Glasses I'm so upset

[Hellomummy23]

So my little girl went for a routine eye check her first one as she's never had one she's 7. Never had any problems with her eyes never complained is a great reader far and close.
They have said she's a +2.00 on both eyes and would need to start wearing glasses for most of her tasks as the more she wears the better. I'm in complete shock and heartbroken. I know there is bigger things going on in the world but I'm just so shocked and upset. Does anyone else's child have the same strength ones and have often for they wear? I just think what if they have mad a mistake ... I know they haven't in just shocked tbh and my little girl is heartbroken she doesn't want glasses. I was in shock yesterday I didn't even get to ask any questions

My daughter had glasses from age 5 as she was ‘borderline’ for needing them. She had to wear them all of the time but when she was 8 we were told her eyesight had corrected and she only needed them for lessons in school, reading and tv/cinema. Is there a chance this may happen to your daughter?

I agree with the posters who have said your reaction is waaaaaaay over the top. What did you expect from your OP? Sympathy and a hand hold? Not sure?

My DD has had glasses since 16 months old. Her prescription started at +5.75.

My daughter can see. The glasses helped her and continue to do so. She loves her glasses. She is healthy. And happy.

I always feel a bit sorry for children for children wearing glasses - maybe because I was wearing them by my 9th birthday.

There are some really great designs out there now and could you make choosing her frames an exciting venture? And when she's older she might be suitable for contact lenses or laser surgery, all of which I've had.

I know it's a bit pants but it'll be OK.

At her age, it's also strange her teachers didn't notice anything because it would have impacted her education, especially reading and writing. I'm not saying start a complaint against the school but have a private word with the head teacher so that they ensure their staff have proper training to spot these issues.

@Iwasafool Love your son's attitude!

I can't believe you had to put on a 'brave face' fgs

It's glasses

They'll be part of her face inside a week. And she'll like being able to see properly

Just make it a fun and positive thing

My kids look really strange without their glasses now. You'll get used to it.

Hopefully after all these comments you've pulled yourself together and realised you're being ridiculous.

Yeah, this. My sister was like this when my nephew needed glasses, and used to spend ridiculous money on letting him choose outlandish frames that she couldn't afford so he didn't feel hard done by/get bullied/feel "heartbroken" etc. Meanwhile my three were all shortsighted from a young age and seemed to cope on whatever was available via the specsavers' two-for-one offer - just as well as they broke/lost them constantly, while my poor nephew used to go without his designer monstrosities for a week at a time when they needed repairing. She never seemed to understand that her "heartbreak" was (a) transferred to him (they are both completely neurotic now, instead of just her) and (b) was pretty fucking rude to me, mine and everybody else in the world who seems to cope just fine with with being one of milions and millions of specs wearers out there. Get a grip, OP, really.

DS got glasses aged 9. I remember him coming out of the opticians delighted that he could see properly.

You’re being silly OP.

My DD had to have glasses at age 2.5. We were advised then to get 2 pairs for her so instead of saying "do you want to put your glasses on?" and getting the answer "no", it was "pink or purple pair today?". She also had to wear a patch for 4 hours per day due to a lazy eye and is very long-sighted, just like me.

We never made a big deal of it. I always allowed her to choose her own frames as it was her that had to wear them. She is now 24 and still wears them all of the time, apart from she uses contact lenses for running, rowing/coxing and when she is working in the lab so she can put safety goggles on. She didn't bother with lenses until she went to uni - just wore her normal glasses for PE. DD2 on the other hand faked her eye tests because she hated being the only one in the house not wearing glasses. Now at 22 she has to wear them for close work and she looks gorgeous in them.

Bright & breezy is the way to go. Can you get her a personalised case for example? It'll be a 9-day wonder at school and then the kids will move onto something else.

My daughter has worn glasses since she was 3 years old. It did come as a bit of a surprise as she had shown no sign of needing them (it was just a routine eye test). I didn't feel heartbroken at all, I was pleased that we had discovered she had an issue and it was being corrected.

