Circumcision- Does anyone know someone in the SE that does it privately???

[goldfinger13]

Hi All

It's not for a religious or medical reason- hence the request for private practitioner. I've read up on the Pro's and Cons and it's something that my DH feels very strongly about!!! Any recommendations??

Like I said you are probably a lovely mummy, but we don't understand in that case why you want to do this!!!! And you haven't explained?

I'm sorry you feel so hurt by our comments.

It doesn't make sense to an awful lot of us. Please do just explain, you never know, we might even understand in a manner of speaking.

I don't think doctors in the UK cut off babies' foreskins unless there is a medical reason. You may have to contact a Mohel or other religious practitioner.

But prepare yourself - I know a midwife who has been present at many early religious circumcisions in hospitals, and she says the babies don't always cry, and that is because they are so shocked that their chests seize up and they cannot breathe for a few minutes and often turn a little blue. Or they gasp helplessly. And then cry miserably.

Even in the USA routine circumcision of boys is becoming far less common.

It seems that no-one on MN has had a child circumcised outside medical necessity or religious observance, which suggests it is uncommon and unpopular, so you may need to google.

Out of interest, what is it about circumcision that your husband feels so strongly about?

what do you 'believe/?

It all seems very odd

I suspect that there may be MNers just too scared to admit they've ahd it done. With good reason.

Why can you not let your son grow up and make his own decision?

Once again

Don't cut bits off your baby!

Seriously! The reason people are giving you a hard time is cos your reasons are crap - cleaner: well, try washing more often; lower risk of cancer: everyone's at risk of cancer one way or another tbh.

Also, I think the foreskin plays an important role in sex/sexual enjoyment - irrelevant for a baby ofc - but you want your son to have a happy and fulfilled adult life as well surely? I really don't think your DS will thank you for this when he gets older.

Also, think it is mental that DH wants it done but finds the GA too much of a risk, but is happy to have his son's willy cut up without anaesthetic.

"DH isn't circumcised but always wished to be!!"
Book him an appointment then, and let your DS make his own mind up when he's old enough.

I genuinely believe that circumcision for reasons other than religious or medical is extremely rare.

There are mumsnetters who have had their boys circumcised for both those reasons (or one or the other IYSWIM) and that's a different kettle of fish, in my opinion.

Good point Pania. it's hardly crucial yet is it? It seems to me your reasons can only be symbolic and to me that doesn't start to justify it. There are lots of parts of the body that are hard to clean.

I would be very dubious of any medical practitioner who would perform a circumcision on a baby boy for no reason other than his father wants it, and his mother is "happy either way".

This is my LAST POST out of courtesy to the people who do want to know why- or want a little more information. if you Google circumcision a lot of information is available.

I am too upset to explain what my views are.... in all honesty would they change anyones mind?? Your best bet is to look into it for yourself- thats what i did and i was convinced. I dont live in fairy land and have looked at the pros and cons of the procedure. ( yes there are cons)

I have posted a few threads on mumsnet and have found the responses really good- not always positive but constructive. To the joy of more that a few people on here. I will not be returning to Mumsnet discussions.

OK, circing does NOT reduce the risk of penile cancer

it does NOT make it easier to keep clean (quite the opposite as it is likely to get infected because it will be in a nappy full of wee and poo)

There are NO good reasons to circ, none.

As for "Adult circumcision- Am i the only one on here who has researched before posting a message. This has to be done under general anaesthetic, therefore you have the complications of going under!!. It is extremely expensive- between £2K and 4K and as you are older it take a long time to heal from."

The only reason they don't give newborns a GA is because they simpley strap them down and do it no matter how much it hurts and how loud they scream. If your husband wants it done so badly make him get it done first and see if he thinks a tiny baby should have to endure it. Watch a video (with sound), then decide.

A foreskin is not a birth defect. Leave it alone.

goldfinger/goldmember

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trip trap

No, no, nobody will be happy about that. I don't think anyone here is having a pop at YOU, just the thing you are considering doing, iyswim???

You sound sweet and caring and lovely but we don't understand why you want to circ your boy.

I hope you stay, we are a supportive bunch if we understand and agree with motivation. Sorry you're in such denial about this. Tbh it doesn't sound like you really want to do it.

I mean it, I think you sound really nice and like you are a good mother but about to be railroaded into a very bad and sad decision because oyur husband has some issue about his penis.

We feel sorry for you, want to help, please let us.

OP, I do know there is a private clinic in London, but you'll have to google it because I can't remember what is is called. It costs around £75 IIRC

DH wanted DS to be done (he is African and in his country it is done routinely as it is in the States), I did consider it but after we looked at all the options it just seemed far too much hassle-especially as Doctors here don't see the need for it.

DH is still keen, especially as FIL is a GP and is pushing for it. FIL does believe it is cleaner especially with regard to STD's (use a condom I say!), but perhaps being in a country with one of the highest rates of HIV in the world means there is more reason to get it done. I'm having a hard job convincing DH that there is no need, he has been brought up in a society that strongly believes in it and when the NHS says the opposite to FIL and Doctors in the USA he understandably favours the way he was brought up. For now though DS is intact and hopefully will stay that way.

Here is your recommendation:

circucision centre

Beety she's not a troll, she's on a lot fot he CM threads. I think husband is the one we need to convince.

And I think this gives some info, although I can't actually see the site as my content filter at work is blocking it -- they probably think I'm surfing for porn. Good job I've already resigned!

www.circinfo.com/

And just for balance, this website has some information on not circumcising

www.doctorsopposingcircumcision.org/info/info-menu.html

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Funny that. Balance is not a word I would use to describe this thread. Looks more like a witch hunt.

I appreciate that UK culture does not support infant circumcision. But you would think that in this day in age you could see past the horizon and appreciate that much of the world does circumcise their sons. And maybe, just maybe, it isn't your place to "convince" them of anything.

Athene, much of the word circs thier daughters too, shall we all start doing that?

Would you say that about similar being done to baby girls,. Athene? I can't get it straight in my mind why the difference.