Is it only my BF that does this or is their others like me out there? 🙈

[Coco2022]

My partner of 4 years really upsets me when it comes to Christmas presents.

This year he went to a local DIY shop for my Christmas gift. He bought me 30 Christmas teddies. Spent 160 and is shocked and annoyed that I’m not happy with it.

I keep telling him if he got one it would be meaningful but 30 to me paints the picture that he genuinely doesn’t know me well enough to pick what I like.

I’ve been searching and really looking for things that would make him happy.

Am I wrong for being upset? I hate arguing over materialistic things but he makes me feel so unseen and unheard. 🤦🏼‍♀️

Or the food bank?

I would donate them all to a toy bank and them dump him.

He doesn't need to return them, let some good come out of his lazy, selfish purchase.

Were they wrapped? Individually or as a bulk?

I'd be running for the hills and you should, too. This is just unhinged.

I think this is a bit harsh.

It’s common to do big romantic gestures like fill the room with teddies or flowers (he thinks OP like teddies so thought this would be the better idea) and it sounds like he tried to do a big romantic gesture but it failed.

I couldn’t think of anything worse personally but I would either return them or give them to a childrens’ hospital.
I wouldn’t end the relationship over it unless there were other issues.

Picture or it didn't happen

We have a shop like this called in my city called Rajanis. You could definitely pickup 30 teddies there, a new watch battery, a bit of rope and some broken biscuits.

I would love to see a photo.

Are they all the same? Or is it thirty different teddies??
I can't imagine thirty different teddies from a non-toy shop

This. 👆

I think I'm done

Do you have the misfortune to actually live with this pillock, or can you just dump him immediately?

To be fair to the bloke, that is exactly the sort of grand "romantic" gesture you see in films all the time, so that's probably where he got his inspiration. He's been told since he was a kid that that's the sort of thing women love.

Although of course the fact that he is taking life lessons from stupid films is a major issue in and of itself, not to mention the fact that it seems like he doesn't know you at all (and this DESPITE you giving him a list!!!)

God, I would be so annoyed at something like that. Just the waste, the space it would take up, the hassle of getting rid of them (which you are of course going to have to do). And also, the fact that he spent £160... just imagine what sort of actually decent present he could have got you for that sort of money!

B and Q usually have a couple of annoying Christmas ones which sing songs.

Buy him a Ken doll for Christmas see how he likes it.

I think it's very unlikely that a man who would do this is not also a bad partner in other ways too. He sounds like an absolute arse tbh. Does he have sny redeeming features, OP?

We need a picture op, then take them all to a charity.

What kind of weirdos hand out presents as they buy them at Christmas?

Oh op you win for the worst gift this year .
im intrigued you say he gives as he buys so did you get all these teddies at once or was it every few days ? Just put them all in a bag and ask him to return them it really isn’t normal buying someone 30 teddies.

I can't even imagine how ridiculous he must have looked going up to the till to buy all those fucking things.

Does he think you would be 30 times happier with 30 teddies than 1? I know someone who thinks that way.

Of OP is able to contact Prince Andrew I believe he csn provide a sort of 'organisation chart' so that the teddies can be lined up correctly..

Lol. No it has to be 30 ken dolls!

I bet he was trying to be romantic.

Can you give us some good things he does?....that's not teddy buying, because let's face it he has that skill nailed.....

Things aren't clear cut he could be neurodiverse (this statement is not meant to offend because I am myself and sometimes I go all out and don't realise how I come across).

Bizarre.

The fact he won't listen to you is the red flag..he know best.

1. He returns them
2. You give them to him (hopefully you don't live together)
3. You give to a charity.

In all scenarios you dump him as well.

Not one but thirty clear reasons why you should end your relationship with this person.
Beyond weird.

I have to agree!!

You would leave your partner because he bought you the wrong present?

I take it you're single?

Happily married for over 25 years, thanks, and this isn't just about it being the "wrong" present. FFS.