The Bus Stop - Waiting to TTC (part 3)

[bebejones]

New thread ladies! :)

Old one here

Will go get the list.....

Well if it's as bad as slamming your hand repeatedly in the car door, then I'm signing up for the world's most massive epidural, possibly a bit of general anasthetic too. Imagine a car door slamming shut on your poor already broken and bleeding hand!

Assuming there is a next time I will be walking around on all fours only from 7 months to ensure baby is not back to back.

At the end of the day you get through it. In terms of epidural I never got to the stage where the pain was worse than the fear of not being able to feel my legs. So I suppose it can't have been that bad.

Right I am off to bed. Might post a bit more before sleep, but if not goodnight all. Probably TMI but just realised this is a fertile day, perhaps that's why I'm moody broody. Thanks for cheering me up loads with your horror stories, girls!

Hi everyone!
AC I love the idea of the advent calendars! am just tinking though of what the chocolates could be shaped into? grin
Discussed with dh about snuggling when on holiday with mom and dad - think its a possibility but dont want to mention that it will be when I'm having fertile days as worry it'll scare him into saying the dreaded c word- "condoms"!
What is the name of that documentary in the hospital where thay are all giving birth? I blub all the way through it so hoping there is a new series soon.
Got told today that monday will be my induction for new job-cant wait!

bugger. wanted not grin !

Hi Ladies,
I'm still here, manic couple of weeks back at work and it's way past my bedtime now so I'm just bumping to get this back into 'threads I'm on'.

Catch up soon

wow alot went on last nite, u were all busy bees typing away, loved the birth horror stories, loving tellingne to people, always puts them off, it was very similar to yours bebe 46 hours no sleep, backwards and forwards to hosp, loads of pain relief that didnt touch the sides, then eventuall they told me baby was back to back, kept trying to turn her round bla bla bla then got told forceps or c-scetion ended up with epiostomy and forceps, did u c the forceps, they left mine in the room afta they look like tools used to torture someone lol

my dp was really good thru birth he was exhausted afta seeing me like that for 2 days and having no sleep either, he selp he felt helpless and it was horrible and doesnt want to do it again lol

You can't beat starting the day with a lively horror story! Yes you missed a right old chinwag (and some moaning from me) last night!

Are you seeing the doctor today?

*lovely

So sorry I ditched you all last night, I literally couldnt keep my eyes open!

JBells - I didn't see the forceps, quite glad! They hadn't even worked out DD was b2b when they delivered her, registrar said 'oh, hello little face' when she came out, he'd got the forceps right over her eye :( Really wish they had done a scan, it might have saved alot of bother! But like I said also means I might have had to have a CS. Who knows!

Brett - I was adament I didn't want an epidural, and tbh I could cope with the pain, but was just so tired by the point I had one it wasn't so much for pain relief but so I could sleep & regain some energy for pushing! The thought of not being able to feel my legs was horrid, but actually it really was ok, & by then I didn't care!!

Amummy - lol at 'snuggling'! Did you mean 'One born every minute'?

Need to go make bread before toddlers, DD is still asleep, little bugger was awake screaming at 5am, calmed her down then she wanted stories and screamed for another 30mins coz I said no!

hey AC we all like a good moan now and agen :o yep got drs apt at half ten my mum an dp have bin nagging me to c doc since friday, i hate docs tho they just never seem interested and always make out your wasting there time

bebe i was same as u adamant i didnt want epidural lol, that was untill i had missed 2 nites sleep and was that exhausted that i didnt care wot happened to me i remember sobbing i just dont want to push im to tired i was blacking out between pushes, came round at one point telling my DP to move the green sofa we havnt even got a green sofa lol, i didnt have scan either they just felt to c how she was positioned about half way thru to c y it was taking so long and to be honest them trying to turn her was one of the most painful parts of the whole thing :( keep telling myself next time will be easier aftawards i was telling people never ever again especially when they had left the swab in me its amazing how time helps u forget haha

DD is sick agen so not going to be able to take her to nursery today, and need to book her in for a chest xray, just feel like she is constantly poorly, wish i cud do something to help her

Morning all - you were very active on here last night!!!

I am afraid I have had to ban myself from reading your birth stories for now but I may tackle them later in the day/week/month when i am feeling a little more brave!!

