More ongoing and continuing conceptions and follicling ahead of Feisty, Fabulous Forty somethings

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I've started a new thread!

Of course recommend us. We are all gonna be up the duff soon so the thread will need new ones [hgrin] Blimey I remember doing the halloween faces last year - time has flown by.

jolls me old mucker. Good luck for Friday. You do sound a lot better. [hsmile]

[henvy] that Lia and alba are mateys in real life!

Hello! Good to hear from you Jollster and glad to hear you sounding so positive x Sounds like you're making progress, even with the NHS clinic...
Not sure what's going on with my body. Day 2 of temp rise, but now I'm getting loads of EWM, seemingly after I've ovulated . I'll be damned if I'm getting my slanket off now that I've just settled comfortably into it, so will just have to hope that it's not linked to ov in any way!
Right, off to bed! Night all (have turned oil burner off) [hsmile]

hello everyone, My ears were burning so popped over for a looky. [hgrin]

Just to say I am so looking forward to sharing Alba's experience with her, and I sincerely hope that I can help make it a positive experience that she and her lovely dh won't forget.

hippy how is the aged thyroid? Hope it went well at hospital.

jolls remind me what testing you are having, In june Dh and I both had tests done seemed to be matter of course here. Hope it gives you some answers.

I am now 18 wks on Thursday and I think am starting to feel the odd movement, got cons on Thursday too so am wondering whether he'll listen for heartbeat. I am under cons not mw as I have complicated pg's with excess fluid and OC every time. Was hoping I might escape this time, nice easy one to finish off on a high but already my hands have started to itch a bit . Bang goes my HB idea, bloody pool has been to 3 people now and never been used.

Also restless legs are driving me insane, I am waking up in the night and using lavendar massage oil to give them a firm rub (oh those were the days ) before I can get back to slpeep.

Sorry not to namecheck everyone, I hope everyone is in good spirits, I am coming out of my dark tunnel now and starting to feel, dare I say it, A bit more human.

[hsmile]

Liaghen Hello i REALLY wanted to pick your brains on what you did in the end that may have helped you get s sticky one...

I am here but as for cd i dont have one as an in mmc phase.... aaargh!

LIST
baggy pants
muchlove Age 43 CD 3
Jolls Age 42 CD4
40someMum age43 cd
Curlylox age 43 CD8
Gum Age 43 CD2

vest and shorts phase
??? curly soon????

Slanket phase
Hippy aged 44 2dpo
Diege age 40 2dpo
BB age 40 6dpo
GG age 42 8dpo
10000ff 11dpo

italiangreyhound age 45 - cd ?? waiting for May

Alba - still doing well!

Hi everyone. I haven't been saying much - just feeling blue that after all that shagging we still didn't hit the golden egg. It's a little demoralizing - trying so hard to no avail! I'm also a bit off cos it's only 3 weeks til my next birthday and I thought by now...Also my Dh turns 50 next week and he's not feeling much like having another baby, especially not having a two year old again! I'm starting to think I might have to give up ttc.[hsad]

Maybe I'll feel differently tomorrow? Or when I get a positive opk?

Wow, how about that - Alba and Lia meeting in real life.That is very cool![hsmile]

Muchlove so sorry you are feeling so down. Thinking of you.

Galwaygirl where did you get this amazing enzyme diet from.

Wow AlbaDeTamble and Liahgen meeting up. How lovely.

Well, I am still missing a period! I have worked out bloating may be bananas so dietician may be right! So pleased I did not send that grumpy-I-think-you-are-wrong email I was planning on sending!

My last period came on around 6th August so does that make me CD75 !!!!!!!!!!!!

Yes, I remember those Halloween hats from last year! They hung around for ages! We don't celebrate Halloween but we do usually buy a pumpkin to eat! Last year we had big plans for that pumpkin but I think it went off! So we got a butternut squash and made soup from it (authentic soup that DD hated). This year we have already make pumpkin soup. This year I misread the stock packet which said 4 teaspoons for a litre and as I was using 2 pints I calculated that as 8 teaspoons!!!!!!!!!!! It was really salty and disgusting BUT DD loved it because it tasted like the gravy granules I use!

