Glasses I'm so upset

[Hellomummy23]

So my little girl went for a routine eye check her first one as she's never had one she's 7. Never had any problems with her eyes never complained is a great reader far and close.
They have said she's a +2.00 on both eyes and would need to start wearing glasses for most of her tasks as the more she wears the better. I'm in complete shock and heartbroken. I know there is bigger things going on in the world but I'm just so shocked and upset. Does anyone else's child have the same strength ones and have often for they wear? I just think what if they have mad a mistake ... I know they haven't in just shocked tbh and my little girl is heartbroken she doesn't want glasses. I was in shock yesterday I didn't even get to ask any questions

OP I understand where you are coming from. DS had to start wearing glasses when he was 2.5 and I was very upset about it. He was a high prescription +8.00 and so the glasses were coke bottle thick, even after being thinned down.

I was upset because he changed his whole appearance, his eyes were huge on his face.

Anyway you do get used to it. As he is longsighted, his prescription has lowered as he got older. He is 14 and its now a +6.00.

My other DS is +2.75 and he was told he probably wouldnt need glasses once he went through puberty and grew. (Your DD may not need them once she hits her teenage years.) He cant wait to get rid of them but I think both boys look way more gorgeous now with their glasses.

Good lord woman, your child needs glasses, not a leg amputating. You really need to get some perspective on this, bit late as you have now upset your child. You really need to give yourself a massive shake.

I know it's not a race to the bottom but DS carries epi pens for a potentially fatal allergy, DD has CHD. The wearing of glasses is such a trivial thing to react so badly to. How will you react if something really serious happens?
Kids today don't get bullied over wearing them either. It's nothing to get upset about.

My DD needed glasses at 7. By the time she was 10, she didn't need them any more.

The year before, I'd got her eyes tested and, as we waited for her test, she admired a pair of purple and pink frames on display.

I was horrified as test after test showed that her eyesight was appalling. She struggled to see even the largest letters and I couldn't understand how I'd missed such blindness.

The optician asked her to go out to the display and pick a frame to try. Off she skipped, then settled back down happily with her favourite perched on her nose.
A blessed miracle! Suddenly she could see perfectly.

The optician removed the frame and put his finger through one of the eye holes to show there was no lens there.
"I think she's probably fine." he remarked, drily.

2 out of 3 of my daughters need to wear glasses and I found Specsavers to have such an amazing range! One was a turquoise/blue that looked amazing against her olive skin and black hair....another pair was a super cute Moana pair. We have had so much fun picking out specs...because they do get lost and broken. The girls have had soooo many compliments about their glasses.

A brave face? For glasses? Total overreaction.

I also find this bordering on offensive as a mother who watched her then 2 year old daughter have seizures and her older son have a life changing diagnosis of a serious heart condition. Get a grip ffs.

Don't be broken hearted. She is still the same beautiful little girl as ever.

Is it possible that she may only need them in the short term? My son was prescribed glasses in Y3 and two years later the optician said he didn't need them. He is nearly 16 now and doesn't need glasses. It was just a short term thing.

Why on earth are you in shock? She can wear contacts when she’s older if she wants to.

My dd has been wearing glasses since she was 2 and she is still herself! Glasses look lovely on her.

Do you know if her eyes have a chance of getting better. I thought +2.00 was bad as my reading glasses are only a +0.50

I'm short-sighted with a prescription of -7 so to me, +2 sounds really quite mild. I also wouldn't see this as a question of getting better as such. My mum was very upset when I first started getting glasses, aged about 8. I therefore got into the habit of seeing myself as having bad eyesight, that was getting worse. Truth is, now I'm in my 50s being short-sighted is a bit of a gift. I need to do a lot of close work and whilst my contemporaries are struggling with glasses, I can easily see close up without them. So it's not better or worse, it's just different.

Her eyesight will probably change - whether or not she continues to wear glasses, IDK. I'm not an ophthalmologist, just a glasses wearer. But you really, really need to get over this and get some perspective. My mum's reaction coloured mine to a high degree. I can bet your daughter has picked up on your 'brave face'. A brave face is far from neutral or accepting.

You need to stop being daft.

My son had to start wearing glasses at around this age. He was delighted with them, but after one day of stupid comments by a couple of kids, he refused to wear them again.

Br careful not to make it into a negative.

OP, please try to be positive with your daughter. Show her some fun, cool glasses wearers - particularly people she likes/admires. Teasing at school because of glasses has honestly never been a thing for my 3 DCs. DD has worn them since age 4 (her prescription was +7.5 at it's strongest). Now she's 17 and it has honestly never been an issue. There really are so many glasses options for kids now. And it hasn't been uncommon for other kids to be envious of the glasses either. For me, I remember getting my own first glasses at age 14 and it feeling absolutely wonderful because I could suddenly see properly. I had simply never realised that my eyesight was noticably worse than most people. I'm now in my 50s and can still remember vividly that car journey home from the opticians and the joy that I felt at suddenly being able to see detail in everyday things. My new glasses honestly made me so happy because of the difference they made. Please try to encourage your DD to see the positives.

