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Having difficulties ttc#2?

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Lychees · 13/09/2010 15:00

After chatting on another thread, I've discovered that quite a few of us are having trouble ttc#2.

It's difficult to find much support in RL; people tell you that you should be happy as you already have a DC [I really am!] and unless they've been there, they don't really understand why it's so upsetting not to be able to get pregnant again so I've created this thread so we can share and we have a place that we can rant/vent/moan/support each other......

Sorry for the unimaginitive title ... marketing is not my area of expertise Smile!

FYI, I'm 36, DH is 38, we have DS who is just over two and a half and we have been ttc#2 for 13 months.

We have had bloods and SA on the NHS and an internal scan and AMH privately and so far, our status is unexplained sub-fertility. If I don't get my BFP this time, next month we'll be having another SA and HSG privately.

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carlossss · 28/12/2010 14:41

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Lychees · 29/12/2010 14:39

Carloss, I'm loving having hardly anything pressing to do. I've also got a bad cold and I'm so glad that I took these few days off to rest and relax.

I have to look through DS's baby stuff soon. My SIL is expecting in March and she could use some of the stuff I have as it's as good as new. I thought I'd be using it for DC2 but guess DC2 will just have to have it after his/her cousin has finished with it or perhaps we'll hav to buy new stuff. Who knows when it'll happen so I feel like its time to let go for now .....

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littleshamrock · 29/12/2010 17:46

Hello everyone, hope you all had a lovely christmas time.

I'm loaded with the flu and on heavy duty antibiotics so taking this month off from TTC. Will treat it as a bit of a relief, not playing the guessing game and knowing that AF will be here no matter what!

I know what you mean about the baby stuff lychees; all my baby clothes are in storage at my parents and since they are moving in the spring it's going to have to be sorted out. I can see it being one of those things I put off and off and off!

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pointsmakeprizes · 29/12/2010 19:06

Hi girls, not a good day, in addition to the birth and two pregnancies I found out about last week, there was another birth and 5 more pregnancies - so 2 births and 7 new pregnancies in less than a week. 4 of them my DH already knew about but did not tell me because he knew how I would take it so were really caught out by them. Just couldn't take it anymore and had a good cry tonight - also had to catch up with another pregnant friend who was excited about impending birth and then a text from another friend saying a baby scan went well - so just feel so drained today hearing so much baby news. I actually know 11 people pregnant at the moment.

PandaEis · 30/12/2010 09:54

hi ladiesSmile
sorry for the long absenceBlush
i have moved department in work and had no daytime access to MNHmm im back now thoughGrin
nothing new here...still giving it good wellieWink and given my foul mood today i am guessing i have oved todayGrin
i havent had a chance to read through for any news etc so i will pop back later and catch upSmile

hope everyone had a great xmas xx

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pointsmakeprizes · 03/01/2011 17:34

Hi ladies hope you all had a good start to the new year!

Got my period today so back to square one again. Love to hear some updates if anyone is around. Feeling positive for some reason - it's got to happen sometime this year right? 95% of couples conceive within 2 years so it has to be my turn in the next six months!

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Lychees · 03/01/2011 18:42

Happy New Year, All!

I am hoping tht 2011 is will see us all get our BFPs.

Points sorry about all the pg news. It doesn't get any easier, does it?

I'm still ill, too Xmas Sad. I'm normally a v healthy person but I've felt like poo for over a week now. It's kind of meant that I haven't been able to make the most of my hols and its back to work tomorrow Xmas Hmm.

On a positive note, I'm going to have my first monitoring scan tomorrow to see if the Clomid had any effect. I'm still gettting lows on my monitor so it is looking like we could be doing our first IUI attempt this week [fingers-crossed].

Hope everyone else is okay.

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PictureThis · 03/01/2011 19:58

I'm back too. Determined that this year is going to be the year that DH and I have another baby. DD starts school in September so in a way it would be good timing.

My wonderful Mum is terminally ill and has very little time left. She knows how long we've been ttc and told me the other day that if she dies before I get pregnant she'll make sure she sends me a good one SmileSad

pointsmakeprizes · 04/01/2011 12:38

picturethis so sorry to hear about your mum, I really hope that it will happen for you very soon and you can share the wonderful news with your mum.

lychees that's quite exciting about the IUI - just good to be feeling like you are doing something instead of waiting for the inevitable to happen every month. Let us know how your scan goes.

We're supposed to get 6 free cycles of IUI on the NHS but they have been pretty useless and still haven't put us on the waiting list for it despite repeated requests from me and despite the fact that they have already put us on the IVF list and we should be getting our go in about 6 months. Looks like we will be getting the IVF before the IUI.

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Lychees · 04/01/2011 13:34

Picturethis, what your Mum said is lovely. I'm so sorry about her illness. The whole story is bringing tears to my eyes. It would be great if you had some good news to share with her.

Points IVF does have much higher success rates than IUI. Hopefully, you won't be waiting long.

I had my scan this morning and I have one follicle measuring 13mm. It has to be 16mm before it's "ripe" enough [for the injection that triggers ovulation and] for IUI so I have to go back in on Thursday am for another scan.

I'll let you know what happens then.

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PictureThis · 05/01/2011 08:57

Thanks for the kind words ladies, means a lot. Well another of my friends has announced a pregnancy Envy. I am very happy for her of course but it still takes me by surprise how strong that feeling of 'why isn't it me?'is . Babies everywhere at the moment. DD was watching tv this morning and even Dora the sodding Explorer's mum was having a baby!!