I don't really get why you are upset. Surely it's a good thing? But the question is why is your daughter upset? Is there some bullying at her school of those who wear glasses? We're fortunate that there has been no teasing or bullying towards my daughter and I pray that this doesn't happen. My daughter is in year 2, so I'm guessing similar to yours? Are there not others on her class/year that wear them? Why is she heartbroken by this?

My daughter was 5 when told she needed glasses and she was thrilled! She picked up a new pair yesterday and went into school in them today very happy with herself. They told me that if she wears her glasses then it could well correct itself by the time she’s an adult (hers is a problem in on eye.) Loads of kids wear glasses I honestly dont feel anyway about it other than it’s annoying to keep track of them!

When my daughter got glasses at 3.5, I was upset about the fact I hadn’t realised and she hadn’t been able to see properly all her life. I felt like I’d let her down.
I expected this from your post.
I‘m embarrassed for you. Seriously. You can backtrack but the way you’ve written your post is like your daughter has a fault. FFS. You absolutely did show your disappointment to your daughter. Wow.

Massive, massive overreaction. I got glasses at about the same age. Wore contacts through my teens and 20s, then got surgery. I'm in my 60s and wear reading glasses. It's no big deal, so please put it in perspective.

My son was gutted when he had to stop patching because he lost his "Pirate Powers"

Tbh I’m surprised your dd was upset, glasses are seen as cool these days. Some of dgd friends have been known to buy clear ones ( Claire’s accessories?) as a fashion accessory. There lots of choice, some great colours, most are nicer than the adult frames.
You could get her a pair of prescription sunglasses too, might make them more acceptable to her.

I would 100% go for a second opinion before putting her in glasses, or at least double check the prescription with another optician. I have been a glasses wearer all my life and a number of times opticians have told me I need a stronger prescription or overcorrected me. It does vary. Many have been brilliant but of course these companies want to flog glasses. Did she complain she couldn't see properly? xx

Howd did she get to 7 without an eye test? Surely this is something you do regularly like dentist etc?

I was upset when my daughter first got glasses- I don't even really know why (although I had a new baby and some baby blues so that didn't help) the first day she wore them she didn't look like herself and I kept almost crying but she loved them. She doesn't wear them at the moment but the optician has said by looking at her eyes and teh fact that me and her dad both wore glasses young for short sightedness that she'll need them soon.

If I had concerns about the prescription - I'd take her to another opticians and see what they say.

After last time I was told I'd likely need reading glasses before the 2 years were up but then next eye test was told vision now apparently perfect.

Will it help to look at the positives? Firstly, she will be able to see better with glasses. that is something that won't be evident until she has a pair but will make such a difference to her. My son started wearing glasses at 13 months and we never had a problem with him not wearing them as his life was so much better with glasses. Secondly, the other little girl won't be the only one in class any more. So your daughter will become part of the glasses gang rather than there being one child who has something different from the others (although I am sad to read she has been picked on for that - I thought we were past that kind of teasing). Is she a confident child that can style it out? Is it worth finding pictures of Taylor Swift etc in glasses to show her how cool they can be.

@IzzyCat1984 that’s what the drops are for. DS was re-tested with them in before he got his prescription.

I had a conversation with my ds yesterday, actually, about him needing glasses. He's has a slight change in his eye sight and needs to be rechecked. I think he might be following me so it's highly likely he will needs glasses. I started wearing glasses when I was about 8. My eyesight has gotten worse over the years. My prescription is around -6 now. I just wear contacts and have done since I was about 12. I've told dc he can get contacts if he wants when he's old enough to look after them. It will be fine. Just down play it.

OP you're being ridiculous. In a lot of developed countries, over 50% of people wear glasses so people who don't need glasses are actually in the minority. At my son's school at least half his classmates have glasses. It's something that comes with living in the modern world where people do a lot of close-up work including reading books and looking at screens. It's literally not a big deal in the slightest.

Don't be ridiculous! If her own parents didn't realise she needed glasses then how do you imagine the teachers would be able to tell?