Anyone plan to start ttc in nov/dec?

[asouthwoldmummy]

Hi I'm new to the conception boards. Is anyone else planning to start ttc in November or december and wants to join me on a new thread?
DS has an appointment at GOSH on 25 November, we are waiting to get that out of the way before ttc number 2!

asouthwoldmummy - Know what you mean. Am delighted to have discovered this thread. DH thinks its bad luck to discuss it at all. He is very much of the attitude lets just see how it goes. I ammore obsessive, once I have decided I want to be pregnant yesterday. Nice to have other people to chat to about it

Tokyotwist Could be wrong but am pretty sure you can't ovulate twice in one cycle. One ovulation can result in 2 seperate eggs (thats were non identical twins come from I think), but two seperate ovulations I have never heard of that.

Yay someone else who is trying early, although I very much doubt it will happen for me this month unless I am on one of my long monthly cycles, then it's a possibility.

I think you can release 2 eggs but if that happens it is within 24 hours of each other (non identical twins) but other than that I really doubt it.

I get really obsessive when we're TTC. My DH will talk about it if I raise it, but it's always me that's thinking about it. He's just Mr laid back about everything.

So I love having other people in the same place as me to chat to. Thank you all in advance!

We don't really want to start TTC until next month (don't want another July baby ... it was a boiling hot summer the last time!) but there will be a chance as my coil is out and I'm right in the middle of my cycle.

I'm very, very excited!

northeastmummy, DC3 Oct, DD1 4 years, DD2 2.5 years, CD18, 38 years
Bumpsadaisie, DC2, Dec, DD1 16mths, CD 18, 36 yrs
Hils74, DC1 Oct, CD1, 36yrs
Tokyotwist, DC2 Oct, DD 26months, CD22, 33yrs
BlueFergie, DC3, Nov, DD 4, DS 21months, CD?, 33years (just!)
100years, DC1 now SWI!, CD26, 32 yrs 10 months
jaggythistle, DC2 Nov Oct, DS 13 months, CD7, 32 yrs
TheseBootsAreMadeForWalking TTC DC #1 Nov, CD 18, 31 years
franjam, DC1 Oct/Nov, 3 stepkids (10,6 & 4), CD no clue, 31 yrs
WYorksLass, DC1 end of Nov, CD21, 30 years
Gobolino, DC1 Nov, CD not a clue, 28yrs
ChateauMargot, DC1 Oct, CD??, 28 years
catifer DC1, Nov, CD no idea! 28 yrs
ghosteditor DC1 Dec, CD8, 26 years
asouthwoldmummy, DC2 end nov, DS 28months, 24 yrs.
whenskiesaregrey TTC DC2, Dec, DS 15 months, CD (not really sure as on pill), 24 years old
Purplebuns DC2 Nov (DD 17months)(WTF Cycle)21 yrs

Did I kill the thread

I'm still here and still obsessing!

Bored though, DH is at work. Going to Portsmouth for the weekend as DH is doing the Great South Run so looking to that. Anyone else got any exciting plans for the weekend?

flails

Hello ladies, have been absent for a week or so because of crazy work developments!

So - I've just had a promotion at work from an assistant position to a managing position, which is really exciting career wise but a bit worrying from a TTC perspective.

I would like to make a go of this new role, but it should involve more travel and I really should plan to go to a big conference next October.

So... massive confusion about whether to TTC. Still very broody! Unfortunately DH is overseas for another 2 weeks so haven't been able to discuss this much with him (haven't even really discussed the promotion!)

Whaddya reckon ladies? I should also add that this promotion is not the one I was going for and is a different direction for me, so I'll have a lot to learn especially at first. At first I felt like work had screwed me over a bit, but I've stopped thinking like a spoiled child now ;)

Am wondering if I should wait a few months to see how things go, but the thought of not starting when we had originally planned is making me :(

Ghosteditor - at least you do have time on your side, you can easily wait a few years before ttc if you choose to. I suppose really what's more important right now, career or family?