Just watching wedding house where a couple are having a civil partnership after knowing each other exactly three months! Two blokes and the parents of the older one are meeting the partner today for the first time! Can't say I would be happy if DD announced she was getting married after knowing someone for 3 months! She is still insisting she will marry her dad! Have told her it is not allowed! I seem to remember I wanted to marry my dad, then later my cousin and then ended up marrying someone I was not at all related to (bug sigh of relief!)

hello all. ds2 has got me up at stupidoclock, even before cbeebies was on the air. aaargh.

in 2ww here. no signs, but wondering if I can test before Friday as I am due a big night out then. I'll be cd9 - too early?

big discussion with boss today about my job. Don't know what I want, but need to think about this and make a brilliant proposition by 3pm. another aagh!

Sorry not to namecheck anyone - brain too dead.

Italian I watched that too! couldn't stop cringing as the former boy band person sang to his bride!

lia Hello there - glad you're coming out of the tunnel. I will try very hard to get pregnant asap so that I too can meet you in real life [hgrin] Wonderful news that you're gonna be at alba's birth. I am sooooo [henvy]. I wanna have a birth again!!

gum sorry you're feeling down. It is rubbish when you feel like you've tried your hardest isn't it? I felt like that after the caravan of love week [hsmile].

40somemum Big hugs to you, you sound so . I hope you're soon feeling much better. Sorry to be so vague but I didn't realise you'd had such a recent loss. When did you have the MMC? Don't talk about it if you don't want to and many many apologies if you've already told us and I'm just being thick.

BB How you managed to even type at that time of the morning is beyond me. Good luck for the meeting with your boss.

Big hugs to jolls diege italian muchlove GG and anyone else i've missed.

Nothing to report here. Except DH made a move for a bit of SWOI last night. 2 days after ovulation - what a cheeky bugger. I gave in gracefully cos he is always so obliging when I need him. Do you think it could count as sassy's SWITI or too early??? He has suddenly become a night time person as well as a morning person. Should make SWI easier next month if I'm not successful this month [hgrin].

Bloody cheek of your dh Hippy, honestly, they have full rein for 2/3 days and then think that applies to the rest of the month too . Get him into the his and hers slanket and fast.
Lia re: restless legs I had that terribly when pregnant with dd3 and found eating a banana before bed helped (to do with the potassium I think); might be worth a try?
40some It's horrible in mmc land - have been there a few times myself. Is this related to the chemical pregnancy, or something different? (sorry for being dense)
Gum I know what you mean about hopelessness - my dh is also coming up to his 50th (in March) and has been making a few negative noises of late too about ttc-ing. Try to keep your spirits up (hard I know, esp after all the effort)x
I had a bit of an 'episode' on the way to the train station this morning. I felt very nauseous and faint, with rasing pulse and had to sit down on the platform as no seats . Turns out I'd had a few sips of coffee that was 'real' (caffeinated) when I'd asked for de-caffeinated, so think that was what did it. I've not had a caffeinated drink for about 2 years, but am surprised a small lapse could have such an effect! (or could it count as a very early symptom?? Another temp raise this morning, which confirms ov as last Sunday, though more EWM today too...
Anyway, will stop rambling and go and teach - full day of it today - will be glad to get home to my beloved Waterloo Road and The Apprentice

Hello ladies, I posted here a while ago after my 2nd MC this year. We have been ttc for nearly a year and I was 43 last month. I am having a bit of a down patch at the moment(probably because CD1) Dh has suggested we don't ttc for a couple of months as 'we' don't want a summer baby because of being the youngest at school. I feel that every month is important I'm getting older and every egg counts. I've seen a couple of you have taken a break from ttc and think you must be very brave. Dh says a couple of months will make no difference. But will we miss a good egg. Would you miss 2mnths ttc if you were 43 or should I use it to have a bit of a rest and then go for it. Thanks goodness for Liaghen she is my example of hope. She's done it so there's hope for over 43's.
Any advice much appreciated.

Spotty

spotty Hi there. Interesting question. Personally i would not be happy to miss out a month or two because i do feel that i'm getting to the 'now or never' stage. I turned 44 in August, so am just a bit ahead of you.

I think it is so much more stressful to TTC at our age becasue of this impending shut off period. If I were 35 I'd be a lot more relaxed about the whole thing.

I guess it has to be a join decision between you and your DH and I don't know how stressed out you are at all.

