't want to grad straight away. Interesting thought on doc/midwife, I don't think I'd tell them until I had too, as already been told I can't have early scan

Phew! Sorry for essay. I hope everyone's Sunday is going ok?

orange you are in good company, she is just very very lucky try not to bump stare and find something to focus on xxxxxx

Thanks :) I've found champagne and cake are helping, along with avoidance. The 3 year old is adorable, she came over to me and I had to fight the urge to pick her up and hug her

(((hugs))) to orange and tunnocks - hope you're ok tt that must be worrying. Probably all part of the general post-mc WTF-ness sadly but glad everything looked ok on scan - have they given you anything to sort things out? Hope it settles down soon x

littlemiss - good to hear from you, I'm glad you're ok and don't blame you for not booking in yet. It's a tough call. Fx things continue to go ok for you - any chance of an early scan to put your mind at rest?

Hi guys,

Just coming out of lurking to say my AF arrived this morning! First one and I even did my temps for some reason before I got up so have a cd1 reading! Hurrah!

Hope everyone is having a good weekend

Hi all,

Just a quickie, is anyone here getting counselling I'm sure I remember that someone was (sorry, I can't remember who), if so, are you finding it helpful? I've spent the weekend with my mum who is convinced that I'm depressed and thinks I should have counselling as she thinking the reason why I'm just not getting over this is that it's dragged back a load of buried feelings about my dad dying a few years ago. I can't see that talking about stuff will make it any different, but I think she's right that maybe I am depressed so maybe I should give it a go, but just wondered if anyone's got any experience? Thanks ladies! Proper catch up later xx

Teacake you arent alone lovely its easy to feel that you are depressed, could be that you are, and need to seek councelling? sorry cant spell! Same pink?

(((hugs to all who need them)))

has anyone seen owlshoes recently?

teacake dont hang head in shame lovely, we all have indulgent posts xxx thats why were here xxx

(((hugs))) to tt and pink it's bloody hard isn't it? I do feel for you and tt I kind of know how you feel about the of announcements, I'm coming up to my due date and have had 7 birth announcements on facebook over the last couple of months. Do not feel guilty or self-indulgent, just look after yourself. pink I'm really sorry to hear about your dad, I think sometimes a second loss not only adds to it but sort of compounds the grief about the first loss as well if that makes sense? So it's natural that it brings back those issues and feelings of grief related to your dad

I think it was knitter who had counselling and really rated it? Maybe worth asking her more about it?

Pink So sorry about your Dad. I would highly recommend counselling. I haven't had official therapy but one of my friends is a psychologist and I have made use of her skills more times than I can count and surprisingly talking things through with someone who is non-judgmental and can listen well makes the world of difference, as it allows you to make connections between repetitive patterns of behaviour and work out things to do to break them. I think the deal is - You know yourself best and therapy gives you some head space to work things out.

Teacake Pink big group hug. Depression is just so hard - I teetered on it a while ago and was frustrated by doctors trying to throw drugs at it.

Nix I am amazed you are alive and kicking after that much up and downing. Hope your tummy bug has disappeared and you get a decent kip tonight.

I am trying to make an angel outfit for nursery play. Went to the millionth 4 year old birthday party this afternoon and have come back feeling completely out of sorts. What happened to having a couple of best friends over, a wonky homemade cake, some party games by Mum or big sister/aunt and a slice of cake to take home to Mum - did I grow up in a sitcom? Anyway overheard all the Mums talking about the angel outfits they have bought! Poor DD1 is going to be the only one with a homemade outfit - can you be socially excluded at this age - am I rubbish Mum to be using old flynetting to make her outfit? Was feeling all creative but now feel like a cheapskate!

A&R fwiw tesco and sainos do reallly cheap kiddies dressing up outfits 6 or 8 quid a pop! IKWYM we have been to 5 kids parties in the last 2 weeks all with bouncy castles/teas/fab party bags, we did tea and cake for fam and close friends only!! Netting is better than a plastic bag, xx

I am ok this eve, we had a curry from a very reputable restaurant that we always use for take out last night and im not sure whether it was that.... either that or i am 7dpo and its a burrowing bean and a hormone surge that caused it!!! very doubtful on the latter Have had an aft at Fun4all with DS and a couple of chums and their olds and they had a fab time!

pink sorry you lost your dad a while back lovely. It makes sense to go chat to someone if you think the MC has had an effect and dragged up old buried but not forgotten issues x

Well 7 dpo and symptom spotting of course! Nowt! Tummy cramps galore sorry TMI alert my bowel/insides feel so enflamed from last night i think thats what they are rather than anything else!