They found she needed glasses, not a tumour behind her eye (thank god)

OK bit more perspective here Ds wore glasses from 4 to 15 picked up at eye screening. I didn't realise one eye was really not functioning. Once though puberty he didnt need then. DD 16 has worn glasses since she was 13, picked it up when i realised she couldn't read something at the theatre She has several pairs now all a bit different all of which suit her very small face . She decided she wanted contacts for her dancing and prom but chooses not to use frequently as she likes the glasses. It's really not an issue, any bullying report to school as normal but tbh it's never happened. Dh is sight impaired lost his sight 5 years ago, uses a guide cane, had to retire that's when you need the brave face.

In the nicest possible way, you really need to get a grip! And even if you are ‘heartbroken’ you need to hide this from your daughter.

How fantastic that she will now be able to see properly and won’t get headaches.

yes, almost certainly her eyes will deteriorate as she gets older, but so what. - she will just change her glasses.

I’ve worn glasses since I was 7.

Quite! I know it’s a shock @Hellomummy23 but as far as physical impairments go it’s one of the straightforward ones as wearing glasses will fully correct her vision. There are lots of other physical impairments and disabilities that you cannot correct and can only aid w.g deafness or blindness. Yes, it’s a shock but some perspective is needed.

Your DD’s self esteem around wearing glasses will be greatly impacted by how you feel about them. Don’t just pretend that you’re ok about it, kids are not idiots, actually be ok with it! Get excited about shopping for glasses, find age appropriate celebrity role models who wear glasses. It’s your job to make your DD feel better about it.

I wear the same prescription and when I started wearing glasses it was transformative - the world went from being hazy and blurry around the edges to HD clarity. Focus on that for your DD’s sake.

I agree with other posters in so far as you need to calm down about this and take a perspective pill.

As someone else said, not a race to the bottom but a comparison of sorts.
My child wears a hearing aid and although I would rather her hearing was naturally good enough, it’s not.
She needs it to help to hear.
So she can learn.
So she can hear sounds to read.
So she can have effective speech therapy. So she can keep safe on the roads.
So she can interact with people and form and foster friendships.
So she wears a hearing aid.
If she needed to wear glasses (as I do) then that would be fine too. They serve an important purpose. These days there are more of a fashion statement, too. Plus when she gets older there will be the option of contact lenses and even laser surgery.

Really, we are lucky that we have all this medical knowledge to allow us to function more effectively. If one part of our body needs a little help along the way then we have an ability to be able to access that- be it glasses, hearing aids or anything else. It’s not a bad thing. Nor are you being ‘brave’.
Get a grip.

You are making a mountain out of a molehill.

Its glasses. I wore them since I was 9. And heartbroken? Get a grip. Seriously.

Get her excited about choosing the frames - there are so many cool ones! Tell her clever and cute she will look wearing them! My DD started wearing glasses at a similar age with a similar prescription and now no longer needs to, other than for board work (she's 18), so they can be corrective at this age. But it was never a problem for her having them - she loved them, in fact.

Good lord, how are you going to act when she needs braces

Some of the most popular people at school wore glasses. If I was called 4 eyes I just shrugged and said ‘4 eyes are better than 2’ there is no comeback to that really. I have been in love twice and both times with glasses wearers (I kept the 2nd one lol) I don’t fancy my DH any less with his specs on and he says I’m beautiful with mine on. I wear lenses just for convenience (rain, smudges etc) and I can’t find a pair of glasses I really love.

Thoughts and prayers🙏

DS17 has a lazy eye and needs a +5.0 lens for his working eye. Think his prescription started at +3.5 when he was 3 or 4 and had a pre-school eye check. We hadn’t realised he was struggling so came out the blue but glasses made a huge difference to him- he quickly worked out everything was blurry when he didn’t wear them. You get a lovely selection of glasses for kids now- we used specsavers as they give you 2 pairs so you could get 2 different styles for choice & also had a spare if one pair was broken (a common occurance with boys).

I was 10 when it was found I needed glasses for distance work, couldn’t see the blackboard at school and was too shy to tell anyone. I have worn them now for over 50 years along with contact lenses at one stage. I don’t remember being teased or bullied about them but there again was being bullied about other things at school. It really is no big deal OP

It can be a bit of a shock if you didn't realise.

I am happy my children wear glasses but for mild issues. My eyes are bad bad and so I wouldn't want that for them, as I wore contacts for twenty years but can't now, and can't have laser surgery or replacement lens surgery, I've been assessed.

At a lower prescription like that, she has a lot of options, glasses, contacts, surgery, wearing special glasses that correct vision, it's not a disaster.

At the higher strength issues, it is a pain and even problematic, I'm now both short and long-sighted and struggle with getting glasses as the current fashion is for big frames which is the opposite of what's needed for my prescription- I'd love to wake up and just be able to see normally! Compared with most issues, though, it's still of the more trivial and correctable variety.

Look at Ortho K and MiSight - these can stop progression. I wish I had had these as a child. You are also overreacting, nothing wrong with poor eyesight, just annoying if you have it.