PictureThis · 05/01/2011 09:06

Oh God, sorry Lychees, too absorbed in ranting about a cartoon, but I meant to say good luck with your next scan. I'll have my fingers crossed for you.

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Lychees · 06/01/2011 14:16

Hello *All,

Had my second scan today and the follicle is still slightly too small so I have another booked next Monday but I have to let the clinic know if I get my LH surge before then.

Hope everyone else is okay today.

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pointsmakeprizes · 07/01/2011 19:49

Hi lychees hope all goes well for you on Monday - must be a bit frustrating you couldn't do the IUI this week but the weekend is here and Monday will come around soon enough.

What dosage of clomid did you take and did you just get one egg? Our hospital has a policy that if you have more than one egg they will abandon the cycle of IUI - they are very pro single embryo and will only put back one embryo for IVF except in exceptional cases.

HalleLouja · 07/01/2011 22:39

What happened to Carlossss?

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Lychees · 08/01/2011 12:05

Ooh, I don't know what happened to Carlossss ... weird.

Points, I was put on 50mg of Clomid and I have one dominant follicle and one smaller one that seems to be growing, too. My clinic has said that if there are three or more follicles they would abandon the IUI cycle. I've read that with IVF, generally, they put two embryos back if you are under 35 and three if you are over. Your clinic does seem a bit stricter.

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pointsmakeprizes · 08/01/2011 18:20

Yes if under 35 then definitely only once embryo is put back regardless of situation and if over 35 then preference is one egg though you can argue your case for two - def no more than two.

Hope Carlosss is ok.

PandaEis · 09/01/2011 22:16

hi ladiesSmile
only just managed to catch upBlush
some good and bad news on here i see.

picture so sorry to hear about your mumSad i hope you get your BFP soon so you can share it with your mum xx

lilysma and louja great news your BFPs are developing nicelySmile

lychees good luck for the scan tomorrowSmile

hello to everyone elseSmile

nothing happening hereHmm AF is due in the next few days and to be honest i only managed to figure this out abut 10 minutes agoGrin i really had no idea where in my cycle i was at all!! makes a change i suppose[smle]

hope everyone is doing wellSmile

my DD was 5 yesterdayGrin and we had a party today for her today [frazzled emoticon]Grin one of her little friends came with her mum and 4 week old baby brotherEnvy and he was beautiful!! queue the 'when are you having another' questions from all the other adults in the roomHmm i just smiled and said we will seeGrin while inside i was mentally slapping them with a frozen troutGrin

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Lychees · 10/01/2011 11:21

Thanks, Panda. It's tricky deflecting all the questions about more children. I got asked about three times at the work's Xmas do alone ... I didn't think it was appropriate conversation for a work's party but nevertheless ....

I had my scan and only one follicle is growing now and they want it to grow some more before performing the IUI. So I have to trigger ovulation tomorrow night [for IUI on Thursday] unless I get my LH surge in the morning then I'll have to call them. It's stressing me out a little now, tbh. I would have normally ov'd by now [CD18] so I have no idea what Clomid has done to my body. Does anyone know if it can lengthen and already longer than average cycle? Has anyone heard of this? Or does anyone know about slow-growing follicles .. is this a bad thing? It's got me all worried.

Sorry about the "me, me, me" post. Hope everyone else* is okay.

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lateatwork · 10/01/2011 12:05

hi lychees just briefly delurking... I am sitting over on the assisted conception thread at the moment as have just started ivf.. (deep joy...)... i cant answer your question but just wanted to wish you the best of luck with the trigger and hope it all goes well.

i HATE the more children question. I know of 5 babies due around now... 2 already born (just) and 3 due any day. All (apart from one...) have younger siblings than my DD. I was pregnant twice before any of them were pregnant with their second- i just lost them both...

thumbwitch · 10/01/2011 13:12

Hello again - I've been missing off this thread for a while - but am going to start this year with a trip to the doc to get my hormone levels checked again and to ask about Clomid and other things. Since I am now 43 1/2, I really need to crack on if we're ever going to have no. 2 and it doesn't look like we're going to manage it on our own.

Will keep checking in - Happy New Year to you all and hope that it's your lucky year this year.

littleshamrock · 10/01/2011 14:15

Good luck Lychees, hope everything goes to plan!

Panda, hope your dd had a lovely birthday; why can't people just mind their own business or use a little tact?!

I'm sitting this month out as first of all was on antibiotics, after taking them for a week found out that I actually had swine flu! Well, it explains why I felt so rotten. So for the first time in nearly two years, honestly have no idea at what point I am in my cycle. Start again next month and hope for the best.

cerealqueen · 10/01/2011 23:55

Hello All
I've not been on for a while. I'm the last out of my post natal group now to get pregnant. The last one before me rang me two days before Christmas to tell me she is pregnant. So pleased for her as it took a few cycles of IVF but timing was a bit Confused.
Met with a friend today who has two DC and she introduced me to another mum, who also had two DC and said to me 'Just the one then" I said yes, angry, hiding my face. She commented to my friend, 'very sensible, I don't know why we do it'.
I wish I'd challenged her but was too upset.

My cycles are all over the place post an MC but we are back on the baby making wagon as DP so charmingly puts it as of this month!

Good to see some positives on here though and good luck Lychees for tomorrow.

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