We're not obsessing, we're Just Shagging! Part III

[BrassicaBabe]

The 'rules' from our Just Shagging Originator

Maintain a relaxed attitude at all times - drink if you want too, especially on your birthday. Thread precedent dictates if you drink to excess you will get a BFP (but not recommended)

Covet thy husband and enjoy every minute. Shag at ever opportunity - shag-capes and awesome superpowers optional.

Resist the lure of ovulation predictor kits, Taking Control of Your Fertility and the dreaded First Repsonse. Knowing where you are in your cycle is entirely permissible though!

Going to the doctor is permitted if you've had a stupidly long cycle but beware of the dildo-cam-scan.

Keep acronmyage to a minimum! EWCM is now to be referred to as 'pant snot'.

Keep us up to date with gossip!

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Although all most of these rules are well and truely broken!! But we try to chill - honest

Part 1 Graduates:
Tanmu82 - BFP
PrivetDancer - BFP
OnlyWantsOne - BFP
Frankenfanny ? BFP
Notso - BFP
knittakid - BFP
loopeylu - BFP
PinkFondantFancy - BFP
Grannyapple ? BFP
Fuzzywood - BFP
canoe - BFP
janedoe - BFP
StarflowerGirl - BFP

Part 2 Graduates:
ihaveaplan - BFP
lovemylulu - BFP
shitforbrains - BFP
gormers - BFP

Shout if I've missed anyone.

Hello - not posted for ages, but been lurking, thanks for your updates and for keeping me sane (kind of). Well AF still not returned (after 5 months off pill)so have now been prescribed Clomid.... Just finished round 1. Not really had any side effects although finding it difficult to sleep (but often can't sleep so might not have anything to do with it) and dull ache on left side (this might just be in my head :))

Also bit confused as when I had the scan the lady told me I had PCOS, however the doctor then told me he wasn't convinced I do . Anyway won't get any follow up scans or blood tests, just told to go away and get on with it. I wouldn't have a clue if it wasn't for advice on here!

Now just waiting until I can use OPK/see if temp has gone up - praying it works, don't even care if I don't get BFP this month - just want my body to get back to normal!

Cometalk - know what you mean about wishing hadn't told people about ttc. But so difficult when everyone has been asking ever since we got married...

Hi Hallie welcome back.

Brassica it gets so confusing doesn;t it? Glad you sound more upbeat about it now and you got your JSing in so good times!

Takethatandparty sounds like a great night and not even the weekend! Big up from me...

We've not talked to anyone about TTCing mainly because I'm quite private generally but also because I've never wanted to be a parent so am still getting my own head around the idea! I think partly I didn;t want to hear the 'I told you so's from people who always said I would change my mind (and for the record it was DH who changed my mind, not me!) and because my sister told everyone they wanted a baby as soon as they were married and although it only took them a few months to conceive, my Mom did her head in asking about it all the time!

On the flip side, my best friend was very open about TTCing when they got married and now 2 years on her struggle with infertility is quite public as people ask her what is happening, which feels very difficult for her.

Not to be doom and gloom about it though as I love it just being between us for the time being. (apart from that time when we were all really drunk and DH told his brother I'd had my implant out and said brother started drunkenly whining about how he wanted us to have babies so his kids have cousins to be friends with and so we would move back home. am pretending this didn't happen as he hasn't mentioned it again and often gets drunk-related amnesia!)

Hi Hallie and sorry you're not getting great advice and support from your GP. Fingers crossed you can start tracking your cycles so you have a better fel for what's going on (I'm totally with you on this, after no periods for 8 years on Implanon I've had a lot to learn!)

My house smells of the chicken stock I'm making. All I want to do now is eat chicken flavour chips (crisps). Agghh.

Congrats on ov'ing (and SWI) Brassica! Let the madness commence huh?

Yeah, Boo and EH?
to all the rest of you.

A friend of mine posted on facebook a few months back that she and her DH had decided to take the plunge and TTC. A couple of weeks later she was complaining of feeling ill and everyone was posting that maybe she was up the duff. Turned out she just had the flu. This was around the time I finally bullied convinced DH to start TTC DC2. There was no way I was going to put myself in that spotlight. To much pressure! Not even our parents know we're TTC.

