The Bus Stop - Waiting to TTC (part 3)

[bebejones]

New thread ladies! :)

Old one here

Will go get the list.....

Hi jbells - I would really swap to another dr as if you have already been told their is a possibilty your fertility is being affected they should be helping you to deal with it/ find out.
I was thinking the same as whywait . I dont have to leave now we are officially ttc (had another chat last night....and I'm on folic acid now too)do I? I like all of you and want to stay part ofthe group!
bebejones yep thats the name of the programme- I sob buckets at it. snuggling !

JBells - I think you should get a 2nd opinion! Especially with what you were told after they cocked up! They should have followed it up rather than just let you hang on not knowing if you have any possible fertility issues.

Amummy/Whywait - you don't have to leave us!

Been thinking about thread titles, and the only thing I can think of is quite long!

"We're taking the train...some now boarding, some delays, some still standing on the platform! TTC 'Waiters' IIT!"

I'd love to stay with you guys as and when the time comes. Always just assumed I'd have to join a bus, but I find them a bit scary!

Save me a seat on the Train! Good idea bebe! Love it!

I suppose the doctors are reluctant to put you through some potentially invasive tests (that are possibly not totally risk free themselves) before they have to jbells. But that does not help you if you do end up TTC for ages then finding out you had a problem all along.

If you would rather have the tests done before you start TTC for your own peace of mind though, I think this would be well within your rights and you should definitely push for this. Don't take no for an answer! Go straight to the top!

I watched Cherry Has A Baby too and enjoyed it. I thought it was funny how clueless she seemed compared to all of us on here about fertility etc! And she is the pregnant one! Ha! I also enjoyed Special Deliveries, I want to give birth in NI so i can have one of those lovely midwives with the soothing, gorgeous accents!

Getting a bit stressed about my birthday weekend (this weekend) now, people are not letting me know if they are coming, aarrgghh! Also worried about being in charge of the cooking........hmmm. Will it matter if I don't go? :)

This is my outfit for the party, is it a bit too zippy?

I like the dress! Think it'll look good, and if you like it that's the main thing, you have to wear it after all...& it is ^your party!! :) Hate it when people won't commit to things like that, what's worse though is people saying they are coming and then not turning up!

I was just going to ask whether you had got your birthday threads yet! lol @ too zippy! It looks nice.

I feel much better today, thanks everyone. DH is back from his training course finally so I am not moping about on my own any more. And a really difficult client at work finally went away satisfied this morning thank goodness.

JS the situation at work sounds tricky. Obviously it's part of your boss's job to manage absence, but it sounds like he's not going about it in a sensitive way. I doubt there is much you can do about his attitude but the important thing is to get the message across that this is a condition that you are learning to manage, rather than something that's spiralling out of control. If he's not talking about performance management, then it's not the situation that's bad, it's just your boss's attitude to it. Hopefully you'll be out of there soon anyway.

JBells I'm sorry to hear that the doctor seemed dismissive. You must be so annoyed about the 12-18 months. Waiting to see what happens this cycle is probably sensible advice though. It could be nothing. I've missed periods before, and so have other people on MN.

This sounds gross whywait, but what made me feel better when I had cystitis was a tip from another thread on MN - having a bath whilst drinking loads of water and....wait for it....weeing in the bath.

Sorry if that is TMI!

morning all

thanks for all your advice, i have decided to stay off the pill and see what happens and weather my cycle just returns to normal if it doesnt then i will def push for an examination to c wots going on its non invasive and pretty straight forward

AC-glad your feeling better now your DH has returned it so lonely when they away and your used to having somebody around

Strawberry- i hate cystitus, drink plenty of cranberry juice seems to help me when i have had it, and the dress is lovely im sure you will look stunning and like whywait said im sure all the important people will be there

WHYWAIT- i had melt downs like that with my DP when he comments bout the money i earn or work in general dont think he ever sees that i made all the sacrifices with my career in order to be at home with DD as much as possible and allow him to focus on his career does he see it this way no lol, glad youve made friends now :)

BEBE- i like the new name very creative

AMUMMY- thats great news bout taking folic acid bet your getting really excited to start trying now

Do you guys want me to start the new thread now or shall we want another 5 pages of this one?

Whywait - 2nd what jbells said, drink lots of cranberry! Might make your pee pink though! :o Hope it goes soon, how horrid :(

Amummy - well done on the folic acid!

JBells - fingers crossed things work themselves out soon!

AC - glad your DH is back now, it's miserable being on your own!

Nurse didn't ring back yesterday! Will be surprised if they ring today, but you never know! Just hoping they don't ring when DH is here, trying not to bring it up around him. He's still a bit pissed off with me for stopping :( Work for him is utterly shit at the moment & things are up & down on an almost daily basis. Every time there looks like things are on the up someone or something cocks something up & everything falls apart again! I'm finding it all a bit much at the moment but trying to stay positive & upbeat for him. Going on hoiliday next Friday, DH supposed to be joining us the following Weds...I'm not holding my breath! :(

bebe well done for trying to stay positive. It's really hard when your DH is miserable and there is so much going on in your life.

strawberrypie Love that dress!! I bet you look brilliant in it.

Yet another day in the office and feeling bloody awful. Several people this morning have asked me if I should be here. Probably not but after yesterday's little 'chat' I don;t think I can really take a day off!! DH has told me to maeke sure I blow my nose continually and try adn breat as many of my germs over my boss as possible just to make a point!!

Got confirmation of my 2nd interview yesterday evening. Tuesday morning at 9am so I am going to take the day off, travel down to Bath on Monday night and then spend the day at home after the interview. It'll give me a chance to catch up on the houseworka dn just enjoy being in our home. Am keeping everything crossed that they really like me because the timing would be perfect!!

