Anyone plan to start ttc in nov/dec?

[asouthwoldmummy]

Hi I'm new to the conception boards. Is anyone else planning to start ttc in November or december and wants to join me on a new thread?
DS has an appointment at GOSH on 25 November, we are waiting to get that out of the way before ttc number 2!

Are any of you using the Fertility Friend website? I think it's great, although can make you a bit obsessive... if you want to join, if you click on the 'Join Now, Free' link at the top of my page I will get some free VIP membership days. Basic membership is fab already, but VIP membership has lots of fancy things too - I think when you join you automatically get a few free VIP days.

A book I've found really helpful whilst starting to think about conceiving is Taking Charge of Your Fertility I'm not sure if anyone's mentioned it yet already, but if not, it's well worth a read.

This is all so exciting!

Cheerful have you talked to your GP about the depression you experienced with your last child? Do you have any idea why you were depressed, what triggered it, etc? And can you remember how you overcame it when your son was 2 months old? There's lots of help out there, but you have to seek it in my experience. Many doctors are not very good with mental health issues, so make sure you have a really supportive GP at least. Do you think you can arrange to have any kind of counselling/therapy this time around?

p.s. if you can't join Fertility friend using the link on my page, you can message me and I'll email you an invite. We're having to tighten our finances really severely at the moment, hence my desperation for some free days!

I'm not really sure ovum. (Love your name BTW :) ) I don't know if my depression was hormonal or what. I didn't want to be medicated while pregnant so I struggled through the final trimester and then for a few weeks after DS was born. I started taking anti-depressants and stayed with them for 2 months before going off. I've been fine ever since. I don't have a GP right now as I don't have health insurance. (Will obviously be going to the dr while pregnant though!) It won't be the same doctor as the first time since we've moved.

I think it will be a bit better this time because even if it does happen again, just knowing that it's probably temporary will be a big help. Also knowing I asked for help last time and the world didn't stop spinning. :)

Hi all,

Mind if I join in. I planned to wait untill November to start TTC. Came off the pill about 2 months ago and I've had 1 proper cycle since then.

I wanted to use this 2nd cycle to find out when I ovulate and understand what my body is doing and then TTC from November.

But I am finding it very hard to wait for the ovulation and have already tested once despite not being due to ovulate for another whole week.

How do people do it? The waiting is horrible.

Should point out this would be #2 and the last one.

I didn't enjoy my first pregnancy much so I intend to savour every min of this one. Just hope it happens soonish.

The website and book sound good but DH already thinks I'm obsessing!

Cheerful it's definitely good to know that your depression before was temporary. Although having had it once does make you much more likely to experience something similar again, although of course it's not guaranteed thankfully. I think most up to date research suggests that pre and post natal depression are rarely if ever completely hormonal issues, usually it's more around adjustment and coping with the prospect of parenthood before - perhaps having gone through it all once before will be a help for you this time round? There's lots of help on mumsnet if you need it!

ASOUTHWOLD... I am very careful not to let my hubby know just how much I am obsessing thinking about it.
Probably a bad idea, but he is unaware of the ovulation kits I've just bought mainly because he's said, "this time, I want it to just happen. I don't want to feel like we are trying".
With his broken leg, we are hardly comparable to couple of rabbits, so I feel I need to up the odds a bit in the potential baby's favour.

Hi folks, am thankful for this post as it allows me to get a little of the crazy out instead of having DH think I'm obsessing insane.

I'm 26 (and three-quarters - young for mumsnet maybe but not all that young in the world!) and will be TTC #1.

There's been a bit of a development at work which means I'll be applying for a promotion. If that comes off, we may have to rethink TTC. However, if it doesn't, then I will have something else exciting to think about!

Ooh, one question that I'm hoping people may be able to help with:

Have now come off the pill and established a regular cycle. Looking at dates, though, DH's job will take him out of the country during the main times in which we should be making a real effort in Dec/Jan!

Do you think I'd be risking messing up my cycle if I took 14 days worth of the pill to move dates around a bit? I've only ever run a few packs together before, have never taken partial packs and am a bit apprehensive about what it will do to my cycle. However, if I've understood the way it works correctly, it's all chemical anyway and as soon as I stop taking the pill again my cycle should restart as normal.

Any experience/advice?

Hi everyone

Welcome to the newbies in the thread.

Sorry to hear of your recent loss Sunshine.

