First post - Likelihood to conceive at 18?

[Kazine]

I know what you are probably thinking - "Why is this girl trying to conceive at 18, she is just a child herself?" But I do have my reasons for trying to conceive, number one being that a baby is what I want more than anything. Number two being that I suffer from very bad depression, and the idea of a baby is the one thing that keeps me in a consistently happy mood. I wouldn't say that I was still a child myself as I have been through more difficulties in my 18 years than some people go through in a lifetime. I hope you will all treat me as just another mum-to-be trying to conceive!

Now, onto my question. Since I am so young, and my partner is also young, is there a greater chance of me conceiving? I know it can take a while to get pregnant, but I'm just wondering if the process of conception may possibly arrive sooner because of my age? :)

Thanks for your help,
Kazine x

Do you think anyone fully appreciates how hard it is? I've done my reading, I know it's difficult, I know you get barely any sleep, but I don't think anyone knows just how difficult it is until it actually comes along.

Junebug, put it into that context, and yes that probably is the last thing a baby needs. But what about a mother who used to be suicidal, who brought a child into the world, dedicated their life to theirs, and will not have a need to take their own life because they actually have a responsibility and a reason to stay in the world.

Look, I'm bored of defending myself to you lot. I really am. If it all turns out as horribly as you all say it is going to, then I'll put my hands up and admit it was a stupid mistake.

Kazine, Please listen to getdown, she talks a lot of sense

Kazine, can you not wait until you finish uni to ttc?

Yes, GetDown, I do have supportive family and friends, who would be very willing to help me should I ever need it.

Ah a baby, that well known suicide prevention device

memoo, I haven't even started university, and I don't intend to go.

You're right, nobody knows how hard it is until it happens to them.

I longed for a baby, had no history of depression, a very good job, a university education, a wealthy, devoted husband, a large house and a wonderful mum around the corner, was 27 yrs old...and I still got crushing postnatal depression.

It won't be horrible for you, I sincerely hope so for your unborn child's sake. But I do think you should work on making your life better before you bring another, helpless life into the equation.

"Ah a baby, that well known suicide prevention device hmm"

No need to be sarcastic. If you people are so concerned about my future baby, and are convinced I'm going to mess up so bad, surely the best thing to do would be to be friendly to me now, so that when I do encounter difficulties, I will want to come back to this forum for advice, and not want to avoid this place like the plague because the majority of responses I got were negative?

You have to be careful looking after baby laundry too- you should always wash with care.

"I have to find something that I actually want to stay in the world for. This is what will keep me here. Someone who needs me. Someone who I can love and care for unconditionally."

No pressure on your child there, then.

You silly, silly, selfish girl.

You think, BoF?

I hope so.

But sassy, Tethers, don't you think?

"No pressure on your child there, then.

You silly, silly, selfish girl."

So friendly, welcoming :). Glad I posted here.

BOF

Kazine, be realistic - not many people are going to say: 'You're 18 yrs old, with no real qualifications, no career, no home of your own, a history of depression and a boyfriend who, despite this, thinks it's a good idea to get you up the duff. Yeh! Go for it, girl!'

No sane, responsible mother is going to say that. Sorry to burst your bubble.

I don't think anybody wants to attack you or hurt your feelings. I think most people are just quite afraid for you, and for your future baby.

Kazine, that was me being nice.

I actually think you are a stupid, narcissistic girl who is potentially about to ruin a child's life.

Report and delete me if you like.

Or just start a blog.

"You silly, silly, selfish girl."

And this ISN'T attacking me? Seriously, it's starting to bore me. I came to the forum, I was honest about what I wanted to do, and now I'm just getting a load of abuse. It's boring. Advising me against something, fair enough, but name-calling is just a bit pathetic.

No, it is attacking you.

WWC, do you really think so? would HQ not have been on to her by now?

Kazine, not everyone is attacking you

"No, it is attacking you."

I know it's attacking me. It was a sarcastic, rhetorical question. And you call me stupid. -.-

"Kazine, not everyone is attacking you"

I know. Some are though. And it's starting to grate on me.

and tbh if you are so determined to have a baby you are going to have to toughen up a little bit because you are going to get a lot of people questioning your decision.