I soooo agree truffkin about telling people about ttc. I too never wanted kids, until I met DH that is. I just wish I had a decent response/putdown when people ask. I tend to resort to out and out lies! "I'm 37 for heavens sake, I've managed to avoid it this long...." I get really defensive when people ask. I hate the fact that it's expected of us, so I tend to go out of my way to go agaisnt their expectations. Which is course is not what we're doing!

Chicken stock? You domestic godess you!

We told everyone we are ttc, and last month we told family and a few friends we were pregnant. Don't mind they knew ttc, but it was bloody awful having to tell people about the mc/chem preg so next time I'm waiting until the 12-week scan even to tell my mum. She's going to be well angry as on the actual day of the miscarriage while I was crying she made me promise her to tell her straight away next time too (she also said, 'I expect you'll be giving up drinking now, won't you' and 'well, perhaps there's a lesson to be learned from this and you won't get so excited next time' ).

She's sort of right though. It'll be hard keeping it secret since I am both easily excitable and a total drunk. I'll have to just keep shagging DH to get my kicks.

Truffkin - thanks. Know what you mean - the doctor kept asking me what my periods were like before the pill, but after 14 years I can't really remember!

And for ovulation brassica! Let's hope your DH pumped some decent swimmers into you last night!

Brassica I could have written that post myself, especially the bit about getting defensive when people ask. DH's family are highly that we have been married for 3 years and not even a whiff of a sprog so I do get a lot of questions. All well meaning but at first it annoyed me that people couln't accept that we got married for being married rather than 'starting a family' and now it annoys me because I don't want people to know we are TTCing and so have to think of ways to respond without out and out lying (which I feel bad about)

I'm not sure which thread it was on that we were thinking of amusing comebacks, there were some good suggestions but I'd never be brave enough to say it! I usually resort to the catch all "oh well, with grandchildren on both sides at least the pressure is off us!"

I have to say that although we've taken the plunge so to speak, I do still have wobbly moments. Usually when we've had a really good weekend that would not be possible with children (you know the random, spontaneous, boozy times that seem to run seamlessly from Friday night to Sunday lunch?) so am hoping that this feeling all other parents talk about where you don't feel the need for those times quite as often, will arrive when I'm actually up the duff!

Hehe Truffkin that feeling certainly does arrive once you get up the duff. It's called morning sickness. (Evil emoticon)

In a way taking time ttc has had a positive effect on me. At the beginning I wasn't too sure. I wasn't dead against the idea, but I wasn't sure either. But now all I want to do is make DH a daddy. I still wobble about what a crap mother I'd make and how I'm going to be poor, have a ruined body and no life though

You're right, we did talk about this a while ago. I'm still waiting to use the "we're having too much dirty sex to have a baby"! I'm not that much of a bitch though to go with "Did you not know? I can't have children". Might be fun watching a few folks squirm though.

Generally I make sure I'm seen out and about being a lush haveing a drink to keep the nosey parkers away!

takethat you will never make it to 12 weeks before telling your mum!

In the spirit of helping takethat build strength to not tell anyone until 12 weeks when she gets her BFP soon what have you guys all thought about when / how you would do this?

Originally I thought that having a September BFP would be great for a Christmas 'reveal' as we could buy grandparent and 'aunt & uncle' Christmas cards and write the good news in there. I know this sounds a bit over the top but as I've mentioned in previous posts, it will be a big surprise to everyone that we have decided to have children so am kind of wanting to make it special. (I'm also quite rubbish at imparting good news that relates to me, was blushing like a beacon when we told PILs we were engaged and DH did all the talking then!) I'm also wondering as it's highly likely possible that we will miss the September boat now, is there a way we could do the announcements when it's not Christmas but that's still a bit different and special?

Please do feel free to give me a sharp kick feedback if you think this is a stupid idea and we should just tell our families like normal people

With regards to DH, I would want to do a test when he was here so he would kow straight away. I clearly say this having not had to do a test when there was even the faintest chance a likelihood that I could actually have a bun in the oven, so am well aware that my resolve may crumble when it comes down to it

Ha ha, thanks for the support truffkin. PMSL brassica, you cheeky mare!

truffkin I have also been thinking of the Christmas reveal I thought it would be a way of making up for having kept the secret for 12 weeks. But I'd have to be preggo now for that with my cycles. I'm 2DPO so maybe I am, but I have just destroyed my body with wine, vodka, and a large strange bottle of orange Caribbean alco-pop, so I doubt it. Though I have been drunk on or about ovulation day the last three months in a row . Even thought I could put scan pics in Christmas cards for our parents.

