Having difficulties ttc#2?

[Lychees]

After chatting on another thread, I've discovered that quite a few of us are having trouble ttc#2.

It's difficult to find much support in RL; people tell you that you should be happy as you already have a DC [I really am!] and unless they've been there, they don't really understand why it's so upsetting not to be able to get pregnant again so I've created this thread so we can share and we have a place that we can rant/vent/moan/support each other......

Sorry for the unimaginitive title ... marketing is not my area of expertise !

FYI, I'm 36, DH is 38, we have DS who is just over two and a half and we have been ttc#2 for 13 months.

We have had bloods and SA on the NHS and an internal scan and AMH privately and so far, our status is unexplained sub-fertility. If I don't get my BFP this time, next month we'll be having another SA and HSG privately.

I meant ENJOYED,byt the way

Fingers crossed for you DUFFEGG !!!!

AF has arrived full fore here [sad can't decided if I'm just angry or sad or both thing combined....
Last cycle was 37 days, this one only 24...I have my appointment with e consultant ont he 18th but I'm not hopeful..I've got the feeling I'll have t deal with another idiot!!!!
really really down now...was really hoping in a NORMAL cycle for once

Luce, really sorry about early arrival of AF again. Hope your appointment comes around fast and you find an understanding and sensitive DR who starts taking some action.

Duff, keeping my fingers crossed for you.

I'm currently just poas for my CBFM and getting lows so not much going on with me.

Hi ladies -

Am I allowed to join your thread? Not sure if I qualify, as apparently according to medical wisdom I'm "too old" at 42 (43 in Jan, so only just 42 :( ). I have a DD who's 4 in Jan, conceived astonishingly by accident when I was 38 with my now-ex, never thought I'd have children but of course now I wouldn't be without her.

Major life change and now I'm with a lovely man who is 48, and we've been trying for another (for me) little one since April, with no luck. He adores my DD and we would both love a sibling for her, it breaks my heart when she keeps asking me for a baby brother or sister as most of her little friends have one. She sadly told one of her friends the other day "I'd like a baby but Mummy won't let me have one", really made me sad!

Yes I know I should be grateful for the beautiful child I already have, and of course I am - but am I foolish for wanting another? My DP thinks we may be too old and has taken the no-doubt wise approach of "if it happens, it happens; if it doesn't, well we already have one beautiful little girl", but I'd rather hoped ... well, you know!

I've been doing the ClearBlue digital fertility tests, apparently I ovulate as regularly as clockwork if they're to be believed, AFs are also regular 28 days, but so far nothing. I mentioned it to my (female) doctor when I went to see her a couple of months ago for something else, and she was dismissive (in a nice way), saying my age isn't necessarily against us and 6 months (as it was then) wasn't a long time. I know, I know - but it feels like a lifetime, as I'm sure you all know! She didn't think I should undergo any tests yet - but surely it would be better to get things checked out? I don't know if such things are covered on my company BUPA but I'm presuming not.

I'm looking into having reflexology sessions now, to see if that helps. Of course I don't know if my DP has issues himself, but with his attitude of "if it happens, it happens; if not, then so be it" I can't see him going along for testing. I haven't broached the subject with him, and to be honest, after telling me he wanted to try for a baby and that I should have my IUD removed at the start of April, he hasn't really mentioned it since!

Anyway, just wanted to say Hi, and join in if I may? :)

Welcome Arian, your GP really should have sent you for tests already. I think the NICE guidelines state that over 35's [I'm 37 in Jan] should be tested after six months of trying.

I have found the NHS really unhelpful ... it's as if they don't really want to help if you've already got one. I can see why, with limited funds they have to give priority for treatment to those without children but the test are relatively cheaper.

I felt the only way to go was to get my tests done privately after my GP repeatedly told me to go away and try again.

Hope you're not on our thread much longer [for all the right reasons].

afternoon ladies

good luck duffegg

luce sorry AF arrived so early

my AF is due any time soon ( i dont monitor my cycles just the cycle day) im on CD28 so who knows

welcome arian

Oh ... I didn't know that? I thought the NHS (eg my GP, nice though she may be) would just say "oh you're too old, we don't pay for testing when you're that old" and tell me to go away, so I didn't really push it when I spoke to my GP before.

Well I have to go and see her again for something else, so perhaps I should raise it again. Can't hurt, right?

And thank you both for the welcome :)

aww duffegg sorry AF got you!! i was cautiously optimistic for you!

i keep feeling like AF is on her way but when i go the loo nowt ahh well only time will tell!!

Sorry to hear that Duffegg and Soupie I'm so sorry to hear your news. Take good care of yourself.

Not much to report yet, CD9, hopefully coming up for ovulation unless like last month it doesn't happen. Either way, DH has got a good week ahead of him, he's been warned .

