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The Bus Stop - Waiting to TTC (part 3)

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bebejones · 06/08/2010 14:32

New thread ladies! :)

Old one here

Will go get the list.....

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strawberrypie · 07/08/2010 17:02

bebe- sorry to hear about your sore leg, I wonder if the needle could have caught a small blood vessel in the muscle and caused a small haematoma that you can't see? I hope you feel better soon! Good luck with the party!

nannyl it sounds like you have a busy few weeks coming up! Good to hear that OH's family are easy to get on with. you must have lots of experience with babies and tots, we will all have to pick your brain (and yours bebe and demented) when things start moving and LOs start to arrive! :)

Amanda what would your DH say if you got to the point where you had saved enough money so you did not have a drop in income over your maternity leave? What would his argument be then? I wish he would just say yes!!! Have any of his close friends become fathers?

bebejones · 07/08/2010 18:51

Strawberry - think you are probably right! Is a bit less painful than it was this morning, but still quite sore! Didn't feel a thing doing it, very odd! Confused

Spent 3 hours decorating DDs birthday cake, had a small disaster with the icing when it fell apart, have had to sort of patch it up, but it looks ok now! So excited about 2moro! :o

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amummyinwaiting · 07/08/2010 21:36

can I join please?
We've agreed tonight that will start ttc #1 jan 2011 as dh wants to wait whilst his 3 month probation for new job is done.
I am so so excited I cannot wait!
But I want to get fit and healthy beforehand which will be very hard Confused as I need to be start eating healthy!

strawberrypie · 07/08/2010 21:53

Hi amummyinwaiting! How exiting! It's so hard to wait when you have made a decision to TTC isn't it? I'm in the same boat re healthy eating- I'm planning on starting properly this Monday and would like to lose a little bit of weight and def get fitter :)

Have you got any other DC? Have you been thinking about TTC for a while? What exercise are you thinking of doing? So many questions!! :o

bebejones · 08/08/2010 07:49

Welcome amummyinwaiting think there are quite a few of us TTC around then! Very exciting!

I need to lose a little bit more weight too, about 12lbs...think it's gonna take til the end of the year coz I've been stuck around this weight for ages now!

DDs party today, wish me luck! Am already cooking pizzas, very bizarre at this time of day! :o

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strawberrypie · 08/08/2010 08:19

Hope it all goes well Bebe! I'm guessing you'll probably feel as if you have run a marathon by tonight! :)

nannyl · 08/08/2010 09:21

welcome autumnmummy

another one TTC around the same time as me (but i will be starting 25 Dec 2010!!!, we agreed 1st Jan but i have twisted OHs arm til 25 dec Wink)

bebe i hope your DD has a lovely birthday. The cake sounds wonderful

I have started my folic acid already Smile, and am already cutting down my (not very high) caffein intake (one cup a day now), ready to stop caffine completley after my holiday in October

nannyl · 08/08/2010 09:24

the list again Smile

nannyl TTC #1 - Jan 2011 (but start TTC after xmas)
bebejones TTC #2 Jan 2011 (but technically starting TTC after 24th Dec 2010!
JustShagging TTC #1 - March 2011
minipie TTC #1 May 2011
strawberrypie TTC Jan 2011
loveulotslikejellytots TTC Dec 2010
amandacooper TTC #1 no fixed date
autumnmummy TTC #1 Jan 2011

amummyinwaiting · 08/08/2010 16:03

Hi Strawberry pie ,
I am very very excited as it will be our first. I have wanted to start for about a year but husband was going to be made redundant so we didnt want to. Then two weeks ago found out he's got a new (better) job so want to get the three month trial out the way first. And I've got a new job alongside my other one (but on a casual basis as and when) so want to have a good go at that for a few months too.
I walk quite a bit and work with children so constantly on the go but am going to drag out the old exercise bike again and have sky plus'd a couple of aerobics. I think the main thing is not eating so much/better food really (as she puts the biscuits away) as I know I just eat too much!
Its going to be difficult but atleast I have got a reason and an aim and I cannot wait.
bebe I hope the party has gone well, there will be a baby boom in Septmber/october (and being a september baby it makes me feel slightly embarrassed to know what my mom and dad were doing and when Blush
nanny me and dh bartered!I wanted December but I'm sure he said February on purpose because he knew we would both agree on half way-January.
I worry starting folic acid now would terrify dh...but might keep them just out of sight! Smile

mrswantstobeamum · 08/08/2010 18:36

Hello ladies, mind if I join?