But in reality I think that probably is a bit nuts because it would force people into having to have an amazed face (a combination of , , ) - like it's a brilliant present we're giving them! So I doubt we'll do it that dramatically. But I like your style! And it would be nice to tell people then!

Just realising that if I get preg between now and Christmas and it's less than 12 weeks at Christmas I'm going to have one heck of a job keeping it quiet. Guess I'll have to pour my 10 am Baileys into a pot plant on Christmas day, and get 'sick' on New Year's Eve!

I think it?s a great idea Truffkin, I don?t like being in the limelight either so it?s a good idea. For me I think it means more to me telling my Mam than in laws as they?ve got 5 grandkids already but there?s no-one on my side so extra special for us. Me and DH have agreed to only tell certain people when it happens, like my best mate, who I would probably turn to if something went wrong so I would be ok telling her if I had early mc, whereas telling my Mam (again, has happened before) would be horrific so I won?t tell her until the safe period.

If I told Mam I had something to tell her she?d guess straight away so I want to get our first scan, then tell her I have something to show her, then say ?meet your grandchild? as I show her the scan.

I need some opinions please, definitely didn?t imagine the pains yesterday as I have them again today, nothing major, very slight pains that I usually get at ov time, and I?ve got creamy, sticky discharge (sorry if TMI). Any ideas what this could mean? This is my third month off the pill and have been regular as clockwork the other 2 months with nothing like this happening.

PSML at takethat - love that you woke up in clothes you don't remember putting on

cowboy ... ooooohhhhh! (contains excitement)

Josie... I'm thinking implantation maybe?!:)

brassica :( at your meltdown but glad dh 'sorted' you out and temps are up. One of the reasons I haven't got into the whole opk yet is because i'm the type who would go completely mad and get all obsessed. All this 'knowing' stuff can cause more grief than good if you ask me. Although I tell you if AF arrives this weekend I'll be straight on the internet to get them [impatient face].

13 days dpo...
I will not poas
i will not poas
i will not poas...

Oooo, I hope so Milano, will find out next fri hopefully, as I try my hardest not to google implantation signs until then Be strong in not POAS! How many DPO can you test if you don;t have regular cycles?

takethat if you are 2DPO, I reckon I'm 1DPO and Nelly was on the same cycle day as me. We can have a test fest in a week couple of weeks?!

josie I'm not sure about the pains, but that CM doesn't sound "optimal" fertile. (I'm becoming a CM Oracle! ) Maybe watery/pant snot will be along shortly. Or maybe it doesn't matter! SWI all the way I say!

I have no idea how I'd break it to the world. I have no idea even how I'd tell DH

milanomum, POAS!

Ooops, meant...

Ooh brassica I'm up for the testfest. We had one back in May and it's taken this long for my cycles to catch back round!

I'm thinking of going for Wednesday 22nd September. I'll either have to do it at 6.30am when I get up or 8.30am when I get to work. Not to be over-organised or anything!

Jees, we've been around here too long takethat! May is a long time ago. Yep, I'm on for Wednesday 22nd testfest. Nelly are you with us?

Thanks Brassica. I?m about 8/6 DPO and normally have nothing round about now so I?m a bit confused!

Good luck Takethat

ok, so i didn't read page 8 of the thread...doh!

I didn't tell anyone we were ttc or that i was pregnant until i was 3 months gone! I was just so terrified that something would go wrong and being the first grandchild for my parents it just seemed like such a responsability. i did get pregnant the month after we started trying though so it wasn't that long to wait!

Lot's of people ask me if I'd like another kid and I made the mistake of saying that yes, we'd like another kid and if it happens then it happens... but that was a few months ago so people start raising their eyebrows if i refuse a drink/coffee/say i feel ill/wear a baggy shirt and it's driving me mad!

I lkie the idea of the cards 'truffkin' - even if it wasn't Christmas you could still send little stork cards to people saying "you're going to be an uncle" etc. I wanted to send a box to my parents with a little pair of booties in it but in the end I just told them on the phone (we don't live in the same country).

I didn't test with my dh. I was at work and i only tested because I had a dental appointment and thought i should check but didn't actually think i'd be pregnant :)

Oooh, implantation then like milano says josie?!