TTC after a Miscarriage - Let This Be Our Lucky Thread!!!

[Diddle]

Right Ladies, lets hope this helps speed up our ability to read and type more messages and help and support one another through these tough times.

This thread is for laughing at, crying at, screaming at, bawling at!!

We've all been through so much, and together we can get one another through it. Lets Do It!!!!!!

Here's to weeks of Bd and legs in the air

Love and positive hugs to you all.

xxx

Oh god!! HC I'm so sorry hun! I didn't mean to forget you will be testing soon. Please, please forgive me... My memory is the worst you have ever come across, really it is terrible...err, what was I talking about, whats terrible...Hmm????

Seriously though, I've got everything crossed for you too, really tight, infact its really beginning to hurt now [face grimacing in extreme pain emoticon!]

Welcome home Diddle. I didn't realise this trip involved such a horrible situation But I hope it wasn't too bad and that you managed to have a good time.

Ooooo, I think I'm gonna burst coz I'm so excited for you all. I really really hope you all get BFPs as soon as poss....

...Then again, you'll all leave me on my own, you'll all be up the duff, and I'll still be trying to convince my husband of the benefits of having another baby, let alone TTC!! Boo-hoo!! Don' t leave me [WAIL], don't leave me here all by myself [WAIL again]...

( only kidding!)

Could I join the testers on Tuesday? Am now 7 days late and have loads of symptons but have been so desperate for a baby that I wondering if i could produce a phantom pregnancy. I shall feel soooo foolish if its negative. I have sore boobs, am very tearful, feel like someone's drained every drop of energy out of my body, strong sense of smell (went to a farm yesterday and wanted to heave every time we went near the pigs). DH has banned me from testing until I'm 3 months because he feels that way I wont panic or be stressed out. BUt it doesn't really work that way.

Anyway I ramble hope I haven't bored anyone.

Coathanger and oldfool Its taken me 2 years to persaude dh to try for another. We have two girls and they are his world so I really don't understand why the reluctance. There's not really a lot of room for compromise is there. How do you meet halfway on another child . Eventually I explained that if we didn't try for another then it would be a pain that I would carry around forever and that this pain would probably turn to anger. I asked him how great was his desire not to have another child as it was putting a big enough strain on our relationship that it might well break it. I'm still not sure he understands how I can love him yet leave him because of a child we don't have. I've tried to explain the passionate need inside me and bless him he is trying to understand this. As I've said, he's come round and we're trying for our third. He's just petrified that I will not be satisfied with 3 and will want more and..... maybe I wont, but if I have to go through too many mcs for getting to 3 children I'm not sure I'll have the courage. We never put a timeline on things I just picked moments and talked him through how I felt. Good luck to you both

Diddle, have just read a bit more. How was the party. A school mum has just had her baby and although I never sat down and calculated due dates basically her baby was due around the same time that ours was. (that pregnancy was totally unplanned but would have been welcome). Did anyone comment? Shortly after my first mc I went on a hen night and completely forgot that a) I'd told the hen and that b) forgotton to tell her that I wasn't anymore. It was awful. I turned up and they'd made a sign for the "pregnant one" etc

Oh Wils how awful for you

Welcome oldfool from another old fool.Your dh will come round and if he doesnt get him drunk and seduce him!

Thanks for words of comfort ladies.Been v v emotional today and dd was being typical 22 month old and I was really angry with her and shouted at her.Feel bad now.

Got v sore boobs too but TRYING not to read into it and had another bfn with ebay test but it was last one so thats it now, wont be buying other unless AF late.

At least one of us has to be pg this month.......

Coathanger-I forgive you petal of course! I don't think it's going to be my month as having horried AF pains tonight so feel that the evil one is on her way so you won't be left alone just yet ((xx))

Wills-don't know how you can hold off testing any longer-what willpower! Is that how you picked your name? Good luck for Tuesday ((xx))

CHOCOLATEPEANUT-don't give up yet. ((xx))

Diddle-you were very brave holding it together at the party ((xx))

Good night all and hugs to everyone.

((xx))

Morning Everyone, Ha ha Hellkat i beat you to it today. Wake wakey sleepy head.

Diddle Ahh bless you. I have got my hopes up too as well for this month. We bd,d non stop, we must have caught. We are all expert cacthers here so dont fret honey we will be ready if we have to be xxxx Where are you in your cycle now??
(cos we cant have bloody tickers i have to keep asking)

Welcome Wills and yes we can all test tomorrow although if mine should be pos i will post the picture on the board just so you can all check it for me. God im so nervous. Boobs are sore and heavy this morning but dont feel sick.

Forgot to telll you girls i got that dress and it is beautifull and i felt beautifull in it. Although there is no room for growth, the previous bride had no boobs and im a 34d so quite well endowned for my small frame. If i was pregnant then i may have to get some one to let the waist out a little, is that possible???? im sure it is, its wether there is time though?? Oh well ill worry about that tomorrow if i have too.

Arnt you proud of me girlies for holding out???

Hc do you normally get sore boobs a week before af due and as for cramps well thats very common in early pg isnt it. Well i hope so cos i have those too.

Morning all - Thanks ladies, good to know you'll catch me when i fall

Maddyd - Yes they should be able to let your dres out if there's enough spare fabric from when they put it together. Lets hope that you DO need it letting out, that would be great.

