Our guests are hinting that they are going to stay longer than wanted ! How to find the words?

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Guests invited until tomorrow. Been here since 23 rd with general idea to go between c mas and new year.

Heard one lot say to another , oh how long are you staying.? . they replied ..oh maybe till the new year. ..

I could not just holler .. what ..?? From a distance across kitchen.

So , said to them later , what did you say about stating longer .. ? They shrugged it off and changed the subject
I said i needed to know . Evasive .

I repeated that we needed to know for food etc and they just said oh well we could get food .

I have had this before and struggled .we live in a beautiful area of natural beauty where people go on holiday and they do relax .

anyone had this before ? If so , do I need to directly say please leave ..and if so how ! Without causing offence ?
They know
us well and I am struggling to ask them to go . If i say we have other guests due , ( a lie and dont want to lie ) I think they would just say oh no problem , we can all muck in , offer to sleep on camp bed if bo room .. I jusy want ghem to go .

*dd stays on

Lol. This is my favourite answer

perhaps I’m your typical unsociable introvert so I’d never have people staying in the first place. But if I did I’d not have a problem saying “I really need to know how long you are staying. But you haven’t answered. DD might stay a lot longer but I need for everyone else to leave by xx date”

If you have to explain or justify you are being taken advantage of.

^^ as simple and straightforward as this

Who are the second set of guests?

Your DD and her partner is separate to extras.

This is now turning into a comedy.
I have just found a pile of clothes deposited by my washing machine ( presumably they have ran out of clean clothes) I shall ignore it with every fibre of my being !

It does make a difference who it is. I wouldn't ask a young grown up child to leave. Are the other guests her partners parents?

Ignore the washing!

I am actually starting to find it hysterical.
Right so ..
next year boundaries
contributions
maybe bring yr own bedding . !

ps yes dd has loads of stuff here.

Oh OP I feel your pain. I remember many years ago my DM having this issue with her DB and SIL. I was a teen so enjoyed having people around but I remember my mum and dad having words in the kitchen. They were cooking up breakfast and buffets and they just kept eating and saying they’d stay another day. One night my dad suggested a pub meal and the SIL had a dream about a bridge collapsing the night before. She then said she couldn’t go as the pub was by a river!!!Guess what, they were never invited again!

🤣🤣🤣🤣

Might I suggest just not inviting them?

They seem to ride rough shod over you and treat you with contempt. Why would you have them back in your home?

That must be the most imaginative excuse to not pay for a meal ever......! Brilliant 😂😂 😂 😂

I’d definitely not be inviting them ever again!

Do what my “D”F’s girlfriend does to us: pack their bags, put them by the front door and say “I mustn’t keep you any longer.”

I would be dumping the unwashed pile back in their bedroom

Or, on leaving you say- so next year it’s your turn.

I’d put them in a bin bag and dump them outside the door!

As one set of guests are your daughter and her partner then I wouldn't have an issue with them staying extra but they should 100% be at least contributing to extra food or takeaways etc.
Are the other guests close relatives too?
I'm guessing your daughter has dumped her washing by the machine. I also presume she's a fully functioning adult with her own home, so she can do it herself!!!

Are the other guests DD's PILs?

I want to say next year its yr turn but our ds wd want us to be at home and not there !

there was a thread like this in the summer but it was a much worse, scenario, off the CF scale, the guests were helping themselves to the drinks fridge in the garage and rescued a crumpled receipt that the OP had previously thrown in the bin when they asked them to buy some food and drinks

I have DD and partner staying (Age 23). It is lovely. If this was me, I would tell her what was going on and she would help me evict the extras.

Next time everyone is in the same room, loudly announce you'll be needing to use the washing machine in 2hrs time so can whoever has their stuff in there please get it finished by then. You washing machine will definitely have a basic 30 or 40°C cycle that's less than 2hrs.

ps yes dd has loads of stuff here

I thought as much. Mentally, she hasn't moved out. At 24 and with a home of her own, it's time she did. January and February are always slow months, time to sort all this out OP. If she lives too far away to pop over for it easily, make sure you box/bag some up for her to take with her when she leaves this time (if it's stuff you think she wants, children aren't as attached to their childhood teddies and old school work as their parents are).

LOL! Is this the unwanted guests as opposed to your DD? Cheeky monkeys!!
I'd just say it's Xmas and the Washing machine does not go on until January 2nd!! and dump the lot back in their room. If it is your daughter she should know better!!
If they are that desperate they can do their own washing but how will they dry it? It's been raining all day where I live!! and we don't have a tumble drier.
But otherwise ignore, ignore, ignore!!

Oh yes, I remember that - the guests wanted reimbursing for “their” contributory dinner