Glasses I'm so upset

[Hellomummy23]

So my little girl went for a routine eye check her first one as she's never had one she's 7. Never had any problems with her eyes never complained is a great reader far and close.
They have said she's a +2.00 on both eyes and would need to start wearing glasses for most of her tasks as the more she wears the better. I'm in complete shock and heartbroken. I know there is bigger things going on in the world but I'm just so shocked and upset. Does anyone else's child have the same strength ones and have often for they wear? I just think what if they have mad a mistake ... I know they haven't in just shocked tbh and my little girl is heartbroken she doesn't want glasses. I was in shock yesterday I didn't even get to ask any questions

On a practical note if you felt you have questions for the optometrist then I would phone them and ask them or pop in. I'm sure they will answer any questions you have.

And he was a bit upset about it, didn't want them etc but we just kept it matter of fact 'they will help you', 'x wears glasses and you didn't notice when he started' etc.

He now looks like an odd little mole to me without them on so you will soon get used to it too.

You are using the word heartbroken wrong!!

I'm sorry, but you really need to apply some perspective here. (And if you aren't looking for these sort of comments then I'm not sure why you posted). Of the million things that could happen to your child, I'd count your lucky stars that it's resolvable with a pair of specs.

I say this as someone who's had glasses since I was 5. I can categorically tell you that it's made absolutely no difference to my life whatsoever. Nowadays people even wear glasses with blank lenses because they are so trendy!

I also have 3 children under 6 so it's entirely possible that one will need glasses, so I'm not even being blasé about it being your child!

Shocked, upset and heartbroken is a massive overreaction to a pair of glasses.

Some people have real problems.

I’ve worn glasses all my life and truly thought the days of believing that glasses made you “ugly” were long gone. Certainly none of my children have ever batted an eyelid at their peers wearing glasses. There are some cute styles out there.

Agree! FFS.

I've worn glasses (later contacts , now glasses again) since age 4 and it's not an issue.

Don't make it negative for her.

I agree with this

I know people who are +8.00 or -8.00 and greater.

Huge over reaction OP! She can start with contacts as young as 8 if she wants to and feels she can manage them (my niece has had them from that age). But glasses really aren’t a big deal.

It upset me because it upset my daughter and when my daughter cries it upsets ne too that’s why.

😂😂😂 a brave face.

Its glasses OP, not a diagnosis of terminal leukaemia.

55 years ago we had choice
of two styles: oval or cat-eye. In dark brown plastic. With heavy glass lenses. We survived.

Kids today can select from myriad styles, colours, etc. Glasses are fashionable.

I think you need to get some perspective.
In the grand scheme of everything that could possibly happen your daughter that would be worrying and upsetting, this doesn't even come close to a big issue.

I've been wearing glasses since 10, minus two at the time. Nearly 40 now and only at -3.5.

Make it fun. Trying on different colours, shapes etc. She will be led by you so you need to slow seeing it as a big issue. It's a minor inconvenience and she will be fine.

I find this almost offensive. I've worn glasses since I was 2 years old. It hasn't affected my life in a negative way at all. What on earth are you heartbroken about? It's not like she's got a disease. Jesus.

Nowt wrong with wearing glasses, I've been wearing them since I was 5 (my prescription is -13.5 nowadays); my DC both started needing them at about 7, and weren't the first in their class to have them. I'm really surprised there's only one other kid in your DD's class with them.

She'll soon get used to them and so will you.

You and your daughter need to get a grip! God forbid anything bad happened. It's a pair of glasses!?

There nothing to be upset about. I've always worn glasses too, I remember my school friends told me I looked French when I went back to school wearing my first pair. You need to play down this 'trauma' and tell your daughter how beautiful and cool and clever she looks...

Yes, but you're an adult and when your daughter is upset you can say 'but glasses are great! loads of cool people wear them!' instead of being 'devastated' 🙄

Sort yourself out, you're being an absolute wet flannel! She's going to pick up negativity about glasses from you when you should be giving positivity. Glasses will enable her to see well, therefore they are awesome.

You're coming across as maybe someone who puts a lot of store in appearance and everything being pretty etc? And glasses aren't part of that?

My DD is a glasses wearer, she's 7 and started wearing them at about 5. Zero trouble at school, she looks supercute in them, they enable her to see and therefore learn. All is good.

I think you are really overthinking this. You set the tone of how to react. There is much less stigma these days for children wearing glasses. Gone are the days when there was next to no choice of frames, like I had growing up.

My daughter actually admits to faking blurred vision around the same age as she really fancied a pair!

I’m in my thirties and remember getting glasses in school. I was upset and worried because I was nervous people would make fun of me. My mum just kept pointing out that they suited me and I looked good. She reminded me that being able to see properly was much more important than anything else and then said if anybody had anything to say then we’d deal with it. No one ever said anything to me until I hit high school and by then it was more of a boring lack of sense comment.

I think you just need to put your feelings aside and remind your dd that this is for the best. Sorry for mean comments but I think people are just commenting on the fact that you’ve described this as being heartbreaking. She might have glasses long term or short term but the fact is they are going tp help her.

My 8 year old granddaughter was so keen to wear glasses that she deliberately misread the letter chart! Fortunately, she was rumbled!

@Hellomummy23 im going to guess that the posters saying it’s an over reaction haven’t been bullied for wearing glasses themselves. Or they haven’t seen a child been bullied for it.
I have and it’s shit.

Having said that, I think you’ve handled it very well.
Carry on telling her it’s ok. You wear glasses too and so is <insert teachers name> (I’m sure there are teachers in her school that wear glasses).
If your dd has any issue with comments, have a world with the teacher as mocking someone on their appearance is never ok.

Kindly OP you need to rein yourself in. It’s glasses. She’s not about to leave this mortal coil.
My DD has glasses, she’s had them since she was 15 months old due to a squint. She’ll probably need patches and surgery, it is what it is.

You need to see this as a positive, a bit of glass in a plastic frame has the power to give her better vision, it’s such a simple fix for such a big benefit.

And I would speak to her teacher to nip any nonsense about name calling in the bud.

@NoCloudsAllowed your ‘advice’ is exactly what the OP did. I don’t think she needed you to tell her that.

3 out of my 4 wear glasses. I do too but DH does not. I was pretty upset each time for all 3 of them as hoped they’d taken DH’s genes in that respect!

Your DD will probably find that she wants to wear her glasses all the time once she feels the benefit of seeing clearly. You need to be positive about it yourself, so it doesn’t rub off on her. ‘Wow, they really suit you, they look cool on you etc. Point out singers, actors etc, who wear them.

Its not a biggie as lots of DC wear glasses nowadays and they are quite fashionable.

They can wear contacts from age 9-10 now. 2 of mine do. The other one doesn’t like them so refused to wear them (he has the highest prescription now).

I didn’t have the option of contact lenses as a child and had to wear the horrible massive plastic NHS glasses, which made my eyes look like piggy eyes, as my mother wouldn’t pay extra for nice ones. First job I got at 16 I starting paying for my own contacts. Life changing!

DD started wearing contacts when she started at age 11 from secondary school. 1 day off, 1 day on. Now wears them everyday as an adult. DS3 is 13 and has been wearing them since age 10.

TBF OP I was heartbroken when DS3 was diagnosed with Type 1 diabetes. Just to put it into perspective!