Having difficulties ttc#2?

[Lychees]

After chatting on another thread, I've discovered that quite a few of us are having trouble ttc#2.

It's difficult to find much support in RL; people tell you that you should be happy as you already have a DC [I really am!] and unless they've been there, they don't really understand why it's so upsetting not to be able to get pregnant again so I've created this thread so we can share and we have a place that we can rant/vent/moan/support each other......

Sorry for the unimaginitive title ... marketing is not my area of expertise !

FYI, I'm 36, DH is 38, we have DS who is just over two and a half and we have been ttc#2 for 13 months.

We have had bloods and SA on the NHS and an internal scan and AMH privately and so far, our status is unexplained sub-fertility. If I don't get my BFP this time, next month we'll be having another SA and HSG privately.

Hi Cerealqueen, I think there was definitely justification for a bit of fish-slapping there. Keeping my fingers-crossed that it'll be your turn very soon.

lateatwork, thanks for the good luck wishes. I hope you the IVF goes well.

thumbwitch, good luck at the doctors.

littleshamrock, swine flu! How horrible but glad you're on the mend and ready and raring to ttc next month.

I have not had my LH surge naturally so I am triggering tonight and then we have our first [and hopefully one and only] go at IUI on Thursday afternoon.

Hope everyone else is doing okay.

Fingers crossed Lychees!

Good luck Lychees! :)

Hi, we are having trouble TTC #2. have been trying for 2 years & problem is a have uterus didelphys. So its sort of shoot & hope for the best with me at the mo. I'm 39 & DH is 41 so we are rocking on a bit. Off to the fert clininc next week to see what they can do for us as all test show everything else ok.
Csn I join you guys?

Welcome Dlass! Of course, you can join. Good luck for the FC appointment next week.

Hi ladies. Could I please join you too? (waves to everyone)

I am 33 and DP is 45. I have a DS who is 7, from my previous marriage, and DP has a DD and DS from his previous. People, including my mum , tell me to just be happy with what I have, and of course I love DS dearly, but we would love to have a wee one together. Had no idea it might take so long.

We have been TTC for over 2 years now. We both want things to happen naturally, but maybe a visit to the GP will have to happen soon.

Hi bam bam and dlass - 2 years is a long time when everyone else is falling pregnant around you. Bam I would def go and see the GP asap and start getting some tests done - it's a long and winding road to getting any kind of diagnosis with infertility - though after many tests we are still unexplained infertility.

lychees how did it go today - what happened?

cereal that was really harsh from your friends and no doubt they had no understanding of how they made you feel.

Was out at the weekend and bumped into an old friend of DH's who I hadn't seen in months and of course their news was that his wife was pregnant with No.2 - though he was quite sweet saying it had taken them a really long time for no.2 - 10 months - but inside I was thinking try 18 months and still no joy - what I would have given for just 10 months.

I got an email back from my dr about IUI which basically said that if we do IUI we would get a go around March/April - but we would get the IVF in May so was there any point in doing the IUI? I don't know what to think - surely it's worth doing the IUI just in case? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Hi PMP! Thanks for the welcome!

I think we will probably go down the GP route at some point. We just always hope it will happen each month. I should have mentioned that I smoke . I need to stop that before I go along, but then maybe if I stopped it would happen naturally!

Cereal - people can be really insensitive without realising. I know how hard it is to keep a cheery face on. I usually end up with a forced grin until I can get away!

Welcome BamBam!

Points it all went okay today [thanks for asking]. I was in a bit of a tizz because there was a half hour delay in my treatment. I was worried DH's sample would be compromised! It was like having a smear, the nurse inserted a catheter straight into my cervix and then left me lying there for ten minutes. I have a little bit of cramping and a small amount of contact bleeding. We've been instructed to top-up tonight then I have progesterone pessaries to use from tomorrow.

Personally, I would recommend a round of IUI first as it might well work and it is a lot less invasive than IVF.

Hi Lychees! (waves)

Wow, that sounds quite stressful. I REALLY hate having smears, and I can only imagine the added stress there! Hope you are fine Lychees.

Glad I'm not a pariah for smoking! I know it's awful, but some threads on here are very holier than thou!

Lychees really have my fingers crossed for you. Think I will ask to go for the iui, it's better than doing nothing in march/April.

Bam bam don't worry too much about the smoking, obviously it doesn't help but I smoked before my first, only gave up when I found out I was pregnant. Ds took 12 months and I convinced myself that if I hadn't smoked it would have been quicker but now I don't smoke and am super healthy and it's been 18 months so the smoking wasn't the biggest factor for me. Besides when you are faced with disappointment month after month you really need a fag!

hi ladies

welcome to the newbies hope your stay is short and sweet

exciting news in here for you today lychees i really have my fingers crossed for you

my AF seems to be AWOL (again) and i am really trying not to get my hopes up ahh well...

hope everyone else is doing well

Good luck Lychees. I hope it all goes well for you.

Thanks for your support points. You are so right! I keep thinking I have to stop smoking, then AF arrives and I just can't face it.

