Having difficulties ttc#2?

[Lychees]

After chatting on another thread, I've discovered that quite a few of us are having trouble ttc#2.

It's difficult to find much support in RL; people tell you that you should be happy as you already have a DC [I really am!] and unless they've been there, they don't really understand why it's so upsetting not to be able to get pregnant again so I've created this thread so we can share and we have a place that we can rant/vent/moan/support each other......

Sorry for the unimaginitive title ... marketing is not my area of expertise !

FYI, I'm 36, DH is 38, we have DS who is just over two and a half and we have been ttc#2 for 13 months.

We have had bloods and SA on the NHS and an internal scan and AMH privately and so far, our status is unexplained sub-fertility. If I don't get my BFP this time, next month we'll be having another SA and HSG privately.

Lilysma - I am so thrilled for you. It gives us all hope too.

I am feeling calmer than I have done in a long while which is strange considering I know how bad the semen analysis was. We are concentrating on trying to improve the SA by being healthy/supplements/acupuncture, waiting for the repeat one (to see if it was a blip) and hoping that a miracle will happen. At least we have a reason why things aren't happening. Up until now | kept getting my hopes up and getting so emotional. Who am I trying to kid? Once I get to ovulation I'll be the same again this month!

Fingers crossed for everyone

oo, we have a festive bear now [fbear] - that's good!

Will also be going the same route in the New Year, I think, Lychees. It's been too long and I'm starting to get a bit desperate while still maintaining zen-like calm about the whole business.

Fingers crossed for everyone in the same boat, on this thread and elsewhere - let's hope our wishes come true for Christmas!

Hello, how's everybody doing today?

HI Lychess!!!
everything fine here. Busy geting all the present sorted and shouting at my mum,LOL!!!! I hate it when she doesn't listen to me on purpose!!GRRRRRR
Are you girls all sorted?

Hello. Woo hoo, lilysma, great to have some good news on here.

Funnily enough I am feeling very calm at the moment too. I've got an appointment to discuss TTC over the age of 40 at the hospital. I'm meeting the MW who scanned me to confirm the MC, and she was lovely. We had been on the list for having some further hospital tests done together but we're now off the list as I managed to get pregnant.

Mind you my mindset could all change with the arrival of AF - if I'm back to my normal cycle she's set to arrive on Xmas Eve! Will try not to be too grumpy.

Hi Girls

was on a bit of a downer again last week - found out about 2 more pregnancies, one for the second and another one for her third, both with first DC same age as mine. Think it's official i am the only person i know who can't get pregnant.

and if that wasn't bad enough, AF is due on christmas day for me!

We are all expecting an unwanted Christmas visitor by the sounds of things. Let's hope she doesn't turn up .

Points you are officially not the only person who cannot get pregnant. As I don't seem to be able to get pregnant either.

But I am still hoping for at least two more children before I'm 40. I have just over three years to work at it.

Well I haven't ovulated yet so I am not expecting my period until after Christmas but I am really not holding out much hope this month now we have had the awful semen result. I just want to try to have a nice family Christmas and enjoy what I have. I just wish I could have one day where babymaking wasn't on my mind. It is there constantly and there are always reminders on facebook and in the street of bumps.

I can't recommend acupuncture enough though. I was a wreck, really stressed, tearful and obsessed and even though I still feel sad 'why me' I feel so much calmer. It has definitley been good for me and I was a real sceptic!

Not sure if this is going to seem insensitive but after 16 months of boring SWI trying I managed to get my BFP and have now had 12 week scan and fingers and toes crossed all seems fine so far.

HalleLouja, it's good to know that just because it hasn't happened in 16 months, doesn't mean it won't just happen naturally one day.

My colleague [who I have confided in about our difficulties] has told me that she is now ttc and thinks she might be pregnant in the second month of trying. She has been a good friend to me but hasn't really understood how I feel. I don't begrudge her [but I think she cannot know yet as her AF is not due for a week and a half] but I feel anxious now. In an office of only forty people [mostly men], I'm not sure how I'll cope with a fifth pregnant woman at work since we ttc. The others have, in the past two months or so, left to go on leave and I breathed a sigh of relief that I didn't have to hear anymore pregnancy stuff. But another one. I don't know how I'll cope ... I might just have to resign esp if our IUI attempt is not successful next month.

Not feeling it this month ... think I'll be starting my Clomid come Xmas Eve. Also, I have hives which I swear must be stress-related.

Sorry for the me, me, me post.

Hope everyone else is feeling more positive.

Good news on 12 week scan Hallelouja.

SmileyChicken, you never know, this month just might be your month despite SA findings. These things do happen.

Hi louja glad that all is going well at your end. We all have to think positive and keep our eyes on the prize!

lychees sounds tough with the work situation, hate having to hear people saying their about to ttc or just starting out and they always so positive and think it will happen right away. There must have been a time we were like that. You will cope, you have done in the past and you will do if she is pregnant this month.

Are you doing a clomid/iui cycle next? Fingers crossed for you, at least you are doing something and giving it your best shot.