I'm new to mumsnet...have been married for a year and a half and wanting to TTC#1. I've been broody since we got married, but especially over the past six months. We had planned to start TTC in Jan/Feb 2011 but I can't stand to wait any longer.

I'm now wanting to go off BCP later this week when I finish this pack, to start TTC in September/October. Will talk to DH tonight. Wish me luck! I hope he's on board with starting sooner...

This forum is great as I'm not ready to talk about this yet in RL, but can't stand to keep it to myself any longer!

nannyl · 08/08/2010 19:09

welcome mrswantstobemum

oooh very enviouse that you are TTC so soon Smile
I know what you mean, only me and OH know of our TTC plans, and i want to tell the world!!!

Im very excited cause i have just won a clear blue fertility monitor with sticks on ebay Smile

have been watching / and been being outbid for over a month now and watched over 150 in that time and finally have one for a price that i decided i would be happy to pay...

now i have to look at it for a few months before i actually try it out!!!

pjd · 08/08/2010 21:43

This looks like a good place to be.... I'm hoping to start ttc #2 before the end of the year. I have one DS, 20 months, have been broody pretty much since the day he was born, but my head always told me to wait a while! So in an ideal world #2 would come along next August ish, although I do realise that things don't always work out exactly the way you want them, so I'll just be thankful if/when a #2 comes along, whenever that may be!! I have read that a few of you ladies are currently trying to get OHs to the same place as you are - I know this feeling! After DS, DH was VERY unsure about having a second, and he took some persuading! Thankfully though he does now seem to be in the same place as I am, talking about whether he would prefer a boy or a girl (we've both decided we don't mind and will be happy either way!)
Anyway, enough of my rambling, nice to meet you all.

bebejones · 09/08/2010 07:16

Just popping in, welcome to newbies! :)

Party was a success, am exhausted! Is DDs birthday today & we are off to the zoo!

My mum is staying & don't want to get 'caught' on here so will catch up properly 2moro!

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nannyl · 09/08/2010 08:17

glad you had a good party and have fun at the zoo

welcome to the thread PJD Smile

strawberrypie · 09/08/2010 08:29

Hello to mrswantstobeamum and pjd!

I know what you mean mrs about it being so good to talk about this on here because in RL you can't! You don't realise how many other women are going through the same as you!

pjd Glad you have managed to bring your OH around to your point of view about TTC again! :)

bebe have a great day today! Glad all went well at the party!

ps I've a new found respect for elephants after watching natural world last night- did anybody see it? I was in bits it was so sad!

JustShaggingForNow · 09/08/2010 10:24

Wow - I am away for 3 days and we've got a lovely shiney new thread and some more waiters!!!

appologies now for the length of my post but there is a lot to cover as I seem to have missed so much!!!

Welcome Strawberrypie loveyoulotslikejellytots deemented amummyinwaiting mrswantstobeamum and pjd!!!! I like to dish out bucks fizz and bacon sarnies on a Monday morning to help me get through the pain of yet another week in the office so dig in!!!

Catching up on the posts from the weekend (and yes - I sat here with a pen and paper and made notes so I would remember everything!!!)

whywait I hope that you had a lovely long weekend and that the massage was relaxing Envy How are you feeling after spending time with your god daughter? I know how broody being arouhnd babies can make you so hopefully you;re not feeling too down today. We've got friends coming to stay this weekend with their 9 month old....... I sense hormonal talks with DH on Sunday night!!!

bebe Very pleased to hear that you survived the party!!! Bet your DD have a brill time and hopefully you are both enjoying a visit to the Zoo today. I LOVE the zoo - such a big kid at heart!!!

minipie Can't believe that all the new ladies are going to be TTC in Dec/Jan :( Envy :( AmandaCooper and I will still be here with you next year though and maybe we'll get some more new recruits who will keep us company!!!

strawberrypie I came off the pill in April of this year and my cycles went straight into a 29/30 day pattern. I had a bit of an odd one this cycle (35 days and then only 1.5 days of AF) but othre than that I think it is all ok. No idea if I am ovulating so have bought some cheapo tests on amazon and will be trying to test this week. I think the time it takes you to get into regular cycles is very much dependant on the individual. I had heard horror stories of it taking 6 months to get back to normal so wanted to come off the pill asap but then I have also heard of women ccoming off it and not even having a period, just getting pregnant straight away!