AF is due on Sunday, so I am trying not to symptom spot at the moment. V. sore boobs and sicky feeling, but that's all normal for me anyway. When I had DS, I had absolutely no symptoms. Isn't Mother Nature a funny old bird?!

Hi Panda.

Dear ladies - as half-expected :( AF arrived today, meaning I am back on a 26 day cycle (and am not pg again).

I am going to go to the doc to have blood tests done for hormones/ovulation etc - can someone tell me when is the best time of the month to do this? I don't want to mess the doc around, although I could go and see her this week anyway and she'll probably tell me when I should go for the bloods.

Am starting to actually get a bit depressed about it now - have tried so hard not to but it is now over a year since I MC'd - a whole year of no success at all.

thumbdabwitch, sorry AF got you and that you are feeling down . You might as well go and see your GP asap as the tests you will need are Day 5 [sometimes done ealrier] and Day 21 [or more correctly 7 days before next AF is due]. You'll feel better once you start doing something ... it gives you a bit of control back. Good luck.

Panda, how are you doing?

Hello to everyone else.

Thanks Lychees - I will phone them tomorrow.

hi ladies

AF arrived for me too but on saturday on the bright side i now know where in my cycle i am! every cloud and all that...

thumb sorry AF appeared for you too!! she sucks arse that woman i hope you get some answers from your GP.

hi to everyone else

Sorry AF got you, too, Panda.

Hello - may I join please? Glad to find this thread is still going, although sorry to see all of you here.

We've been trying for 3.5 years - DD is 4.5 and has just started school. Heartbreaking, as it might be the end of our babyphase, and we thought we'd have a full house by now.

Treatment-wise, for the first 2 years our GP treated us by explaining how babies are made and (because I was often in floods of tears and covered in acne) prescribing evening primrose oil and "early nights".. I've recently found out that extreme pmt-type symptoms are classic indicators of PCOS, but hey how was she meant to know that? She's only a doctor!

Finally got an NHS referal for infertility investigations, and the registrar who saw us missed a polyp an inch long on the scan, and packed us off as "unexplained", with a prescription for Zinc and VitC for OH and "early nights"...

A year later, we went for a pre-IVF consultation (paid-for, as the NHS don't do treatment in our area for 2ndry infertility - is that the case everywhere). This included a further scan and this time the polyp was spotted, and removed the next week. No waiting lists it appears when there's been a cock-up! The consultant then said that we'd get PG no problem after a few "early nights", but that if we didn't we should have IVF.

We didn't... but we also thought that we didn't want to give any more money to that hospital, so we went for a 2nd opinion. Appears that we were right to - and the operation that I had on Saturday showed up PCOS, scar tissue right over one Fallopean Tube(probably from a postnatal infection after DD's caeser), and a cyst blocking the other, so after all this time, isn't our fault for not having enough "early nights" after all and was physically impossible for us to conceive!

The lovely new consulant also thinks I've become been too aeneamic to carry a pregnancy due to v. heavy periods over the past 3.5 years, so if I'd gone ahead with IVF in the autumn it would have most likely ended in heartbreak anyway.

Sorry for such a long post. Just want to reassure everyone who has been told that they have "unexplained" infertility, that they should try to get a 2nd opinion. Also I'm massively in favour of "fish slapping", and sorry for everyone else who's AF has arrived in the last few days.

Hi QueenOlive. Welcome to our thread but hopefully with treatment, your stay here won't be long [for all the right reasons, of course].

It's my birthday today. I was feeling a bit miserable about it [one year older, less fertile and all that] but my manager let me go early and DH took me and DS for an impromtu dinner at a gastropub ... lovely.

Hope everyone is doing alright.

Heyyyyyy, please can i join??? Been trying for baby number 4 which just does'nt seem to want to appear :( I am 32 and my Husband is 30. I have 2 children from a previous relationship aged 13 and 7 and he has 1 child from another relationship aged 10 and we have a child together aged 3. First 2 children were unplanned and my 3rd happened on the second month of trying. I am now beginning to think i am barren and won't be blessed with another one :( Trying to be postive but miserable at the moment. Love to all my fellow girlies xxx

Hi Kimmie, welcome to our thread. It's been a bit quite of late but then suddenly there'll be a flurry of activity on here. Hope your stay with us is not for too long ... for the right reasons.

How is everyone else doing?

hi to Kimmie and Olive.

Not much to report from this end - we're actually taking this month off as I just needed a break from it and another month after 18 months is not going to make any difference now. Found out gym instructor was pregnant today but managed not to go on a complete downer.

Lychees - how do you feel - is it any different from any other month - when will you test?

Hi Kimmie - I;m sorry to hear that you've been having trouble this time around. Without being too personal, have you had your hubbie checked out? It took ages for our doctor to suggest that there might be something wrong in the men's department, I think they're embarressed discussing it.

Pointsmakeprizes - We have "months off" too every so often, if one of us is away for the significant days. I usually find it a bit of a release actually - although just as disappointing when Aunt Mabel shows up.

Carry on girls! All in a good cause.