Is it only my BF that does this or is their others like me out there? 🙈

[Coco2022]

My partner of 4 years really upsets me when it comes to Christmas presents.

This year he went to a local DIY shop for my Christmas gift. He bought me 30 Christmas teddies. Spent 160 and is shocked and annoyed that I’m not happy with it.

I keep telling him if he got one it would be meaningful but 30 to me paints the picture that he genuinely doesn’t know me well enough to pick what I like.

I’ve been searching and really looking for things that would make him happy.

Am I wrong for being upset? I hate arguing over materialistic things but he makes me feel so unseen and unheard. 🤦🏼‍♀️

pics or it didn’t happen 😄

Because teddies are for children.

Going to need a picture.

But I would not be happy with 30 fucking teddy bears. One yes (I like them) but 30? Yikes. If he doesn't return them use them as weapons and throw them at him.

Nothing wrong with adults getting teddies, where’s the rule that says they’re only for children?

I'm sorry but no. A nice sentimental bear can be for anybody.

30 though is insane.

He sounds spectacularly dense. Time to cut him loose?

Yes totally agree, I have several bears that I keep because they’re sentimental, and wouldn’t be adverse to receiving a new one.

But also agree that 30 (in one go) is just ridiculously insane!

I really think you have to LTB

It just doesn't bode well for the future. Imagine telling your kids about the time he bought you those 30 teddies.

@Coco2022, sorry op have to ask are they all the same? only I can’t imagine any shop would have 30 different Christmas bears.

If so that makes the situation even more Bizzarre!

I don’t like teddies and I don’t like flowers.

Do buying me loads of teddies or flowers would not plead me.

However, I know some women who would love a room full of flowers or teddies.

It was a romantic gesture gone wrong.

It may have been leading up to a proposal until he saw OPs look of horror 😄

There was nothing malicious behind his intent.

Celebrate 2023 by getting yourself a new fella who does not visit DIY shops that sell teddies !! 😝

I have no words

I wouldn't marry into that family, or procreate with any of them, I'm guessing their strange Christmas gift giving practices are the tip of the iceberg !!!!

I had to name change as this reply is soooo outing!
My narcissistic father married my ghastly now-step mother and proceeded to 'make her dream come true' by opening a teddy bear shop. Completely batshit.

Anyway back to OP. What is the significance of 30? Or was £160 the amount you'd agreed to spend ? And it's slightly driving me nuts (as if this thread wasn't enough) that 30 doesn't go into £160....

LTB

Return the teddies and buy yourself gifts with the £160.

For that budget I would buy a bottle of Estee Lauder Desert Eden perfume £80, ankle boots £40, books £20 & chocolates £10 & Costa coffee voucher £10 = £160

Decent gifts for £160 & your dp is a thoughtless, selfish idiot.

Dump the useless lump

What did he buy you for other Christmases?
Is this out of character?
Simply bizarre and such a waste of £160
Tell him to return them

Wtf. I’ve seen people post about some shit presents on here but that takes the biscuit. Surely not.

Goodness, I was expecting a 'share silly tales of rubbish gifts' post. This is just extraordinary!
How odd. And he is upset that you are not being grateful?

I'd ask for the receipt and return them all, then spend the money on something from your list.

Is the relationship good aside from the strange gifts?

30 TEDDIES?? 30???

Now I don't mind a soft toy in general and I've got a few sentimental ones, but I just can't wrap my head around this.

30. In one go. From a DIY shop. And you've already got them a week before Christmas.

WTAF? I'm going to be thinking about this all night OP.

DH used to get me stuff, not that he knew I wanted or needed or liked, but that he thought I ought to want or need or like.

After a number of years, and knowing he gleefully always bought himself a Xmas present as well as me, I started buying my own too. He started paying attention then, and now gets me stuff I do generally like, sometimes it's a surprise and sometimes it's something I've said I want or it's from my Amazon list. I always want books....

Nah one's fine, my Mum always wanted a Steiff Bear so I got her one for her 50th. He sits with her raggedy childhood bear on her dressing table.

Adults are allowed sentimental items or something that brings them a smile or a little comfort too.

30 though, 30 is a different proposition entirely.

I take it by DIY shop you mean something like Wilko or Dunelm OP?

I think everyone here envisaging this teddy trolley dash taking place in B&Q or Wickes is making this even weirder.

Good grief, OP. He's a weirdo, apparently from a family of weirdoes. I'd feel physically ill if someone spent that kind of money on absolutely nonsense like that.

If he's no willing to accept that what he did was strange and a horrible idea, or if he doesn't immediately make efforts to set it right, I truly would question the relationship. Someone capable of doing this kind of thing simply isn't on the same wavelength as I am, and I'd worry we'd be constantly butting heads for the rest of our lives together. Not romantic, just stupid!

No rule at all. But I would get the most monstrous ick if a boyfriend bought me a teddy. It sort of goes with people calling one another "babe" and generally infantilising one another.

Buying a grown woman teddies… ick