Glasses I'm so upset

[Hellomummy23]

So my little girl went for a routine eye check her first one as she's never had one she's 7. Never had any problems with her eyes never complained is a great reader far and close.
They have said she's a +2.00 on both eyes and would need to start wearing glasses for most of her tasks as the more she wears the better. I'm in complete shock and heartbroken. I know there is bigger things going on in the world but I'm just so shocked and upset. Does anyone else's child have the same strength ones and have often for they wear? I just think what if they have mad a mistake ... I know they haven't in just shocked tbh and my little girl is heartbroken she doesn't want glasses. I was in shock yesterday I didn't even get to ask any questions

Your child needs to wear her glasses while she is awake except in circumstances where she is likely to break them e.g. doing sports.

My DD has been wearing glasses from when she was 2.5 years old and is long sighted as well.

It is no big deal.

Also to help your DD get her playing outside in natural daylight daily.

We recently found out 10yo needed glasses.... After she complained about not being able to read the board at school! I felt really guilty for not noticing.

Her eyesight however... its unfortunately genetics. Everyone my side of the family has needed glasses from childhood. Its our normal so it doesn't effect us.

The glasses are a tool to help them. Its great we get them for our children for free in the UK.

Eye specialist here.
+2 isn't much at all.
Kind of just a bit more than borderline.
Was she struggling to see?
Did the optician use eye drops?

You need to hide your shock from your DD and make it a positive. If she picked up on your reaction no wonder she is heartbroken. You sound as if you think this is a fault. It's not.

Bloody hell what a ridiculous overreaction! I’ve worn high strength glasses from about the age of 6 and I can’t say I’m particularly traumatised by it.

Your daughter isn't heartbroken she is dealing with you transfering your negative opinions about wearing glasses to her.

In the last decade or so there have been lots of female news readers and presenters wearing glasses on TV.

In addition there are now more stylish glasses around for kids than there were in the 20th Century.

Your daughter is upset because she can see you are upset.

Really you need to start acting like an adult and start reassuring your daughter that many people wear glasses. Show her famous people who wear them. Let her choose her favourite frames. Admire them and how wonderful they are because she can now see just like other people.

I don’t mean to be short with you but it’s your reaction that is the problem here, not the glasses.

My DD needed glasses at 8. I was heartbroken thinking about the hideous specs on offer when I was a kid in the 80s and worried about bullying. She actually ended up being quite excited-lots of kids wear glasses and so many lovely options to choose from. She’s in her 20s now and has glasses and used contacts from her teens. I know it’s upsetting but you’ll find you’re in good company and wearing glasses isn’t anywhere near as bad as you might initially think! Plus your DD will be able to see so much better with them.

Are you a glasses wearer as well?

As you don't sound like one.

Yes they put the drops in and asked us to come back 30 mins later. I don't know why that was. Do you know if her eyes have a chance of getting better. I thought +2.00 was bad as my reading glasses are only a +0.50 x

Something like 60% of the UK population need some kind of corrective lenses.

This seems like a massive overreaction. What exactly is it you are upset about? The fact that her eyesight needs correction or that she has to wear glasses?

What's wrong with wearing glasses?

I've worn glasses my whole life

You're heartbroken because your DD will now be able to see properly? What a strange reaction.
Please don't let your DD see your reaction.

My DD has worn glasses since she was about 6 - there were only about 4 kids in her class that weren't wearing glasses at that stage!

I would never show her I was upset or anything I kept a brave face and told her how she could pick beautiful glasses and how I was jealous as my glasses wasn't as pretty. She was upset herself straight away as there is one child in class that has glasses and she has people saying mean things to her so she got upset

In the kindest possible way you need to get a grip and stop transferring your feelings to your daughter.

Lots of children wear glasses, it's only a big deal if you make it one.

My daughter has had to permanently wear glasses from age 8 for short sightedness, she is now 14 and looks good in her glasses. If she wants she might be able to wear contact lenses but so far she doesn't want to!

Christ I never knew this was a thing!?

Why would you be 'in shock'? It's just glasses. Loads of people have them. I think you need to drop the drama or else your daughter will end up neurotic.

I would never show her I was upset or anything I kept a brave face

In the nicest possible way, a 'brave face' is not normally needed in this scenario. It's glasses not a life changing illness.

To be honest, if they need to wear glasses all the time it doesn't really matter what the prescription is because their vision is being corrected. But being "heartbroken" that your DD is getting her sight problems corrected is something you should do a little internal questioning about. How do you feel when you see other kids with glasses? Not some kind of pity or judgement I assume? Please don't let your DD see your overreaction.

Try to relax. It is not a bad development, as the alternative, her not getting the help she needs, is worse. I only discovered my vision was poor in my teens. I wish it had been discovered earlier. My much younger cousin was a glasses wearer from age 3, and the most popular and confident girl in her class, so it is not a social no-no at all.

Your reaction will be really important in how she copes. Please readjust yourself internally to the new situation, and realise you have to be your daughter's biggest cheerleader, always. Go make it an outing to find her the cutest glasses, watch Encanto, etc.

I was upset after seeing my daughter upset. She didn’t see this I did put on a brave face. I was upset when she we g to bed about how upset she was. If you don’t have anything nice to say don’t comment

I know it's a shock now but it will be ok. None of mine wear glasses but my 10 year old wears hearing aids. It's a bit of a faff when he forgets them or doesn't tell me when he is running low on batteries etc but mostly I am just grateful that he can finally hear properly. Ds has glittery hearing aid moulds at the moment, they look great.

My son needed at 10. Quite a surprise as no one ever had cause to think he was struggling. I only took him as thought his sister might need.

I felt a bit disappointed (not heartbroken!) But they really suit him and he loves them now.

He found them strange at first as it was quite a strong prescription. He got them a week before half term so I didn't make him wear them to school until after the holidays so he had a bit of time to adjust. He was upset going in with them in. Had to be pushed but hardly anyone even noticed and he's worn them faithfully since.

Once she sees the benefits she'll soon adjust. I think keeping them on all the time becomes easier.

OP your title says 'glasses I'm so upset' and your post itself states 'I'm in complete shock and heartbroken.'

If people are saying you are overreacting it is because you are.

What do you want people to say, that we understand why this upsets you so much?

You don't get to dictate who comments or what they say.

A brave face is what people put on when they have been given bad news. Not a pair of glasses. You are overreacting massively.