I had a productive weekend. Friday was spent traipsing around the recruitment consultants of Bristol and Bath. All bar one were useful and so am keeping everything crossed that something will come of my meetings. Our permanent move to Bath is pretty much dependant on me really. DH can commute from Bath to London on a daily basis but I can't on my crappy salary and so the onus is on me to find work in the SW before we can make that our permanent home. No pressure!!!! I mentioned in passing that if I hadn't found anything by December then maybe we should breing TTC forward - he made some comments about "being in a stable posiiton" before TTC but I intent to keep nagging mentioning it!!!

I also managed a 5k run yesterday. Shock DH took me and I bitched, moaned and complained all the way round managed to survive it!!! He thinks it would be good for me to get in shape before TTC and so I am hoping that my faux enthusiasm will show him how serious I am about it (I hate exercise and do pretty much anything to avoid it!!!) as there are a few of us on here that want to be in tip top shape for TTC then maybe we can all spur eachother on to exercise?!?!?!

nannyl · 09/08/2010 10:54

well done on your 5k run

im making my self swim at least 3 times a week, but ideally 4 or more... (during summer hols)

in term time I will try to go once a week as i know i wont have any more energy for it than that!!

JustShaggingForNow · 09/08/2010 11:08

DH also mentioned that i could always get the tube from my office to Bond Street and then run home from there (it's just over 5k) Not yet sure if that is ever going to happen but I felt pretty amazing about 1 hour after my run and so maybe I just need to keep on doing going!!
I have sort of said I will run the Bath Half marathon in March and so i guess that I need to get some kind of training schedule up and running!!

nannyl · 09/08/2010 11:34

wow just shagging thats fantastic

GO YOU

I would die if i ran a half marathon. (or to the end of the road!!) (OH 'runs' and thinks nothing of running half a marathon or a 10k, where as i just could NOT do it....)
(I could swim forever though and beat him at swimming any day!!!)

minipie · 09/08/2010 11:36

Morning all

Welcome to all the new joiners! So many January 2011 TTCers Envy

Wow, I am impressed by all the health kicks everyone is on! I have started taking vitamins for the first time ever... not prompted by thoughts of TTC actually but it can't hurt right? I'm still only exercising once a week though. I just don't seem to have the energy or time to do more...

I broached the idea of coming off the pill early (ie Jan 2011) with DH this weekend - he was not keen! We both dislike condoms, so I can understand why, but I've been on the pill for over 10 years so really think my body will need a while to get back to normal.

Amanda I can feel your frustration. My DH won't commit to a date for TTC either - I'm in the list for May but that is me being hopeful, DH hasn't agreed yet. I think he'd prefer to wait 2 or more years, but I am certainly not waiting that long. I shall just have to nag him more be resolute. He doesn't really have any practical reasons, just "we're too young". (We are 30...) Unfortunately I haven't yet figured out a way to conceive without him!

JustShaggingForNow · 09/08/2010 11:57

minipie Also a littly Envy of all those TTC in the next 3/4 months. our time will come though and we can lear a lot from the others (as long as they promise to keep on coming back to update us on pregnancy and later on motherhood!!!)

My DH didn't get a choice in me coming off the pill. I was having pains and breakthrough bleeding and my Dr suggested that it may be down to the pill and being on it for so long. I decided then and there to stop taking it. I also hate condoms and the first time that we had sex with one was comically awful! We've got pretty good now though Wink and hopefully my Persona monitor will start to give us a lot more "green" days where it is safe to use nothing.

Not sure how realistic my exercise plans are Hmm- I would even rather eat less than have to work out (which is saying something as I am a bit of a foodie!!) but I am not getting any younger and I guess that now is as good a time as any to try and get fit. Dreading training for the Bath Half as running makes me miserable but it's for charity and I need a goal to work towards!!

My DSis is a very keen runner and has done lots of half marathons and one full one. She is going to do the BH along with DH and I and any other fools friends that I can persuade to join us!!!! Anybody on here is welcome to join me!!

minipie · 09/08/2010 12:05

Ah just seen all the comments on the previous thread about a "fertile spike" just after you come off the pill. Hmm maybe that makes it more sensible to stay on then? Will have to ponder.