AC I don't think you were moaning that much. I am also in my fertile period this week (got my first ever O on the Persona yesterday and think I ovulated on Monday/Tuesday) and I know it makes me feel a bit tetchy about wasting those eggs!!!

DH and I were watching a back episode of Location, Location, Location last night (guilty secret, I love Kirsty and Phil and love shouting at the idiots on the program even more!!!) and there were a couplde of todlers/babies on that were very cute. I have stopped commenting on them for now as DH was gettign freaked out be my "aaaaaah, so cute" comments whenever there was a baby or young child on TV but he repeatedly said how sweet these little people were.

He was also going all soft at the rugby on Saturday as the Bath players kids were out on the field with a rugby ball at the end of the match (3 very cute blonde 2.5-3 year old boys running around with some pretty impressive ability) Think he is secretly hoping that when we do try he we will have a son!

I didn't watch Cherry last night but DH is out tonight at a work bash so I may try and find it. I am supposed to be going to this event too but have seemed to come down with a horrible cold (think I made it come on faster by running home form work in the pouring rain last night and then walking to Homebase and forgetting my brolly so when the heavens opened as I left the store for my walk home I got absolutely drenched!!!) and if I have an interview on Friday I don't want to make it worse by not resting ahead of that.

Big strop coming up so take cover!!!

I have had quite a few days off this year because of the gluten intolerance. I wasn't diagnosed until March and have been suffering with it quite badly since December of last year so had a reasonable ammount of time off at the start of the year.

Since being diagnosed I have completely altered my diet which was a massive change but occasionally gluten still manages to find its way into some food that I eat and it makes me incredibly ill (vomiting etc) and puts me in bed with horriffic abdominal pains that cripple me. When this happens there is no way I can go into work and so I have to take days off. I go in when I am ill but just not when i am physically throwing up or unable to move far from a bathroom (Sorry if TMI!!)

My boss continues to be supportive on the surface but has made some pretty insensitive comments about my time off and refuses to listen when I point out that I come in if I can pysically get to the office and carry out my job but if not I have to stay in bed. This morning he called me into a meeting room to have a go again and complained that I was putting pressure on other staff (not my fault, I'm ill!!) and then used his favourite analogy, comparing me to a faulty car "you never know when you get up in the morning if it is going to work". I am spitting feathers because I put up with so much crap from him and work my arse off and this is how he speaks to me.

I really hope that I get this bloody job in Bath because I don't know how much more of this I can take. :(

I have rung the nurse....and left a message on the answerphone! They never pick up the phone, last time I did that it took 2 days for them to call me back, so watch this space!

JBells - how did you get on at docs?

JS - that sounds miserable, and probably counts as workplace bullying. Is there anyone you can report him to for his aggresive/abusive behaviour towards you? Fingers crossed on the job front, and healing vibes for the horrid cold :( My DH would love a boy too, just so he can watch the rugby with him, take him to matches, and make encourage him to play it!! :o

Whywait - stay here with us! We will be supportive, think we are planning on changing the thread title when this one finishes anyway. We just need a new name, any ideas anyone?

Wow lots happened overnight I've just taken ages reading through it, and am afraid I can't remember much! That's just my finished night shift brain though.

Just shagging Your boss shouldn't be speaking to you like that, do you have a union or someone higher you can speak to about it?

whywait I think you are right about this thread, I've not looked at any of the other bus threads, purely because I'm not getting on one yet, but it's lovely in her, and I think that's why the thought of the new thread being something like in it together Then we can all stay together the unknown journey from the bus stop LOL I'm rubbish at thread titles.

AC all I can offer is hugs, we do know how you feel, but I know that doesn't make it feel any better.

Well for me I had another little chat with DP and we both want it, and both want it now but we are still waiting!!! Gah, that I don't quite understand, but I know it will be better if I am fitter and hopefully lighter. But when you know of people who are bigger than you and not as fit you do wonder why you are using that reason. I managed to last about 3 days without bringing up the topic of TTC, LOL I wish I could just put it to the back of my mind for a while, but TBH it's a huge thing and I want it now! I had a few tears in my eyes the other day when I saw a friend and her DS, he is nearly 1 and was having a cuddle, there were lots of people fussing him and he did that whole baby thing of putting his head into her all shyly. I want that. Dammit have tears in my eyes now just thinking of it and wishing it was me and hoping we can start sooner than previously planned.

