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Anyone plan to start ttc in nov/dec?

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asouthwoldmummy · 17/09/2010 11:05

Hi I'm new to the conception boards. Is anyone else planning to start ttc in November or december and wants to join me on a new thread?
DS has an appointment at GOSH on 25 November, we are waiting to get that out of the way before ttc number 2!

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passthechocs · 12/10/2010 15:28

Hello-
Can I join too? Think I recognise a couple of names from another thread! Am TTC DC#3 and would be good to be able to talk about it. We were very lucky with the first 2, although think DH would have liked more trying Grin, and am quite new to getting to know bits around ovulation.

passthechocs · 12/10/2010 15:34

Maybe bits was the wrong word... Anyway, needing to be aware of when I ovulate! Would say though that there is never a perfect time to have a baby - I understand the whole maternity leave thing, but have seen friends put off TTC until the house/job/car situation is just right and then struggling.

ghosteditor · 12/10/2010 15:41

Helloooo passthechocs, good luck with #3! Good to have you on the list.

Would say though that there is never a perfect time to have a baby

So true! I love my career and am in it for the long haul, so I actually think it might make more sense to have kids while I'm quite junior. I work for a company that has never had women in my department on maternity leave - in fact most of the senior staff are men with young children and stay at home wives, so it will be interesting to see how the directors react. Having said that, three of my (female) colleagues in the US office have just got married, so the company is going to have to start thinking about how to cope with maternity leave

And of course I have no idea whether I will love being a mum more than my job, so I'm trying not to make too many assumptions about where my head will be in the next few years.

CheerfulYank · 12/10/2010 16:07

Popping in to say I'm 28 and will be TTC #2. I was..erm...25 when DS was born. (I'm exhausted, actually had to think about that for a minute :) ) Be back later!

ArabellaRose · 12/10/2010 16:55

Am going to seem obsessive now, but I admit I have bought a clear blue fertility monitor this month even though won't TTC until December! Have become an Ovulation Nerd!!

It's definitely not straightforward combining pregnancy and career. There is never a convenient time. I'm not going to enjoy telling my colleagues if and when I'm pregnant again!

Tokyotwist · 12/10/2010 16:57

Regarding not ever being the right time. That is very true. We've worked it out so dd will be moving out of nursery into school as we can't afford two in nursery (even though she is only part time).

I've also recently been promoted which helps, but I wish I could go up to full time now as my maternity pay will be based on how many hours I currently work, which will mean a maximum of 6mths instead of the 9 I had when dd was born.

Unfortunately the extra pay wouldn't cover dd's nursery costs and DH isn't keen on the idea of her in nursery all day anyway.

It's all so very complicated, isn't it? Smile

CheerfulYank · 12/10/2010 19:33

That's how we are too...ideally I wanted two or three close in age, but now DS will be at least four by the time we have another. There are advantages to that though; he talks and uses the loo and can entertain himself for long stretches of time. :)

Is anyone else trying to get their weight down before TTC? I was always thin before DS but then I ate and ate and ate while pregnant and now my BMI isn't in the "normal" range anymore. Blush I'm thinking I'd like to take care of that first. Is anyone else in the same boat?

ovumahead · 12/10/2010 21:08

Cheerful I'd like to lose at least 1 stone before conceiving! I'm about 2 stone overweight... it's so depressing. Can't seem to shift it, I can lose about 1/2 stone then I just seem to give up. Never quite understand why though!

Tokyo I don't know how you have a shake for lunch. Does it really keep you going? I go all weird if I don't eat regularly.

Tokyotwist · 12/10/2010 21:37

Cheerful I was trying to loose a stone, but have plateaued at 9 pounds. I am more concerned with my waist measurements than my actual weight though as my BMI is still within the healthy zone, but my waist is much bigger than is recommended. And of course getting pregnant isn't going to help that much.

Ovumahead I am like you and get all shakey if I don't eat properly, but I've found that as long as I eat a proper breakfast (never used to eat any at all) and dinner then I am okay.

If I feel at all funny, I just have an apple and a drink. Seems to work.

I am struggling at the moment having done so well for weeks. The problem is I've become bored with what I was eating so try to have something different but healthy for lunch. That isn't working as well as the shakes did and I find I'm starving by dinner. I'm going to have to go back on the shakes if I want to shift any more weight.

It also helped to keep a diary of what I was eating. That kept me focused on the healthy stuff.

CheerfulYank · 12/10/2010 21:42

I'm the same, I get all odd if I don't eat every so often. I find some protein or a piece of fruit usually does the trick...also I want to exercise more but it's hard. I find if I don't do it right away in the morning it doesn't happen, and that means getting up around 5:30. Ick! :) I think having a goal of "I will TTC when my BMI is more or less healthy" will help because I am broody beyond belief! :)

ghosteditor · 12/10/2010 22:22

I'm still within the healthy bmi but could really stand to lose about a stone. I do lots of sport but have struggled with injury for the last couple of years and have piled on the weight since being unable to train extensively.

