The Bus Stop - Waiting to TTC (part 3)

[bebejones]

New thread ladies! :)

Old one here

Will go get the list.....

lol at bus stop comment AC!

DDs birth was loooooooooooong, 64 hours of back to back labour...they didn't check presentation at all DH wasn't with me when DD was born :( I had to go into theatre for forceps & they didn't have a scrubs top big enough for him. But he was fantastic through the labour, I even broke his knuckle & he didn't make a fuss at all. He admitted afterwards that he hated seeing me in pain & not being able to do anything, but he helped by just making me laugh and taking my mind off it IYKWIM? I always think it sounds horrific when I talk about it, but it wasn't that bad, I mean it does hurt but you are already aware beforehand that it's gonna hurt! Just wish they had checked sooner why it was all taking so long & why she wouldn't come out, although I guess if they had I'd have ended up with a csection.

I thought that too Amanda

I just found my birth story on the antenatal thread .

DH just found the whole thing knackering, particularly as it all kicked off at about 11pm, so he missed a night's sleep.

Brett - I'd quite like a boy too, as if DH gets his way I'll be stopping at 2 :( So would be nice to have one of each. But like you I don't care so long as they are healthy. Another girl would be good though as we wouldn't even need clothes, so would be good for the financial aspect/argument of DC#2!

Oooh Brett, I'm gonna look for my birth story now too.....

I do wonder if a boy would be less stroppy but I find it hard to imagine having a boy I think?

Now you've reminded me about the broken knuckle I remember!

Bloody hell I feel so down about being in this waiting limbo still. I mean absoutely no disrespect to anyone on this forum but I don't think I can bear reading more threads about whether a line is a line and whether spotting before AF is due might be impantation bleeding etc, and the trials of the two week wait - and not even having got to the point of starting to try. It seems ludicrous.

I almost wish I'd never started this process, and had just somehow focused my mind on something else for the past year and a bit, and didn't have a Persona monitor, an unhealthy obsession with my vaginal secretions, an unnecessarily high concentration of folic acid in my body, a record of all my waking temperatures for the past three months, a shopping list as long as this thread for when baby comes, a wardrobe full of baby stuff I've already bought despite not ttc, five books about pregnancy and fertility, and a list of possible baby names.

I'm sure there's a load of other stupid stuff as well.

Found it!

Contratctions started Wednesday just before midnight. Got stronger all through Thursday and went in to Stroud mat unit late Thrus evening (11ish) not dilated at all cervix still long! Got sent home. Went back in to Stroud at 9.30am Friday...no change and still contacting every 10-15mins for about 30seconds to a minute. Told to go home and rest!!! (At this point have not slept since Wednesday night!) At 10.30pm Friday contractions are very painful still 10mins apart(ish) quite irregular in length. Had a massive show (sorry if TMI) rang Stroud who said they thought it could be a while and that having been labouring (albeit latent) for so long I would probably better off in Gloucester. I said I was exhausted and they said they would call Glos and see what could be done. At 12 midnight Friday they rang to say induction had been booked at Glos for Saturday am (8.30), and to go in then. At 1.30 am I was in agony and rang Glos who told me to come in! So by 2.30 I was given pethiden (sp?) and told to sleep....can honesstly say it was useless and got no sleep at all. By this time was actually 3cm dilated! But the plan was still induction when the shift changed at 7.30. Checked again at 8 and still 3cm contractions very erratic. Waters were broken. At 9.30 given epidural and was and was pain free for the first time in days! Examined again at 11.30 and still 3cm, so was put on drip to speed things up! At 3pm was examined by registrar who said I was 7cm, very erratic contractions still even on drip. By 3.20 I was fully dilated and being told to push! Phoebes heart rate had shot up and they were getting worried. registrar made call to deliver by forceps, with possibility of c-section, so signed all the consent forms and was prepped for theatre. DH was taken off to change, but they culdn't find any scrub trousers big enough and he was told he couldn't come in, so my mum was sent for!! Was wheeled into Theatre and baby was born after 2 pushes with forceps and episiotomy!

(was scrub trousers, not top for DH) Sounds horrendous, please be assured it wasn't!!

AC - I feel really down some days too about the waiting. Everytime someone else I know annouces they are PG I want to scream! I just have to remind myself of the reasons why we are waiting & that eases the pain a bit & I come to my senses. 2 more jabs then I'm on the home straight & can guilt trip persaude DH to TTC!

That does sound absolutely like the most horendous horrible frightening painful experience ever!

And the bit where you say "please be assured it wasn't" really isn't convincing me!

Amanda - I know it's really frustrating and the time is just going really slowly.

But it will happen - you have a lovely DP who wants to have children with you. I also think on here it is easy to get caught up in the negative stories of things going wrong - you may well get pregnant in the first month and have a DC by September next year. Who knows?

Brettgirl where is yours?