Not sure what is happening with me, thought i had ovulated a week ago as had spotting and lots of ewcm but my temps have been really low for the last 4 days and today I had lots of ewcm again so I think maybe I am just ovulating now which is very annoying but then means that i won't be having AF on christmas day though. My body is just completely useless.

smiley lets try to make it the best christmas ever!

Hi everyone, me again. Thanks for the replies to my last posts by the way. As I mentioned have been trying for number 2 for 10 months - discovered this week that husband has very low sperm count, we are having it re tested. I fell pregnant with my son in first month of trying - just don't understand how this can be happening to us now! - anyone else with similar male factor problems, do you know if lifestyle changes can help increase sperm count, good luck to all

Thanks for the well wishes. Fingers crossed we have some more good news on this thread soon.

In the mean time my Xmas nickname is in the shortlist for the Xmas best name change - if anyone wants to vote for me in sympathy here's the linky. I do have some votes - but every vote counts.

With hindsight the whole depression that was my TTC journey has paled into insignificance.

Lychees your colleague might well be pregnant but there is no way she would know now. I think you need a fish frozen on the snow to give her a big whack.

Points keep shagging. It won't do you any harm apart from maybe make you sore.

Louja - congratulations. That is fantastic news.

Lychees - your colleague may not be pregnant after all. I thought I was pregnant every month for the first year of trying, even felt sick! If she is, then that is tough. Big hugs.

Good luck everyone. Fingers crossed fo us all.

Welcome carlossss. Sorry about the late reply ... I think you should carry on poas for your monitor even if you are still bleeding as it doesn't change what cycle day you're on. As long as you reset it to day 1 when AF first arrived, you'll be fine.

Hope you get a definitive answer from your second set of bloods and if pro-lactin is high, hope you get speedy treatment to rectify this.

My AF is due tomorrow and I don't think we've done it [well, I am kind of losing hope now after all thes months] but I am hoping for a delay [maybe the snow has postponed her travel plans . I have my first monitoring scan on 4th for our IUI attempt and if AF arrives tomorrow, I run the risk that I will already have ov'd by the time of my scan and we'll have to delay the IUI until Feb.

Anyway, hope you are all okay and all prepared for Christmas.

Hello everyone

Lychees, hope AF keeps clear till after christmas; mine is due any day now, talk about festive timing

Three pregnancy anouncements in the past week including one of my bosses, Is it just me or does it get harder every time to smile and congratulate? I honestly thought I was going to burst into tears and look like a right idiot

Hope everyone is doing well and that we all get BFPs for christmas!

We had secondary infertiltiy for 3 years and got fobbed off quite alot by the NHS as we had regular periods and one child already. Eventually had all the tests/lap and dye etc and my eggs were a bit too immature. Four NHS cycles of clomid and 2M/C's later i had child number 2 and am now expecting child number 3. We went privatly part way through TTC the last one as the NHS was slow/uninterested and didn't recognise that i needed a higher dose of clomid being older. Refering myself to the private consultant, seeing him, having the scan and recieving a higher clomid dose with an action plan of what drug to try next cost me 300 pounds. Best few hundred ever spent and I'd highly recommend to all you ladies. All that waiting is so very painful.

We found Wellman tablets from Boots (3 4 2)were great for improving hubbies sperm by the way. Contains lots of stuff for sexual sperm health.

LittleShamrock, it certainly doesn't get easier. I'm going to brave it and see some pregnant relatives over the Xmas hols ... I've just gotta suck it up and get on with it [even though it'll be tough-going].

SkyBluePearl, thanks for the positive story.

carlossss , glad your tests came back okay. IUI stands for intrauterine insemination. All that happens is that I get scanned every othe day-ish up to ovulation date, once it looks like I'm about to ovulate [they look at the size of the follicle containing the egg], they will then get my hubby in to give a semen sample, they "clean" this up, taking out all the abnormal ones etc and then I get [for want of a better word] basted. They put the semen straight in the uterus so its in exactly the right place. In addition, I'll be on Clomid to regulate my cycle as it's a bit irregular.

The luteal phase is the two weeks between ovulation and the start of your next period.

Hope this info helps. It took me a while to get used to all the lingo, too.

Also, a late thanks to everyone for their kind/supporting words re: my colleague's possible pregnancy. Somehow you cope and you carry on so I guess I'll just cross that bridge if I get to it.

Hope everyone is well and too busy with the festivites to be too worried about ttc this month and then perhaps we'll start getting some more BFPs on here soon .

Hi Everyone

Just want to say Happy Christmas and hope that we can all enjoy a lovely day tomorrow without too much stress!

A friend just gave birth and just found out about 2 more pregnancies this week - didn't realise I actually had so many friends until now!

Anyway I'm going to be starting tomorrow with champagne to toast the fact that I am still here and ok and managed to get through the last 18 months and even though the thought of another christmas not pregnant was unbearable to me last christmas - it's happened now and it wasn't so bad.

Hello. How were your Xmases?