So near, yet so far! Holiday villa for those waiting TTC#1 having suffered mc

[MamaPower]

Hi all,

I need to take a holiday with some lovely peeps in the same position; I'm TTC#1 but had 2 mc's this year and now discovered my luteal phase is only 9 days (anything under 10 considered a defect) and probably the reason that I cannot retain a pregnancy.

If you have yet to be blessed with motherhood because mc has cruelly taken away your chance so far, then this is the place to retreat for some R & R whilst your body recovers.

Pull up a sun lounger, and lie back for some lighthearted banter and support whilst monitoring cycles or undergoing investigation and wash down the Vit B6, Agnus Castus, Progesterone and Clomid with a lovely vodka glass of sparkling spring water!!

I ended up making it with potato when I discovered there was no pasta either :-)

Would love a mojito if any are on offer.

Hoorah!

Mmmmmmmmmojito :-) Plus they must be healthy thanks to their mint content......?? at the pasta surprise!

Hello everyone. Golly! Do I need a mojito right now!? (Yes I do! incase you wondered).

I had my mc confirmed at 8 weeks yesterday, though really I had known for a good week or so it was on the cards. Even DP had commented that I didn't 'seem pregnant anymore'.

Really gutted of course and just want the bleeding to finish now so we can start again. It all still feels a bit unreal. One minute your pregnant and worrying about the increasing size of your breasts the next it is all over and you are back where you started.

Heavens, I need that drink! Someone pass me a bottle of wine and some soft cheese.

Hi hiding really sorry for your loss :( I hope you're doing ok and the bleeding is easing off now. I found it really helpful being here and on this thread, the ladies are very supportive and can make you feel a lot less isolated while you're going through this. x

Thanks for your kind words Pink. Mumsnet has definitely been a life saver in general through the whole process. It helps to know you're not alone.

How is everyone in here?

Not bad, ta, velvet - did you manage to sort out your dress? :)

I'm okay Velvet, thanks. Have been terrible - lots of sobbing sessions at unpredicatble moments and feeling like my world has ended, but am now trying really hard to drag myself out of it. Have been to the gym twice in two days [smug but fragile emoticon]

Hi Velvetcu! And some hugs for Wombat, I am impressed by your gym visiting and hope you begin to feel better soon. I'm really busy at work at the moment which is a bit of a mixed blessing really. At least it keeps me out of trouble.

I find that one minute I am fine and then for no obvious reason I'll suddenly be on the edge of tears. I'm not sure it has really sunk in yet and I haven't been able to have a proper cry. I have a terrible premonition that it will suddenly hit me at the most inapropriate moment and I'll scream and burst into tears in the middle of a meeting or something.

Pregnant woman just sat next to me on train :(

wombat and hiding hope you're doing better soon, easier said than done I know

Pregnant woman just sat next to me on train :(

wombat and hiding hope you're doing better soon, easier said than done I know

Womble ! Nice to see you again :)

Orange at least now it's Winter they'll be mostly covered with coats so less obvious to us :)

Hiding I tended to find I was okay during the day but as soon as Mr Shoes fell asleep at night I was instantly awash with wailing and snottering - having time to think wasn't good for me. If you're super-busy at the moment it may well hit you when you get some quiet time - hopefully it won't be in the middle of a meeting :)

snottering too at that letter written & published by Rachel in response to Lily Allen.

When does this all get easier? Which one of us MC'd the longest ago? My ERPC was June 3rd.

I think PV probably wins that prize, but she's hiding/lurking.

I was one day behind you, velvet , on June 4th.

This is not an anniversary I can see us celebrating!

In terms of longest TTC I think Dachs is probably the winner and I really hope things are going well for her, if she's lurking :)

Was just wondering how long it takes before its not so bad anymore. And does getting past your due date make a difference?

hello people :) I've been semi-lurking (not had the energy to turn the computer on when i get home, these IVF drugs are making me really tired. i DON'T recommend it...)

sorry for being a crap lurker...

thanks owl Do I get a prize for being the longest TTCer? ;)

They are hoping to collect my eggs next Wed, Thu or Fri so hopefully they'll get put back in about 3 days later and there might be a mini dachs... FX

I think I will lose hope totally if it doesn't work, so I've been a bit depressed lately. Sorry for not posting much, I just didn't want to spread my misery!

Hope you are all well

I think you do, my lovely, and hopefully that prize will be a successful IVF in a few days time!

Have everything crossed for you x

Also, velvet I wish I knew when it gets better. At the moment I'm starting to think it doesn't. It's not as painfully raw as it was, say, 3 months ago, but it's still completely shit and depressing.

I agree. It's shit and depressing and I spent most of Friday evening sobbing about the f*ing unfairness of it all.

So, I had another appointment at the clinic today. It looks like egg collection will be on Friday and the embryologist will call me on Saturday to let me know how they are looking. There should be at least 10-12 follicles that they can get something from though, so fingers crossed there will be at least one or two good ones.

Really not sure how I'm going to focus on work this week. The baby thing is taking over my life somewhat!

Hope you are all well. Good luck and hope it gets better for you all soon

Dach fingers crossed for you on Friday. It is freezing here and can still not believe the x-factor result from yesterday.