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[Iamastupidperson]

I have namechanged because I feel so stupid please bear with me while I try and explain.

My sister and DD [7] are very very close ,in the summer when xmas seemed ages away and nothing to worry about ,my sister was going on about how she and her DH found xmas so boring (they are having lots of problems TTC so probably feeling this time of year more) and how it wasn't the same without a lo there to open gifts . So my DD piped up that she would stay there xmas eve I was a bit but after a couple of glasses of wine and them all taking about how exciting it would be I sort of sgreed then forgot about it .
Last night dsis rang me to arrange when she would be picking dd up xmas eve [gulp] .
The arrangement is she spends xmas eve at sisters and meets us at my Mums at about 10am xmas day .

DD is so excited ,sister is so excited I am not I feel sick ,and after just reading some of the other thread on here I feel even worse.

How can I put my other DC to bed xmas eve and her not be there, and Dp has the massive hump with me because he wasn't there when I said yes .

I need to get out of it what do I do , dsis is also very forceful and I am not I am a pushover who runs round trying to please everyone .

She has bought her a stocking FFS .

You ask your sister and her DP over to stay on Christmas Eve, of course

I think you are going to have to swallow your hurt and let your daughter go. She is going to be so upset if you don't let her.

Can't your sis & BIL come and stay with you instead?

oh heavens!!! i feel for you. do they both have hearts set on it, could you maybe 'remind' DD that santa only knows that she lives with you and that he might not know to leave gifts at DSIS'. make a big deal of how wonderful xmas morning will be and she might have 2nd thoughts, and then it would be her decision not to stay with DSIS. it is a little devious but if you want them all at home, it might have to be done.

There is no room and they wont anyway they have a horrible mutt dog who is more pampered then Paris Hilton.

could your sister and her dh stay at yours? And if that was an option would you have enough rooms that would mean your sister and your dd could sleep together and have their own sort of sleepover?

What Quattro said

could you all stay at your sister's?

doh, lots of crossed posts

Could you invite your sister and her dh to stay with you on Christmas eve - that way she still gets all the fun of Christmas morning but you do too.

Tell her you just can't bear to be without dd but don't want to spoil her fun and dd is really looking forward to it too.

I actualy thought about saying to sister that DD woke up from an awful dream saying that Santa wouldn't know where she was .

I am just going to have to say no ,I can't let her go I know it sounds OTT but I feel physically sick when I think of it.

Can you all go and stay with her? Or as suggested by Quattro, your sister come and stay with you. My DS' father and I are no longer together and so we have to take it in turns for Christmas day. It is his turn this year and I am dreading it. They are little for such a short time, you will hate very minute of it believe me, even though you are going to see her the next morning. Try and get out of it.

Gosh, I type slowly! Could you all stay at your parents?

Use the dog as an excuse?

I wonder if she could get some non painful non symptony illness Xmas eve and make a recovery Xmas day .

We are spending Xmas morning with them and all day bloody boxing day and still she wants to steal my child on Xmas eve.

Just Say No

(not in style of Grange Hill popsters though )

What about NITS ? Last time the dc had them dsis freaked

Don't make up convoluted stories though - DD will only drop you in it