Mine is less bad - it only lasted 18 hours from start to finish:

The proceedings I suppose started with a sweep on Tuesday afternoon. In the evening I had a bit of cramping, but nothing significant but on Wednesday walked/cleaned/shopped till I dropped. I went to bed at 10pm feeling fine (although annoyed that I was still pg and nothing was working) and went to sleep. At around 11.30 I woke up with annoying contractions which got harder and more frequent.

I phoned the hospital they told me to take paracetamol and have a bath, which I did but the contractions were getting closer and closer together. DH phoned them again and I went in. At this point (1.30am-ish) I was having contractions every 2 minutes and could hardly walk to the labour ward! I was monitored/given an internal and told that my contractions were too short to be effective and that I was only 1cm dilated (although my cervix was flat and I had had a bit of show). They were concerned however that the baby?s heart rate was dipping too much at times so I was kept in for monitoring.

The same continued for seemingly hours until they started discussing what they were going to do with me. The MW wanted to move me out for someone coming in for an elective CS shock but the doctor didn?t like the trace and wanted me induced . I had been in fairly significant agony throughout, because apparently my baby was B2B (she had swivelled at the last minute and this was only mentioned on the Tuesday). Therefore this was pretty scary, they were refusing me pethidine due to the dodgy trace and I decided I was going to have an epidural before they put in the drip. However??

At this point I had a second internal because ?you never know? and it turned out I was 6cm dilated so they started to take my ?labour? seriously. Before I knew it the MW had broken my waters and they now allowed me to have at least gas and air. It went on for a few hours and a couple more MWs, eventually my community MW turned up at 2pm for the late shift and it was really nice to actually see someone I knew! I had been allowed some pethadine at about 12 though because the trace by this time had been completely normal for two hours, so I couldn?t actually talk to her when she arrived as I barely knew my own name by this point! It really helped having a familiar face there though, particularly as the added bonus is that I also like her!

Nothing much of note happened (well that I can remember anyway) until the head was tricky to get out at the end and I had to have a cut to help things along. Then two more pushes, and the rest as they say is history .

I?ve just realised that there is loads that I just don?t remember from the pethidine induced haze. I?m not sure that stuff is helpful for good birth stories.

I know or I could still be here on the conception forum five years from now. We all could. Goodness only knows what everyone else on the forum makes of us lot hanging about not even trying. I just want to get on with it and find out.

When DH gets home I am going to insist on my baybee rights!

Hand on heart it really wasn't as horrendous as it sounds. Was totally prepared for it to hurt, you know it's gonna hurt. It was just how long it took that was the worst bit & until I went in to Gloucester hospital the pain was really bearable. I was very very calm throughout, sang through contractions & didn't swear once through the whole thing! Which anyone who knows me will tell you is pretty impressive!

If it was that bad I wouldn't want to do it again would I?!

That is quite a story! You must have been relieved when they said you were six cm after all that!

Bebe what about on Cherry has a Baby when she was asking those women would they rather have their hand repeatedly slammed in the car door/be smacked around the head with a folding chair/be hit in the mouth till their teeth fell out - or have a contraction, and they were all going "I'd rather have my hand repeatedly slammed in the car door" etc.

Brett - it always seems worse when it's written down doesn't it?!

I was that anyone would think that, they must have seriously hunted for those women!

"Goodness only knows what everyone else on the forum makes of us lot hanging about not even trying"

tbh I think most people on MN are slightly insane! At the end of the day we all have our reasons. Mine is I CANNOT be 7 weeks pg when I go on holiday next month. I had to cancel one last time I was 7 weeks and DH would kill me if the same thing happened.

The uncertainty is a killer though.

Could you be 6 weeks, or 8 weeks?!

Yes DH says MN is just a breeding ground of madness and that being on here will skew anyone's world view so that all they think about is mucus plugs and Boden.

If having a contraction really is as bad as repeatedly slamming your hand in a car door, then it's much worse than I had imagined.

I could have been 7 according to the dates. 6 or 8, or anything up to about 16 would be a nightmare because I could literally travel nowhere without chucking. At 7 weeks I was practically bedridden.

Your DH is dead right, there are some seriously people on here. The 'one perspective only' types who argue about granite or wood for their kitchen and shun anyone who has UPVC windows and/or failed at breastfeeding.

As I said before - here is fine but I won't be getting on one of those buses.

I think it is as bad as slamming your hand in a car door repeatedly, but not worse than

Labour doesn't last as long as 'morning' sickness though - that is the worst. But you may be lucky and not get it.

I have seen some seriously horrible rows on here, and sometimes you know something about one of the poster's backgrounds and can kind of understand why they're responding in that way, such as you know they've had a lot of mc or something, but it's obvious that the other person who's arguing with them simply has no clue.

We need to give some thought to the next thread. Hopefully it will be the thread where quite a few of us finally start ttc. We're nearly at the end of this one.