Wills - thats terrible, i would have been beside myself if someone had done that, i know they didn't know about it, but it would ahve upset me. No nobody mentioned anything at the party, i think they have all forgotten it even happened, nobody talks about it anymore, even the people who aren't afraid to.

We also went to see a friend who had her baby 7 motnhs ago, last tiem we saw them i was just pregnant the 2nd time and their baby was a few days old, she has grown loads, and despite the fact that I want a baby sooo much i couldn't be jealous or sad at their house. All i felt was joy for them, they are so lucky, they have a beautiful little girl.

cycle day 18

Maddy- Ner ner ner ner ner. I had an excuse. Poxy comp buggering about this a.m! Sounds very hopeful!!! I'll be on here early in the morning to check!
Diddle- Sorry it was a difficult trip but well done, you held it together. We'll all be there for you next month, don't you worry!
Hc,cp- Here's to loads of of luck tomorrow!!!
Ch- Hunny you won't be on your own. You'll be pg before me the rate I'm going. I'm giving it until christmas. If I'm not pg by then, I'll see if i can get the endo treated.

Thanks HC - i felt very brave too, tried not to think about it, was very good as well, i drove so dh could have a drink so didn't even get chance to drown my sorrows. What made it harder was that there were 2 toddlers there, bopping away to the disco looking very cute and loveable, we were so jealous, even DH commented.

Morning Hellkat - How dare your pc play up, doesn't it know how important it is for you to be on mumsnet so early. How you doing???

Morning all!! How are you all today??

Maddy - glad you got the dress. Your assets are large like mine - I'm 5ft1in, size 10-12 but have got 34DD boobs!! A little top heavy !
Lets hope you have to have your dress taken out! You have the most amazing willpower for not testing sooner than you are. Is it because deep down you know you are and don't really need to have it confirmee, iyswim?

Diddle - did it all go to plan last night ? You find that don't you, you expect to feel jealous and maybe a little resentful when you see others with a baby, but when it comes to seeing them you just feel happy for them. Your time will deffo come

HC - thank you hun. was worried I might have upset you I really wouldn't want to do that to any of you...

CP - DO NOT TEST UNTIL AF DUE!!!! Sorry don't mean to shout at you but I hate the idea of you being upset unnecessarily. Can't bare any of you being disappointed

HK - how are you hun?

MORNING ch, oops me shouting too, sorry. must go to school, back soon

Diddle,Ch- Doing so-so here. Chucking myself into huge "Monica" routines to keep busy. Even drew up my very own colour coded rota! Fed up with the whole business. My gut feeling is that endo has got very bad, thus damaging fertility but I'll wait and see. Was sooooo sure I'd cracked it last month. Bloody dodgy endo ridden parts!

HK - just want to give you a big warm cuddly {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{HUG}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

Thanks Ch hunny! Much needed! {{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}} back at ya! How's the cold now?xc

I have enourmous will power because i have had a false posotive before from those very early tests. You can get a pos but the egg doesnt implant so you have a missed mc that you dont really know about. Also evaporation lines on those chaeper tests are a killer.

Im doing a proper test so theres no messing and yes deep down i feel like i am. Theres no mistaking these symptoms. The only thing is im getting them alot earlier than usual. xxx So could be a bug, but does a bug give you sore boobies.

Off to pick up my work, and a test, catch you all soon. xx

Ummmmm two little pink spots! Both in heaven and frightened. Scared to breath incase something goes wrong again. Am at work (had to buy test). 2nd spot wasn't really really strong so am now nervous that this might signify something not being right. Suspect I'm just determined to worry.

Wills is my dh's nickname for me before we got married. Its a shortened version of my maiden name. And no.... I have no will power but cleverly had no tests in the house either.

Ahhhhhhhhhhhh! WILLS!!!! Are you telling us you have a BFP???!!!!!

WOW-WEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!!!!!

Yiper-dee-do-dah yipper-dee-day!!!!!!!!!

SOOOOOOOO PLEASED FOR YOU!!

(sorry don't mean to shout but made up for you!!)

BIG {{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}

I'm going to start getting paranoid. Everytime I manage to get 5 mins to come on no one else is around!

Maddy - Sore boobies can happen for other reasons but it would have been consistent. For instance I couldn't use that as a reason for thinking I was as I have had very sore boobs that get incredibly sore at the end of the month since I gave up breastfeeding dd2 (about 14 months ago!!!). My GP told me that my system was still confused as to whether there was a baby around and told me to eat tonnes and tonnes of primrose oil. Unfortunately I didn't cos I wanted to fall instead and you're not supposed to have epm when pregnant (well thats what it says on the back). So yes there are other reasons for sore boobs but unlikely to be coincidence at this point in time iyswim. Besides mine have gone to the next level up - the level where when you turn over in bed it wakes you up. Still it reminds me that I'm pregnant still so I don't mind.

Oh CH what a wonderful reaction. I've now got tears in my eyes. Forgot to say that sympton - that absolutely anything can make me cry

Just one thing though. What does BFP mean. Now BFG I know but BFP I'm not sure about.

BIG FAT POSITIVE!!!!!!!!!

Congrats Wills!!!
Bfp= big fat positive!