Thanks for sharing your birth stories bebe brettgirl and jbells! It is really interesting and helpful for us with no DC to hear them :)

JS that is totally unfair treatment at work- discrimination even. if you wanted to take it further than I'm sure you would have grounds but I know sometimes it is easier to not rock the boat as hopefully you will be leaving soon? Hope things improve :)

hope everyone who is feeling poorly (or fed up) feels better soon (especially the DDs!) x

hi all went to docs and she was absolutly useless did nothing basically just sed wait and c, and that if im on pill and pregnancy test sed negative she doesnt feel the need to test again, and to wait and c if my cycle sorts itself out, so day 42 half way down and still no AF ahwell hate them anyway lol, that was a big perk of pregnancy 9 months without AF, however to make up for it i then had 8 weeks afta birth lol

strawberry, i always prefered hearing peoples birth stories that were bad, i think i wud prefer to prepare for the worst than hope for the best, i was addicted to watching birthing programmes when i was pregnant my DP used to think i was crazy and ask me y i was scaring myself but i wanted to know wot i was in for :)

bebe hopefully nurse will get back to you soon, so u know its all been sorted out, my DP would also really like boy next and so would i maily so i can stop at 2 one of each, i know if we had another girl that Dp would then want to try again for a boy, and i just like the idea of the whole 2 adults 2 kids, 3 seems like a bit to much hard work haha

100years i wouldnt let weight affect your decision to put it off to much if u are happy and fit the way u are, as u say there are plenty of people not as fit as u who are having them no problem all the time and u cud always keep up with the healthy eating and moderate exercise while u are pregnant, i used to walk for half an hour atleast twice a day when i was pregnant prob more than i do now :(

WHYWAIT dont leave there will hopefully be plenty of us jumping on the bus soon, and i think we have a lovely support network here :) we will be just as interested in your BFP and pre-natal visits as the people on the otha thread wud promise :o

JS that sounds awfull y are there so many bullies in the workplace sometimes i think its worse than being at school, fingers crossed that u get your new job and then u wont have to see the idiot again, im sure it wud be a different story if he had the gluten intolerance

well DD as has been hard work today she seems to want to punish me when shes tired and not feeling great, i was going to keep her off nursery today but to save my sanity and my patience i have decided to drop her off for a few hours, i have cleaned the kitchen, hung the washing on the maiden and hoovered downstairs, i am now going to treat myself to a hot bath while reading a book :o before i pick her back up
P.s is the weather as shitty everywhere else as it is in the wirral?

WHYWAIT im trying that since i stopped taking it i am not going to re-start another pack untill my body gets back to normal

the thing that worries me is since having a swab left in me at delivery i have been told that the womb infections it caused cud impact my fertility and block my tubes, however they wont send me for tests to c unless i have bin TTC for 12-18 months unsucesfully :(

whywait and jbells thanks for the comments re weight and TTC. It isn't only the weight thing, DP wants to sort something out house wise as well, or at least be a bit closer to it, I can't see what difference it makes as whatever happens won't affect the decision to TTC, but I won't push on the matter. Means we get a couple more months of enjoying time together. Lesson in patience for me. However deep down in my head I have a small child screaming to get out saying I WANT IT NOW :o

jbells isn't that like the 'standard wait' if you have trouble, that really sucks, wish I knew more about stuff like that to find out if there was anything you could do.

whywait 100years i have explained wot happened to my G.P and she wasnt interested i dont think i have the best gp in the world she was baffled as to why i would want a fertility test if i hadnt been trying and failed, hmm obviously to see if an nhs mistake has caused me a long term probelm, the swab was left in for ten days even tho i was backwards and forwards to midwife telling them i was in extreme agony down below and sorry to be disqusting that my blood loss smelt foul, took ten days for them to decide to look inside

jbells I would swap to see a different GP, or even swap practices. If you feel that they are not listening to your worries.

definately worth a thought 100years i will c how the next few weeks pan out and if they give me an appointment to c specialist but i doubt it, IMO i think when a hospital makes a mistake it shud be there responsibility to check thats there mistake has not caused any problems not for you to just wait and c if there were any problems caused, its such a shame because the 4th midwife i had who was there for the delivery of my baby was so lovely, it was found that it was the consultant who had delivered DD by forceps that had left it in, but prob midwife got blame for not counting out swabs at the end of it, next time i have baby ill be making sure they double check for anything left in there lol