Just I would definitely come off if it was causing health problems, not surprised you did! Persona monitor - gosh you are organised! I haven't really thought about any of the charting etc since our TTC date (even on my timetable) is soooo long away. Good luck with the half marathon training you nutter I guess it's a good way to motivate yourself!

mrswantstobeamum · 09/08/2010 12:08

Morning ladies,

Thanks for the warm welcome! Checking in quickly while working from home today because I'm so excited...

DH agreed to start TTC earlier! He says he's now 100% ready and has been for some time, so I apparently didn't need my list of reasons why it made more sense for us to try to have a baby next summer rather than autumn/winter, although he agreed with all of my points!

I've now started taking a multivitamin that has a sufficient folic acid supplement, got DH on one with a zinc supplement, and, showing remarkable restraint, ordered only two books for now (Taking Charge of Your Fertility and What to Expect While You're Expecting). I've also decided to get more into yoga and swimming, both of which I enjoy anyways, because they seem like good ways to get more fit now and then keep fit throughout pregnancy.

Can I ask what everyone on hormonal contraception has decided? We're wanting to start TTC around the end of September/beginning of October depending on if/when I'm ovulating. I've got six pills left on this pack. I kind of want to stop right now, but it seems to me that I started the pill (granted, more than 5 years ago) at a natural point in my cycle, so if I finish the pack, my body might adjust more quickly back to where it's meant to be? Does this make any sense at all? I have to admit it seemed a bit crazy taking a pill last night after just agreeing with DH to TTC...

Now the tough part for me will be to push through the next six weeks before we want to start TTC. I'm finishing a postgraduate degree, and my dissertation is due on 1 September. I'm also working full-time, and there are so many major time-sensitive things on there at the moment that its making it all a bit tough. I really need this job to be a 9 to 5 for the rest of the month, but its not happening. It's a lot of pressure, and I can handle it, but I can't wait to come out the other end and then take a two-week holiday with DH which might also be a 'conception-moon' if I'm ovulating.

Will respond to some of the other comments in a separate post.

xx

mrswantstobeamum · 09/08/2010 12:25

Minipie, Amanda, and others whose OH is not on board, I really feel for you. Sometimes guys just need a bit of time to grow up catch up to us.

My DH was not so sure last year when I was already broody. He did know that he wanted children, but didn't think we were quite ready. I realised that part of the problem was that he had never really been around children. His siblings are very close to him in age, so they grew up together, and he has no nieces/nephews yet. Only a couple of his friends have children, and he hardly ever sees them. I, in contrast, have always been around children, babysitting my own siblings and also working as a babysitter as a teenager. Loads of my friends have kids, and I think I took it for granted that everyone might have the same perspective as me.

I think it really helped that a few months ago, we babysat a friend's newborn baby for an evening. DH realised he could hold a baby without dropping him, fed him, and enjoyed cuddling him. I think he also really enjoyed seeing how I interacted with the baby. I can be a bit uptight sometimes but I am really in my element with children, and I think it was some relief to DH to see that I could be relaxed about it. From that stage on, our conversations about TTC became much less abstract, and I've now managed to move our original TTC plan up by 2 years!

Have your OHs had any chance to interact with babies/children? Maybe there is a fear of the unknown at play here?

nannyl, please let us know how you get on with the Clear Blue Fertility Monitor. I've decided to see how it goes for a few months, but may look into that at some stage depending on how easily this comes for us.

JustShagging, well done on the 5K! To me, running is only a few degrees away from torture, so I'm well impressed! Good luck sorting out your potential move to Bath.

Bebejones, glad your party went well! Good luck with your mum - is she dropping hints about grandchildren yet? I know mine is, although to her credit, they have been mostly subtle so far.

Okay, back to work!

squirrel007 · 09/08/2010 12:35

Hi to mummyinwaiting, mrswantstobe and pjd Smile

js yay for the 5k! I love running, but getting fit enough to run that far in the beginning was a challenge. Sounds like you have loads of time for half marathon training!

bebe glad the party went well and enjoy the zoo!

strawberrypie I didn't see the elephant program but I will try and catch up on iplauer as I love all nature documentaries Smile

mrs hb and I are planning to start ttc on 1st oct - very exciting!! Sounds like you have a tough month ahead though, so hope it all goes well.

My health kick is off to a good start - went to the gym twice this weekend