Also is it a job you could do part-time if you wanted? If not how would you feel about returning to work full-time?

Other than the conference do bear in mind if you were lucky enough to conceive straight away you could still do the job for 8 months before maternity leave.

hey southwold, yes, I do feel like I'm being a bit impatient because there should still be plenty of time to start a family. And after all, it's not something you can go back on!

Not sure about doing it part time - it might have to be a job share or something. My old job would have been perfect as a part time role but it was driving me a bit nuts because I've been doing it for three years! So I really didn't think I could pass up on the opportunity. On the plus side, my office is only an 8 minute walk away and there are great schools nearby too.

Obvs need to discuss with DH as I really think he's ready for kids - but he would never want to tell me what to do with my career! Hmmm. Don't think I can really avoid waiting a while - maybe even 4 or 5 months to settle into the job and do a year or so in the role before taking a break. But - babies!

mutters about stupid work not giving me exactly the job I wanted - sulk sulk

ghosteditor Not sure what advice to give except to say maybe try out the new job for a few months and see if you can mold it a bit into what you would enjoy.

Do you have to make a decision on having the baby now. Could you wait a couple of months and then weigh up your options once you know a bit more about your new job?

Congratulations on the promotion. Sorry it wasn't what you wanted and I hope it turns out to be a better job.

Thanks Tokyo - I think you're right. Guess I just need to be patient!

Go with your heart ghost. You know, work will always be around in one form or another. And it doesn't have to come to an end because you've had a baby. I have two lovely girls and (horror of horrors), work full time and get a lot of satisfaction and reward from it. But I also dearly love coming home at night, seeing my girls and spending every moment I can with them.

There's never, ever a good time to have a baby. Normal life does go on hold for a short period of time, but before long you'll be back in the swing of it and probably giving more than you ever did before.

I always think, when I'm old and grey, how will I feel about this decision. Will I think ... I'm glad I waited a few months ... or will I think I wish I'd started sooner (for example).

There's not a straight answer unfortunately. I think the right thing to do is to mull it over, speak to people about it and you'll soon know .

I would also add that there are several decisions I've made in my life which I won't be happy about when I'm old and grey!!!

At last. Happy face on the OPK. I was begining to think I wasn't ovulating.

northeastmummy, DC3 Oct, DD1 4 years, DD2 2.5 years, CD18, 38 years
Bumpsadaisie, DC2, Dec, DD1 16mths, CD 18, 36 yrs
Hils74, DC1 Oct, CD1, 36yrs
Tokyotwist, DC2 Oct, DD 26months, CD24, 33yrs
BlueFergie, DC3, Nov, DD 4, DS 21months, CD?, 33years (just!)
100years, DC1 now SWI!, CD26, 32 yrs 10 months
jaggythistle, DC2 Nov Oct, DS 13 months, CD7, 32 yrs
TheseBootsAreMadeForWalking TTC DC #1 Nov, CD 18, 31 years
franjam, DC1 Oct/Nov, 3 stepkids (10,6 & 4), CD no clue, 31 yrs
WYorksLass, DC1 end of Nov, CD21, 30 years
Gobolino, DC1 Nov, CD not a clue, 28yrs
ChateauMargot, DC1 Oct, CD??, 28 years
catifer DC1, Nov, CD no idea! 28 yrs
ghosteditor DC1 Dec, CD8, 26 years
asouthwoldmummy, DC2 end nov, DS 28months, 24 yrs.
whenskiesaregrey TTC DC2, Dec, DS 15 months, CD (not really sure as on pill), 24 years old
Purplebuns DC2 Nov (DD 17months)(WTF Cycle)21 yrs

Hi all,
ghost, your promotion sounds like a good opportunity. Like others have said, you have lots of time, so maybe you could try it for two or three months before you start TTC and see if you like it enough to stay for a while? Good luck with the decision, whatever it is.

