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Having difficulties ttc#2?

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Lychees · 13/09/2010 15:00

After chatting on another thread, I've discovered that quite a few of us are having trouble ttc#2.

It's difficult to find much support in RL; people tell you that you should be happy as you already have a DC [I really am!] and unless they've been there, they don't really understand why it's so upsetting not to be able to get pregnant again so I've created this thread so we can share and we have a place that we can rant/vent/moan/support each other......

Sorry for the unimaginitive title ... marketing is not my area of expertise Smile!

FYI, I'm 36, DH is 38, we have DS who is just over two and a half and we have been ttc#2 for 13 months.

We have had bloods and SA on the NHS and an internal scan and AMH privately and so far, our status is unexplained sub-fertility. If I don't get my BFP this time, next month we'll be having another SA and HSG privately.

OP posts:
Luce2006 · 23/09/2010 17:03

soupmaker : massive congratulations!!!!!
*Lychees8 that's the same feeling I've got!! That they don't bother because we already have a child

Luce2006 · 23/09/2010 17:07

PandaEis sending you big hugs! What did the Dr say to you?

Also, this is a general questions,who have you spoken to about your 'troubles ' conceving I've told few friends but haven't told anything to my family( apart from my older brother whose wife is expecting their second not planned child any day now)
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8rubberduckies · 23/09/2010 20:52

soupmaker absolutley brilliant news! Congratulations! If you have any spare wet fish hanging around please donate them to the greater good, as you won't be needing them now!

luce IMO you should consider changing surgery, you really should be getting more support than that.

nickstermum · 23/09/2010 21:52

Been lurking about this thread for a couple of weeks. Wanted to reply to Luce about BF query. I BF DS till 12 months ago, (he was 2) then conceived 6 months later...only to MC 12 weeks later and to this day i do feel that my hormone levels werent right as i had been left with long cycles..... or maybe not, who knows!

Its possible as it can affect the oestrogen levels in your blood.

cerealqueen · 24/09/2010 00:37

Two days late. Negative test. But I resurrected it from the bin after half an hour and more of a plus sign showing (it was a Clearblue) Clutching at straws?
Or is my body treachorous. Had to have wine tonight.

cerealqueen · 24/09/2010 00:40

Forgot to say (sorry being in selfish vibe) Luce change your GP, she sound like a nasty harpy. And complain. She will never know how her actions affect the feelings of others unless she is told. Am off to bed now.

Luce2006 · 24/09/2010 12:37

lol, after calling this morning and saing I wanted to complain to the manager of the surgey, I've just received a call from the Dr I saw yesterday am saying shehas referred me to the consultant!!!! yuppy Grin
BUT I'm still going to see the gyneacologist next Wednesday

cerealqueen I'm keeping everything crossed for you!!!

cerealqueen · 24/09/2010 13:17

Luce, I reckon that GP felt the force of this thread..... good for you!

Thanks for goodwishes, still no sign of AF but am assuming it will turn up.

In answer to your question, I have told a couple of mums in my baby group, both pregnant though so I don't say how hard it is when we all meet up and all they talk about is pregnancy, double buggies and how on earth they will cope.

Other people keep asking me about No 2 and I say 'it would be nice, we'll see, I'm not getting any younger you know' and keep it light hearted and change the subject pronto.

8rubberduckies · 24/09/2010 22:12

cerealqueen fingers crossed here too Smile

cerealqueen · 24/09/2010 23:26

Thanks scrubbies 8rubbrduckies Smile

Still no AF!!!!

lateatwork · 24/09/2010 23:38

deep joy at DD's nursery today. apparently DD is 'ready for a sibling' and 'did i have anything to tell them'. I politely told them we have been unable to conceive but that we were still trying and would let them know as soon as we were successful. I decided the full, serious face was in order.

What I actually wanted to say was... 'dont you morons realise that i have eyes and can bloody well see that too? ' and then of course reach inside my fabulous new handbag and slap that frozen fish around double time...

hmmm when are those bags arriving?

Prinpo · 24/09/2010 23:56

Bags in production, I promise. A lifetime's supply of frozen fish with every purchase.

Congrats, soup, that's great stuff. Look after yourself and little bean. Keep us posted.

luce, glad you've had your referral. Good for you for complaining. Sometimes I think people can forget how much is invested in an appointment.

In answer to your question about who we talk to in RL, I talk to very few people. Lots of people know we're trying but, perhaps because it's been going in for so long, people tend not to ask. Actually, on reflection, I'd really like the chance to have a good old rant or at least to be asked how we're doing (not in a 'have you conceived yet' way but in a 'how are you feeling' way).