All I can say is that I was in danger of missing a month this month due to some argie-bargie at home and was thinking that i wouldn't try this month. BUT as soon as I got egg whites and then a positive on an OPK I knew I had to make up with Dh and try. All i could think was that this egg might be the one that was meant to be our next little baby. IYSWIM.

Of course if you don't do it for a couple of months you will never know that THAT was the month you were meant to get the egg .

I hope this makes sense and i must stress again that it is up to you completely and only my take on it.

ps. spotty The baby that i lost in Feb would have been due on 31st aug so could have been the youngest or the oldest - I wasn't worried about it at all. Also the date of the period I had in March meant that had we got preggers then our due date would have been Xmas day!!! (I didn't tell Dh that bit incase he said let's not try then), what i'm saying is - personally i don't think you need to stress about when the baby would arrive.

pps. spotty my Dh said he would like a spring baby cos our boys are both spring. He said should we stop now and start again in a few months so we had a spring baby, I think my exact words were, "Shut up you bloody idiot!" Just a suggestion [hgrin]

Thanks hippy, you make a lot of sense to me but dh doesn't take my age into consideration he just thinks we've managed to have babies before and this time is just the same. But I'm old in terms of ttc. There are no guarantees of anything I know and as you say I don't want to be wondering forever if those eggs were good eggs.

my dh is the same Spotty - not wanting to avoid a summer baby, but being blase about missing a month. He doesn't get how difficult it is to conceive at our age, and how every month does count. I don't miss months, but think my dh then deliberately sabotages my chances by developing back ache/being too tired etc and not swi.

I'm in 2ww now, so its a good time to be angry with him

Hippy, I'm glad my dh isn't the only one who has silly ideas about timing. Now how do I seduce him into thinking it was his idea to keep trying

BB Darn that silent saboteur. I too am on the 2WW - lets just stay snuggled here in our slankets [hgrin]

X posted spotty. Now how to make him think it's his idea to keep going - ahh that is even tougher. DH was looking at babies on TV and said he really does want one - so maybe just show him subliminal messages of new born babies!!!

Wow, as I was typng that,an advert for a snugglie came on the telly - i kid you not - how weird!

Beattie My dh has done the too tired, but back ache or being ill wouldn't stop me I'm pretty sure he's 'faked' dtd sometimes when he's tired just to keep me happy I couldn't say for certain and can't believe i'm writing this.

spotty Wouldn't you know if he'd faked it? I mean wouldn't there be lack of the secret ingredient the next day??? Sorry, far too nosey for my own good that's me [hsmile]

hippy as I say I can't be certain But sometimes when i know for sure there isn't that much and sometime i'm not lacking in my own ingredients if you know what i mean

Now that is way tmi for anyone but you did ask

I am very intrigued by this faking it business..so I'm presuming this is when dh is ttc (ie. not wearing a condom?) Could you perhaps tell which is which re: 'outpourings' by smelling it?? (oh dear, I'm burning up just writing this). That would be my tip anyway! Re: missing a few months out, I too would be a little put out by this - I don't think any of us, young or 'older' necessarily has the option of picking birthdates. Is it something that your dh is wavering about or is his mind made up?

spottysox I wouldn't miss a month on the basis of when your baby would be born. If you got pregnant by accident and it was a summer baby would DH be unhappy? I expect you would both be ecstatic so why risk missing a month. I say keep them in the dark about when to try and just try when you want to! It's your body that is going to get pregnant BUT Zita West (fertility guru) says try when they want to as the sperm will be stronger! So I guess we need to get them in the mood at the right time! No slankets that day!

Diege I too love the apprentice. We have been coming up with some apprentice style conception quotes... you know what they say at the beginning when they are saying how great they all are. It's at assisted conception
here

For example...
-Being injected every night brings out the best in me!
-Babies and getting pregnant motivate me, my first word was MUMMY and my second was TUMMY!

Hippy how nice that your DH wants to make love you not just service your ovaries! Treasure it!

Great image of diege sniffing her knickers - haha [hgrin]

Seriously, spotty I truelly hope he isn't doing that as it would be very upsetting for you. I do understand what your saying.

Perhaps you need to have a serious talk with him about what he really wants re: another baby. I hope it works out and you can convince him that it's best to keep trying. Sorry to have pressed you about the 'faking it' stuff. Personally I think once they are in the throes of it all they would be more likely to carry on and get a real conclusion - IYSWIM.