Circumcision- Does anyone know someone in the SE that does it privately???

[goldfinger13]

Hi All

It's not for a religious or medical reason- hence the request for private practitioner. I've read up on the Pro's and Cons and it's something that my DH feels very strongly about!!! Any recommendations??

I have a recommendation but I will CAT the OP.

I find it puzzling that a mother would be ambivalent as to whether her baby is circumcised or not, yet gets so upset by some reactions on an internet forum that her husband feels it appropriate to come on and defend her honour.

Out of the two issues, I know which one would be causing me the most distress.

I am going to CAT as well - I have a suggestion of places that might help rather than a recommendation.

Are you going to have it done first as suggested then, GoldfingersDH?

I'm leaving the post after this, but just to clarify a few things...

@ Sugar - Believe it or not, my wife and I talk to each other; it's not a crime or even uncommon. She told me about the post, I read it and decided to comment, without being abusive. Simple.

@ Laurie - As previously stated, I won't be offering justification. I don't think it's appropriate to seek validation for decisions from forum users. Nor do I need to. I only wanted to mention that there was no need for people to make such spiteful comments. Again, just my opinion - yours may be different, and again, I respect that.

On that note, I wish you all the best with the rest of your discussion and a good evening.

.... until your next post.

How odd.

I can recommend www.mohel-circumcision.co.uk/ who does non-Jewish circumcisions too. He is a doctor and a mohel.

I would say that the posts on this thread beggar belief but that is redundant on this site as there is a party line that involves over-emotionality and dissemination of biased opinions as fact.

Good luck in whatever you decide

I wish you both luck.

www.mohel-circumcision.co.uk/

That video made me cry

Why dont you explain to your wife, and ponder for yourself:

1. What is the reason YOU wanted a circumcision all your life?
2. What is the reason YOU never went through with it?

2.b Why does the same not apply to baby, who has no voice, no opinion, and who might NOT want it?

1. What other thing did you always want, but didnt do, will you force on your child in the future, without any regard for him? Piano lessons? A medical career? Where does it end?
2. If it is not for religious reasons, why does it have to be on the 8th day?
3. Why will you not wait and let the boy decide for himself?

I have had two boyfriends who was circumcised for religious reasons, neither could climax.

I simpley don't understand why anyone thinks it is acceptable to perform any kind of surgery on a newborn with only local aneasthesia (I can't spell it, I make no apologies!) GA's are only used once the baby is 8 weeks old, do people really believe that before this age they don't feel pain? Listen to that baby in the video and tell me, honestly Goldfinger13sDH if you think that is not agonising for that baby? And you want to do that to your son???

If you really think it's worth doing, despite that fact that there is no clinical reason to do it at all and no evidence that it reduces the risk of cancer etc, then at least wait until he is old enough to be given a GA and is not wearing nappies so that each time he wees the raw tip of his penis (and it is raw, because the foreskin is attached to the glans until boys are older) isn't getting regularly basted with stinging urine.

If his earlobes were not acceptable would you snip them off with scissors and no pain relief??

Pardon me, but it's fucking barbaric.

just read the first and last few threads. aside from any arguments i suggest you ring the urology secretaries at your local nhs hospital and ask for the private practice telephone numbers.
simple.
solved.
no arguments needed.

Easier to keep clean? Oh fgs, it's not that hard to keep clean.

I cannot begin to imagine how you could hand your baby over to have a part of him cut off when it isn't necessary.

I've nothing to add but that I think the people proposing to do this to their son are being extremely cruel.

Nice people perhaps but for God's sake, how can you live with yourselves

and how can you believe it is best for your baby??????????????????????????????????

Most of us women on here are the people you meet in everyday life - educated and clever and kind.
We think it's horrifying, truly horrifying - we're not a load of idiots on a forum. Please bear that in mind. Please, please don't do this at least until he is a bit older and not in nappies - you kind of missed the 8 days thing anyway, right? How selfish you are being.

Many of the women who are educated and kind would not go to extremes to denigrate a central belief of at least two major religions of the world. Nor to discount the research that has shown circumcision to have a medical benefit.

Those women do not come on these threads because of the shouty, sweary, insulting numbers who do.

OP husband sounds really scary and controlling. I can imagine he is the "force" behind this mutilationcircumcision nonsense. Some of the post on here of those who have seen circumcised newborn boys has made me feel ill.
I remember a Thirtysomething episode about this once and it was all done in such a loving, rose-tinted way it was easy to forget that many boys died painfully from this procedure over the years.

I understand it is central to some beliefs. It doesn't mean I think it is less than barbaric. Femal circumcision is also central to some cultures yet is almost universally denounced as barbaric.
Ask yourself Moston why a lot of us are upset by it, that's all I am saying really.
Once again I know most people do things because they feel it is best for their children, it isn't intentional to harm them - but I cannot for the life of me understand how this is seen as beneficial and not harmful.

And I am not sure I buy into the 'big religions do it' argument anyway - some of the big religions ar responsible for a lot of sh*t that is perpetrated worldwide. There are a lot of people who subscribe to them - it doesn't make them right.

JESUS CHRIST just watched that video, I feel physically sick.

OP watch that and tell us you are going ahead.

I couldn't watch that video. I don't care if it is a religious thing - no baby should have that done to them, especially not without anasthetic. I watched until they started it, and then the sound of the baby screaming just made me feel so ill I had to turn it off.

I saw it years ago - well probably that one, it was something similar anyway.

Couldn't see the end for tears.
I used to write on a US forum and there were some killer threads, seeing as there's somethihng like 60% American babies get 'done'. The British contingent was generally shocked by it all.

I was amazed that a 'civilised' continent can consider such a thing normal. People were concerned that the 'jocks' at school would tease their son if he wasn't the same as them in the changing rooms.

Why on earth would anyone watch that sort of video?

I grew up in a country where circumcision is normal. I don't think it's that different to FGM, or at least some forms of FGM.

Oh, and in my home country, the local NHS-equivalent no longer pays for cosmetic circumcision, so less than half of all newborn boys are circumcised now. Slow progress, but progress all the same.