Glasses I'm so upset

[Hellomummy23]

So my little girl went for a routine eye check her first one as she's never had one she's 7. Never had any problems with her eyes never complained is a great reader far and close.
They have said she's a +2.00 on both eyes and would need to start wearing glasses for most of her tasks as the more she wears the better. I'm in complete shock and heartbroken. I know there is bigger things going on in the world but I'm just so shocked and upset. Does anyone else's child have the same strength ones and have often for they wear? I just think what if they have mad a mistake ... I know they haven't in just shocked tbh and my little girl is heartbroken she doesn't want glasses. I was in shock yesterday I didn't even get to ask any questions

Is that it? I've had to wear strong glasses since I was 7. My lenses are that thick I have to pay extra to have them thinned so I don't look like Olive from on the buses. 🤣🤣🤣Whatever you do don't see wearing glasses as a negative. They are helping her see better. There are some really nice children's glasses now. Nothing like them horrible pink national health one's I had to wear.

If you are so disproportionately upset, no wonder your daughter doesn't want glasses. She's not having a heart transplant, for goodness sake.

Of course she needs to wear them. The optician would have said so if she didn’t.

One thing to bear in mind is you can’t compare short sight with long sight. So although -2 is a mild prescription, +2 isn’t quite so mild IYSWIM. It’s not exactly strong either, but it’s certainly not so mild that a child with that prescription doesn’t really need glasses.

Laughing at OP “putting on a brave face”

Very admirable, there’s a Victoria Cross waiting for you.

Also, your daughter should’ve had her eyes tested before the age of 7. She may not have had any long-sightedness before now, but you should really be taking your children for sight tests when they start school.

All three of my kids wear glasses and eldest had them since he was 2. Loads of their friends wear glasses. I wear glasses. It is very common. Nothing to be upset about.

Jesus Christ I'm actually lost got words.

'I'm surprised getting glasses is such a big deal in this day and age.'

Luckily, for most people, it really isn't.

Op, I think it would be good for you to acknowledge and understand you have really overreacted. Because that way, you will be able to realise that this isn't a thing for most people. No one cares if anyone else wears glasses or not. I would put it in the same bracket as wearing gloves. My hands are cold so I wear gloves. I don't have 2020 vision so I wear glasses.

Honestly, this is a massive fuss over nothing. Glasses can be trendy and stylish. There are people in the world going blind - she just needs a bit of help to see clearly. Being 'heartbroken' over having to wear glasses is a massive overreaction.
She can opt for contact lenses or laser when she is older if it still bothers her. Many have worn glasses all their lives!

I really don't understand. What is so shocking and upsetting about glasses? Is it that you're upset with yourself for not getting her eyes tested until 7 so it was picked up earlier? You seem to be reacting as though she was needing a limb amputated.

It's not just about appearance. Op said a girl in her daughter was being bullied for it, and her dd was upset because it could happen to her.

I have recently started wearing glasses in my mid 40s. I think they look good on me, but I hate wearing them as I find them inconvenient. My mother in 70s find them imconvenient. Lets try to see the other perspectives too rather than pushing ours on others.

I’ve worn strong glasses since I was about 8, no big deal and I wear contacts now.

Kids think glasses are cool these days! They really do.......its very different to when we were kids...

Is your daughter long sighted? I thought this was something that kids generally grow out of, if that helps. If she is shortsighted, we've recently found out about the new glasses and lenses they offer that although can't improve prescription, can make huge difference in slowing down it getting any worse as they grow

My dd was 10yo when her vision faltered. She was extremely upset about needing glasses. She has ASD and it was a huge problem. We tried working with therapists. We did daily aversion therapy with the glasses. It was torture and failed miserably.

so instead she got contacts very young. She was highly motivated to learn to manage them.

if your daughter truly can’t get over getting glasses, there are other options. Odds are though that you will let her pick out her frames and she will be fine.

Well, quite.
My DD wears glasses and looks amazing. Her frames suit her. And even better, the glasses mean she can see properly.

My 15 yo dd has a medical condition. It is very worrying and if she (or in certain circumstances the people with her) don’t look after if the medical condition is triggered, she could die. Thankfully it doesn’t happen frequently.

She’s also recently been diagnosed with primary Reynaud’s. Having to wear glasses with such a small prescription falls squarely in this latter diagnosis. Please stop catastrophising. It could be so much worse.

It isn't true.

I agree with this. Get a second opinion on this. If you go to an independent one they can be a bit pushy about getting you to buy glasses, in my experience.

This is the strangest reaction to wearing glasses i've ever seen.

One of my DC’s cried everytime the optician told him/us, he didn't need glasses.
Pleaded with them, he so wanted a pair!

My son has worn glasses since he was two. When he first got them his prescription was +5.25 and +4.75. He also had a squint which required patching and atropine drops. We then went privately to Moorfields as wanted to get the best treatment we could for him.

He is nine and his prescription is now +3 and +2.5 so his eyes have "improved". The squint is only noticeable when he is really tired.

He hated his glasses when he first got them but now he won't even take them off to go to sleep.

He has tomato frames which we have found great they are bendy and can be adjusted and have parts replaced rather than the whole frame.

I don't think wearing glasses is a big deal for kids, his sister is three and so disappointed she doesn't need them! The optician gave her a frame with no lenses she still try's to wear her brothers old pairs.

Also loads of groups on Facebook for advice if you need any.

You need to take a long look at yourself. Your child will look great in her trendy glasses. Why don’t you get a pair with no prescription in just to show her how good they are?

One of my sons had a squint, he needed two operations and glasses. I felt sad and then one day sitting in the waiting room at the hospital a chatty little girl started talking to me, she showed me the watch she had for Christmas, I said how nice it was but I couldn't quite work it out. She said she had a braille watch as she was getting ready for when she was blind, she'd also been visiting the school for the blind she was going to go to so she could learn her way round while she still had some vision. She was 8 or 9, I could still cry thinking of that brave little girl.

I understand how you feel but just like me you need to get a grip.

You aren't allowed to buy them for a child.

They need to go to an optician.

You need a sense of perspective. My kid has a similar prescription, it's actually a bit stronger now, he's worn glasses since he was 21 months old. From the age of 11 he's had contact lenses so he can choose. He has worn his all the time from that age.