Well, I have to admit I'm another one who has jumped the gun - having read a bit of TCOYF and realising I'm near the end of my cycle, we ditched the condoms the other night! 'Tis very exciting, if unexpected. The way I see it we won't be properly TTC until next month - this is just practice!

So, what's everyone been up to over the weekend?

Yay Tokyo!

It's been a lovely autumn weekend hasn't it? We spent some time with friends on the beach today - all wrapped up but it was fun.

Also had a few drinks with some girl friends yesterday afternoon which made a nice change. Is always good to catch up without children distracting us - at least we get to finish a few conversations!

Hope you've all had a lovely weekend.

Just got back from spending the weekend in Portsmouth.

Great news tokyo and gobolino!

another gun jumper here

we ditched 'em this week too, after i realised this would be a good weekend to start after looking at Fertility Friend chart.

trying not to get too excited!

good luck everyone.

also had a nice couple of days away and DS was a wee star, despite refusing to sleep during the day as he was so excited by everything he saw!

took about an hour and a half to get him to sleep the first night as he was bouncing round the travel cot high as a kite. lucky he is cute and can get away with pretty much anything...

I've started the August Bus if anyone wants to join me :) www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/1068952-The-August-Bus

Few of us jumping ship early! I like the it's practice comment, yep that's what we did!

August Bus

Try again shall I!!!

heehee, you guys, glad to see that some of you are even more impatient than me . Sound advice thank you - and I guess what it comes down to is that I need to wait until DH comes back before we can make a decision.

At the moment I'm leaning towards waiting a few months to see how the job goes, which would mean that all being well I would have at least a year in the job before I went on mat leave. I also have this nagging feeling that says it can't hurt to start trying in Dec as planned because not everyone conceives right away and it could end up taking a while. Basically just very very broody .

But will keep an eye on the Aug/Sept buses to see how you lovely folks are getting along. Good luck, all of you.

Sounds like the right decision, ghosteditor.

Well done, tokyo and gobolino!

Still no idea where I am in my cycle, but DH and I have been, erm, practising every other day for the last week on the off-chance that it could be the right time. Missed last period (though tested not pregnant), but if it had come on the right days, last week would have been prime time TC. Nothing for it but to keep trying for the next two weeks, and hope AF doesn't appear for the right reasons next month..!

There'll be no-one left here soon!

Anyone else need to confess?!

Asouthwold I'm staying, very unlikely anything will happen this month especially as DH and I have had such an icky day we're def not in the mood. I'll just pretend I'm still TTC November.

I'd like to join! We're trying already but it didn't happen this month so here goes. I'll add myself onto the bottom.

northeastmummy, DC3 Oct, DD1 4 years, DD2 2.5 years, CD18, 38 years
Bumpsadaisie, DC2, Dec, DD1 16mths, CD 18, 36 yrs
Hils74, DC1 Oct, CD1, 36yrs
Tokyotwist, DC2 Oct, DD 26months, CD24, 33yrs
BlueFergie, DC3, Nov, DD 4, DS 21months, CD?, 33years (just!)
100years, DC1 now SWI!, CD26, 32 yrs 10 months
jaggythistle, DC2 Nov Oct, DS 13 months, CD7, 32 yrs
TheseBootsAreMadeForWalking TTC DC #1 Nov, CD 18, 31 years
franjam, DC1 Oct/Nov, 3 stepkids (10,6 & 4), CD no clue, 31 yrs
WYorksLass, DC1 end of Nov, CD21, 30 years
Gobolino, DC1 Nov, CD not a clue, 28yrs
ChateauMargot, DC1 Oct, CD??, 28 years
catifer DC1, Nov, CD no idea! 28 yrs
ghosteditor DC1 Dec, CD8, 26 years
asouthwoldmummy, DC2 end nov, DS 28months, 24 yrs.
whenskiesaregrey TTC DC2, Dec, DS 15 months, CD (not really sure as on pill), 24 years old
Purplebuns DC2 Nov (DD 17months)(WTF Cycle)21 yrs
Buttonmoon78 TTC#4, CD2/35, 32 years