Got my little sis coming to stay this weekend too. DH is on a stag do in Oxford and so I was going to be home alone. She is having a few man issues at the moment and so she's coming down for a girly weekend. Should be really fun!!!!!

Watched Cherry has a baby last night. Made me a bit weepy (God I'm a sad act!!) but also really excited for the future. I think it's great that so many of us will be on here for the forseable future and that people won't be jumping on busses and splitting up!!! Am also liking the train analogy, well done bebe!!!

hey guys forgot to mention that finally had good chat with DP last nite and he agreed that if its wot i really want we can start trying, i am going to stay off the pill now and we will just see what happens not going to actively try all the time, im hoping to conceive in jan so that will have a sept/oct baby by that time DD will be 2.5 and then by the time my mat leave is over we will get free 15 hours child care for her and will only have one to worry about paying childcare for on the couple of days i go to work

think the thought of me maybe being pregnant now as i missed period and then taking 2 pregnancy tests and them both being negative made him realise it wouldnt be such a bad thing

Hi all!!!!

Lots of exciting news then :)

Jbells in terms of the GP trip - the most reliable way to find out I think is to try. I know a couple of people who have been told that they are infertile and they conceived pretty quickly. If they start investigating and find a problem, it isn't necessarily going to stop you getting pregnant. re the swab.

Great news jbells I am so pleased that your CHAT went well and that DP has agreed that you can start TTC!!!

Oh man I lost it this evening, after a visit into town and seeing loads of PG women I ended up in tears after something went wrong for me. DP has listened to me literally rambling on about how much I want it, how sad I feel at times, what's messing up my head and he's been really really nice and supportive. We're still waiting, but I understand a bit better, as I was feeling confused.

Oh Jbells that is good. I think you are right...it takes a push to make tham realise sometimes doesnt it?
Why wait I'm sorry you are feeling down and I hope you feel bit better tommorow.
I'm a bit annoyed and confused today as I bled this morning- like a proper period bleed. I just dont get it as period came and went within five days and then whumph! A big proper bleed thats now gone again. Really thought I was in a nearly normal cycle and then its gone again.
And I'm trying desperatly not to be thinking that its going to mess up chances or will mean we will struggle to conceive.
think I'm just feeling a bit down as its been an 11hour day at work. Hopefully I'll feel better tommorow so night night for now.

and 100years I'm sorry you feel down. Iys lovely that your dp is so supportive tho.

Morning all!

I'm really pleased about your second interview js!! Good luck for Tuesday although I'm sure you won't need it!

Hugs to 100years.....it's good to let it all out, I hope you will feel better today and how nice that your DP was understanding :)

Well done starting to TTC jbells! How exiting!!!

Try not to worry too much about the shorter cycle ammummy. I'm not an expert but I'm sure things will settle down soon and get back to normal xx

I won't be posting this weekend as we are off to the Lakes today, keep your fingers crossed for better weather! I'll put some photos up when I get back. Oh no....when I post again I will be 30. Gulp.

Speak to you all soon! :)

100year - sorry you were feeling so low, but what a lovely OH to pick you up like that :)

JBells - how exciting TTC!

Strawberry - have a good weekend! Happy Birthday!!

Amummy - probably stopping the pill cocking your cycles up, try not to worry!

I've still not heard from the nurse! Have got DDs cold & had about 3 hours sleep due to the irritating tickle in my throat! :( On a plus note I have lost 2lbs! Which means I am 1lb away from my initial target...8 away from what I really want to get to! :o Penultimate jab tonight!! :o

Amummy this is my third month of charting since I came off the pill and I can see a pattern of my cycle starting to settle itself down. There doesn't seem to be any consensus over whether the pills effects linger on or stop immediately, does there!

Wow Bebe congratulations on reaching your target that's brilliant - and getting to the last two jabs as well! It's really exciting. I honestly didn't think this year would ever pass.

DH commented to me this morning that we haven't done any planning yet for the baby. I kind of disagree, considering that I've been thinking of little else for over twelve months now, but I'm excited at the thought that DH wants to start planning!
I only hope his "baby plan" doesn't involve fitting in more long distance holidays and sports cars...

Strawberrypie I hope it's not too late to wish you a happy birthday, you'll be a knockout in that dress! Try not to have a drunken turning 30 breakdown like I did lol.

Less than 100 days till Christmas everyone!!

jbells Glad you had a good chat with your DP and you are starting to TTC, even if it's not full on for the next few months.

amummy must have been the day for it, as I had a bleed yest but it was gone as soon as it started! Very weird and no sign of it today.

strawberry 30 is fine. :o I didn't care, but when my little sis was 30 I suddenly felt 'in my thirties'

Thanks for the nice comments :o

I do feel better today, not like it's all disappeared, but I can be more honest about it and DP knows what is up and so that in itself makes me feel better, as bottling it up makes you feel worse.

100years have a Friday morning Bacon Sarnie and a Bloody Mary to make you feel better. Horrible that you felt so low last night but wonderful that you have such a supportive DP.

amummyinwaiting periods are a total pain in the arse!! After 10 years on the pill I had forgotten what they felt like and wondered what the hell was going on the first time I had ovulation pains!! My cycle had a blip but it has now settled down and hopefully that's it for now!

Bebe well don on the weight loss - you super slimmer you!!

Strawberrypie have a fab 30th birthday celebration!!!

Has anybody read about the proposed increase in statutory maternity pay that is due to be voted on shortly??www.bbc.co.uk/news/business-11340407 I have no idea if it will get through but if it does then it's a very good reason to wait to TTC :)

100 days until xmas - ARGH!!!!!