PandaEis · 25/09/2010 15:51

hi ladiesSmile

fingers crossed for you cerealSmile

in answer to the who have we told Q... i have told my friends at work as they kept asking why i had been off (alot of missed work this year due to MC in jan and MC in julySad) my mum and sister know and one or two people who i told while drunk and feeling sorry for myselfHmmBlush so alot of people in hindsight!! i am not a 'keep cards close to my chest' kinda gal reallySmile

TBH im glad alot of people know as it saves the polite smile when people ask if we are going to have any more childrenHmm

BTW i think that question is so rude from someone who you dont know does anyone else think this?? if i was to ask a stranger when they were planning on having some furious sex with the intention of getting pregnant i would likely be slapped for the rudeness of the question but people feel like they have license to ask this question (albeit phrased differently) to any mother with young childrenHmm it irritates me it really doesHmm ok... rant overSmile

Loujalou · 26/09/2010 12:43

Passes Panda a frozen fish. People are clueless.

Anyway I have returned from my hols and have FC appointment my first and its with a nurse. We will see.....

Waves hello to all the rest of you and hugs to Duff

pointsmakeprizes · 26/09/2010 17:03

soup wonderful news, let us know how you get on.

good for you luce, it's a shame it takes a threat of a complaint before you get taken seriously.

cereal things are looking good for you, when will you test again?

late can't believe the nursery said that to you, i'd give you my week's supply of fish if I didn't need it so much myself.

Nothing new to report here apart from meeting up with an old friend who had some news to share - yes you've guessed it she's expecting her second. When will it be my turn??

Original poster
Lychees · 26/09/2010 19:03

Evening All, been offline for a few days.

I have my HSG tomorrow which I'm a bit nervous about but nothing else to report as we are the beginning of a cylce again so don't start poas for my CBFM until tomorrow.

I see there has been a coupld of fish slapping incidents on here ... people just don't think before they open their mouths.

I'll let you know how I get on Confused.

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soupmaker · 26/09/2010 20:38

Evening ladies. Still going okay here, keeping everything crossed. Needless to say worrying frantically.

We didn't tell many people in RL, however, when BIL asked when we were going to be having no2 I couldn't help myself and said we'd be trying for ages with no luck just to shut him up, which it did. I told my Mum as I started wailing when she told me SIL was expecting no3 - not the reaction she expected. My mum is pretty old school, so whilst sympathetic, still rattled out the usual lines about 'just relaxing' and 'so and so didn't start until she was 42'.

DP hasn't said much to anyone, although he has admitted to being fed up with some mates asking him about a no2.

I think its hard to talk to anyone not in the same position. No-one really understands how it feels, and as we all know tend to have opinions which require the use of fish.

I can't believe nursery staff could be so insensitive. A whole freezer full of fish required for them. You were very restrained late.

Keeping my fingers crossed for us all.

Loujalou · 26/09/2010 20:43

Late that nursery need a whole freezer full of fish!! Sods. Sometimes I tell people that "Just because you want something doesn't mean you get it". Usually shuts them up.

KTRace · 26/09/2010 20:46

Luce - I am sorry to hear about your GP but glad that they have in fact referred you and I hope your appointment goes well.

I had high prolactin levels after I finished BF my DD. I discovered this because I did not get my periods back, as well as still having milk. My GP sent me for blood tests and then when they remained high referred me to an endocrinologist who then also did blood tests and MRI and finally gave me bromocryptine to bring levels down.

I hope your appointments go well.

Luce2006 · 26/09/2010 22:55

cerealqueen any news?????
loujaloulet us knw how the FC appointmet goes!
Late like the idea of having a bag full of frozen fish to slap insensitive people!!!
KT Thanks hun. I've always had periods but I noticed that sometimes it's heavy for just a day and then it's spotting for 3/4 days while before I had DS it was heavy for 4 days and spotting for a couple and I have a headache most of the time Hmm Never mentioned the GP about the milk but I did mention the heavy headaches while on the pill and after I stopped it but she never thought about cheking my prolactine levels. when I called to complain the other day though I told the receptionist at the Surgery I wanted a Dr to refer me for the blood test and that I want it ready by Monday Grin

Luce2006 · 27/09/2010 11:22

Going nuts here Confused I had some light brown spotting ( vey very light)on CD24/25/26 adn this morning it seems that it's finished....don't know what to think...never had spotting like this before...usually I start spotting in the late afternoon and by the next morning AF is here!!!!

plumblusher · 27/09/2010 14:20

I've been TTC since Aug 2008 already have DD. all i want to do is give DD a sibling-she has a make believe sister that we take everywhere with us and it breaks my heart! I'm on my third cycle of Clomid but still nothing. waiting for my period is unbearable I have early pg symtoms that are in my head. Everyone says relax-stop thinking about it and it will happen!!! Easier said than done.sad

Luce2006 · 27/09/2010 14:39

oh PB I really hope this is going to be 3rd time lucky for you!!!! It took me almosta year to convice my Dh that it was time to try for a second child and it's now almost a year that we've been trying with no results Sad
I"m on cycle 14 and waiting for AF to turn up.
I hate it when people ( in my case the GP and some strangers on another forum)) tell you that you just need to relax,especially if there are problems that are making your getting pg very difficult

babybarrister · 27/09/2010 20:30

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8rubberduckies · 27/09/2010 20:48

Hey all just checking in, no news except I'm sickly again (tonsilitis), so feeling very sorry for myself Sad

Luce have you thought about the possibility of the spotting being implantation bleeding?