I get very wobbly if I don't eat regularly. Most of my training is in the evenings so I often don't eat from 1pm to 10pm (still haven't eaten my evening meal), so I end up trying to eat a big lunch to get through training, but still needing a meal late because I'm so hungry by 10pm. And then to top it all off there's a theory that eating this late is really bad for metabolism.

Plus I'm veggie so I struggle to get enough protein and am a carb junkie.

Argh!

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asouthwoldmummy · 12/10/2010 23:19

To all wanting to lose weight- if you want to do it for you then fantastic, but don't do it just to ttc.

We were on the waiting list for a specialist type of ivf (ds has a genetic condition) but have decided to ttc naturally. I was quite obese (why I lost 3.5 stone) as they won't give nhs funding to obese women. They will give funding for women in the overweight category as it isn't enough to affect fertility.

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ArabellaRose · 13/10/2010 13:20

Does anyone else think that talking about TTC like this makes it harder to wait?Confused

Summerbird73 · 13/10/2010 13:26

oo can i jump on too! i havent had time to read the whole thread as am on lunch at work but we are going to TTC on 1 January!!! (providing AF doesnt get in the way)

I have a 16mo DS and am working part time at the mo. My full time hours start on 1 Jan so i dont want to start working full time and announce i am PG at the same time IYSWIM. So DH has said i have to wait until then Sad

BUT we are v excited. I agree that talking about it is making the wait longer Confused

Summerbird73 · 13/10/2010 13:27

not that i reckon it is going to happen straight away but it would have been sods law if it did!

passthechocs · 13/10/2010 14:02

Hello Summerbird. When we started TTC with DS2, it did happen straight away - bit of a shock - but much less stressful I think than it taking a while. Its great to talk about TTC - DH doesn't see the need to talk about it (beyond the obvious...) as I'm not pregnant!

We have a bit of a dilemma about when TTC - having said above that there is never a right time, am wary of having an August baby and as DS1 starts school next year, it may be a little hard on him to have a new baby at that time. Are we mad to try and time it, or is it best to just keep trying and see what happens?

ghosteditor · 13/10/2010 14:17

passthechocs - I know what you mean - my husband is definitely not that bothered about discussing it until we are actually trying, I think it's just a man thing. Although now that all of his mates are having kids he's much more amenable to the idea .

My boss still hasn't announced that he is leaving so have no idea whether I will be allowed to apply for his job. And if I don't get it, it will definitely be 'screw you guys, I'm getting knocked up' Wink.

Re the timing thing - if you have a track record of conceiving straight away then I think you have to proceed on the assumption that it could happen again, especially if you are worried about the August baby thing. But I guess after that you just have to relax and go with the flow!

I'm also thinking of aiming for Sept or later. But DH and I are very sporty and the school sports selection year has just switched to Jan - Dec instead of Sept - Aug, so January is the month to have a big strapping sporty child who can outrun all the December kids Grin

[I think I should just point out that I'm not crazy enough actually to believe that I can produce the perfect sports playing child based on conception planning, but it's a nice thought isn't it]

ArabellaRose · 13/10/2010 14:47

That'll be a nice way to welcome in the new year summerbird Grin

Summerbird73 · 13/10/2010 14:52

passthechocs IKWYM - my DH wants to time it so that we have a September-December baby (honestly - that gives me a 3 month window - no pressure ovaries!!!) so that our child is the oldest in the class ergo the brightest (which i know is a load of tosh). BUT we had DS in June 09 so as i pointed out he has saved us almost a years worth of nursery fees!

ghosteditor of course your child will be sports-extraordinaire, after all we do have our DC's lives planned out even before conception!! Grin

Summerbird73 · 13/10/2010 14:54

LOL arabella Grin

GODDAMMIT i just realised we are spending new year at the inlaws [grrrrr emoticon]

Hils74 · 13/10/2010 18:18

So nice to read all your comments about ttc, we've only been trying for two months and def want to be pg by xmas. I'm due next week but don't want to tempt fate by getting a pg test - am I too optimistic to buy a test now?

ArabellaRose · 13/10/2010 18:48

Isn't it true that first response tests can sometimes work up to 6 days before AF due? Good luck!

Hils74 · 13/10/2010 18:58

Thanks Arabella, might just try that! :)

Tokyotwist · 14/10/2010 07:21

Goodluck Hils.

ooo talking about TTC keeps me sane Smile

My DH is also one who does not wish to analyse talk about trying. He just wants to know when the deed is done so to speak.

I sometimes wonder if he takes it personally or is that just me over analysing as usual? Probably just not that bothered.

Glad you lovely ladies are here to listen to my rambles.

100years · 14/10/2010 09:41

Hi again ladies,

In response to earlier questions I am 32 nearly 33, I am quite overweight, but I've lost some weight already and I am fitter than ever, so I am just going to carry on as I am for the time being.

I have to stop myself from talking about it with my OH, it seems to be the only think I am thinking of at the moment. Gah. Not long now for me :o