Glasses I'm so upset

[Hellomummy23]

So my little girl went for a routine eye check her first one as she's never had one she's 7. Never had any problems with her eyes never complained is a great reader far and close.
They have said she's a +2.00 on both eyes and would need to start wearing glasses for most of her tasks as the more she wears the better. I'm in complete shock and heartbroken. I know there is bigger things going on in the world but I'm just so shocked and upset. Does anyone else's child have the same strength ones and have often for they wear? I just think what if they have mad a mistake ... I know they haven't in just shocked tbh and my little girl is heartbroken she doesn't want glasses. I was in shock yesterday I didn't even get to ask any questions

It's not true there's nothing wrong with poor sight if it's very poor, you are at greater risk of retinal detachment which my uncle had, and he has only one working eye which works very poorly left, plus multiple surgeries. I'm on the way to cataracts on already poor sight, again risk of retinal detachment increased. The OP's dd is not in this category, and it may even be fully correctable.

If this were the old days, when all there was available were those dreadful NHS things, I could understand you being a bit upset, but nowadays there are so many cool choices of frames. I think you are being a bit overdramatic.

My son loved his black NHS frames. Told everyone they were Superman glasses, I suppose they were really Clark Kent glasses. His friends were jealous.

Off topic but my DD at 7 bawled her eyes out in the opticians after learning she didn’t need glasses! Not even the balloon they very kindly gave her would make her stop.

Think you need to have a chat with your DD about glasses being no big deal. My DDs reaction was a bit OTT and your DDs was too

You've got it the wrong way around - for a young person who is +2.00, they will have considerably better vision than one who is -2.00. This is because the are able to change their focus (accommodate) to make their vision clearer.

People over 40 lose this ability gradually, so a +2.00 prescription would make their vision more blurry.

Heartbroken because your daughter needs glasses. Really? What an OTT reaction.

Maybe it’s because I’ve worn glasses since I was 5/6 but I really don’t understand. How come she was crying? As a kid I remember we used to hope we’d get told we’d need glasses😂 we obviously didn’t understand what it meant. Kind of like when we’d hope that we’d break a leg and need to use crutches.

What I’m trying to say is, how come the initial reaction was for your DD to be upset? Are you sure you didn’t show any type of emotion first? I can’t quite understand why it’s such a huge deal

I would have loved those, but I got landed with the horrid translucent pink monstrosities for girls back in the 70s!

I took my 5 year old DS for a routine eye test a decade ago, only booked it as needed to pick up some reading glasses and his dad wore glasses as a child, no concerns at all. During the test it became apparent he was nearly blind in one eye, his prescription was something like +6 +4. I actually thought he was trying to be funny "He means that giant E at the top" I interjected during the exam. I clearly remember my horror when I realised he wasn't joking. He took to the glasses and regained vision in the poor eye, still has a high prescription but a delay could have led to permanent loss of vision in one eye. So be glad this has been picked up for your daughter, so many nice glasses to choose from nowadays.

@Iwasafool

They only work for myopia - so minus prescriptions. I friend of mine did a study into seeing if they could reverse the way the lenses worked, so they'd reduce hyperopic progression. Unfortunately, it wasn't found to work in reverse and in fact plus prescriptions don't tend to increase as much in children and often reduce slightly in teenagers.

@Hellomummy23 of course you were upset, it's a shock
People are being far too harsh on here - you feel the way you feel and a little bit of support is not too much to ask

In a day or two, this will all slotted into context. You will realise that wearing glasses is not that big a deal and is very common. Perhaps have a word with the school so neither your DD nor the other child in her class is getting unpleasant comments about it.

I have been wearing glasses since about her age, and I'm very shortsighted.
One son started wearing glasses at seven also, his eyesight never really deteriorated that much tho.

When I've had my eyes dilated with the drops, it's just so they can have a thorough look at the back of the eye to check all is healthy, and it sounds like they've done that and found it is healthy

Honestly, wearing glasses is not a big deal, your DD will get used to it really really quickly

Whatever you do OP don’t let your daughter know how upset you are about this.

Yes the girls weren't quite so trendy. He caused near riots when he told everyone he was going to be bionic after his eye operation and there was an epidemic of boys with sight problems. His teacher wasn't pleased but I quite liked his style.

Get a grip in all honesty. There are people with kids with cancer - they're entitled to be heartbroken.

When your DD informed you that another child was being bullied about wearing glasses did you inform the school of this? Presumably you did and they will have made it clear to the bullies that this is unacceptable and won't be tolerated and therefore it won't be an issue for your DD. If they haven't then your problem is the school not enforcing appropriate behaviour, rather than the glasses. If the school and allowing bullying of any child to continue then all parents should be continually pressuring them until this is dealt with properly.

People are being very mean to the OP.
OP - my DC needed glasses aged 9. I was pretty upset too, mainly because we didn't expect it, they were doing a lot of sports at the time and also because the optician said that their eyesight was going to get much worse pretty quickly. The fastest decline happens in teenage years as they grow and the body changes. DC now wears special corrective contact lenses and they have been great. Allowed DC to do sports in the way they wanted to and also worked in slowing down the progression of their shortsightedness.
Feel free to DM if you would like.

Wow, you’re being mean! No need for that. If you don’t want to head opinions, then this isn’t the right place to vent.
glasses are no big deal! And 2 is called high?! It’s basically nothing.

Quite…

OP - It's just a shock that's all. You're worried as you weren't expecting that.
I can't find the quote from the person who says they're an eye specialist, but it's very normal to put drops in for children, they stop them over focussing and means we can get a more accurate prescription.

It's not a strong prescription, most children are a little long sighted, but she's outside normal for her age. Recent studies have shown that if we don't prescribe for this level of long sightedness, it can sometimes cause vision not to develop as well as it could. It can also make some children have issues with the eye muscles and give them eye strain or double vision.

She's unlikely to need to wear them full time in her teens and her prescription will probably reduce a little by them as well.

Important things are to let her choose a pair she likes and that are comfortable and not to worry!

And in other families, 7 year olds die from cancer. FFS.

Haha I see I’m not the only one thinking OP is a real drama queen! Poor child…but just because of her mother, not because of her glasses!

DS2 has had glasses since the age of 4 and had to do patching whilst he was in YR. He is now 16 and sometimes wears contacts but mainly sticks with his glasses. He has improved from +7 a bit so your DD’s need for glasses may reduce

You're 'shocked', 'upset' and 'heartbroken'.

She's upset because you are projecting that on to her. It's a pair of glasses.

Would you rather she walked around not being able to see properly than have her wear glasses?

Poor kid. I suppose you're not hiding your ridiculous childish feelings from her.
Grow up, op.