I too am trying not to obsess too much, and am sorely tempted by ovulation tests even though we aren't trying this month, I have to stop certain meds when I have ovulated so I may start using them when we are trying so as to know when I am safe to take my meds. Have just looked through my cycles and what I thought was regular actually isn't that regular.

I'm 24 and seriously obsessed!

Has anyone ever used cheap ovulation test strips from amazon or eBay? And if so do they work?(although harder to tell than a pregnancy test!)

someone on another thread recommended getting cheap early pregnancy test strips online but I wondered if that was a bit too obsessive? I suppose good if you have an inkling you could be pregnant, although I seem to get that most months even on the pill (I think it's just the desperation)!

Is anyone else struggling with the waiting?

Callista - I daresay a gp probably wouldn't recommend it just so the dates suit better but I don't see what harm it would do.

My only concern would be if it took a while to come out of my system and my periods to become normal again. If you know that you went straight back into a normal cycle last time then it isn't an issue.

Hope that helps?!

Hi, first time on here, ttc #1 at the moment, came of the pill at the beginning of the year but only been seriously trying since start of Sept.

(namechanged from callista) thanks theseboots and southwold! Still mulling this one over, seems a little like messing with the natural order of things, but would make TTC much less date-restricted. Hmm.

And good luck Hils74!

Callista I really wouldn't mess with your body like that by taking half a pack of pills. But I'm not a doctor, so your best bet would be to run this by someone who really knows their stuff. These are strong chemicals and when you're TTC, you need to treat your body like a temple! It can take some women a year to reset their bodies back to normal after taking the pill so just be warned that's how long it can stay in your system for. So, personally I wouldn't do something like that (can you tell? ) but of course it's your body!

BTW to whoever asked about ages, I'm 30 (will be 21 in November though) and TTC #2. I'm desperate for another baby, but I have a LOT of work on at the moment - am in the final year of a doctorate and also working, looking after my 2.5 year old son, and generally feeling rather stressed. I'm really hoping that I'll conceive within the ridiculously small window of 2 months we have (my contract runs out in July next year, so the due date has to fall within 11 weeks after that in order for me to still get maternity pay from them... I really want to have finished the contract and then have the baby, but I'm just not sure if we're cutting it a bit too fine! We'll see...)

I think the tiny time window for conception is stressing me out a lot TBH. I'm not using any ovulation predictor kits because they're so expensive. The plan is simply to have a lot of sex for 2 months!!! Hopefully that should do the trick but we'll see. I have endometriosis which can really mess with conceiving . Fingers (but definitely not legs!) crossed...

Ooops about the age typo... Unfortunately I'm not going to go from being 30 to 21!!! Shame about that.

Can I join please? Am 34 and thinking of TTC#2 in December. DD is 8 months.

I'm 33 (had to think about that one) by the way.

I have been trying to loose weight and have given myself until the end of this month before I stop drinking the shakes I substituted my lunch with.

Lost 9 pounds to date which has brought me down to a BMI of 24, but I was hoping to loose a bit more as my waist is still about 38 inches.

TBH I'm getting tired of the shakes anyway and seem to be substituteing them for salads.

Still planning on TTC November, if I can wait that long.

Hi Arabella.

ovum, Callista here, name changed. That's my big concern of course, but since I will be TTC#1 I'm still stuck in the mode of thinking that one missed pill and WHAM - your eggo is preggo. Obviously this is crazy talk but having spent more than seven years thinking this way (with DH), I'm going to need some time to start thinking rationally about all of this! (it doesn't help that a friend of mine conceived #1 and #2 in the first months of trying, and she's in her early 40s and had been warned that it would be difficult.)

Also, ovum, sounds like you are crazy busy at the moment! We had everything all planned - I've just got a promotion which is a reasonable place in my career to take some time out/think about working part time. Unfortunately my boss is just about to resign and I would love his job, but not sure what the company will do next (replace him, redefine the role etc). This position would be much more senior and a lot more responsibility and not an ideal time to take a career break, but would be a great move up!
ho-hum, hopefully will all be decided by Dec when we were originally planning on TTC.

Hi Arabella!

Tokyo - well done you! That's a good BMI to be at - hopefully it'll start coming off in the right places, keep it up! I suck at losing weight - have only ever been thin (52 kilos) at 19 years old and training intensively twice a day for hockey and rowing. And I made myself pretty ill doing it. Am always so impressed to see people losing weight steadily and healthily.