TTC after a Miscarriage - Let This Be Our Lucky Thread!!!

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Right Ladies, lets hope this helps speed up our ability to read and type more messages and help and support one another through these tough times.

This thread is for laughing at, crying at, screaming at, bawling at!!

We've all been through so much, and together we can get one another through it. Lets Do It!!!!!!

Here's to weeks of Bd and legs in the air

Love and positive hugs to you all.

xxx

Sorry Hellkat, what a bummer. You have such a nightmare with your af's. I bled constantly after my ds for near on 9 months so i sympathise with you, honestsly i do. ((((( big hugs for you )))))

Chocolate peanuts still in the frame for a bfp too though.

Morning early risers.I know I have tested early,AF not due till Friday but just dont think I am ever going to get pregnant again.

Sometimes I wonder if I am being told something.My dad upset me the other day as just out of the blue he told me there had been an article in the paper about the risks of having babies when your an 'older mother' and later that day I saw a woman a bit older than me with a five year old with downs.My dd is such a lovely child I wonder if I should just leave it as to be honest its making me v depressed.

Sorry for a moan (and so early to)

Your feeling negative because you have tested too early. Its not too late for you because if it is then its too late for me aswell. We are very lucky to have children but we are meant to have more. Cheer up choccy peanut, its not over yet I have exactly the same woories as you, but we have to let nature decide. Deciding not to try will be a hard decision.

Cp- there is still hope hun! Look at all the famous women that don't decide to start their families until they hit forty!
I did say that if I came on this month I'd go and get endo treated, but don't think i can put off ttc for a year. Might leave it and see what next month brings.

Morning!

Well, I'm still a-sniffin' and a-sneezin' but not feeling too bad.

CP - Don't be too put out by the bfn. You still have 5 days til your AF is due. Don't test again til friday (as long as the old cow doesn't show!). I'm still feeling very positive for you And you will be pregnant again, I'm sure. Don't give up hope, hun. You never know whats just aroung the corner. keep smiling sweetie! {{{{HUGS}}}}

HK - Hunney, I'm so sorry AF has raised her ugly head. I felt so positive too. But the same goes for you - never give up hope. {{{{HUGS}}}}

Maddy - Hmmm, feeling faint, eh?? What could that mean??? Hmmm... When are you due to test Maddy?

Ch- Thanks hun! I think you should spend the day doing naff all apart from eating loads of choc, snuggling under a duvet, watching tv. Love doing that when I'm feeling poorly!

Tuesday Coathanger But ive been heaving all morning. Its not funny anymore these are serious pg symptoms. Ive had them exactly like this but not so early xxxxxx And all those months that ive imagined symptoms too, well this is totally different. Im not ill, i dont have a bug as not been actually physically sick and my bottom end is fine too.

" My bottom end is fine" LOL!!!

Well, I would still wait til Tuesday maddy, if thats when AF would be due (but its not coz you are )

No duvet nd choc for me. trying to lose some weight. Put on half a stone since MC and I must stop it now before half a stone becomes 1 stone and that becomes 5 stone1!!

Already done shed loads this morning (again!) Don't know whats got into me! Already done washing and hung it out, hoovered, made a shepherds pie (!), washed up, cleaned kitchen - flippin' heck, what has happened to me??!!

ARRRRGGGGHHHH! Just put glasses on coz I'm having trouble reading PC screen (too lazy to put them on normally!) and DS3 must have had them coz they are all cock-eyed and are sitting scewiff on my face!

Morning ladies

HellKat-so soz about AF-BITCH! ((xx))

maddyd-we are due on same day next Saturday-is that right? I did a test yesterday and yes, I know it is too early but there was not even an evap line I am testing again tomorrow then 3 days later on Thursday and if still BFN then it's clearly not going to be. You seem to have all the right symptoms so here's hoping for a +ive result hun ((xx))

CHOCOLATEPEANUT-you must be due AF around about the same time as me and maddyd-early BFN's are horrid aren't they? Wishing you lots of luck too ((xx))

Hugs to everyone else ((xx))

Turned DD's cot bed into a bed last night and she only fell out of bed once-hurrah but did get up at 7.30am this morning (not so good). It is also her first morning at nursery tomorrow but I'm sure she will be fine.

Time for a morning drink and a bisc so catch you all later.

xx

Pmsl Ch.
You sound like me! I'm meant to use my specs for shopping, watching tv, using comp etc but won't go out in them lol. 9/10 times when I'm out, I'm squinting 'cos I can't see anything in the distance. All just a blur.
I'm just about to to tackle whole house. Should'nt take too long as I do it once a week. Got my roast ready to put on to. Got to be something in the air.
Maddy- god it really sounds like you are. Ohhhh it's exciting!

Humphrey im due on Fri and thought id do the predictor test on Tue as its what ive always used before. xxxx Im getting my hopes up now, its hard not too when a glass of water turns my stomach

I'm meant to wear glasses for reading, but they help with computer too, as they magnifiy the screen. I never take them out - don't think Ive ever worn them in public! But my eyes are getting gradually worse so must have them checked (takes me half an hour to read 1 page of a book coz the words just blur into one another!)

OOOOOooooooooo!!!! Maddy

maddyd-I've got Tuesday off and DD will be at her Grandmas so I will be waiting with bated breath . Has your sense of smell increased as that is usually a sure sign? I'm really excited for you hun ((xx))

xx

My sense of smell is very good anyway. Im constantly smelling things and moaning when other people cant. The smell of perfume made me nauseous this morning, which is common for me when pg. If i go off the smell of my DH to be then thats confirmed it. I couldnt stand him near me in any of my pregnancies for the first 12 weeks.

