Do I accept invitations or just stay alone?

[whistlingtea]

I'm used to spending Christmas alone, I have since 2000 with only four exceptions, but I thought this one might be different but it won't be due to DPs work.

I've politely declined invitations in the past as its so uncomfortable being in someone's home at an intimate time but this year I don't want to be alone. But I still feel uncomfortable being in someone's home.

So - any suggestions?

I've read through the thread and I haven't been at all rude. I have however had to put up with a lot of very rude comments.

I don't 'mope' actually Moonface, but I hope you enjoyed the jibe at me, it did upset me actually.

Kristina friends don't invite me. Not because they aren't nice bit because they have babies and young families and their own parents. Invitations received tend to be random ones and taking people up on those is uncomfortable.

As for why I won't ask DP I guess because I'm a bit worried about the answer.

So what are you going to do ?

whistling Erm... I really didn't mean anything by this other than that once you decide what you want to do you will probably spend Christmas with other people - those other people could be DP, DP's family, volunteers, friends: whoever you decide

I think we'd best leave this. Happy, I'm really sorry if I misread what you were saying, have a good Christmas

It wasn't a jibe at you and I apologise if I upset you. But you do seem to be very very negative about every suggestion that has been made to you here.

I have however had to put up with a lot of very rude comments
Where?
people quickly become angry about lonely people
Pretty sure that's not true

There is another thread on here at the moment about a young lad who will be spending Christmas alone, he is very upbeat about it all, you should take a look.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/Christmas/2728644-Alone-at-Christmas-How-do-I-make-it-fun?msgid=63579095

Have a Happy Christmas, whatever you decide.

Find a day near Christmas when you can be with your partner and do all the nice traditional food and presents things you'd like to with him.

For actual Christmas day, depending on how much spare cash you have, a short holiday abroad or a couple of nights in a nice hotel that has a few Christmas rituals of its own. If you haven't got the cash, a big hike or cycle ride somewhere with a bit of wild nature: you'll enjoy it more than being in your home alone.

If you live in London there is the Peter Pan race at Hyde Park to watch, Ripley's believe it or not museum is open. The Dickens Museum was open one year but not in 2016 unfortunately.

Why wouldn't a family want to join you? We are family of four, if we had no plans we would jump at the chance to have dinner at a friends