Glasses I'm so upset

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So my little girl went for a routine eye check her first one as she's never had one she's 7. Never had any problems with her eyes never complained is a great reader far and close.
They have said she's a +2.00 on both eyes and would need to start wearing glasses for most of her tasks as the more she wears the better. I'm in complete shock and heartbroken. I know there is bigger things going on in the world but I'm just so shocked and upset. Does anyone else's child have the same strength ones and have often for they wear? I just think what if they have mad a mistake ... I know they haven't in just shocked tbh and my little girl is heartbroken she doesn't want glasses. I was in shock yesterday I didn't even get to ask any questions

Hmm slippery slope there @TigerRag

My eyesight is poor but I cope with glasses and I’m very happy they are enough for me.
I am also chronically ill and so fatigued that I’m housebound. Maybe I should go round telling people who think they are tired it’s nothing in comparaison to me. And they should be grateful to be able to get out of the house, to go to work, cook etc… because I can’t.
Does it feel wrong to you if I was telling you to just get on with it because i am much worse than you, energy wise? Yes. Well the same apply to your comment.

I'm -1.75 and don't wear them all that much, they spend more time on top of my head than anything

Help your daughter come up with some good come backs if anyone says anything mean, but honestly I'd be surprised if her class mates care

Well done for totally missing my point

I would love to be in the situation of the OPs child of wearing glasses and actually being able to do basic things like read unaided

It really irritates me when people whinge about how shit wearing glasses is. It really isn't

Loads of my DCs classmates had them in primary - esp aged 7 upwards. . My DC were ok but now are long-sighted with astigmatism like me! It’s important to get regular eye checks as they pick up a lot more than just sight issues.

I'm shocked that your child has never had an eye test before !

Getting regular eye tests for children should be priority.

I can understand your daughter being upset, she's 7, but you need to moderate your reaction.

Why do people have to be nice when you’re being such a drama queen?

I was told after an eye check by the optician that if the eye prescription is only mild then you are better off not wearing glasses as the eye will gradually adjust itself to compensate for the glasses and then need a higher prescription again and so on.

Is that true? If so does the OP's daughter actually need glasses?

Heartbroken and brave face aren't words I'd normally associate with glasses wearing 🤣

AFAIK glasses aren't a huge deal in school now, one of my DC needs them for reading and when I'd asked him if he was given any grief he looked a bit surprised and asked why would he get any grief???

i wonder if your DD is maybe one of the ones who makes fun of the other kid so thats why she's so upset?

Massive overreaction.

+2.0 in each eye isn’t much in the grand scheme and it could change as she gets older. She should still be able to function without glasses a fair proportion of the time and, if needs be/if wanted can potentially have them corrected when she’s older.

Mine were over -6.0 in each eye before I was mid teens and I wore milk bottle bottoms. Had them fixed in my 20s.

One thing - if she has a sibling/cousin that say, might be prone to teasing her about them or giving her an unkind nickname, put a stop to it immediately. Likewise teachers should be dealing with name calling on this front at school.

It is not the end of the world.

You are being quite ridiculous. Take a look around an average playground or street. Loads of people need glasses.
The fact you have never taken your daughter for an eye test before is neglectful and your reaction to the glasses is pathetic. You will be projecting your rubbish onto your daughter and she will grow up as daft as you. It's time to grow up love.

i was diagnosed with Minus 3 and Minus 1 at the age of 3, and have had glasses since.

Didn’t stop me being a bookworm and didn’t stop my academic career leading to a full professorship in my mid 30s, and thankfully am still going and not quite 40 yet.

Neither of my kids 8 and 4 have glasses.

Actually starting to wonder if I underreacted to the news that my DC needed glasses I just said "oh great something else to lose" 😆 DC looked thrilled and went straight to the mega expensive range 🙄

I mean, obviously most people would rather their kid didn't need glasses, but... heartbroken? In shock? That seems like a very, very extreme and OTT reaction and I suspect your daughter has picked up on the way you feel, even if you think you're hiding it.

Her prescription really isn't that strong. She will look adorable in her glasses. Millions of kids wear glasses. It is fine and there is nothing to worry about. I get that it's a surprise to hear that your child needs glasses when you assumed their eyesight was fine, but it's really, really common for this to be the case.

FWIW, I was a teenager when I first got glasses, and I thought my eyesight was perfectly fine too. It was only when I actually put my new glasses on and saw the difference it made that I realised I'd basically been seeing the world through a fuzzy blur. Clearly, your daughter can see to read etc. But that doesn't mean she's seeing well. Better for her to have glasses than for her eyes (and brain) to be forced to make extra effort all the time.

I'm now 47 and I still have glasses - I don't need to wear them all the time, although I should wear them more often than I do, probably. Would I prefer to be able to see perfectly without them? Yes. Does wearing glasses actually have any real negative impact on my life? Absolutely not.

Schools in our area all ask parents to have DC's eyes checked before they start school and then at NHS recommended intervals afterwards. Catching issues early has educational and health benefits- many early glass wearers don't need them for long and after about 7 there's more chance of needing them long term. I suspect it also normalises wearing glasses as chances are x number in a class of 30 will need them.

Why is your reaction so big to a pair of glasses? Do you and your daughter not think you can look pretty in glasses?

Try making it cool if your DC naturally doesn't like them. I had to sit my DC down and explain very seriously that lying about what they could see in order to get glasses was not sensible as it would make their eyes and head hurt as they were so desperate for glasses so they looked cool. Try watching Encanto a few billion times. That's probably what did it for us.

Agree. I've had glasses since I was 14 and I've always had loads of compliments about them!

My gorgeous five-year-old has to wear glasses, cochlear implants, and a leg splint.

No one says mean things to her.

Put things into perspective (pun intended).

Like many PP, I have worn strong glasses since childhood. My eyes are wildly different prescriptions (and still getting worse into my forties…!!) which means I have to have all sorts of strange and expensive techniques applied to my lenses. But my eyesight hasn’t stopped me from living a very fulsome and frankly ordinary life. 😂Be chill and let your daughter be chill.

Our girl's eyesight is worse than your child's but she now has the Japanese lenses which slow down the rate at which their sight gets worse.

I forget the name of them, but ask your optician if suitable. I am not a glasses wearer, save for computer (and that's a recent addition to my life!) so am not up on the lingo - husband knows more.

My 6 year old daughter wears +7.5 each eye. Think you need to get things in perspective...its a pair of glasses. To be devastated...is a very strange reaction to be honest

It was always obvious that my dgd would need glasses but she looks great in them and is happy to wear them.

Christ the night let’s hope this is the hardest thing you have to deal with as a parent! If my DD with disabilities had to get a pair of glasses I wouldn’t bat a bloody eyelid! Count your blessings!!

I'm surprised getting glasses is such a big deal in this day and age.

I am also surprise drops were needed - my kids have eye teste well before 7 but don't think they were ever given drops . We've been border line - and had to go back 12 month later but other than make sure they spend time outside there's not much you can do.