Im trying not to read anything into all theese signs but i cant help it. Just off to smell some stuff to see if it makes me heave

Will inhaling my sons nappy and then puking count do you think

I don't know whether this is the right thread to add this to. I had a missed m/c last month. In the hospital after we'd found out that the sac was empty DH and me had a chat and decided we would try again, even tho it wasn't planned. Then he decided it wasn't a good idea. Then we had a big row and he said of course we would and he was just being silly. Then yesterday he said he'd had another think and he didn't want any more. No discussion, just a no. His arguments make sense- not enough money, not enough room, too old, pushing our luck and should be thankful for the kids we've got- but they don't help.

I had 11 weeks of what-will-be plans in my head. I'd sorted out how we'd manage re work and money and school and everything else. My future view included another child, and that was all taken away. The thought of never ever having another child is just too painful. I'm 42 so it's not as if we've got the luxury of waiting for a while to see what happens.

I found myself in tears in the middle of the supermarket yesterday. They were playing a song that often makes me cry but only in the background. DH says it was tears for my dad who died many years ago, and my grandparents who died more recently, but it didn't feel like it. I woke up in the night seriously thinking of having another child and leaving DH. How stupid is that? I feel actually unhinged.

We bought a new puppy on Friday. I wondered why DH had caved in after saying no to it last week but something he said yesterday made me realise it's a sop to take my mind off having a baby. How does he think there is any comparison? (puppy is sweet though if very piddly)

Welcome Oldfool!
Feel free to join us here. Even if you're not actively trying yet, it's a wonderful support network for letting go, talking about anything and everything. Also, it's good to know we've all had mc's, be it one or many, so we know exactly what it's like.
xxx

Welcome oldfool-and less of the old. Hope you sort things out with DH ((xx))

maddyd-DD's nappy makes me heave most of the time-lol ((xx))

xxxx

Hi Oldfool!

I'm sorry to see you on this thread, meaning nobody should have to post on this thread, if you see what I mean.

I have similar issues with my DH. I fell PG unexpectedly and it took him a long time to come to terms with it. Just as he was getting used to the idea, I MCed. We had a new future to look forward to, making plans, deciding to extend into the loft to make room (already have 3 DSs), buying a new car etc. After the MC, it took me a long time to pluck up the courage to tell him I want to try again. But when I did he told me he didn't want another - No Way! We had a terrible couple of weeks, hardly speaking and avoiding each other. Then we had a good long chat about it and we actually saw the only solution was to separate. We felt that whoever got their way, somebody would feel let down and resentful. Neither of us wanted this to happened as we love each other so much, so after even more talking we decided to wait 6 months. We will dicuss it again then, although I don't think things will go my way. But it buys me some time and, who knows, he might see my point of view.

So, here I am, posting here even thought I'm not TTC. But I still post because the girls on here are fab and give you so much support through a difficult time. We ahve all suffered at least one loss, and know what this feels like. So, even though you may not be TTC, you are so so welcome.

Any anyway, you'll probably be TTC before me!!

Oh Maddy, Maddy, Maddy..

Lets see now, feeling faint, nausea, smells making you queasy. Hmmm, what could that mean? I wonder

FINGERS CROSSED!!! TOES CROSSED!!! LEGS CROSSED!!! EYES CROSSED!!!

All thise go for you too CP - EVERYTHING CROSSED!!!

Hello Ladies,

Just watching Pride & Prejudice on sky, happily gazing at Mr Darcy, yummy

Hellkat - I thought i had an implantation bleed last month, very light blooeding, and some brown discharge, was around the right time, but obviosuly its nothing and AF has been and gone. Still don't know what it was, weird. oops have just carried on reading and seen AF has arrived, what a cow!

CP - sorry to hear of your BFN's, hope you're not feeling too low. You're plenty young enough to keep trying, of course there are more risks, but you know that, doesn't mean you can't go ahead and have a positive pregnancy and healthy baby, your time will come

CH - Hello, hope your sniffles have vanished and your not coming down with something

Maddyd - How you doing? everything alright? when is it you're testing? next week? sounds like you're having some symptoms, and it so hard not to get your hopes up isn't it. Fingers crossed.

Oldfool - Welcome to this thread, firstly I am so sorry to hear of your loss. It is horrible to have planned everything and have i taken away from you, and it feels like a huge aprt of your life has been takene away. It will feel the same for your DH, and he will be hurting too. Men are very odd, they don't react to things like us emotional women. Sounds like your DH is bottling things up and refusing to believe it hasd happened. I hope that once he has come to terms with it, he will come round to wanting another.

GOOD LUCK to all you testers, maddyd, Humphreyscorner, and chocolate peanut, thinking of you all.

We've had a busy weekend which was tougher than expected. we went to my BIL's 40th party, on the way i remembered that when we were invited we said we would have our new baby with us, and would definitly try to be there. it was so tough going without a baby, but we have survived. This ttc is tough, i have strong feelings that i will be pg this cycle, and i know i will be gutted if i'm not, this is one month my hopes will be high, get ready to catch me when i fall girls, i'm going to need you

OF - just want to give u big cuddles and wish u all the luck in the world honey ((((hugs)))