*ARIAN8 hi and welcome aboard!!! here you are free to swear, send curses to stupid Drs and so on
Duff that sucks!!!! so sorry she got you!!!
Panda fingers crossed she'll stay away!!!!!

went to the Dr Surgery to collect the famous blood form that needed to eb amended ( remember the saga few weeks ago???) well......NOONE DID IT AGAIN!!!!!!! ARGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
Told the poor receptionist that it's disgusting and that it shouldn't take more than 6 weeks to get a stupid blood form amended!!!! told her it better be ready by Wednesday morning at the latest ebcause I need to go to the hospital on Wednesday afternoon
oh and I'll also be looking for a new Surgery, that's for sure!!!

luce how frustrating - as if you don't have enought to deal with and having to get super stressed every time you go down to the GP.

Sorry to duff and others who got their AF.

Welcome to new ladies.

I am so bored of all of this - think I am on CD12 at the moment so need to start getting my act together soon but have got some other things going on in my life that are stressing me out at the moment that for once I haven't really had a chance to think about ttc.

Luce that is so frustrating, what are they playing at!

CD20 for me today, OV took me by surprise this month and came on CD15 instead of CD18 so not sure about this month as we only BD on that day! I suppose it only takes one

I went to the docs on Tuesday and she has requested progesterone tests (21 day although 24 day for me) which i'm having on Monday. Lets see if they show anything - i don't think they will however as every month i get strong PMS symptoms which having not got a BFP for 12 months i have put down to progesterone after ovulation.

Might be TMI but i used preseed this month too as for the past 3-4 months EWCM has been somewhat lacking. Having more accupuncture today too.

Fingers crossed for us all this month!

Luce the service to get at your GP surgery is terrible.

Duff, good luck for this month.

Points sounds like you need some down-time.

Panda any news?

Choccie at least you've got hings rolling with the Docs.

Picture, I'm waiting to ov, too. I hate this bit. We have decide to bd every other day this cycle from end of AF so we're already knackered and still no high or peak on my CBFM yet.

hi ladies

no news here CD31 and no AF! i havent tested as i cant be bothered to be honest so i am going to ride it out for a few more days and test on sunday...maybe

hope everyone is doing well

Lychees I am exactly the same. I've been POAS every morning for the CBFM and haven't even managed a high yet let alone a peak. I'm CD 13 and usually have a 27-29 day cycle. I know it's not beyond the realms of possibility that I may ovulate but looking fairly unlikely at the mo...[and frustrated emoticon which should be the same as angry but with steam coming out of the ears]

Girls, I finally managed to go and get the Prolactine test done!!!!! ALLELUJA!!!! Went there on Wednesday am and the form wa still thewrong one so got really angry this time and told the receptionist I EXPECTED the right form to be ready by 12 at the lastest!!!!LOL
Went there at 2 and voitla, form ready and by 3 I' been to hospital and back!
Now next thing is the appointment with the consultant on the 18th. Any of you who's already ahd one and can tell me what to expect from it? Will they give me and internal visit?Scan?

Panda any news for us????

luce glad you finally got your blood test done!!

nope no news as yet (i havent tested though) i dont even know what CD i am on TBH...should check really as i am quite late now

how is everyone else??

have you tested yet panda?

Beginning to get a peak on the CBFM now - I just pee on the sticks, can't even be bothered to put it in the machine now - 2 good lines today so should see the peak tomorrow fingers crossed!

Feeling very low in general at the moment about a lot of things but hopefully things will sort themselves out next week.

I wonder if I will get a bfp by christmas - the thought of starting another year with no baby is pretty depressing. I can remember last christmas and thinking it won't be long now!

[Delurks]

So Panda any news???

I finally got my peaks on Saturday and Sunday ... yay! They were sneaky ones with no warning [no highs beforehand on my CBFM] but we were continuing with plan to bd every other day so hoping that there was already enough sperm to meet the egg.

Hope everyone is well this miserable, cold, wet morning.

afternoon

still no news here...CD35 and no AF. i didnt test yet either as i am firmly burying my head in the sand

i have had enough BFNs to last me a lifetime so i want to hold out as long as possible and see what happens

the consultant wont see me until 6 weeks anyway so i have a few days before i HAVE to test anywho...

hope everyone is ok

Points, how are you doing today, hun?

Picture did you get your peaks?

Panda I'm the same, I'd rather not see a BFN - "Ignorance is bliss"! How are you doing?

Is anyone else feeling like they might have done it? Any tests/appointments coming up?

We have decided to keep going naturally until the end of the year and then, we'll go back to the private FC in January to discuss options. Hopefully, it won't come to that and I'll get a nice Xmas pressie. Hopefully, it will be one of many Xmas presents for our thread.